Posted: 2017-11-27 17:04
I am dating a man who is 56 and I am a 65/ He feels kind of strange about our ages. He says its new for him. I tried to tell him age is only a number what counts is if you love each other. He says he loves me, but wishes I was He says its a big step for him becaue he is free and can do anything he wants. It doesn t bother me about his age, because I love him.
and yes everyone has feelings! I have to remind myself of that sometimes because I 8767 m used to being the sensitive one, and seeing men as the more emotionally stable ones who can handle more so at times I 8767 ve been a little inconsiderate Men, even the ones who seem so strong, are sensitive about certain things just express it in different ways I don 8767 t like weak willed men, but I can most certainly appreciate some sensitivity and remind myself to have respect for someone else 8767 s feelings..
I personally think alot of these 8775 so called 8776 black women who 8775 claim 8776 to be into IR dating are LYING and are fooling no one when they can act so rudely to men like Stan. and even if Stan was 78 and not 58 alot of them would still have something rude and negative to say. I will be blunt most of the black women claiming they want to date out ARE NOT READY and still want a black Kang, they need to go search him out and stop wasting peoples time talking out of both sides of their mouth.
I have gone with married woman when I was One of my married girlfriends quit her husband and married me. I was then married to a woman with a history of quitting a husband for a boyfriend. It never occurred to me that once we were married I would no longer be a boyfriend, but now I was her husband. It didn t take her long to trade me in on a newer model. That was my last marriage. Now I only go with unattached, unmarried trustworthy ladies.
Then I started talking to my female friends. They all had pretty good conversation rates, getting anywhere from 5-75 messages per day. And their conversations tended to last if they wanted it to. What I realized was the dynamic was completely different women naturally start becoming a lot more arbitrarily selective because of this constant initiation. If you don''t stand out with your picture as a man you''re doomed to failure: all the Marissa''s in the world will think of the best looking man that they''ve slept with, say "given the field I can do better", and move on without a second thought. Whether or not you would be a great fit, whether or not you''re a secret agent or a millionaire. It''s totally arbitrary.
IT REALY AMAZING TO HEAR THAT SO MANY MEN ARE DATING OLDER WOMAN AND MINE IS NOT AN 85 AND HE IS 77 AND MOST OF THE ABOVE AGE MENTIONIS IS IN THIS RANGE. ANYWAY THIS MEN CANOT LEAVE IF HE DOES NOT SEE ME FOR ONE MAKE SURE HE WILL CALL AND CHECK ON THOUGHT THAT NO BODY LIKES ME CAUSE I FEEL I WAS UGLY AND HE IS SO HANDSOME ,HE GOES TO THE SALON FOR FACIAL HAVE NICE INDIAN HAIR AND ME I HAVE AFRICAN LOVE ME LIKE CRAZY AND HE EVEN TALKIN OF MOVING TO MY COUNTRY AND WE WILL GET MARRIED AND HE WILL BE THE FATHER OF MY 7ND THING IS HE IS ALREADY MARRIED BUT NOW HE IS PLANING TO GET A DIVORCE JUST TO BE WITH ME ,I TOLD HIM JUST DONT DO SOMETHING THAT HE WILL FEEL GUILTY TOMORROW BUT I REAL FALLIN FOR HIM AND HE MAKE ME FEEL SO GOOD. TILL NOW WE HAVE BEEN KISSIN ONLY AND I CAN WAIT TO HAVE HIM ON THE BED CAUSE HE IS FULL WITH ENERGY AND ME I HAVE LOTS OF SINCERLY HOPE THAT THING WORK OUT FOR THE BEST.
ARRGGGH! If any woman is reading this please do not believe the man like the one described by 8766 ex muse 8767 . I have known a number of women who have had affairs with married men. They all said they were unhappy in their marriage, sex starved, their wife didn 8767 t look after herself or their marriage and felt alive with their new lover. All this is very often untrue and the men are having an active sex and love life with both women. Do not be fooled and fall for men who are unfaithful to those they made a commitment to. Do you really believe that a man proving unrestrained lust will be able to refrain for your sake in the future?
I feel liberated and relieved to know these truths, like a great weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I don’t blame myself for the breakup anymore. He left because of him, not because of me. I am in such a better place today because of your insights and inspirational guidance. I was so stuck on getting him back and learning what I did wrong, but now I realize that I don’t want him back!! I deserve someone better, someone who will love me unconditionally and be there to the end, no matter what.
Hi again...I understand this was a different thread but I wanted u guys to understand my situation. In the beginning it was ok because of our goals but after they were reached it continued forever. I stayed because I loved him and hoped he would eventually keep his word but he never did now I am really feeling this guy. However, I know that its only right to wait til my divorce id over or at least seperation. I guess I am just really confused snd wanted to share with you guys..thanks for listening to me
Brenda55 LorMarie Agreed, he didn 8767 t talk about age preference but the concerns of black women are just as valid as any white man 8767 s. The woman that posed the question is child free, and a professional if I 8767 m not mistaken. I 8767 m sure she now understands things from his perspective. But was her concern addressed? Not every older man wants a much woman but I guarantee most are open and would date/marry her if he could. I would hardly call them poisoning spaces.
The problem is that he wants to have children of his own. It is so important to him that he has worked his whole life preparing for a family. I am disqualified because I can no longer have any children. I have three sons who are 78, 76, and 66. (I am also a grandmother.) After my was born, I had a Tubal Ligation because I knew in my heart that I would eventually be a single mother with 8 children.
8) Insecurity- desire to be liked and attract women is one of the most significant ways through which men are able to validate their masculinity and sense of self worth. If a man is confident and secure with himself then there isn t the need to validate their masculinity, and a confident man that s not insecure already has a sense of self worth because they are happy with themselves they don t have to achieve that feeling from others.
sparel MySmile Aww. You sound so busy!! I 8767 m not about that grad school life.. Life in general has been kicking my butt..haha..but I 8767 m trying to enjoy the ride I should start commenting more frequently again as well I do read the comments on the facebook posts and watch some of the videos Christelyn puts up. Even though I voice (well type) my disagreements sometimes, I enjoy much of the dialogue that goes on This is a very dynamic group of people who have very passionate discussions. ..I 8767 m kind of attached since I 8767 ve been coming to this blog for about 8 years I think..wow, has it been that long?
Hi Amanda. NO need to panic! Plus, if you do, you 8767 ll likely show up as desperate, and you 8767 ll make bad decisions. The best you can do is to get to know the REAL GROWNUP YOU, and show up as her. Be in the moment. Enjoy yourself. As I say, you 8767 re looking for a great mate, not just a great date. That takes time. Give yourself that, ok? And keep learning! I 8776 m SO glad you 8767 re here!
Apologies for length of this, don&rsquo t exactly want to bore people with my troubles/life story. Hope it doesn&rsquo t sound overly dramatic either, but sufficed to say, this really does feels like an extremely important crossroad, and ideally I would love to be with her, and to try and be the best I could be with her, for her. I don&rsquo t give a damn about the age difference, I really don&rsquo t, not after spending time with her, I wouldn&rsquo t give a damn who knew.
I''m college educated with 7 degrees and a terrific job. I make just under $655k per year, have one grown son with an engineering degree. I''m not overweight, and work out everyday for at least an hour. Hiking in nature preserves in Florida is fun, having lunch overlooking the ocean, I''m a vegan, a good cook, and talent. Can''t get a decent date. I don''t like being attacked on the first date and believe intimacy between two people who love each other is best. I''m interested in hard working men who need someone. An average guy will do. But hard to find.
We live in an insulated society. Nothing bad with that, it has its perks..if a woman in her thirties / forties has a decent job, her activities, what she is into, what she expects or wants, had to do it all alone (like single men in her age bracket) a negative outcome tends to be 8775 I don 8767 t need anyone, I did life by myself during my adult years with job, education and other hobbies 8776
Both sides have their rights and wrongs. I always liked meeting people in Internet. I always thought (and I still do) that dating websites are a great idea. I always protect dating websites because of a simple reason - it''s a public place where real people are showing themselves. You found creepy people on dating websites? Sure, but you know that they also exist in real life and you could meet them on a classic date, right?
Things that I have learned and figured out so far about being an Army Girlfriend:
~Trust him trust him that when he says he loves you and only you believe that he means he goes out with his buddies don 8767 t think about how all these girls maybe throwing themselves at him or hitting on him, trust him to know that if that happens he will walk away or call you or say that he is taken and not interested because he is thinking the same thing when you go out with your friends
I guess I am way out there compared to the gals posting here. At 85 i fell in love with a 75 year old and It felt awkward so I broke it off. I am going on 69 and a 85 yr old professes his love for me. Prople say they are surprised to hear my real age, thinking I am in mid 55s. But I know i am 6 mo. Shy of 69. However, I amgoing to venture into the waters edge with this hot man and see how it goes.