Posted: 2017-10-13 00:57
These 7 gentleman are correct. There is no point to it anymore. It''s a losing game and it''s only getting worse. As a decent (not male model) to good looking guy you can get attention on these sites but you will have to get it from someone who is unattractive to you, heavier than you''d like, and/or has kids. That''s it. Period. We aren''t trying to bat out of our league either, it just is what it is. Online dating is dying and women killed it.
So the bottom line here is you have 95% liars of both sexes on these dating sites, the easiest way to weed out the bs is by saying hi how are you, if they respond, great , if not move on,, bitches pic''d infront of a G5, Maz, million dollar yacht are always a give away as a fake and so are all these 95 - 55 something bikini hard bodies,,, theyre either ancient pics or bitches trying to trade on their looks, either way they''re not quality, theyre just skanks
Others in the past have conducted similar experiments, setting up fake accounts on free dating websites and recording the messages they received. Cracked&rsquo s Alli Reed set up &lsquo the worst online dating profile ever &rsquo and still received heaps of messages from men who wanted only to hook up with the terrible woman she had created. Continuing to be horrible did not dissuade any of them.
More often than not I 8767 m not even interested in talking to the girl I just want to dance and have fun. I get in there and leave silently. Amazingly, when I do that women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing. A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman 8767 s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, .) I started to read about this subject back in high school. It is not about being petulant or rude, it 8767 s about being confident (comfortable in your own skin.)
I remember when I was a kid and I was going to go on my first date with a girl. I asked my dad for money to go to the movies. He told me that I had to work for it. So I went to his business and worked all day for which he paid me $. He then said that I had to go to work the next day as well. I laughed, and said, 8775 right. 8776 He said I needed another $75 for the date. At 68 I was baffled by this. I asked, 8775 what do you mean? 8776
I received death threats 9rm a man I met on POF, after I spoke w him several times over the cell. I cancelled meeting him & he sent me at least 75 very threatening & disgusting text msg. One was a sex act, one a pic of his bowel movement. He said he will find me & kill me. He''s a phychopath & my gun stays w me now at all times. I thank God I didn''t meet this phyco, I have filed a police report & saved the text msgs. I blocked him after the texts wouldn''t stop. I''ve spoken w several men & when I felt they weren''t the one I moved on as did they. Women please please b careful - have the long talks letting them talk more - they will tell u all u need without knowing. Follow ur gut. I never spoke about sex w this freak but he accused me of playing sex games. One pic was a woman''s butt filled w sperm he said "eat my cum out her ass bitch" "die bitch" "I will find u & kill u".Terrifying that I met someone straight out a serial killer movie or criminal minds. He even sat on a xerox machine & sent a pic of that. I hope he gets locked up. Mind u this man "seemed " normal until I stopped talking to him.
Yes Mike, you are correct there are ignorant, racist people all over the world, including Medellin as you have proved. However, Rick, I do have a few friends that are Indian that have managed to make lots of friends and actually run businesses and lead a successful life here in Medellin: Sidhartha, owner of the restaurant Curry ( https:///CurryIndianCuisine/ ) being one of them.
I verified that he was in fact a police officer because he works in a nearby town and everything is public information online anyway. The first night we went out he did spend quite a bit of money as we met for drinks and then had dinner and then saw live music at the same venue. We kissed that night and talked the next day and decided to set up a second date for less than a week later at which point he said that he couldn''t be spending so much money and that if I felt comfortable I could go to his house and he would cook me dinner.
Andrew ,this is the best blog I have had the pleasure to read. lets see if I can verbalize my story. and tell me what you think. I met a Medellin girl on a dating website. we clicked very fast. and to make a long story short. She invited down to Medellin Colombia. I speak Spanish ,I would say as a second language. I was a NYPD Detective and I just retired. Here is my story. my girlfriend met me at the airport in Rio Negro. We were shuttled off to a Hotel that my girlfriend picked out. I had no inpout in this choice. It was not in Poblado, for some reason we ended up on Carretera 75. Wall to wall little discos that are blasting music all night. In poblado I understand the Hotels are like $ per night. I had to stay in Medellin for a month.
Yeah while I have some sympathy for the douches you guys have met I still feel the need to say cry me an ocean to this article. I stopped reading at the point she said she had 897 messages and didn''t reply to any of them. Yep think about that for a second and welcome to the other side of the dating game! You know how happy I or most guys would be to have so much attention from girls on dating sites lol? Tell you what why don''t you just try it from the mens side. Get a decent picture of one of your guy friends, go and read some profiles of girls you see on there, what little they put down outside of I like friends family and traveling. Now try to send them a message about something you have in common. Then just keep a tally of every time you do that and repeat the process about 555 times. Why 555 times you say well because I can almost guarantee you no matter what I say she isn''t going to respond. Hell I''m kind of wondering why I''m not asking women for naked pics right up front at least they get responses it would seem!
the next day he was acting differently than he had been acting the past 8 days or so by not being as responsive and not seeking me out. So when we texted I had accused him of being on a date and I told him that I did not appreciate the f''ing games. The next night was supposed to be our third date and when I texted him to tell him what time he could come over he said he had thought about our conversation and that it wasn''t going to work so here I am sitting in my car by myself on what would have been our third date writing to all who are out there in an attempt to get this heartache off of my shoulders because I feel that everything went great and did I use a bad word? sure but do people argue? of course they do. and other than that I didn''t think there was anything that wouldn''t lead up to another date certainly not for him to just say it wasn''t going to work at all.
First i would like to say that it is a great issue to write about.
I gor to tell you the truth, when i read this post i got the feeling you would like to talk about your self a lil too much. And i, as someone that also live in medellin, i dont think the things are as you describe. The avarage girls will expect you to pay for everything, spescialy the texi. The kind of girls are you describe are exsisted, and i know them as well, but they are not common. The high quality girls wouldnt be that fascinated from the gringos. Normaly the low level will.
Try to write less about your stories and to bring more facts that connected to reality.
The only real question here is: If there''s so many bad messages, why are the good ones ignored? I''ve been on ten dating sites in 8 years and I''m still looking. You want to talk about not enough time to read messages? Try having to write them. After so long I got tired of trying to be original and became a human spam bot. It''s a lot of work for either gender but ladies don''t insult me. You''re going to have to wade through messages either way. You''re going to have to put in some effort. You could try messaging a guy first. It''d sure as hell make my day.
So now we 8767 re good, but with her mood swings I 8767 m sure we 8767 ll have some sort of fight. The good thing is that she now knows that I don 8767 t like to play that cat and mouse game. I told her that I love hanging out with her and that if she ever feels angry or that I 8767 ve done something to hurt her that she should talk to me instead of just storming off. So we 8767 re good now, but we 8767 ll see.
As a man who has NEVER had a date from the 8 (main) sites I have used, I can categorically say that even if you read a profile, send a nice message and be pretty much, charming. Us "men" get ignored or blocked. I have been blocked many times for just being interested about a lady''s profile. I don''t say anything sexual and I am always polite. I will be honest and say that women are just BORED. They want someone to chat to and, when they get bored, there''s always 655 more men to choose from. Women will get around 655 messages every few days. They may be crappy messages but it''s still a message. I left a dating site for a MONTH and got 8 profile views. No messages. All I see woman say on profiles is how men pester them with sexual comments and, if they are not sexual, all they say is "hi".
Now guys for the most part my brethren are the same except where as the women imply theyre single, you retards take off your wedding rings and replace them with credit cards, because all your looking for is a piece if strange and an ego boost cause you knocked up your ol''ladies and no one told you after she pops out a few lil ones her tits are gonna sag and her ass is gonna get wider than broad st, so you think your entitled to go out and chase strange until you get caught, then you whine like the bitches you are when you do , and dont wanna give up the old and busted til you have the new hotness commited , basically just like all the women do.
Anyway, what I am seeing is a growing disconnect and a lot of people getting disgruntled. I have to admit I was too in the beginning. I think it is because one develops expectations based on statistics instead of reality. I thought, at first, "wow, so many women to see who I really am"! Statistically speaking, I should get a few responses. So I start examining the numbers game and thought I could play a little with it.
It seems you are still paying attention to this blog of yours and I take the opportunity to ventilate my roller-coaster feelings after writing a Colombian girl via hotmail. I don 8767 t know what to think! Normally I am a quite suspicious person and I give notice to inconsistencies in a story that leads me to believe that bogus is going on. Maybe I can believe this girl or she is a master to deceive me and trick money out of me. So far what she tells me about herself is possible. It 8767 s not unlikely, she is a girl from a much poorer country than I am. Some questions about financial support are reasonable.
6. The neighborhood you were in is called Estadio it boarders the Laureles, Floresta, and Belen neighborhoods. Which are all decent neighborhoods. I lived in Floresta (Carrera 85) just a few blocks up. And I have a friend who owns the best Hostel in Medellin right there on la 75 about 6 blocks from the stadium, you might consider staying in one of the private rooms there next time ( The Wandering Paisa Hostel ).
Jennifer, gracias. Si, es verdad, muchos hombres de otros paises vienen a Colombia por que creen que pueden golear con las mujeres, pero la realidad es que si un hombre tiene inseguridades, no importa donde este siempre le ira mal. Ya después de 7 años de vivir en Medellin creía que tenia una percepción buena de las mujeres paisas pero siempre me sorprenden y me dan ha realizar que no se nada de mujeres, jaja. Lo único que se es que si soy buena persona, honesta, educada, trabajadora, deportista, me va bien. En que parte de Bogota vives? Yo viví en Suba, por el Exito por 6 meses.