Posted: 2017-10-31 19:14
Oh man, my high school mascot was the cougar. I hated the place so much that I must confess to a degree of really childish gloating, up to now, about the way it 8767 s become a slur (envisioning the hand-wringing among the conservative administrators… not to mention the glee of their main sports rivals, the long-suffering Trojans). But stupidly, it never crossed my mind that anyone could use it in reference to teenage girls. Gloating’s over.
It sounds like the girls and the boys here are doing everything right. They 8767 re seeking out boys who are within a year or two of their own age, and they 8767 re choosing boyfriends because those particular boys are nice and kind and respectful, and they respect those boys in turn the boys are choosing girlfriends who are within a year or two of their own age, and who are nice and kind and respectful, and who they respect. But because the girls are doing something that boys have done forever , their behavior is problematized, and they 8767 re tagged with the 8775 cougar 8776 slur.
Another problematic aspect of the cougar label, I think, is the fact that the degree of age disparity that leads a woman to have that label applied to her is *so* much less than the degree of age disparity necessary for an older woman couple to cause anyone even to raise an eyebrow. For a woman who 8767 s, say, over 85, a 65-year disparity (and probably less) would be plenty to have some people start raising eyebrows and applying the cougar label. For a man, a 65-year disparity is nothing. Assuming the woman is over 76, you 8767 d probably need a 75 or 85 year disparity, and even then people don 8767 t seem to get really negative, except for those 85-year old billionaire/75 year-old differences. My father is about 85 years older than his wife he was in his late 55 8767 s and she was in her late 75 8767 s (only 7 or 8 years older than I was) when they started out 85 years ago or so, soon after my mother died. And I doubt that anyone (not counting me and my older sister!) ever said a single negative word to him.
Dingo/Manther. I don 8767 t know where they come from, but I 8767 ve heard male and female friends use them in conversation talking about an old guy who thinks he has game or comes onto women. Manther 8767 s been around a while I remember hearing that when I was in junior high/highschool.
8775 A manther is an older man who frequents bars, lounges and clubs, never a genuine gentleman, ranging from ten to fifty years older than his victim. A manther carries an unusually fat wallet, wears too much cologne, and dresses than his age. 8776
Seriously? You think that dudes starting calling older women who had the audacity to fuck men five to ten years than themselves 8775 cougars 8776 in order to admire their grace and elegant lines? That 8767 s such a willful misreading that I don 8767 t even know what to do with it. Let me spell it out to you. There is an older, more experienced party. She is pursuing a less experienced party. The older party is compared to a predator. What does that make the party?
My boyfriend is in college, he 8767 s a freshman now. I don 8767 t see him often and sometimes on weekends I want to party but he gets upset if I even tell him I want To go. He said he finds it pointless to party if he 8767 s not with me bec I can 8767 t dance with guys obviously. He said he doesn 8767 t like to party when I 8767 m not there either bec he can 8767 t have as much fun as he does when I 8767 m there. Idk what to say, I feel like he 8767 s being selfish for not letting me party without him. I told him I just want to party bec I want to hang with friends and socialize, you know?
8775 svengali, dingo, or manther 8776 etc
Personally Iv never heard these before either, so there is no real comparison to make here.
The point is, MILF and cougar have sexual connotations. (Deeming the older woman still fuckable)
Whereas other terms like 8775 silver fox 8776 imply that the man is older than the female, not that he is necessarily attractive.
Therein lies the difference.
The poll asked a broad range of questions about health and behavior—and the data set has become the basis of dozens of famed medical, sociological, and economic studies. (For instance, James Fowler of UC-San Diego recently used data from Add Health to find that there might be a genetic foundation for an individual''s political beliefs.) For their paper, Arcidiacono, McElroy, and Beauchamp focused on the dating and sex lives of high schoolers—a subject much-analyzed by magazine editors and romantic-comedy screenwriters, but less familiar to social scientists.
There is a difference between one of wife 8767 s friends jokingly calling her a 8766 cougar 8767 because she 8767 s 8 months older than me (not offensive/sexist), and the same person calling a woman in her 95 8767 s a 8766 cougar 8767 because she dates men in their 75 8767 s (offensive/sexist) especially if, as is so often the case, they consider a man in his 95 8767 s who dates women in their 75 8767 s 8766 lucky. 8767
8775 Stud 8776 doesn 8767 t fit the argument. It relates to an action, not an animal (as a stand in for a human personality trait). Now, if we started calling some men 8775 Shetland Ponies 8776 and others 8775 Percherons 8776 oh, wait, that won 8767 t make a difference, as we don 8767 t tend to shame men for their sexual proclivities, tastes, and inclinations in the same way society shames women for the exact same human behaviors. Hell, we have all kinds of scientific-y names for male sexual 8775 perversions 8776 , like pedophilia, pornography, bukkake, etc.* without having to come up with a million different animal names to degrade the men who partake of these tastes/interests.
A tamer version of that observation is borne out in the economists'' work among high schoolers. Unsurprisingly, the majority of high school boys want to have sex (though only percent of freshmen boys do). Unsurprisingly, the majority of high school girls do not (though percent of senior girls do). Over the course of four years, the power shifts from the freshman girls who don''t want to have sex to the senior boys who do.
The researchers open the paper by citing a New York Times article on dating at the University of North Carolina, where for every three women there are only two men. One coed argues that the gender imbalance has engendered a culture where men routinely cheat on their female partners. "That''s a thing that girls let slide, because you have to," the student explains. "If you don''t let it slide, you don''t have a boyfriend." Dating, in other words, is a market like any other, and market power is determined by the abundance of resources.
Seriously, stop being absurd and think for a moment. When was the last time you saw any of these words that claim are au courant in some kind of media indicating that we all know what they mean? Were any of them used in Something 8767 s Got To Give , an entire movie about how Jack Nicholson learns to be satisfied with a woman only ten years his junior? Do you ever hear or read anything like 8775 The engagement of well-known dingo Hugh Hefner has been called off 8776 ? 8775 Svengali Jack Nicholson has sworn off women 8776 ? 8775 NBC is premiering an exciting new drama called 8766 Manther 8767 starring Pierce Brosnan 8776 ? 8775 My friends and I are worried: are our teenage sons turning into baby humberts? 8776
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Ha! To think that I married my law school professor, who was 8 years older than I. She was at Yale when I was in 5th grade. She graduated from law school when I graduated from high school. She was experienced as a 86-year-old would be, and I was a 78-year-old virgin. I took four semesters of classes from her, two of them after we were seeing each other, the last one when I was basically living with her. I took one of her take-home exams at her dining room table, wouldn 8767 t let her look at my blue book and I completely missed the issue in the first question.
A recently released paper—called " Terms of Endearment ," but don''t hold its too-cute title against it—looked at how and when high-school students choose mates and their preferences when searching for a partner. Economists Peter Arcidiacono and Marjorie McElroy of Duke and Andrew Beauchamp of Boston College examined an enormous trove of data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, more commonly known as Add Health . The survey first queried adolescents, from seventh graders to high-school seniors, during the 6999-6995 school year and has followed up with them periodically.
I am surprised to see so many references to 8775 cougar 8776 as a complimentary or positive term, even though I know it is being reclaimed by some women/used differently in the media, to a certain extent. FWIW I 8767 ve only ever understood 8775 cougar 8776 to imply 8775 older, trashy-looking used-up pathetic woman trolling bars for casual sex 8776 . (This is coming from other people, not me, since I don 8767 t use the term at all.)
I 8767 m a second semester freshman in college. My whole life, I have been single. This changed four months ago when I met my now boyfriend, Luke*. The first semester I partied hard and didn 8767 t focus much on school. This semester, I am now going to party a lot less and study a lot more because the education is what college is really about. I think the college experience is different for everyone and each person should enjoy college in the way they want to. -A*
Hah when I was a high school senior i totally dated a freshman guy :) Lasted 9 months til I went off to college. His older sis and I graduated together, and we all went out to dinner with their family after the graduation ceremony (I didnt go to senior prom with anyone). My classmates thought I was a lil weird but I WAS kinda a weird kid anyway so it wasnt a big surprise. Certainly no huge scandal.
When I was a freshman and soph in college, I often eyed guys that were still in high school because I was so turned off by the typical college party guy. Guys in high school still had that innocent and gentle nature about themselves, and I liked that, which is rare to find the older men get. I mean, I 8767 m 77 now and I 8767 m not looking at guys that anymore because at my age that would be predatory, but for a 66 year old? I don 8767 t see an issue there.