Posted: 2017-11-12 07:03
Hi to everyone! Good to read these all comments. I am 58 good looking woman and men are attracted to me more then ever. Most of them they are then me but I never had a problem with this.
Ladies, If a man is going to leave or cheat he will do so no matter if he is 75 or 75. So please live present and now without worry what happened tomorrow. It will make us secure and confident. They have to worry and to be jealous about us as well. And please keep in mind that men and their body get older too !
Good luck and be happy!
Detha, this post was meant to be introspective. Guys don 8767 t want ambitious women, that 8767 s our job. That 8767 s why everybody is all pissed off. My gf works, but she doesn 8767 t care about getting the next big raise she cares about the people around her, being caring and helpful. That is a huge turn on to me and in general to men, they say it but women deep down love a ppowerfull man, who can protect and feed her
Hi Jaynice, I would advice you to just go for it, why setting out to be a failure before it actually happened. You would undoubtly kick yourself if you missed this chance of finding someone makes you feel good about yourself.. I, myself met someone on line about a month ago, he is in the military, I am 95 and he is 9 years although it s still early days for us but we already talked about what he planning to do once he s leaving permently from his military at the end of the year.. of course once he is out we are not going to live together immediately but we would both like to see whether we both physically and mentally suited. and boy I really can t wait to be in his arms
Finding a match on an online dating site takes a lot of work, especially since most sites today are overrun by scammers. That said, for most people who are no longer in school, they are probably still the best 'focused and pro-active' option. Yes, you are likely to be disappointed, to be hurt along the way, but then I suspect that even though you were married before you left school, you still had your heart broken once or twice before you met your wife. And yes, it is possible to meet people in church, at meet-ups and other special interest activities. However, a good many people you will meet in any of those places have no interest in finding a new partner.
The best way to get your foot in the door is to find something in their profile to start a conversation about. Ask them an open-ended question so they start talking about that and themselves. Say they list Adele as one of the musicians they like. You could say something like, "What do you think of Adele's new album (whatever)? I think her best effort on it was (whatever song) because. What is your opinion?"
Just an example. I mean at least it shows you read her profile AND it is a conversation starter.
As an older woman that is dating a man I will tell you for me personally, if you can communicate with out the assumption that you are going get sex or be sexual with your communication eventually an older woman will warm up to a man. I am speaking from my preferences. I just started to date a man who is 65 yrs and I am 58. His approach to me was non sexual and that is what sparked my interest. It is probably different for everyone else.
What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons. Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person &ndash you&rsquo d probably have 9 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night.
I am a widow of almost 9 years. I am 68. I met a 55 year old man who s never been married 5 months ago. We fell in love. He is sweet, patient and kind. Very calm and loving. We enjoy being together and we get along. He knows my age and says he is fine with it. I look good for my age- I have had a facelift and I exercise and and physically fit and active. But I am aging faster than he is. Comments anyone? He is68 years than I am!
Personally, I think the best thing anyone could do would be to work on themselves. The entire reason I even bother with online dating is because I'm deathly afraid of rejection, and get social anxiety. Unfortunately, online dating has led me through cycles of depression, bitterness, jadedness, and maybe mostly sadly - misogyny (since fundamentally I think women are awesome.) But on all levels.. men who want to be successful should be working on their fitness, sharpening their minds, and improving their confidence. Online dating could be a tool for self-improvement, if you let it. But I think a lot of men buy into a "Homer Simpson" fantasy, and expect women to see some inner merit they have, which is hypocritical since (most) men won't go after overweight/unattractive women on these sites.
Eric: It&rsquo s not. I spent hours trying to create a profile that shows people what I&rsquo m really like. No dice. Sure, I get a lot of profile &ldquo views&rdquo , but no messages. I&rsquo ve scheduled about an hour a day to browse through profiles and I look for several things. Most importantly is that she likes doing similar things that I do. Secondly of course is that the profile gives me some feeling that there could be chemistry.
Life is tough after 55 years of age. Over 7/8 of the divorces after age 55 are initiated by the women, as my ex-wife did. So guys, treat her right.. and still hope for the best. I suspect, that once a woman's estrogen drops and the kids have flown the nest, then women's innate sense of maintaining that nest flies away as well. Women naturally become more independent and more critical of whatever it is that they want the husband to do. Funny thing is, I did all the man's kind of work like mowing the lawn and such, and always did the housework stuff like bathrooms and the laundry, but to no avail.
He is very close with them and whilst we have always felt a very strong attraction to each other, we did not actually disclose how strongly we felt untill we both agreed that we wanted to commit to each other. Their initial reaction was disaproval, but it quickly cooled. We continued to become closer over the following month, then he suddenly stops visiting, wont commit to aranging to see me, however we still, chat on the net and nothing seemed to have changed in how much we care for and love each other. Then out of the blue he finishes it, after a few days he contacted me and tells me his Mum and sister were making threats to tell everyone in our small local community, and whilst neither he nor i really care what other people think, i care about what people say to my kids.
I'm a writer, so my profile tends to attract men with a high intellect or a desire to find an emotional match, so they comment on something I'd written primarily. However, the ones that catch a peek at my attractiveness or curvaceousness do mention it in their first message and their ssecond message and their third message and in text messages and, sometimes, on a first date where it's inappropriate and, for lack of a better word, "creepy."
Now before you hit the gym and load up on protein supplements, read ahead. Researchers have found that out of all the body shapes, women in general seem to prefer a “V-shaped” athletic body on a man that is to say a strong and well-defined musculature on the upper body and a narrow and slim waist. So if you’re lacking in this department, it might be time to get yourself an advantage with a good exercise and diet plan.
Online dating really only works for exactly the sort of audience that already has plenty of other dating options. It's great if you're relatively and in a relatively urban area and if your socioeconomic status is broadly similar to other people nearby. I suspect that it's also a good option for people outside the age range most commonly acceptable to a site's users, though that's outside my experience.
This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height. Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.
Both sides have their rights and wrongs. I always liked meeting people in Internet. I always thought (and I still do) that dating websites are a great idea. I always protect dating websites because of a simple reason - it's a public place where real people are showing themselves. You found creepy people on dating websites? Sure, but you know that they also exist in real life and you could meet them on a classic date, right?
I have been interested in men all my life. When I was sixteen, I was dating a thirteen-year-old. But now at 68, although my face looks like it 8767 s 55, I am being pursued by a man who just turned 85. He has told me to get in shape physically since I 8767 m seriously overweight due to depression. I 8767 m teetering. There is a THIRTY-EIGHT YEAR age difference here!! Should I tell him? I think he 8767 s judging by my face that I 8767 m fifty.
This is so sad and pathetic. Old guy 8767 s looking to date women? Give me a break. Are you really that weak? The most you will get from that is an std. I can 8767 t believe someone would waste the time on such a stupid, meaningless topic. Any women that would date or go out with a guy ten years older is only doing so to take whatever it is that you have. Don 8767 t be the chump that she hopes you are. Stay with your own age unless you like getting scammed. Guy 8767 s get blinded by pussy and make stupid decisions. Believe me, if you are with a woman ten years than you she is just waiting for the right time to strike.
Again, I am not limiting myself to only gorgeous women, but I do need to feel SOME sense of attraction, and some women have just not taken care of themselves as I know some men have not either. At my age, I only bother with messaging women up to ten years and several years older, as I have to feel more of a connection age wise. I hate to be harsh, but the years are harsh on some women. Again, a woman does not have to be gorgeous at all, but if my first feeling is that a woman's picture depicts someone who was a woman in a previous life, then I naturally go to the next profile. Since I still enjoy cross country skiing and cycling, then women who have interests limited to restaurants and being a spectator, then I likewise will pass, regardless of attraction.