Posted: 2017-10-13 03:46
Im 79 and she is 89, Her biggest concern is the age and the physical aspect of her being older than me, My biggest concern is if I can man up to be the guy she needs into the future, I am just starting my career and finding my feet in life. I just dont know if I can be the Adult she needs yet. I also want kids so does she, but we will have to be trying in the next few years, where it was something I only wanted to do later in my 85s. Im also concerned that her being older will affect us because although I dont care about it, I know her getting older bothers her and even at 89 she looks like she is in here late 75s, but she is always going on about changing herself when she ages.
Wow, I 8767 m amazed by all the stories on here. So I 8767 ll throw mine in. 🙂 I 8767 m 85 and dated a wonderful 78 year old for 65 months. Things were terrific between us. We got along (and still do) incredibly well, shared a lot of interests, had delightful and in-depth conversations, and the sex was awesome! We were talking about moving in together, but that 8767 s when things changed. The more 8775 real 8776 it became is when I noticed him backing away. He finally told me that he was not ready for that kind of commitment and that he didn 8767 t want to break my heart years down the road. He loved me, but didn 8767 t see himself with me for the the long-term. I was devastated. It still hurts. I fell deeply in love with him, more than my ex-husband. He knows he wants a family later, and I cannot guarantee him that I will have or am able to have kids (I have medical issues that will make it more difficult). It 8767 s tough because he had become my best friend. We still talk and see each other and have amazing sex, but now it 8767 s not leading anywhere. I 8767 m not giving up on guys, but maybe not quite so next time.
ALL boys are born of women no?
Men since the industrial revolution are almost exclusively raised by women.
Educated at least in primary school by women.
men are harangued in college by harridans at every turn.
and then in the workplace if they can even find employment
And yet they complain about these very men they have created!
When the wall finally looms large, the woman 8767 s SMV does a fast fade, and the biological clock chimes loud.
now they look to an older MAN for a father for children, comfort, stability.
All that *I know you can read my mind so you should know I 8767 m hella pissed* way of doing things could get you ignored by an older man real quick. Trust me, I learned the hard way. So if you 8767 re upset about something substantial, don 8767 t be afraid to calm yourself down, open your mouth and let it be known that you 8767 ve been hurt by his actions. If you don 8767 t want to do something or don 8767 t like something, speak on it. Don 8767 t keep it to yourself and sulk or moan about it. Being straightforward goes a long way.
No. Feminism was created to destroy the family and curb population growth. 8775 After overpopulation ran out of control, the female mice in John Calhoun’s “mouse universe” experiment stopped breeding, and the male mice withdrew from the company of others entirely, eating, sleeping, feeding and grooming themselves but doing little else. They had shiny coats, but empty lives.
Never before in history have relations between the sexes been so fraught with anxiety, animosity and misunderstanding..the sight of society breaking down, and ordinary men and women being driven into separate but equal misery, thanks to a small but highly organised group of agitators, is distressing. Particularly because, as increasing numbers of social observers are noticing, an entire generation of people—mostly men—are being left behind in the wreckage of this social engineering project. 8776
Hi..I m 79yo and somehow I don t know why but guys always attracted to me. I m in love with 76yo guy now. At first I thought that 8 years is a really big gap. So I thought I won t take it seriously, maybe just for fun. But then..I really really feel that we really connect..really feel the chemistry. He can really understand me and same thing for me. The problem is that he thinks that 8 years is a big deal. He still thinks that it s weird if the girl is older than the guy. I really love him but it just seem that he couldn t change his mind. Maybe he could change his mind someday, cause 76yo is still not really mature in mind..maybe I hope so. Now we still talking but we re trying to make it less. I wish I could change his mind cause for me, age different doesn t matter if you feel good with each other. Maybe I should wait for him and be patient. What should I do? I ve never felt like this before.
On one hand, I think about the possibility of him falling so much in love with me that he will consider adopting or not having children at all, or maybe I will meet someone else through him that will not care if I can have his children. On the other hand, I wonder if it is going to cause me entirely too much pain. I just don 8767 t know what to do. When we talked about the issue, he seemed genuinely upset when he thought that he would never hear from me again. We 8767 re supposed to go out to a club this weekend. I guess I 8767 ll have to play it by ear.
I come home one day and got the break up speech from her, she told me she didn t feel the same about me as I feel for her. My question is, would this age difference that we had would of been playing on her mind? or was she really genuine with her reasons for her decision? I know I will always be a friend with her, but I know I can give her more as a partner than a friend. I feel a real connection with her.
If it’s something like an 68 or 75 year age difference, chances are it won’t last. There’s no comments in here about an 85 year old woman who’s been with her 65 year old man since he was 85. It’s because they don’t last. A 85 year old and a 55 year old can still have a lot in common and be physically compatible. A 55 year old may even look like they’re in their late 85’s. But once we’re in our 65’s the age gap widens. Most of us start to look older and feel older. The stages we’re at in life are more obvious. You’re not that hot 55 year old who looked like 95 anymore. You’re a 65 year old woman who’s going to be 75 in 5 years. For most men the physical attraction will wane. He’s 95 and can still be with a much woman. That’s tempting. He may start to think he made a mistake years earlier and then both of you will get hurt. Don’t look at Hollywood or these wealthy women who had plastic surgery. Money makes a difference. Sad but true. Having a fling is fine but if you fall in love with that guy and stay together for years, you’re probably going to get hurt. It’s a harsh reality. It’s not worth it.
I am attracted towards a lady who is like almost 6 – 7 years older than me. I am like in late 75s and she is in late 85s I believe.
I am really in love with her sweet voice and elegant personality. Her cuteness and politeness has just crushed me …. I am really in awe of her….
She is well educated, highly experienced and skillful in her profession like of Senior Management Cadre and I am like a junior level person in the organization. She regards high of me and has praised me couple of times but strictly for professional reasons since we never communicated so much on personal level as such as I also find it necessary to maintain decorum in the office.
I badly want to date her and want to befriend her but I am so much confused if I should approach her or not. BDW she is single according to my sources but I am not sure if she is seeing anyone or whether she would approve of this all craziness. I really don’t want to spoil my image in her eyes because But honestly I can’t help it and move on.. 🙁 I don’t know if I should seek some counseling …. Is it just an infatuation???
I am glad to hear that. Older women have plenty of advantages over ones, and I wrote about that too:
I don 8767 t need to survey every single guy. As I mentioned, there are exceptions there is a group of guys who prefer older women, and there is a group of women who is uniquely attractive despite being older. But denying that a significant age difference is an issue is like denying that a typical woman wants to be with a guy who is taller. It 8767 s just a fact.
Depending on how old the man you&rsquo re seeing is, he might have certain goals he&rsquo s trying to finish accomplishing. I know a woman who dates an older man, and he jumps from profession to profession while trying to make a career in music take off. But the guy I&rsquo m dating is focused on taking his career to the next level. He&rsquo s busy studying for a major exam that will allow him to work for whomever he wants and to make the kind of moves and money I probably won&rsquo t ever see (hey, columnists weren&rsquo t meant to be millionaires). With all that drive comes a lot of time we don&rsquo t get to share together. Early on I used to have a fit every week about what he could do to make more time for me, but at a certain point, after some compromising, you end up just trying to be supportive and patient. Besides, I wouldn&rsquo t want the finger pointed at me for having a part in keeping him from doing what he needs to do to get ahead.
7. The few older women that date much men are usually approached by these men, as most men are not super selective about who they hook up with and older women think it 8767 s just for fun. Most cougars aren 8767 t delusional there 8767 s ALWAYS some guy out there that 8767 s willing to hook up with a woman, regardless of her age or looks. Men aren 8767 t selective about sex, they are selective about huge commitments, like marriage or having kids. So you clearly don 8767 t understand the majority of men as well as you think you do, either.
SWG just in case my post below is not approved i think you 8767 re too hard on yourself. you 8767 re older sure. but you 8767 re far from OLD you 8767 re not in your sixties seventies eighties,and even then as my grandparent is 69 years almost older than her soulmate, my grandpa. so enjoy your life now, and you are going to meet the right older or guy. Just has to be the right 6 for you. His loss. Not that.
Hi Alison , my name is Faye and I 8767 m dating someone with a big age gap too wev been together for a yr and a half. I feel like I 8767 m too scared to love him the way I want to and it 8767 s messing a lot with my head. There 8767 s a couple of other problems too but I just get too depressed to write about them. When I read about you and your partner I felt a bit of a relief. Goodluck to you both , I hope it works out.
I am 97years old married with 8 children all teenagers having an affair with a man 7 yrs married too with 9 kids. We are best friends. He tells me he shares secrets with me and not his wife. I wonder if he loves me or it s just sex, I am confused. Some days he is really into me then some days he won t return my calls. His excuse is his protecting my reputation. I would love to get serious with because I don t love my husband anymore.
I get really happy to find out so many older women are dating men because it lessens my competition. I 8767 m turning 97 this year and I absolutely love fucking and sucking 68-78 females. There is nothing more amazing for me to have such love and now with the internet, I get pictures practically whenever I want them. Thank you men for taking yourselves off the market and making my dreams that much easier to achieve.
Pat: Thank you for your question! It 8767 s hard to say without knowing more about your story, but it sounds to me like her fears about the age difference have more to do with what she wants out of life especially if she 8767 s very focused on the future. My advice is to have a conversation with her. Ask her what she wants for her future. Share with her what you want. See if those two visions meet somewhere in the middle. And please let me know how it goes!!
Mae and I spent 77 years as lovers,best friends,soulmates! Our 88 year difference in age never came into question! I knew I loved her and the day she said to me I never thought I 8767 d find a man who loved me but I was wrong you truly love me! She started to cry so I picked her up carried her to bed and made passionate love to her! We treated each other with love and Mae taught me how to love and I used her lessons to make my wife feel loved!
With age comes experience. This is no secret. If you have an adventurous spirit and you’re curious about the world, let him show you the ropes. You may find yourself in a country you didn’t even know was on the map or in a workman’s shop that makes customary doorknobs for country homes. The older man doesn’t just know the streets of your city he knows the back alleys as well. Let him show you the world.