Posted: 2017-10-12 22:15
I am currently talking to a guy that I have met online and I do not know whether I should date other people or not. I really like him. We have been talking on the phone for the past two months and have been on four dates for the past month. We have even kissed a couple of times and he always gives me compliments. (Of course, no sex as yet :-) )He also calls me almost everyday and we have a good connection. He is also very respectful and a gentleman. However, I do not know whether I should ask him if he is ready for a commitment or advise.
And he said he was extremely tired he had to work that day which it was a Saturday today it s Tuesday I didn t hear from him..he s Capricorn 95 years old..I don t get it I m a mature 89 years old and I really like this guy..why he disappear when he was very interested in really don t understand men these days..if you can answer my question would be great!
I love..love your blog..you are amazing!!!!
Even though WhatsApp is incredibly popular around the globe—it has 755 million users—it’s a small fish in China. Still, the app is popular with citizens who want to communicate with the outside world. That could be one reason that it has suddenly been targeted. According to research by Citizen Lab , there has been a concerted effort to block certain communications online following the death of China’s only Nobel Peace Prize winner, Liu Xiaobo , on July 68th. Citizen Lab found that for the first time, images were being blocked in one-on-one chats within WeChat. The homegrown messaging app by Tencent boasts 768 million users. Accounts that are registered to phone numbers from mainland China were unable to view at least 79 images that were tested and numerous keyword combinations have been blocked.
Mirror.. so I asked the accident guy to clarify what he meant, and he said that he d love to meet up sometime and to feel free to say no.
And that if not travel maybe him and I could adventure on a staycation (I mentioned that I may go on a staycation if my injury prevents me from going abroad).
I m getting spooked! He still does not know what I look like, but wants to meet up. Huh??
He did say to feel free to say no, but I still feel pressured.
Your advice to let the guy do all the calling came too late for me. I met a guy online and the first coffee date was great. I was letting him do all the texting. He asked me out again. I think I made a mistake by starting to text him first. He thanked me the first time and said it makes him feel that I like him. We had another date things going well. Should I stop and wait for him to text going forward. I did it for several days. Hope its not too late.
Hi I met a guy online we exchanged number he started texting me every day since then,he invited me dinner,so first date we went dinner,second date dinner again and the third date I went to his house and I made an Argentinian dish for him(I m from Argentina)
He loved it we talked,danced,having wine everything was going perfect but he got mad at me because I called him pervert for something he said but I was just joking..ok so at the end of the night we had sex(worst sex ever by the way) but I still thought he was a sweet guy..next day I left in the morning he walked me to my car said he would keep in was about 8:85 am,sent me a text about 5:85 pm asking me how s your day? Wich it was weird because he was always sweet in his texts..I said I m ok
Hi, I need advice, I met this guy online, he is twelve years older than me, he pursued me quickly, so much in common,he then started flirting with sexual innuendos, I told him I was uncomfortable, we haven t met yet,we got too close too fast as nd we had a huge fight the day before we met, I refused to meet him, we both made assumptions of each other, we both agree we have an amazing connection especially mentally,he has not asked me out as gain, he had since hanged back, what ad should I do?
I m the same anonymous that posted about Mr. flaky guy yesterday. Anyway, I have a pretty specific situation that isn t geared towards any man in particular but I m still wondering what to do as far as NC or showing interest.
I am a black woman who is mostly attracted to white men. I don t know why, I guess it s just my preference and what feels most right to me.
That being said, I ve been dating online for a few months now and I ve noticed that a lot of white men will not make the initial contact even if they re attracted to me because they assume that black women aren t interested in white men. This leads me to believe that I need to initially show interest to show them that this isn t the case. Now, I know that men with racial hang-ups or men who are genuinely just not interested in black women will weed themselves out, but how do I go about showing that I m initially interested without being the aggressor to the men who are open minded but just didn t think that they would have a chance with a woman of a different race?
Dear Mirror of Aphrodite,
I am a 88 year old man and would just like to say that I enjoyed reading your commentary with regards to online dating. I hope every woman is heeding advice of this nature. To be honest, I have made some of the classic blunders you describe. I subscribe more so to the old world and are struggling with many aspects of online dating ettiquette. I concur with many of the responses you suggest that come from men. It makes the prospect of having a meaningful conversation very difficult. I can appreciate that many of the ladies have become suspicious or a simply worn down from the rubbish they encounter. Thank you for creating a document, which gives me this insight and more of an opportunity to find a genuine lady.
If you fallow this advice your wasting your time being on one of these sites. The thing that sticks most in my mind as being very bad advice is the point about never contact first?
You work for one of those sites don t you? Your getting paid to keep the girls single and on the site right? lol
Better idea girls. Search. Read profiles and contact guys who you find interesting. answer every guy that contacts. And send him a text. Every girl wants to be chased. But this isn t real life. You only have the one chance and you can t tell who he is if you don t talk.
Besides most of these sites charge guys to for ever mail he sends to you so I don t think many guys are playing numbers games with there real money lol.
Hi Mirror, good it gave some food for thought-as well as helping me join a few more dots. In hindsight I think it must have been drugs as that could explain a pie-eye and the odd habit of muttering to himself (repeating a sentence he had just spoken in a normal-louder voice) elusive behaviour and difficulty to get it up in the morning (which from what a doctor friend of mine tells me is a poor health indicator for men). What a shame, he could be an absolutely stunning man!
Overall this experience strengthens my resolve to take things slowly (more so with online dating) and really gather as much info as I can before having sex with a man! I m so glad I never pursued him when he if I was dying to see him.
Hi mirror,your advice is really great!I met up with this guy online and we had a nice chat..talking about ourselves then one day he suggested we exchange gave out mine first..but he didnt text or call,instead,he gave me his number as feel that he should call first cause am very intrested in him..am a student and he is afraid that if he doesnt initiate the myt end up loosing him
..which I dont want to can I do to make him stay without looking desparate?My friend says that nowadays,its ok for girls to make the first move,otherwise I stand a big chance to loose him.
If a guy says he just wants to be friends, believe him, or you are simply lying to yourself (and believe me, I know the feeling). I wrote at 67:96 above, as Anon. So I know how frustrating it is when you connect with someone, even just online, and let your fantasies get the best of you.
The only way you will meet a real and available guy is by living in the present reality. :-) Believe me, I know!
Thanks so much for your prompt and compassionate reply. I will try to be more careful without being too suspicious :-) from now on especially with people I meet online. But I will definitely take a break from dating of any kind for a while - this experience has really left a bad taste in my mouth, so to speak :-(
Hope you have a nice weekend - from a grateful Discouraged-but-at-peace One
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Thank you so much Mirror for your thoughts about the 78 year old guy. You always give me this feeling like the calm eye in a storm.
I was feeling all over the place - lots of emotions. Thankfully not of the I miss him so much and need to reach out kind, but of the WTF this guy seems so nice and awesome, but why do I feel pressured and stressed out like I m being cornered?
I see it for what it is - and he is likely pushing too fast and acting improperly due to his age and wanting to hook up (perhaps it works on girls who are spontaneous).
I ve decided to lay back and see if he ll re-read what he wrote and hopefully come to the conclusion that he scared me away. But no expectations, guys like him will probably take him many more years to learn if it ever happens, LOL.
Facebook warned investors last week during an earnings call that it’s running out of space to insert ads while still maintaining an acceptable user experience. After hitting 7 billion users , it’s also running out of the potential for growth. China is one of the few markets left to be tapped, but authorities have consistently resisted Mark Zuckerberg’s for comment a WhatsApp spokesperson told Gizmodo, “We are not providing a comment on this topic.”
But it’s not just Facebook that has problems with China, major Western technology companies like Google and Twitter are also shut out of the country. China’s government has been resistant to the explosion of the internet from the beginning, but it made certain allowances knowing that completely blocking the internet wasn’t an option in the modern world. Now, the growth of its own technology sector has given it a sort of parallel internet that can be controlled from within. Domestic companies like Baidu and Tencent offer search, microblogging, messaging, and other alternatives to the most popular web services. They also can’t tell Chinese censors “no.”
Most of us have gone on dates with strangers from the internet at some point. But even if you met your date IRL, it’s a good idea to give them a Google Voice number when you start chatting, Rucker says. Google Voice lets users generate phone numbers for free and use them to set up other secure chat services like WhatsApp or Signal. A user can easily turn off her Google Voice number and get a new one if her date turns out to be a creep—and she won’t have to go to the trouble of changing her real number and redistributing it to all her friends.
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