Posted: 2017-09-25 09:06
What’s better than serving gin and tonics at a party? Having a whole gin and tonic bar , that’s what. A few weeks ago I went to an event for Beefeater in San Francisco. They had your traditional bar there, with a bartender mixing up fancy cocktails. There was also a DIY Gin & Tonic bar. You could ask the bartender for just a glass with ice and gin in it, and then use the assortment of tonic waters and accouterments on the table to build your own. The idea was so fun I started doing it whenever I had friends over… and it was a big hit.
Thanks for answering me, sharing your story. I m in love with a taurus man or at least I think I am. I think about him non stop. Everything was fine he would call me everyday we would meet and go out it was nice. Now he is disappearing sometimes for a week and wouldn t even call me.
When he does uses excuses and I forgive him and I run to meet him again. He is so sexy his kisses I laugh with him and feel good. When I met him I needed air but now this passion I feel for him is suffocating me. I never said anything to him but I think he knows how I really feel for him. Then he is playing those tricks. Don t know what to do.
This place you have created have given me much strength and to many other women.
Don t take anymore action with him. Don t contact him. And if he contacts you, don t respond or answer. Make him stew a bit, and leave him hanging. Let him explore his own actions in his own space for a bit. Eventually, once your emotions and his fears have subsided a never know, he may circle around to clear things up here a bit. But even if he does that, do NOT forget - you re clearly dealing with a man here that isn t ready for a commitment. So don t assume that because he s returned, that s what he wants. And don t assume that if he should happen to want sex again or want to see you again, that he ll want a commitment. You already know where he stands on the issue. So regardless of his next moves, keep that in mind. If you stay silent, this one may circle back in a month or so, you never know.
Yes, the rotation. Its called spinning plates. A lot of guys in nyc do reappearing thing and many of them are hot and cold with one woman like this and keeping the others on a rotation. If your guy has a habit of disappearing for anywhere from one week to 8 months.. you re on a rotation ladies, all those weeks you where in emotional pain wondering he was romancing/sexing other women. Even married men do this where I live its not uncommon. Thank You so much for posting this Mirror, its very enlightening Im going to forward this link to all the ladies I know, most of whom are in this kind of rotation unknowingly.
.: Mirror, I must tell you something else. The power struggle and carrot dangling you mentioned doesn 685 t happen for the the first time in my dating experience. As if some men deliberately want to hurt my feelings for something - my independent character perhaps, the fact that I don 685 t want to be totally submissive (?). With this man - I liked him and I believe I was in my most feminine energy I am capable of. Still, this power struggle is here again. Do you sense I am to blame here too?
Thank you so much for your feedback. You are exactly correct. I have been trying to focus on my work more and I even went on a spontaneous date this past week w/ a guy my friend has been trying to set me up w/. We went rock climbing and hit downtown Nashville afterwards. It was nice. Although he wasn t exactly my type , it was nice being able to go out and experience new things and meet new people. We have texted back a forth a few times but that s about it. I don t see it going any further. At least I put myself out there.
I will continue to let my DM reach out to me. I know him being far away is difficult and I ll always let his actions speak for him and not his words.
To anonymous that responded to me as well, thank you for the advice as well. I know he can t always respond to or write. He s there for work and usually works 68 hour days. That s fine. He ll be back in 7 weeks for good so I shall let you all know how it goes if he does decide to reach out to me again.
Thank you again for the amazing advice MOA.
This disappearing/reappearing act is really harmful to the psyche and emotions of all of us. It s absolutely devastating to be promised all of these things and tossed away like forgotten trash. To all of the men out there spinning plates and thinking it s funny, it s not. This is why I no longer date at all. I cannot understand how men can feel that it s just fine to trample all over women--especially the women who truly love them. These are sad days for those who are looking for real love and have so much love to give to a man who deserves it.
Argonians are also segregated from the Nord population and are forced to live at the Argonian Assemblage at the city docks. A decree by Ulfric Stormcloak forbidding the Argonians from living within the city''s walls also exists.  If the Imperial Legion takes over Windhelm, Brunwulf Free-Winter becomes Jarl, as a supporter of both the Dunmer and Argonians, he believes that the Argonians should remain outside of the city for their own safety,"because most of the folk in the city believe as Ulfric did, that outsiders should not be trusted." 
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After the eruption of Red Mountain , many Dunmer fled to Windhelm  and settled in an area known as the "Snow Quarter." The area has since been renamed the "Gray Quarter," as all of the Dunmer have congregated in this area.  Reasons as to why vary depending on who is spoken to within the city. Some say that the strongly nationalist Nords of Windhelm sequestered the Dunmer from the other citizens in this "Gray Quarter"  in reference to the Dunmer skin color. 
Fast forward. We go to dinner. He 8767 s engaging. He reaches out for my hand and holds my hand for nearly the entire evening. He 8767 s properly affectionate. Dinner, drinks and music, lasted for roughly five hours. It was a nice night.
( And it was Very Nice mirror. And he was affectionate and attentive. .But I was feeling like hmmm he likes me. ..But he 8767 s not amazingly smitten with me. I could tell by the way he looked into my eyes. I would say it was more like .a notch / notch and a half,..better than warm.)
At the end of the evening he drove me to the hotel. When we parked he kissed my hand and walked me inside. He hugged me and said good night.
Hi Ms Mirror,
Do you think there s a any truth in men having anniversary moments a year on?? Do you think they reminiscence like women do?
In my case with my DM I ve lost count the number of disappearances and reappearances he s made this year but it s coming to a year since we actually saw each other last (long distance ish). I ve drawn a line under it best I can but I think he will be in touch coming up to christmas and obviously that can be a reason in itself.
Hi Mirror! I am so excited about reading this piece. I am the person who shared that let it go sermon/words in my reply a few months ago to help someone like it helped me. I am so happy u shared it with everyone. Thank u so much!
that sermon and ur posts helped me out of a hard time. I havent been here in a while since i ve actually let him go , but this piece brought ears to my eyes as i thought of where i came from.
Thanks again for helping me thru what seemed like the biggest fight of my life!
Hoplessromantic, it sounds like your Israeli guy and their are genuine physical barriers. For him to contact you repeatedly over the years..I have family over there and it is really hard sometimes to hear from them. Keep letting him persue you and don t freak out during the time you are out of contact. You should def keep dating others but don t block him from getting in contact with you, that may even be why he is upset. He hasn t done anything wrong its just communications are difficult. I think Mirrors advice is right about allowing him to contact you first always and responding to him instead of reaching out.
Set everything up on a side table (I use a long, short bookshelf near my dining room table). You’ll want to lay out everything I listed above, and then put some (small) glasses and a bucket of ice (as well as something to scoop it out) on the table as well. Small glasses are key here. That means your guests can make a few drinks over the course of the night, and nobody gets carried away and uses half a bottle of gin to make something horrible.
Hopefully you re able to help or give me some advise how to deal with a returning disappearing man. We haven t had any contact since April (we live in different states) with the last text I sent was in response to his text message. Since then nothing. I ve paid heed to what you ve suggested and literally carried out NC on him. However, he s now back in my state visiting his family and I m sure I saw him yesterday (but pretended I didn t :-)).
Today he dropped off a bunch of flowers and a card at my parent s house whilst I m at work (my parents rung me to advise me a suitor dropped it off).lol. Common courtesy dictates that I should ring him and thank him for the flowers but I feel like that s leading him to think that I still have his number on my phone. As I feel like this his way of getting me to initiate contact?
Any advice you can give on how I should handle the above would be much appreciated.
During 9E 756 , as the Skyrim Civil War rages on, Skyrim becomes a nation divided, and Windhelm becomes the new capital of the Stormcloak Rebellion , the main center of the entire Nord revolution against the Empire.  Windhelm is governed by Jarl Ulfric Stormcloak , the leader of the Stormcloaks. Ulfric was chosen by the public as the new Jarl of Windhelm after his father , the previous Jarl, died. 
There’s something fun about mixing your own drinks, at least in my opinion. We all want to pretend we’re masters at cocktails, but truth be told most of us have pretty much no idea what we’re doing. A gin & tonic bar is a pretty low-key attempt at an open bar. Even for those that have never had a G& T before, it’s a tough one to really screw up. For the most part, you can put whatever you want on the bar as options, and (almost) any concoction your guests come up with will be drinkable.
Hi Mirror and everybody,
the other day I met my old girlfriend for a coffee. She is from a different town so we meet about once a year. Apart from other things I told her about my dating experiences and she was my perseverance, determination, acquired experience, knowledge about men, etc. And I thought to myself: Yes, I have changed and despite the fact that I haven 685 t found the right man and my feelings have been bruised in the process I have become a wiser and improved version of myself overall. Which makes me feel proud. And that 685 s mostly thanks to this site, Mirror 685 s work and support and all the ladies 685 comments here. Thanks to all of you again for everything. I wish you all a happy new year, much better than the previous one in all aspects of your life!
Hi Mirror and anonymous,
thanks for your comments. Yoe are right, when I read what you wrote I perfectly understand. It 685 s a relief to know that I am not to blame. And yes, it 685 s true that this man will certainly have problems with his ego. He used to be a successful dancer, world master actually. Since he ended his professional career he has been working as a trainer. Also successful, but not a star anymore. His son is now in the limelight. So yes, he is definitely fighting with himself to accept an inferior position in life and must have ego, dominance issues etc. Exactly as you wrote. My final decision: I 685 ve deleted his number (just in case) and am not expecting anything from him anymore. Thank you for your encouragement, it helps so much. :-)
Have a nice day full of smiles,