Posted: 2017-09-11 21:28
Mine has an exceptionally high intellect, and that was one of the main things that attracted me. I kept a diary, and even then I 8767 d occasionally refer to him as The Great I AM. I did come away from suppers out with him feeling empty and frustrated, the way he always glorified himself and managed to weave into conversations some comments about his past sexual/emotional conquests. When that happened, I tugged hard on his reins. Said 8775 Look, why are you telling me about that? I 8767 m not one of the guys. I 8767 m not someone who wants to hear details of your past exploits 8776 . His response 8775 Ah ok, fair enough, fair enough, 8776 and then would change the subject. Next time, a few months later, he referred to it as 8775 the topic I 8767 m not supposed to bring up with you 8776 and tried to talk about it obliquely. The topic? An intense three month fling he once had several years earlier (yeah, whoop-de-do). He seemed to want to tout this tale as 8766 proof 8767 that he can get totally wrapped up in someone someone that, obviously, wasn 8767 t me. We were together five years.
I think Natalie 8767 s topic sentence and first paragraph sums up what I felt. It was difficult to wrap my head around the fact that what I thought I wanted and what he said and did didn 8767 t match. It was even more difficult to wrap my head around the fact I was a mistress. Then, I had to wrap my head around the fact that when he kept boomeranging in and out of my life hanging around like a 8775 blue arsed fly 8776 (cos I let him), it was because he was only thinking about HIMSELF, even though each time I got my hopes up. Then, I had to wrap my head around the issue of fairness. At first, I was focused on how unfair it was to me. Then, I had to wrap my head around how unfair it was to his WIFE and kids. I 8767 m not sure precisely what fairness is but I know his wife and kids were treated hugely unfairly and I was complicit. That ends my rant because wrapping my head around all this makes my head hurt! Hang tight Learner. You are doing great. Be grateful he has left the building and so have you!
One of two things are going to happen: You 8767 re going to end up managing down your expectations until one day it suddenly occurs to you that your needs, wants, and expectations aren 8767 t being met while they 8767 re having a grand 8766 ole time on their terms. Or , you end up in one of those awkward, standoff power struggles where you each keep trying to get your own way instead of just walking away.
Most of the time, you can spot an online dating scammer by trusting your instincts if something looks off, be extra wary. It all seems obvious in hindsight, but people want to believe in other people, and that can get in the way of our better judgment. Always be on the lookout, and be extra wary when you meet new people online. If you have suspicions, don&rsquo t ignore them. Taking these precautions can help save you thousands of dollars and even more heartbreak.
Hi, I am German born in Russia. THIS IS FAKE !
Its not true ! Russians, in general, are VERY VERY VERY xenophobe, they hate all western people. They said 8775 Russia for Russians 8776 and onother thinks like that.
Russia is not a poor country. This is just silly promoted by these sites. Russia is the second country in the world after the US, the number of immigrants. How do you think it 8767 s a poor country and that girls are desperate to go from here???? Its a horrible site !
I think there definitely is a disconnect between many men and their feelings, which results in a truly impoverished emotional range. I 8767 m not sure exactly why this is but there is a lot of literature out there on how western culture has failed men by eliminating necessary, and psychologically healthy, initiation rites. This was the process in almost all cultures before the modern West that turned boys into MEN. So many of these EUMs are just boy-men, stuck in perpetual narcissistic adolescence because they 8767 ve never made this transition. It 8767 s a tragedy, really.
I fell into it too met this really pretty woman online kept saying she loved me all the time long story short bought her a cell phone calls me can barely understand her such bs got me to purchase a plane ticket well i stopped it she goes by the name juliet corsy, or ruth juliet anni , she has 8 phone numbers all differnt locations she will say she's rich has money coming to her dont believe it its all bullshit
I think you're right. I've seen "California City, CA" and "Oregon City, OR" and "Michigan City, MI" etc. on so many profiles that scream scam that it makes me think these scammers aren't very creative! I wish we didn't have to wade through all this crap to find love. I've given up on it. I would date a guy who is 98 and bald (maybe because I'm an age appropriate match), but I can't find any who are real and who aren't looking for 78-year-old women. Sigh. I hope your friend survives this without losing his life savings.
As a side note: maybe Tom 8767 s arguments are useful if you 8767 re a woman who 8767 s been limiting herself to taller men and you just can 8767 t seem to find 8766 Mr. Right 8767 among your list of choices. Maybe she should then be persuaded to loosen her criteria. But then again, the converse argument applies to Tom, where perhaps he should consider permitting heavier women who have no issue with shorter men into his dating pool, rather than spend the energy trying to fight an uphill battle against womens prevailing attitudes.
Wow that sounds very much like the man I've been talking met him on
He also asked me for an ITunes card, then last night he asked me for money because he's out at sea working on oil spillages and his contract is at risk because he miscalculated and now they have run out of chemicals. If he doesn't get the money he will lose the contract and not get paid for all his time, efforts and hard work (and will not get paid) as they will reassign the contract elsewhere. I could go on but it sounds like we're taking to the same man..or men who have been trained the same way.
So true! I am no longer there because I have now been NC for 6 weeks and it works. I feel so much better about myself. I did it on my terms and I went NC after a hot pursuit initiated by me. Take that, Assclown! On the first day of NC, he couldn 8767 t stand it any longer because I didn 8767 t so much as acknowledge his presence, that he came up to me and asked what he did wrong THIS time. I just shrugged and said nothing and let him walk away. Nice to leave him perplexed for a change! Six weeks later still NC and he STILL doesn 8767 t know why! Thank you Natalie and all the women on this site! I am free!
Selkie, your comments made me cry. I understand the 8775 scarlet letter 8776 feeling. Even though I didn 8767 t sleep with my ex-EU, I still feel cheapened by my (probably obvious) wide-eyed infatuation of him. Makes me sick. I just want to curl up in bed today and cry. I haven 8767 t done anything to deserve this treatment. I have never cheated on or betrayed any friends or boyfriends. I 8767 m just sad today and finding it hard to feel like I deserve a good guy, if he even exists. I 8767 m probably PMSing, lol.
I agree there is a lack of respect for men in America but some men don 8767 t deserve respect because of their trashy or egotistical behavior.
You are a good example of that. Short men like any other men don 8767 t need anybody 8767 s sympathy. I just saw how this story points out women 8767 s shallowness because the subject is always men 8767 s shallowness. No one is arguing that either side is shallow, both men and women do basicly the same thing, which is the point I have made dumbass.
Rusty it 8767 s like you are doing a lot of talking but not understanding my point. It sucks you cannnot cut me off and mid sentence like you probably would do in your dailey life. You cannot simply dismissed my point because you feel someone who is short should not have an opinion. I will keep on responding until you finally get it.
My first husband was 5 8767 6 8798 and 685 pounds soaking wet (runner with a small frame). I 8767 m 5 8767 5 8798 and muscular (freakishly strong for a woman when working out regularly) and also overweight I always felt like a horse next to him, and when I did his laundry, folding his tiny T shirts and underpants it was like folding a child 8767 s clothing. Just really killed any sexual desire on my part, which was minimal to begin with. He was a great guy in a lot of other ways, which is why I married him, but that piece was always missing for me.
At the end of the day, I believe Tom makes compelling arguments that nonetheless sadly fail to persuade the majority of women in online dating land. Why? Because this is attraction we 8767 re talking about here. We 8767 re talking about monkeying with human involuntary responses to other human beings. And if given the choice between a) pursuing what one gravitates towards without thinking about it or b) re-wiring one 8767 s responses to be aligned with the 8766 well-reasoned 8767 position, we are always going to choose Option A. I say so because it 8767 s infinitely easier to do what 8767 s natural, especially if what 8767 s natural doesn 8767 t actively do harm to anyone else and it 8767 s been working fine for them anyway. (Try using logic to convince a man to stop reading Maxim, FHM or Stuff if you don 8767 t believe me.)
I will be nice though. First, you need to learn to read. I did not say all short men have a Napoleon complex. Many do. Many keep it just under the surface. This is similar to how Ive noticed many black guys will seem cool, but at they will go on the attack very quickly. It 8767 s the same thing, just different names. The broader concept is the victim mentality. Deep down you feel injured. There is a tender spot there that if poked or prodded, elicits an explosive response. Some with a Napoleon Complex don 8767 t hide it at all. This is more an attempt to ward off aggression by other bigger men. It 8767 s an attempt to say, I 8767 m nobody to trifle with I 8767 m not an easy target.
This is a very painful post for me. Very, very painful. But also, very, very neccessary. And I DID finally stand my ground. You all know what happened next so I wont go over it. Everything seems so FINAL. I wonder if I 8767 d still be standing my ground if he gadn 8767 t died? I like to think so, but maybe it doesn 8767 t matter. I stood it long enough to no longer be an issue. Nothing was left unsaid. He came up in conversation with my psychologist a few days ago. She had met him, & had dinner with us. I asked her, do she think everything he said & promised was all really just BS (because he could never follow through). It was one of the very rare times I ever allow myself to think about him. She didn 8767 t think so. Rather, she thought that he really believed what he was saying & promising at time when he was here with
me but that when he would return interstate his 8766 issues 8767 would take control & all bets were off. I don 8767 t know what I think. As I say, I rarely allow myself to think of him at all. I did break this on/off pattern though (far more off than on). Thank goodness I did because he was destroying me.
Selkie, honey. When I read your comment to me, I said out loud, 8775 Nooooo. 8776 in a soft voice. As in, you didn 8767 t make me cry in a bad way. I guess it was just that fellow feeling that gets all jumbled up, where you feel for someone else especially when you know where that person is coming from. That 8767 s what made me cry, which wasn 8767 t a bad thing. And I, too, just had a male friend, who is a GOOD GUY, get married. I am SO happy for him and his wife. It gives me hope. But I felt the same way you did about the scarlet letter feeling that no good guy would ever want me. What utter baloney for the both of us, though. I think of how, if my best friend were to express these sentiments to me, I would be broken-hearted at the sheer INACCURACY of her assessment of herself, do you know what I mean? And that would make me talk to her 8767 til I was BLUE in the face to have her understand that she is not only WORTHY of a good guy, but that she is kind and good and strong. We need to have that same discussion with ourselves, I think.
The girl will not be allowed to see those words because it could lead to a meeting. Those girls are genuine, and they will answer, and that is why the site stops the transmissions.
68. A man has a better chance at meeting a genuine girl who wants to get out of war zone like Lugansk or the Moon like Uzbekistan. But no chance to meet a real girl from Kiev or Kharkov. And no one is going to fly to Uzbekistan to meet a girl for lunch. Those girls are being used so the site can advertise high numbers.
Wow Rusty I agree with you on the last part of your comment. But this may be hard for you to understand, this person was just pointing out women 8767 s shallowness since women are always accusing men of being shallow. But all good men will eventually find someone. He probably already has. He was simply making a point and I doubt that you are intelligent enough to comprehend. Now I have always suggested short men broaden their horizon and look at non American women. There are some countries where height is not as much of an issue and in some countries height is not an issue at all. Just one month after saying to hell with American women and started looking else where I found the person I am with now. I am tempted to not advise anybody to even deal with an American woman after my very positive experience with different women overseas, but we should not just simply boycott American women because there are a few good ones out there who are not obsessed with height. yes, it will take a long long time, you just have to find them.