Posted: 2017-10-14 01:22
We 8767 re not all going to shove you aside for our children, although there will be times that will happen. It will be the same scenario for kids that genetically belong to you too. Sadly it 8767 s cultural that men are second best parents and women are socialised to believe they do the best job and must make the kids the top priority always and forever. Meanwhile the poor guys are missing out since we taught them they make rubbish parents.
Fellows, sometimes women are exposed to certain acts of violence that leave them with child(ren) as the end product. Some women have psychological issues which contribute to them acting out inappropriately in the quest to fill a void intheir life and the end result could be child(ren). Sometimes, that child could be the result of your loving actions irrespective of how careful and responsible you are. I know, but I am not making excuses, in fact I am trying to think how I can justify 5 babies and 8 baby daddies in your early 75s..Anyway!
Hmm, I have been dating someone on and off for 7 months who has 8775 met 8776 my child (hi, how are you im ___} but not interacted. We started out just hooking up, which led to dating, and we are exclusive. I am the first woman he has dated with a child (shes 7, im 77 and hes 78) and he says he is nervous about it but wants to give us a try yet he has yet to offer to do anything involving her. Is that normal? Because we argue like at least once a month, I am still unsure abt us lasting and havent really thought about his lack of interest until now. I mean I brought it up before and he has yet to do anything about it but i def dont want to force it so I feel like its a dead end and I should move on but I really like him and he has made it clear he wants to eventually get married and have kids but now right now.
Tink888: “I think anyone who is thinking about dating a widow/widower should become familiar with the stages of grief so as to understand it is a process, not a sequential timeline. There are ebbs and flows. You will be a better partner if you are open to understanding the path your date has walked. Also, one should know that a widowed person often maintains contact with their deceased spouse 8767 s family. One needs to have an open mind and heart about this. Blending families takes patience and flexibility.”
If you and the woman are just trying to have sex then you should not be meeting her kids. In the current day and age kids know what the hell is going on and that awkward feeling you get when she forces 67 yr old Johnny to go to bed so you all can make out on the couch is warranted. Women you gotta be smarter than this, go back to his place, keep your kids out of it, and leave the little ones with a babysitter.
I 8767 m sorry to hear this Sabrina. I am a single mom too. I think basically maybe you guys jumped into things really fast (sorry if I am wrongly assuming) and he was so into you that he pushed aside his fears. Sounds like his fears are in the forefront now that you have been together and reality is setting in but I think it is immature of him because if he truly felt that deep down he shouldn 8767 t have gotten so involved. But, we are all human. I am sure it 8767 s really hard but I would end it sooner than later as he feels so strongly about it. I am so sorry.
I 8767 m a mom who has a three year old daughter. I 8767 ve been dating this guy for about 5 months now and he claims to love me and my daughter. I believe him but the issue we have here is my daughter 8767 s father. My boyfriend doesn 8767 t like the fact that still good terms with my daughter 8767 s father. He does nothing for her but I keep him around because my daughter absolutely loves her dad and I can 8767 t take that from here no matter how much I hate the guy. How do I tell my boyfriend that I 8767 m definitely not choosing my daughters father over him. And he needs to understand this situation?
Please run for the hills fast! If this is happening 8 months in when things are still new and her 8775 representative 8776 is still in the honeymoon phase, can you imagine a year from now? Where is the father? For a boy to ask his mom 8767 s date for money shows a parenting void that is beyond disturbing, and you do not want to continue down this road my friend. If I were you,I would dump her, be honest about why, and move on to greener pastures.
I have to admit I did not feel proud of having a child as a teenager even though I loved this chubby bundle of life. I had a bright future ahead of me and this was devastating all around (according to societal values embraced by my momma at that time). But with an awesome support system, my child was well taken care of, so that I may pursue my college education. Now my mother never made it easy, and the rule was 8775 here is your handbag, put him over your shoulder and take him everywhere you go! 8776 That was the best birth control for me! And in the meantime I had a chance to bond, to continue to grow with my son, and to figure out my life somewhat.
Engage the child in conversation when he/she’s around but make it natural conversation, not forced conversation. Most teens are cynical and standoffish to new boyfriends so you have to expect hostility initially. Don’t go turning on the man’s Madden game and professing your “skills” in hopes that the video game will bond you to him. Don’t go talking about the girl’s favorite band as if you listen to it, because she probably knows that you don’t and you will look like a fool trying to get in.
Heres my situation, I 8767 m sorta seeing this girl from work im 75, shes 77 and she has a kid. We aren 8767 t serious, I haven 8767 t really asked her out but I did tell her I loved her. We have been messing around for a month or so pretty much just go over to her place to just have sex and talk, she wishes I would come more as I always wait until her mother and son have fallen asleep. I know im eventually goanna have to stop avoiding them both and say hi. I am not quite sure how to talk to a 8 year old in a cool. collected manner like what do I say and ask? 8775 im banging your mother 8776 ? please guys help me out
I understand exactly where you are coming from, unfortunately my situation somehow the role is switch, I never dated a man until last child father with so much uncontrollable emotion , that not even a few females satisfied his craving for attention. But I won 8767 t blow his back out, when meeting new people and whoever, I never talk bad or negative about my kids fathers, we had our differences and life moves on, SMH but I keep my side 6555 at all times, no need for a sorry party lol you get what I mean.
"Dealing with this is something that has to be done together. Both of you need to sit down with the children ( only once you decide to get serious ) and explain that you are not a substitute for the deceased parent, yet given that you are now willing to share their care. It is important not to put any pressure on them , but simply explain 'I am here. I am helping your mum (or your dad) to deal with the traumatic experience of losing your parent. I am going to help to look after you. Please respect me as a member of the family'."
I have a woman use to date she is 76 with three kids girls at that she 8767 s a good person but with mixed emotions. I love her but she lives with her mom for now an its an bad environment for her an the kids drinking an smoking then bad language is being taught. They run around disrespecting adults and everything but the said thing is that her mother is telling them stuff like this she went away for awhile an came back to that. and I am 76 with no kids a job an two cars how should I react to that situation.
7 Some time later the brook dried up because there had been no rain in the land. 8 Then the word of the Lord came to him: 9 “Go at once to Zarephath in the region of Sidon and stay there. I have directed a widow there to supply you with food.” 65 So he went to Zarephath. When he came to the town gate, a widow was there gathering sticks. He called to her and asked, “Would you bring me a little water in a jar so I may have a drink?” 66 As she was going to get it, he called, “And bring me, please, a piece of bread.”
Here 8767 s my dilemma I 8767 m 69 getting ready to leave to the Navy. I have recently got back with an old ex from high school she has a three year old boy that I was willing to look past and be his dad , two weeks later she tells me she 8767 s pregnant again with her ex 8767 s baby. I know this because I haven 8767 t touched her. So she left me to go be with him. The new baby daddy said he 8767 d be there for the child but not her. Afterwards she claims she wants nothing to do with him. Now she wants me to be her rock because she 8775 can 8767 t do it again alone. 8776 Now I don 8767 t know what to do! Should I stay or leave and never look back.
"More often than not, the family will really appreciate that you are letting them be a part of your life. Please be as understanding as you can be about the fact that you may need to invite the family over for important events in your lives. Treat them as though they were your partner's actual parents and it will prevent you from awkward situations in the future. If you accept them as your family, you'll be surprised to see that often they'll be very grateful for the opportunity to be involved and perhaps even feel less lonely."
Tink888: “This is variable, and having been married to a widower, been widowed and later marrying another widower as well as encountering several men on the widow/widower board, I have noticed that men seem to be ready earlier than women. Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run it 8767 s course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than 8766 the experts 8767 predict. For me, it was 68 months before I considered dating again. The key is that every person is different, and you should take the widow/widower 8767 s word that she/he is ready to date.”
I believe that is where the number issue comes into to play, I personally love kids and have no problem dating women that have them within reason. Let 8767 s be real I have met women with four and five kids running around, I am not saying they were whores but ummm wow five kids?!!?! I really think it comes down to how the woman manages the situation, how she presents the guy she is dating to her kids and when have a lot to do with how things go. Like you said if your that dude that shows up at the house walks in the living room says what 8767 s up to the kid on the way to the bedroom the child is going to have it in for you.
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