Posted: 2017-10-13 00:43
All this bitterness you''re expressing comes through in how you write messages. I can guarantee it. That''s why no one writes you back. No one wants to engage with someone they have to prove themselves to. Maybe drop all that anger you have at being rejected so that you can properly open the door up to being accepted. You''re approaching these chicks like, "dumb bitch isn''t going to write me back anyway why am I even wasting my time." You''re reaping what you sow.
Yeah, this seems pretty spot on. For women its a barrage of messages and makes them think thery''re god''s on Earth, no matter how ugly. For men it''s a quiet hole to realize women are a lot more shallow than they knew, no matter how attractive. This makes the women bat way above their league and the men bat way below. The best part to illustrate this? I''d say all of the women I message first are at least around my physical attractiveness league, but all the women that message me first are way, waaaay below it. Like obese chicks levels below it.
I know guys who constantly say, "Why won''t she respond -- I don''t get it?" I don''t think many of these guys have the kind of creepy-profile pics you describe at all. They''re mostly pics of them playing sports, running, spending time in nature, etc. At the same time, most of the women who do actually reach out to these guys are just like you describe -- they come across as desperate. I think that''s the most revealing statement of all.
Although in all dating sites there will always be sharks.. I believe I will just be cautious and avoid them. I have been in different dating site and I would not last a month. It''s just sometimes I don''t know what to say to make them stay or make them reply to my message. I just recently deleted my account again to the point that sometimes its making me lost the confidence I have in me.
So in the meantime.. I''m wrapping myself up with positivity.. that somehow I am going
meet the one.. I know it would take some patience, effort and time.
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Interesting read. I was debating putting up a profile or perhaps going to a club with some live entertainment. I am going to bed instead lol. It is very true that 65 to 65 years ago online dating worked well. I am an average looking guy but intelligent and funny and I was floored how many interesting, and yes pretty ok I would like someone that I consider to be pretty, not necessarily the text book version either. Anyway, teachers, lawyers, security guards, nurses, there I was dating, where previously I would stand in a bar and not say anything because my voice is very low and you couldn''t hear me over the music anyway.
Yes I am older now and I have my daughter half time, but I am still an average looking very intelligent and funny man. I am not bitter, disappointed maybe. I am affected by the lack of responses though, not like jump off a bridge affected, but it does drop you down a notch psychologically. I am glad I read these posts. It sounds like many of us are in the same boat. God bless all of you even the bitter ones we all know that hurt people want to hurt other people.
My contention is that inequality and competition are the precursors of societies ills. Men mistreating women certainly but more to the point people mistreating each other for gain. It seems odd to think that men seeking a partner would act as many so often do but it is important to remember we''re not dealing with intellectually compassionate equals. We''re dealing with generations of people that have been bred to compete with one another and ultimately not see each other as equals but as enemies of a sort. We''re not killing each other (for the most part at least within our own society) but we are competing for limited resources to our own detriment.
And no, I will not let a guy spend my weekend with my kid with us - not until I''ve gotten to know him properly and we''ve been seeing each other for a while. It''s to protect my child from getting instantly attached if there is no intention of commitment, and also just in case he is a deviant who preys on single mothers to get to their children. It happens, so I am very cautious. And also the reason why I can''t understand why anyone posts picture of children in their profile - whether it''s their own children or their niece/nephew/godchild. Dating sites are full of perverts. Keep children''s pictures off them. (Sorry, that was going off the topic).
Get this, they allow members to create date nights, like select a place and a date and the type of person they want to meet, then other members can make offers to meet them. They select the offer they like the best and go on the date. Afterwards they leave feedback about each other, so for example, if the guy is boring or hot every other member will know what to expect if they meet them. How cool is that.
I''m not messaging guys out of my league. I don''t want a guy that''s super fit and looks like a movie star. I want a guy that I''m attracted to, but that I''ll feel comfortable around. Eventually there would be sex, which won''t happen if I''m too self-conscious or if I''m grossed out at the thought. So if I dream up my perfect man, he''s going to be a little hefty, he''s going to have a receding hairline and his face won''t be clean shaven, he''s going to wear comic book characters tshirts, he''s also not going to be hugely successful, but he''ll have his act together, he''ll be well educated, and sarcastic, and a little bit dark, and if I were that guy, yeah, I''d date me because I''m pretty sure if I were a guy, this is the guy I''d be. I think perhaps you''re reflecting your own insecurities and prejudices on others.
That 8767 s only partially true. Photos are a good start but they can only get you so far, especially if you are dealing with a woman who is looking for substance and real connection. Also, most men fall into the category of average + looks, . the type of category where what you write can make you more or less interesting and attractive. What we, men, look at only tells part of the story about women. After all, let us not forget that we are different creatures and we operate differently.
I''ve never understood why some guys even bother using online dating websites. The odds are clearly against you. It''s actually easier to just talk to a girl IRL than to go through the monotony of carefully constructing messages using information and references that you got from the profile of the girl that you''re messaging and hoping that they respond to you. Which they usually don''t. Sometimes they won''t even read your message.
Just because she said yes doesn’t mean that you’re guaranteed to get laid. Any number of catastrophes can take place that ruin your chances. If you’ve ever been on a date fail, you will know exactly what we’re talking about. Plan ahead so you can prevent any mishaps and land yourself in bed with a hot girl. The best part of adult dating is that the goal is clear so there’s no need to pretend to be something you’re not.
Certainly this could be attributed to my actions. However having lived through the experience I can attest that I strove to make her feel loved and accepted as she was. Ultimately what I''ve come to understand is that she has not yet learned to accept herself. I believe this is incredibly common in our society. After all our marketing systems have done a very thorough job of setting impossible and often inane ideals and as we are both aware the primary victims are women.
Im tall athletic handsome smart active dont smoke dont do drugs have a Masters degree..none of that matters...women (all of them) are looking for a nest egg and retirement plan regardless of what they say...they ALL want to be wined and dined and jetsetted all over the world. American women are a mans worst nitemare oh yea..ive heard and seen it all. I try to be cool and ask about hobbies and their interests they just play dumb childish games..I hate women now I loathe and despise them..what a waste of tiime and energy online dating is lmao!!!
This guy is so funny he’s irresistible. Right from the get-go his profile starts off with a catchy line that is knee jerking funny and it doesn’t come off as too cliché or to “out there”. His profile is so humorous I don’t really care what he looks like—I want to get to know him, find out where he gets his outrageous sense of humor. He represents the kind of guy that will keep me in stitches and feeling good.
After 6 months on various sites I''m finally signing out today - my advice to men is to just enjoy your single life and use your time productively on hobbies and interests and self improvement etc. - get out into the real world to meet people. You''ll probably be quite shocked if you keep a record of how many hours you spend trawling dating sites - I was when I decided to record my usage - One of the reasons that today is delete day - more time for fitness and reading.
It is important to note that women are playing their own role in this game of losers. Women by evolutionary design (primarily revolving around the unequal distribution of effort regarding procreation) seek out comfort and safety which play into the unequal distribution of power and wealth. Early on men realize their ability to find a partner directly correlates to their ability to acquire wealth so as to be a better provider of safety and comfort for a wife and any potential offspring. While it is true a poor man can find a partner it should come as no surprise that the greater wealth a man possesses the more opportunities he has to find a desirable mate.
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Yeah, online dating sucks. I''m a good looking guy (not trying to sound conceited - but it''s a salient point in this context), and I have NO success on the sites. I often get hit on when I go out with my friends, to the point that it''s actually a running joke. Yet no girls - I mean none - respond to my messages on dating sites. And my messages are absolutely fine. Never creepy. I''ll often ask how their weekend was, or ask about something specific on their profile, etc. Totally normal stuff - yet - responses. It''s madness. I agree with the guy in the article - if I didn''t have the success I have with women in real life, I''d probably have developed a complex by now. My advice to men is to not even try online dating until you''ve been on the dating scene for several years and you have an idea of your actual worth. Otherwise, if you have no idea and you base it off of online dating, you''re 655% guaranteed to think you''re ugly, undesirable, don''t know how to talk to women, etc.