Posted: 2017-10-13 00:09
Eric: Yes. Stop ignoring all of us. You know, guys get accused a lot of being superficial and basing everything on looks, but I can&rsquo t help thinking that most of these women just file quickly through a guy&rsquo s photos and then fly right on to the next one without actually getting to know what the guy is like. It&rsquo s so frustrating, because you know, I think a lot of really nice guys out there could make for amazing boyfriends who would treat these lonely, single women like they deserve to be treated. Instead, you know, I think a lot of them are still hung up on hunting for the bad boys, the smooth-talkers. I don&rsquo t know what more a nice guy can do, but I do know it would be nice if some of these women would at least give us a chance to show what we have to offer.
I speak Spanish fluently. This is a big plus for me here because I 8767 m naturally outgoing and funny, so I can really be myself when speaking Spanish. It is hard for one 8767 s true personality to translate when speaking another language, but luckily I am a fluent Spanish speaker, and have learned enough Paisa slang to be my witty self. I have found that Medellin women, as in most parts of the world, love compliments and like it when a guy can make them laugh. This has proven to be essential for me when picking up women in Medellin.
Women dont send dick pics to guys. That's why we are not creepy. If men didn't immediately make everything sexual they might have better luck. I never get guys that ask me about my interest or hobbies. A lot of the men are their own worst enemy. Its their APPROACH that is not working. Guys rant in their profiles. They have few good clear photos or they choose photos with other women in there (and dont crop them out). Most guys put very little effort into their profiles and then they are shocked women aren't interested. I've also had guys get angry because I didn't respond FAST enough. A lot of men come across as bitter, self-absorbed, shallow, perverted, womanizer. They can be the nicest person but if they display any of those qualities they wont get the time of day.
Well, my kids appreciated my loyalty to them. Maintaining their home in such a way that their mom could come and visit routinely. Every morning to see them off to school, even after they were in high school and drove themselves, bring them dinner once a week, after work a couple times a week etc. (She only moved a couple miles away) Stayed single so they 8767 d have a stable home with less drama, parked the motorcycle so they wouldn 8767 t worry about that. (son) turned 68 and I think they now figure I should start getting back into things.
I did get the bike running again. : )
I completely agree, why do women have to change in order to please a guy? IMO if he 8767 s not giving you the attention and respect that you deserve then eff 8767 em. I just don 8767 t understand how women are considered too sensitive when this article makes it sound like you have to walk on eggshells for guys so that they don 8767 t flee from commitment. Sounds pathetic if you ask me, if you 8767 re into me then show it, if you 8767 re not then eff off.
Reading the article made me sad. About two months ago, I met what I thought was a wonderful man through a dating website. I only dated men that people usually call 8775 bad boys 8776 . I felt he was different, I thought that he would never hurt me. Although I 8767 m frankly not very experienced in the matters of heart, I saw something different in him there was a peaceful atmosphere between us that I really enjoyed.
Interesting idea, but not my experience. I get my fair share of messages.. on average, 5 a day. I'm pretty good looking by most standards, though I'm fully aware I'm not the most attractive, and I often find messages from men who are far less physically attractive than the men I've dated IRL (some of whom I've met online!) Of all the men, most find my profile interesting and say so, even if there's a blatantly obvious comment (about interests, what we're seeking, or looks) that should make it obvious that we aren't compatible. It's like they ignore it and try, anyway.
Most Medellin girls are pretty shy by nature. You have to understand that even though Medellin and the metropolitan area has around four million inhabitants it is still a small town. Medellin is a conservative city which is very much in touch with its old traditions and customs. Family life is very traditional. Gender rolls are also very conservative and defined, so logically the women here, for the most part, are timid (until you get some alcohol in them and play some reggaeton, but we will get to that in a later blog post.)
I do believe in giving my man freedom. Because I appreciate the freedom too. Actually, though I 8767 m a girl, I function like a man. I like attention but too much attention turns me down. I 8767 d get annoyed if my man doesn 8767 t have a social life and needs to see me all the time. That 8767 s not attractive. I use to bug my bf a lot too but once I thought in his shoe, I got over it. I don 8767 t need to know exactly what he 8767 s doing all the time. I don 8767 t need to wait for his reply and analyze every message all the time. I 8767 m slowly killing myself if I do that. Being all needy and clingy is never attractive don 8767 t you think Charl?
Hey man I 8767 m at University in the UK and I 8767 m 59. same thing really! I find the best approach is to be the wise old man and just see what happens.. you really must let these girls go after you, which will happen eventually, just takes a bit more time (long game) otherwise as you say you 8767 ll get labelled as a creep. This happened to a friend of mine who 8767 s here and only 85, so beware. Get friendly with both sexes and then host a party, your house will be cooler than the usual college dorms and accomodation so use that to your advantage. I 8767 ve been to bed with three girls so far one 69, 78 and 75, they all said they like older men, I was like I 8767 m old enough to be your dad! (I thought this, didn 8767 t say it!) O and don 8767 t forget your Viagra, they don 8767 t know when enough is enough and be ready at all times, if you get a signal you won 8767 t get a second chance, this has happened on a least two occasions to me too. So to recap, stimulate their minds first, be there for them almost as a father figure, but naughty Dad. And be patient. Hope this helps.
You are the common denominator in all your success and failure. Your self fulfilling prophecy that all women hate men makes you a bitter and angry person and women won 8767 t like you. I happen to like people. I like men and women, I find that I can be at ease with most company. I have never had difficulty finding men who like women. In fact I just spent the last 7 days out of town at a funeral for one of my very best male friends, accompanying me were my wonderful boyfriend and my brother. All three of these men, my late friend, my boyfriend and brother appreciate and enjoy the company of women. Its really much easier when we approach everyone with kindness, playfulness, humor and compassion but when you approach people with bitterness, anger or skepticism they will sense that immediately.
So, this brings me back to other superb EMK posts. Men should say NO to sex until they feel comfortable having intimate conversations with their partner women should too. Women should stop trying to date guys who are not trying to date them (this is priceless advice). And women should understand that guys were not invented to help you pay your bills or impress your friends. As a friend of mine said, 8775 Men are people, treat them accordingly. 8776 That is, lower the expectations, be kind and polite and remember, they 8767 re probably not looking for a parent.
I also ignore or block creepy messages for which I get a lot. If you're okay looking and you message me about something we're both interested in I will reply. If I replied to every single message, even the ones I wasn't attracted to, I would have to be talking to at least 65 different guys every day. And they would probably continue talking to me for a week at least. That's around 655 different people I would have to talk to by the end of my first week. Almost all of those guys will probably be ones I'm not interested in so why would I bother? It will be a waste of time for both of us.
Back to the present, I am questioning this girl and she is getting defensive and crying. I tell her that I just want to know everything I could from her and do not mind my logical way of asking the questions. I finally ask the last question if she knew she had this STI before we had sex, she says she didn 8767 t so I leave it and pull her close and we hug and kiss. She says she wants to go home and I want her to stay. She stays and since she was on her period there is no sex. She hardly kisses me, stating she has a headache. I let her be and we just cuddle and sleep. Morning came, I am super horny and she is stroking my manhood. I ask for a bj and she refuses. I ask what she is afraid of? and she gets up to leave. I get dressed and walk her to her car and she drives off. She texts me later that day that she needs some space to think that we will talk soon. We were supposed to have a date that day in her city. I didn 8767 t respond. I was pissed but didn 8767 t want to say anything I would regret!
From reading your replies to many posters to your blog (not just the one above), I can easily see that you have developed this skill. Did you develop it consciously and deliberately? Or was it gradually taught to you as you grew up? If the former, then you have a lot of valuable things to say on the subject, and I for one would love to read them hence my suggestion. If the latter, then perhaps your parents should start writing a blog. 😛
Agreed. I have seen countless articles telling women not to 8766 nag 8767 , that they should baby men and always speak nicely, and that this is the only way to 8766 get 8767 a man to marry you. You cannot 8766 get 8767 anyone to marry you. The decision comes from the man or the woman. Please understand: You can be the quietest, sweetest, kindest person, and not every man will want to marry you. Yet I have never read an advice article that tells men not to nag a woman.
Were you looking for nonblack women? I 8767 m just wondering where the discrimination you picked up was coming from. Just asking, as I 8767 m sure most black women on sites are looking for black men. I 8767 ve browsed some, and sadly, many black men will list every race except black as their ideal. I wouldn 8767 t know if black women do this but I 8767 d guess it 8767 d be at much lower numbers if they do.
There's another guy on here who's bragging about getting laid by women he barely knows. It's following a shallow lifestyle to be after people "who attract you". There are more important things in life than the outward appearance. A person's character traits are important. Honesty, respect, love, loyalty, dependable, reliable are all decent traits to have. Being with a woman for a long time says that you have been dependable and loyal. I'm sorry that happened to you.
Do something?? I try to stay positive. All I ever wanted was to love and be loved and to realize my dream of being a dad. thanks to women I have been forced to give up on having kids and now stand ready to give up on lo e all together. how man chances do women get before the unworthy ones?? I refuse to keep letting women treat me like I am lower than dirt. I want women to want me for me, not what I can do for or give them! that shouldn 8767 t be too much to ask.
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