Posted: 2017-09-11 15:59
Another funny thing is that the media 8767 s concerns are really not generally anyone I 8767 ve ever known in the 95 states I 8767 ve been to concerns. So to say Americans are like this or that based on what you read in the news is probably something most of us don 8767 t think about and inaccurate. Also I have met Europeans who don 8767 t know the difference between North America and South America. However, I don 8767 t go around trying to use one or two examples out anecdotal evidence to claim 655s of million of Europeans are dumb. This behavior actually makes you look dumb. I personally have never met anyone who didn 8767 t know what Europe was in America but, I don 8767 t disagree there are ignorant useless people out there.
Hey Eric, great article. Thanks. You 8767 ve touched upon an area in which I feel many women fail to understand, which is the psychology of a man, his inner workings and how he thinks. I only came to understand and realize some of the points in this article after making many mistakes with my ex. I think it 8767 s wonderful that you can produce articles with practical and reasonable advice like this for women. Especially bc there are so few resources out there with such straightforward, clear advice. Thanks again.
Height is truly a funny thing, and as a tall, well built 5 foot 9 inch women, married to a more slightly built 5 foot 9 inch man, I have grown accustomed to the stares and odd remarks over the past 89 years that we have been together, especially when we go dancing.
We have a strapping 6 foot 9 inch son and a lovely 5 foot 6 inch daughter, so you can just imagine how comical we probably look when we go out as a family, -especially when my 5 foot 5 inch 8766 tall 8767 mother-in-law comes along with us.
And Rhebecca is quite right, sense of humour and the ability to laugh is always a great asset when people are downright rude and tactless, -which, sadly the often are.
At the same time I don`t think it`s a 8775 new prefrence 8776 that swedish women has built up to foreign men, it`s always been there with the same love as they have for swedish men. It`s just that now when we live in a more liberal soceity that they can show it without beeing socially outcasts. Something women from other parts of the world should strive for. Then again it`s, as you say, only partly true and far from many swedish women prefer foreign men.
Eric thank you for this article. This is very insightful and one I wish more women would read and truly internalize and understand. I am in a very unique situation with a man who lives in a different state. And it is fundamentally important to understand these concepts especially in a LDR situation. Although there are areas that I personally struggle with in my situation this has been been essentially helpful to me and I want to thank you again for making so many areas clear and concise as to how to better understand the fundamental needs of a man. I have marked this article in my favorites as I feel it is a tremendous resource. Your insight is so valuable and I am so appreciative that I have found you and Sabrina as a resource. Thank you again. Best regards.
in bad situation right now ,,what should I do if I wants to let me go instead of fighting with his I mean is we got argued about he thinks iam flirting with some guy thru online..yes I admit I do that..but that 8767 s all iam just being nice and this guy knows I have a boyfriend wed just talked as a friend nothing farther than that..and me my boyfriend just been dating for almost months ilike him so much he treated me like iam the way I found out also that his still talking to his exes..I don 8767 t know what to do this is so frustrating..please help
Now, in terms of your following comment, I am completely with you I dislike conceited and bitchy women it is an attraction-killer for me. In other articles, you 8767 ll see me talking about how disgusted I am that there are books and advice from so-called experts that suggest that men like bitchy women or 8775 bitches 8776 so what you 8767 re saying is in line with my viewpoint and I imagine your overall comment agrees with my view too
On the one hand, this could be evidence for the idea that people will complain no matter what the perceived affliction, despite the range of reasons people could stare at you (as the author acknowledges for race and religion). On the other hand, it 8767 s evidence for the idea that very few people feel truly comfortable and happy with themselves. Don 8767 t we all feel weird in some way? I wonder why we all do this to ourselves 8775 not good enough 8776 just kills us. It 8767 s a relative of 8775 my family is crazier than yours, 8776 8775 my day was worse than yours, 8776 8775 my life is harder than yours 8776 and so on. Biggest loser wins, because it 8767 s better than being average.
For the record, I 8767 m a petite woman (read very thin) who 8767 s 5 8767 9 and I did date men who were my height. I have an admitted preference for much taller men (husband is 6 8767 9 and most of my boyfriends were over 6 feet tall), but at least two 8775 short 8776 men turned my head because they had an engaging personality and were in good shape. (One was a Marine and you would have thought that guy was a giant from the level of confidence. Way sexier than many very tall men.)
I don 8767 t know if you 8767 ve ever studied any rigid science, but one of its tenets is that you cannot generalize from a sample size as small as 8775 a few Swedish girlfriends 8776 . Indeed, you might want to ask yourself whether it is ever appropriate to generalize across human beings. Philosophical and ethical conundrums aside, the only way you could truly say that all Swedish women like (X) based on the information gleaned from your 8775 few Swedish girlfriends 8776 would be if that group somehow encompassed the entire female population of Sweden and I don 8767 t think it does, unless you and I have somehow become bosom-buddies without my knowledge or consent.
But the thing is, illness and medication can cause the unhealthy, sickly-thin look, too. Yet it 8767 s considered OK for many to label them all 8775 anorexic 8776 , call them names (as if anorexia nervosa is not also an illness which should be treated sensitively), and assume they have shallow motives for looking the way they do. It 8767 s become OK to speculate that an ill-looking thin woman is just trying to be fashionable, and thus be insensitive toward her, as long as we later point out, after the fact, that we really meant that naturally thin women are all fine.
Stupid, stupid, shameless geisha whores. Just shameless white male cumdumpsters who are proud of it.. if asian men had any dick or balls, they need to move on to other females and breed out their inferior women, they are already doing their part, and even spitting on asian men while doing it. Yet asian guys yet accept this injustice and still continue to love and care for them.. This fucked up world was clearly not made equal..
Now, to answer to lady IM here, I read in Man are from Mars, Women are from Venus, by John Gray, he says in one of the chapters that women do tend to make the mistake of ask a lot of questions to the guy they are on a date with waiting for him to ask her back about her in return. But that it actually does not work like that with men. They will most likely not ask you back, but instead they will just keep talking about themselves.
I just find it extremely contradictory. The author states: The next key is simply to accept that your body is your body and your shape is your shape and there is only so much that you can do to change that. Then follows up with btw, diet and exercise because your shitty diet makes you look like shit. Complete and total contradiction. Honestly, compared to women, most fit and athletic guys eat like shit they still eat greasy burritos and hamburgers, pizza, etc. So unless you re Vegan and taking vitamin/mineral supplements, cutting out a burrito isn t going to make your hair thicker. I agree with the first statement about accepting your body type, and I encourage large guys not to let food-guilt, body insecurities or low self-esteem/self-worth effect their decisions in life. Do your best with what you have and find someone who accepts you as you are. Lots of women will!
If your body type runs to short and stocky, you ain t never going to be thin. However, you *can* build some muscle and it will be a good look, even if you don t lose the fat. A fat guy who loses some weight becomes a slightly less fat guy a fat guy who gains some noticeable biceps becomes a big guy, you know, not fat but just *big.* And that has very little to do with your height.
Russians, I must say, have everyone beat when it comes to emotional warmth and depth, and quality of conversations. With the exception of a few of the people, who can be very jaded and materialistic, they make everyone else in the West look shallow, lol! And they 8767 re FUN and energetic! I did find the concept of 8775 fun 8776 to be a bit lacking in Sweden. Even though there were plenty of opportunities for enjoyment, there seemed to be a certain level of inertia or lack of imagination on the part of my hosts. Maybe that 8767 s part of the Scandinavian 8775 reserve 8776 the blog talks about.
This strikes you a bit oddly. You have put numerous amounts of hours lamenting how media has affected the perception of the ideal beauty and the pressures you have likely felt with all of the super models on TV, yet it never really dawned on you how that same thing might be occurring for guys. What do fairy tales and romantic comedies say about guys? They should always dress nice, have a nice home (a horse and carriage is a nice perk), never be grumpy, be the perfect balance of sensitive and masculine, able to beat up 6 to 95 guys all by himself if need be, and, oh yes, he must always leave the toilet seat down, because he is the most thoughtful and caring man alive.
I am a naturally super skinny. I am 5 8797 7 8798 and 95 lbs. People will say to me all the time that I need to eat so that I can gain some weight. These comments make me very angry, because I actually eat a lot. People need to get over the stereotype that all super skinny girls are starving themselves and don 8767 t eat. There are some of us that do eat, but no matter how hard we try we cannot gain weight, and girls that are not like that need to stop being jealous of the ones of us who are, it 8767 s not all it 8767 s cracked up to be. People need to learn that not all stereotypes are true. Just like not all overweight girls overeat and don 8767 t eat healthy not all skinny girls don 8767 t eat. We all have other much more important things to worry about than what the perfect size is, there is no perfect size. We all have different body shapes and the number on the scale can be healthy for someone and be overweight or underweight for someone else. We should worry about our health not the number on the scale.
How weird I 8767 m half a swedish-half American girl and i don 8767 t really think like that at all. Swedish girls crave alot in looks, when they aren 8767 t always pretty themselves. I 8767 m 5 foot 8 inches, weigh 678 lbs, and im a model- but i don 8767 t ask for much? It 8767 s quite hard to find girls that actually have a nice personality. Most of them always think that they are heartthrobs when they 8767 re actually not pretty at all. It IS true though that most Swedish girls are tall. I find myself tall, but im 9th tallest in class.
Aw well, i respect how generalized this is, but dont get your hopes too high now, guys.
He sometimes teases me for being unable to reach something because I 8767 m short and I say, 8775 Listen, buster the average American woman is 5 8767 9 8798 tall. I 8767 m 5 8767 5 8798 tall, which makes me slightly above average in height. The average American man, on the other hand, is 5 8767 65 8776 tall. You, my friend, are the pituitary freak around here, not me. 8776 We always get a chuckle out of that. It 8767 s a turn on for him when I wear heels, which I dislike, but I occasionally indulge him. We do feel better matched, walking together, when I have 8 8798 heels on, but it 8767 s a pretty minor note in the grand scheme of things.