Posted: 2017-09-11 16:32
To that end: it 8767 s important that you maintain proper body language. Big guys will tend to try to minimize themselves and hide their stomachs by slouching or curling in to not take up as much space. Standing up straight with your shoulders back will speak more to your confidence a far more attractive trait than constantly seeming as though you 8767 re apologizing for existing.
Those are ALL attributed to Upbringings, Gov influencing and wanting better than the hand they were dealt.
Abortion rate=Gov and disturbance in marital or accidental pregnancy
Plastic Surgery= media push to be more of something they are not.
Prostitution=controlling their own wealth or falling prey to trafficking or being forced in a manner.
which, in reality, is none different than many other Countries, especially America.
I did the singles scene in all its iterations (singles bars, singles dances, dating services, etc.) starting in the late 65s and through the 75s. One common thread was that, for the most part, the singles scene attracted people you would not want to bring home to mother and I think that is still the case. Guys were creeps who wore their shirts open down to the nevel and the gils were princeses who figured their s**t didn't stink. Most of the time they wound up going home together and they deserved each other. Nice guys and gils next door never stood a chance in the meat market atmosphere.
Hey Joe what up yeah I hear you but we know they are not respectful women but there is lots of toss
ups out there wanting to get something or anything they can however they can but the bottom line
is that I and you and all these other guys on here don 8767 t think its real and I think they are just playing
this dating game as a hussle but act like a women and sign up for there service and see what happens
I did and they put me through a lot of changes and I just gave up you be the judge take care joe
My second complaint is how unsupervised the accounts are. I found an account that legit said in the self-summary that it was a "phantom account" and he/she was only there to stalk people. I reported this account 5 times in the last two months. OkCupid has yet to take this account down. Who knows how many more of those type of accounts are out there. I don't feel safe using OkCupid. It's too easy to make a fake account and OkCupid doesn't seem to care.
Anna - unfortunately, I think the anger you're seeing comes from the fact that you may be the exception to the rule. I don't think most women on these sites give any "nice guys" the time of day, even if they've read the entire profile and mentioned something nice to the girl not having anything to do with looks. Based on the interview with the anonymous guy in this article, I think the issue you're having where *most* men are obsessed with looks alone, also goes the other way around - I think *most* women only reply to the men - nice or not - if they find the man to be "hot". I think everyone is to blame for being overly superficial, to be honest.
I dated a Liberal woman and no conflicts arose from our political differences. I find it troubling you wouldn't even want to be friends with someone who would vote for Trump, or even someone who wouldn't be friends with another who voted for Hillary. You sound grossly intolerant of other people's views. You should be open to people with differing views than your own, otherwise you will fall into engaging in groupthink and confirmation bias. In other words, you will not learn much in this world seeking out people who will just agree and affirm your opinions on life. You grow by seeking those out who can show you a different perspective. In my experience, I've found people like you frustrating to say the least.
Right! I would surmise The women 8767 s issue Toward men is due to That of which you mention and NOT Treating the women with High regard. ALL women want to feel like a Princess. If you have a Woman that treats You like a King why would you Not Treat her Highly as the Princess earned. Right? This is Same in Parts of China. Thing is I dont think Chinese women are Comfortable Marrying or Dating outside their Own race due to Mother and Father influencing. That can make a sucky way to go For someone as myself that ONLY wants Asian or Women of Color!
This is why it’s so important to carefully choose the type of (Russian) women you interact with, and make certain that she is who she says she is. And, while yes, Russian women are traditional in that they expect you to foot the bill for dinner, most are not stereotypical “spoiled” and only after you for your money. In reality, many are only seeking a genuine, romantic, and loving man that will treat them better than how the local men do.
I think you are right, Ryan. I have used match, and I suppose I could try others. But I don't see how any would get around this fixation on appearance. And I think it is actually not very healthy, when I think about it, when I consider the animosity in these comments, from both men and women. It isn't a healthy way to view your fellow person, male or female, potential date or not - through the most shallow lens. And I think it clearly creates a lot of hard feelings. I will have to find other ways to fine my nice guy.
If your body type runs to short and stocky, you ain t never going to be thin. However, you *can* build some muscle and it will be a good look, even if you don t lose the fat. A fat guy who loses some weight becomes a slightly less fat guy a fat guy who gains some noticeable biceps becomes a big guy, you know, not fat but just *big.* And that has very little to do with your height.
I am a korean girl and I hope you guys don 8767 t think all korean women tend to like to make the guys pay for the first dating and demand too much. Actually there became many girls who like them pay 55:55 and don 8767 t care about their universities or jobs, there are many korean girls who love guys because they love them !
And yes It 8767 s at least right that many korea women get plastic surgeries which seem very popular but I can 8767 t consider it as good because it eliminates the diversity of appearances although it 8767 s their right to choose. It 8767 s true they wear a lot of make up and most of women don 8767 t go out without it. I don 8767 t wear makeup at all and didn 8767 t do plastic surgery but still go out. Thus some people asked me why I didn 8767 t wear any but I rather say so what XD It 8767 s a bit despairing scene that they care soo much about their appearances that it seems a bit extreme and somehow excessive
To Ryan Dube: Thanks for the thoughtful reply, Ryan. And sadly, I suppose you are right. It is frustrating, for both men and women I guess, how shallow and looks-focused internet dating is. In fact, a study by OkCupid revealed pretty clear data that profile text matters not at all, and pictures are what drive activity on the site. I think, to some extent, this is the case in "real life" too - that people can be superficial, and everyone wants a "gorgeous" mate. But in real life you don't have this fake world where all the pretty people are spread before you as available to you. You meet who you meet, and can tell quickly in many cases if they will be interested or not, and can also experience more than just the visual. The profiles are meant to give that experience, but I think perhaps, for a variety of reasons, internet dating becomes some fantasy world where everyone seems to think their gorgeous mate is waiting, and it is work to read a profile, and if he/she isn't attractive enough, why bother?
I have a pretty standard female body (not petite. I am fit, I suppose, a size 6 ), but I have female friends with all kinds of bodies and male friends with all kinds of preferences. Here s the deal, and I wholeheartedly believe it:
People who are willing to reject you based on nothing but your looks are just plain immature. The sad truth is that a lot of guy who are nerdy/geek just don t have a lot of dating experience and therefore just haven t socially matured very much beyond that teenage fantasy of getting a Heidi Klum on their arm. The mature guys that I know can easily say yeah that Heidi Klum is hot but if Heidi Klum is dumb as a brick and has nothing in common with them, they know she s not worth dating. How do I know this? Because even my most physically picky male friends have dumped girls they admitted are super hot because they were too dumb/disconnected/mean.
For someone to truly connect with another person and feel completely content with another they must first know and accept themselves. In my forty plus years in America I believe that to be a rarity. I have known people of all ages including countless couples who seem to have a better grasp on celebrities lives than they do on their own. I can count perhaps a handful of people I've met who have formed their own systems of belief. The vast majority have simply accepted whatever belief system they were fed without question.
How can so called milfaholic get away with this I mean come on people ain 8767 t that stupid you can easily tell it 8767 s a scam the women asking to chat but never replies to your message when you can clearly see it showing they online you only get a few words in a message they send but you can only receive it when you offline nothing adds up it 8767 s to tricky besides there are many other faults you can point out to prove its a scam in this day an age how could these people get away with this it needs shutting down immediately this is fraud
I have been on this dating site for about three years. At least half of the profiles are trashy. Men do not even complete their profiles nor answer the questions. Photos of men and women are ugly. The site is not checked by professional nor ethical people, and they do not even answer complaints nor reports. In other words it is one of the worst I have been on. Half of candidates, at least, are fake profiles and con artists. I spent most of my time reporting men for fake photos, locations etc. It has been hacked and infiltrated by a lot of people from Africa who are "gold diggers", by travelers who work out there in the world and whose address is vague. Registering with OkCupid is a total waste of time and you will be sorry for your experience.
I know I am not the only guy to have a girl turn me down with hurtful comments after leading you on and thinking you should have just realized she was not interested and gave up. Thing is you couldn't "take a hint", but we are adults here and those are games kids play. No need for hints, you can be nice and find a more reasonable time to let a guy down, but don't wait weeks and then get angry with him because you never made your intentions clear. Because the girls don't realize, its not that obvious for the guy to see she is trying to put off signals that she lacks interest. We will, in even the more extreme cases, often focus on the few positive over the negatives to keep up our optimism, until its written out in plain english to us, "I flattered, but no thank you." Its easy, just text that and don't worry, even if you look like Anna Kendricks the guy is unliekly to hang himself over the news.
Thanks for the reply.
Yeah, I figured the ladies will be more interested upon arrival. They always ask when am I coming to Thailand and to contact them ASAP upon arrival. It 8767 s actually quite easy to make too many contacts on there, and would have to do some creative moving around to visit more than one of the ladies. I know how Thai chicks can get and they don 8767 t always accept the old butterfly behavior.
I 8767 m concerned about spending too much time with the one that wants to pick me up at the airport. She is quite attractive and like so many of the ladies there in her age group that are interested in farang men, she has an ex-husband that 8767 s a farang, etc. I 8767 m sure at some point I will want to shake her off and chase other honeys I met on Thai Friendly.
Not that your advice is bad, but the studies that showed the truly negative effects of corn syrup (in lab rats) that every one is sighting have yet to be reliably re-produced in observational human studies. The unfortunately complex answer we have to live with right now is that the science seems to say HFCS is bad because it is a sugar and is in everything we eat, we shouldn t let it become a straw man for sugary foods in general until there is sufficient evidence.