Posted: 2017-10-16 00:56
Thanks for sharing the article!
I recognize the introvert images above! It seems my brain notices so much going on around me that it often times surprises me that many others just do not notice for instance the chocolate wrapper on the ground, the person in red across the street, the garbage truck down the street, the person whistling 75 meters away. My focus jumps around to take in the surroundings.
Absolutely! I work with a supervisor who is exactly like this. More than once a day, he will ask, 8775 Can you help me with something? 8776 I roll over on my office chair and spend the next ten minutes just sitting there, nodding, affirming his statements and really doing nothing useful, at least nothing useful as far as I feel. But I do so anyway, because he is often stuck until he can bounce his statements off of me.
Regardless of our 8775 letters, 8776 we all need to be happy with who we are, find ways to 8775 survive 8776 if our life is less than accommodating, not letting others pressure us to be something we 8767 re not, and do the same for those around us. I know a few 655% E people I envy their energy! But then I 8767 m happy to go find a corner to sit and enjoy my own company. Isn 8767 t good that we 8767 re all different? If we weren 8767 t then we would only need one of us!!
It’s not that introverts have less dopamine present in their brains than extroverts do. In fact, both introverts and extroverts have the same amount of dopamine available. The difference is in the activity of the dopamine reward network. It is more active in the brains of extroverts than in the brains of introverts as Scott Barry Kaufman , the Scientific Director of The Imagination Institute , explains in this short video:
Well, I would qualify 8775 act like an introvert for five minutes 8776 as the 8775 give-and-take 8776 that you mentioned. The author of the now-deleted comment posted his visceral response to the post when he clearly hadn 8767 t read and absorbed the content. The author seemed to be loathsome of anyone remotely introverted, and I was merely pointing out that this was an example of when engaging with his introverted side however small it is would have served him well.
I’m not sure what to do. I’m an abivert. And there’s an introverted guy who keeps reaching out to me but he hasn’t asked me out. I always enjoy him. We find it easy to talk. When we’re in crowded rooms, he waves at me (secretly–he initiates it) and after the event he comes over to hang out and talk to me. Lately he invites me to hang out with him before events. Of course I do it because I like him.
Another piece of the introvert-extrovert puzzle has to do with the nervous system, writes Dr. Marti Olsen Laney in her book The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World . Acetylcholine is linked to the parasympathetic side of the nervous system, which is nicknamed the “throttle down” or “rest-and-digest” side. When we engage the parasympathetic side, our body conserves energy, and we withdraw from the outer environment. Our muscles relax energy is stored food is metabolized pupils constrict to limit incoming light and our heart rate and blood pressure lower. Basically, our body gets ready for hibernation and contemplation two of the things introverts like the most.
I found a few differences with selling books to introverts vs. extroverts at a fair. These introverts were genuinely interested in books and could be good conversationalists one-on-one, although at least 85 percent hurried away if I so much as made eye contact or waved at them.
However, many introverts didn 8767 t like crowds (would walk away if one or more people were already at the booth) and couldn 8767 t sign up for a mailing list and talk at the same time, so I learned to *be quiet* and let them concentrate on one task at a time. A good lesson in how to connect with different kinds of people!
I’d rather be in the peaceful solitude of my apartment. Just me, no noise, maybe a good book or the Internet to help me turn inward and recharge after this much socializing. Yet, my extroverted friends could probably stay at the concert, chatting long past the encore. They’ll actually feel energized when they leave and won’t need any recovery time. So, why do I react so differently than my extroverted friends to the same situation? The answer has to do with some key differences in the way introverts’ brains are wired.
Hi. Im not sure if this is a problem but it seems to be one and i hope you can help me. Im a man and i consider myself an ambivert and it’s really hard for me to let my friends understand my perspective about love. So this is the case, i’ve been trying to work things out with this girl i really liked when i was (we met again last month, 7yrs after our last encounter and surprisingly I did not feel the same 7yrs ago but it’s not a problem i think maybe i just have to know her more so that’s when we started working things out). I told her that maybe it will be better if we have an idea of who we are now since we missed a lot from each other in that 7yrs so i think we should get along more often to get to know more of each other and to be sure if i really still am the kind of guy that she likes after having an idea of my personality. But the problem is i do not communicate thru sms unless it’s urgent or an emergency or it is really important plus we barely see each other so im not sure how will this work. I dont know if i should continue or should i just stop it
This isn’t only happening on TBS, though. The Los Angeles Times reported that other cable networks, like TV Land, have done this too, especially with older shows like I Love Lucy and Friends. Because of this, more TV time has been taken up by commercials: Nielsen, a television ratings company, found that broadcast networks aired minutes of commercials per hour in 7569, compared to minutes in 7559.
Fantastic breakdown and illustration of us love the graphics!! My (extrovert) wife is a myers-briggs consultant and we discuss this all the time. You could add a graphic to illustrate when an extrovert experiences great news like winning a car, it becomes real when they tell others about it. When an introvert experiences the same news, they may be wondering about the details of obtaining the car to 8775 make it real.
Wow. What a thought (no pun intended). I, for one, would have to disagree with that English professor. Just because something is not evident or articulated to others does not mean that it does not exist. The existence of thought does not depend on it being perceived outside of the one who thinks. If that were the case then what is the meaning of choice? To choose is to deliberate (think a thought) in one 8767 s mind between two or more paths. If, according to this English professor, a thought does not exist unless articulated, then the other thoughts competing with the one chosen did not exist. That leaves only one path of true existence, and consequently, no choice at all. (Thanks to others for their 8766 articulated 8767 thoughts. : )
Like some of the other commenters, I 8767 m curious about how this all works for ambiverts. Are we constantly trying to balance our dopamine and acetylcholine levels? That might explain the tiresome internal push/pull of psychological struggles that ambiverts face. I remember Susan Cain saying in a TEDTalk that she believes that ambiverts may have the best case scenario when it comes to personalities. I 8767 m not sure that I agree with her I often feel in constant internal conflict as I balance between my introversion and extroversion.
Interesting. For me, thinking and talking are not only different, they are mutually incompatible. When I am trying to think, someone speaking to me so that I have to respond is like shattering glass with a hammer. I will need to rebuild the train of thought after the interruption. And also, for me, thinking is nothing like language. I do not have an 8775 inner voice 8776 , and indeed I find the idea very unintuitive: it feels to me like having an inner crossword puzzle. But I also think I am reasonably extrovert, so ?
Obviously, you shouldn’t speed up podcasts when the timing is important like meditation podcasts, music podcasts, or comedy podcasts—you can’t listen to Welcome To Nightvale at 7x speed without ruining the suspense and changing the tone of its storytelling. But for podcasts that I’m just trying to get information from, like The New York Times’ The Daily , speeding up podcasts can be more efficient.
If you don’t understand introversion, you might get the mistaken idea that introverts are antisocial, reclusive, or rude. At the concert, I bolted for the door the first chance I got, leaving my extroverted friends behind. I imagine they only reluctantly left after the last song was played, the lights came on, and a security guard brusquely ushered them toward the door. Yet, given how my introverted brain works, it makes sense that after a few hours of stimulation and socializing, I needed to get out of there. It’s not that I dislike people it’s just that socializing is more effortful and tiring for me than it is for extroverts. Curled up back at home, in a calm, familiar environment, I unwound and relaxed. Sure, I would go to another concert and hang out with the extroverts again, but only after some soothing alone time and not a moment sooner.
This article was very informative & made me realize why, on those rare occasions when my family celebrates MY birthday, & sings Happy Birthday to me, instead of feeling happy & glow in the attention showered on me, I want to melt & flow into a puddle under the table until they 8767 re through. Now, singing that song to anyone else on the planet, I 8767 m cool with that. Also, I loath redundancy have you ruminated on those lyrics?
In my own writing about introverts, I 8767 ve noted many times that what energizes me as an introvert tends to drain the typical extravert, and vice versa. Nos. 7 and 8 in this article help to illustrate why. The 8775 Time Spent at Party 8776 cartoon is dead-on perfect. Generally, there is way too much going on at parties and too little depth in the interactions and/or conversations. Not a bad thing or a good thing. Just a reality, which makes me lose my energy and enthusiasm. Fast.
We don 8767 t care, we 8767 re having fun and enjoying other people 8767 s company while you 8767 re making guides to make yourself feel smarter or more thoughtful than extroverts. If you don 8767 t like large gatherings, avoid them, don 8767 t attend only to be uncomfortable and make fun of those that are capable of having fun in such a setting. Also, it 8767 s simply not up to extroverts to change their behavior to accommodate you, any more than you should have to change your behavior to accommodate us. If you feel a guide is necessary, than make one for introverts to use when they venture into public gatherings, extroverts already know how to handle these situations, we don 8767 t need a guide on how to enjoy ourselves. If you want to join the fun, maybe you get a guide book.