Posted: 2017-10-12 23:21
My dream job is one that enables me to work on interesting projects in [insert your field] on a full-time job that enables me to make the most out of the knowledge and skills I’ve acquired through my education and past work experience and a job that continually presents new challenges to keep me engaged and always learning. A positive team and a supervisor that provides a solid vision and direction is also a huge plus.
I once did a speed dating event and every man was from a city at least a half hour drive away, not one was from my city. I later found out that this company had policies where men were either free to attend these events or deeply discounted and when they had an event coming up and men weren 8767 t signing up, they would cast the net wide to get the required attendance otherwise they would have to refund, which they didn 8767 t want to do. I don 8767 t think they 8767 re in business any more.
I actually applied to this position as a little joke to myself. I had quit a job the week prior with nothing lined up, and in the midst of all my serious job applications, I saw this one. Figuring it would be fun or funny to be a matchmaker (and figuring that I needed to start receiving a paycheck ASAP), I applied and got called in later that day or the next day to interview. I was there for 8 months before I left to take a job that was more in line with my career goals.
Ariely and his co-authors argue that criteria such as “the way someone makes you laugh” or “how your partner makes you feel good about yourself” are harder to define in an online profile than a fondness for kittens, baseball or crme brle, leading people to make judgments based on searchable characteristics. They note that using attributes such as weight and height to choose a partner is similar to trying to predict the taste of a food based on its fiber content and calories. A similar argument could be made for speed dating, in which the conversation can resemble an interview more than a fun experience.
Early in my career, I worked as a natural gas trader. I had to make a decision to buy or sell natural gas based on a number of factors storage reports, weather, gas prices, political stability in the Middle East, and more. There is so much information to process that one can easily have the tendency to do analysis by paralysis in which you make no decision at all because you spend so much time trying to get just one more piece of information.
Also, I forgot about the imbalance of men to women with traditional dating services. I have read about that before in a blog by an ex-matchmaker (that was short-lived and has been gone for a really long time). She said it was especially tough sponsoring events like dances because it would end up being 75% women which then made all of the women unhappy. As a man, I would have zero interest in attending any sort of formal event so I have no trouble believing it. I remember she said they had to sometimes turn away new female clients over 95 because they couldn 8767 t possibly match them. Considering the ratio of men to women, a dating service might be a smart move for a man. There are considerably more men than women dating online but, from my experience, the numbers are pretty close to 55/55 around age 95.
That 8767 s a good question I do see stuff like this touting how many marriages come out, and that metric always strikes me as a bad advertisement. I feel like if you throw enough people looking specifically for marriage, of course you 8767 re gonna get that out of it. I would rather go out with the guy who 8767 s interested in having some fun dates than the guy who is here because he feels like his clock is ticking, know what I mean?
I would definitely say the majority of clients were affluent and white. Race was one of the criteria that clients could specify, and we 8767 d keep to their preferences. We had plenty of clients who were open to interracial matches, but if someone had a specific preference, we 8767 d stick to that. (On occasion, if there was a GREAT match that wasn 8767 t within their racial preference, we 8767 d propose the match. Some people ended up being open to it others weren 8767 t.)
Great interview! OP, if you 8767 re still around, would you say most men specified that they wouldn 8767 t date an overweight woman? I have a long-running debate with one of my friends over this issue. I 8767 m convinced that the main reason I got significantly less interest than she did when we both signed up for Match is because I 8767 m overweight. She was always trying to 8775 tweak 8776 my profile, but my feeling was that most men have an automatic 8775 reject 8776 mentality for overweight women. Thoughts? And did your company ever refuse to take on a client because of her weight? Thank you!
After getting on the same page with that team member, the work does not stop there. I make sure to positively reinforce behaviors that were changed for the good. Positive reinforcement does not have to be financial, it could be as simple as a “thank you” or a “that was a great job.” By positively reinforcing the good behaviors, you are more likely to motivate the other person to continue exhibiting that good behavior.
This is all great advice. When I first got a 8775 real job, 8776 I had zero interview skills and I just said 8775 naah 8776 when I was asked if i have questions. I recently applied for a job and decided to research unfortunately I didn 8767 t see this post beforehand so my questions weren 8767 t quite as intelligent but I did make sure to come with a list of them. Guess what, I got the job!
Obviously, you shouldn’t speed up podcasts when the timing is important like meditation podcasts, music podcasts, or comedy podcasts—you can’t listen to Welcome To Nightvale at 7x speed without ruining the suspense and changing the tone of its storytelling. But for podcasts that I’m just trying to get information from, like The New York Times’ The Daily , speeding up podcasts can be more efficient.
Hah, I thought the same thing. The problem with dating people in your location is that odds are they want to STAY there. I used to know a girl who was from Berkeley and she said she wanted to move back there to settle down and get married, but she was going to live in LA for a few years Eventually she moved to Portland and last I heard, got engaged to someone there. So much for the Berkeley plan, but Portland 8767 s what, the slightly chillier version of there anyway?
Each morning, the Directors would sit down with the Coordinators and we 8767 d go over the list of clients who were due for dates and discuss who would be a good match for them. Once all the matches were made, the Coordinators would take any matches that impacted the men they were assigned to and begin calling each client to give them a brief rundown about who we 8767 d planned for them to meet, and then to find a mutually agreeable time for the date to take place.
I kind of like this idea and wish I had access to such a service sometimes. My experience with online dating is that a lot of men (particularly ones who 8767 ve grown up with online dating) have some kind of aversion to hashing out the details of a date: When should we schedule it? Where is a nice place to go? Will I need a reservation? and so on. Maybe it 8767 s because many online daters have no patience to converse online 8775 at length. 8776
So what criteria did you use to make the matches? I saw you mention age, education and hobbies. Did clients just write a wish list of their ideal partner and you trawled through your client database to find someone who seemed to fit the bill? Did you do that manually, or was there a computer program that helped you filter by certain criteria, or even an algorithm that gave you a list you could then manually sift through?
True, but I would bet that most people can 8767 t eyeball the difference between 6 8767 7 8798 and 6 8767 9 8798 , for example, without a reference to compare to. I 8767 m nearly a foot shorter than my boyfriend and when we first met all I would have been able to tell you is that he 8767 s really tall. (We met online but I hadn 8767 t looked at his height on the sidebar, and didn 8767 t notice it until he stood up.) And you might easily write off a difference of an inch or two on shoes or posture.
We constantly had to have conversations about criteria for matches. This was probably the most frustrating part of the job. Clients wanted matches who were fewer than X miles from downtown, or who only liked rock-climbing, or who were fifteen years than them. And then they would get angry with us that we didn’t have this mythical person in our pool of clients. We had to have a lot of conversations with clients that consisted of, “What you find attractive and what I find attractive may differ, so no, there’s no way that I can only set you up with ‘hot’ people.”
These kinds of questions are tricky, because interviewers often use them to make assumptions about you as a candidate, which in some cases is illegal. MaryJo Fitzgerald, Economics Communications Manager at Glassdoor , advises you to know your rights as a candidate and if an interviewer crosses the line you can contact your local Equal Employment Opportunity Commission to file a claim. (It’s illegal for employers to inquire about your age, gender, marital status, sexual orientation, race, religion, or any disabilities.) Some personal questions readers shared got pretty close to or crossed that line:
Of course, if the questions are really offensive or show you that the company culture is not going to be a good fit for you, you can always end the interview early. It’s hard for that not to be awkward, but you can try something like, “I’m realizing that I’m not the right fit for this position. To be respectful of your time, I’d like to end the interview now. Thank you very much for the opportunity to meet today.”