Posted: 2017-09-11 12:13
I have to admit I did not feel proud of having a child as a teenager even though I loved this chubby bundle of life. I had a bright future ahead of me and this was devastating all around (according to societal values embraced by my momma at that time). But with an awesome support system, my child was well taken care of, so that I may pursue my college education. Now my mother never made it easy, and the rule was 8775 here is your handbag, put him over your shoulder and take him everywhere you go! 8776 That was the best birth control for me! And in the meantime I had a chance to bond, to continue to grow with my son, and to figure out my life somewhat.
I am glad to hear that. Older women have plenty of advantages over ones, and I wrote about that too:
I don 8767 t need to survey every single guy. As I mentioned, there are exceptions there is a group of guys who prefer older women, and there is a group of women who is uniquely attractive despite being older. But denying that a significant age difference is an issue is like denying that a typical woman wants to be with a guy who is taller. It 8767 s just a fact.
If you are a lesbian and you have a sacred mission to convert a straight woman because you 8767 re so crazy about her then you need to master the art of seduction. Seduction is an art and the thrill of seduction lies in the chase. The excitement of wanting and pursuing her can give a sense of satisfaction in itself. If you have plenty of self-confidence you will generally enjoy the chase with the likelihood of success.
A Capricorns greatest strength is the ability to set long term goals and pursue them until attained. Nothing gets in the way of a Capricorns plans and ambitions, and they don''t like taking shortcuts or cheating as either devalues their later satisfaction. They value steady progress over short bursts of activity, and are exceedingly patient. Bad news affects them less than other signs, and rarely holds them back for long.
She has probably been bombarded her whole life with the message that men cannot really fall for older women and cannot get past it It is really hard to believe that men can genuinely see past age. Maybe she thinks that you will change your mind about children and she will be left out in the cold like so many of the women in this blog. If you are absolutely certain you don t want children go get a vasectomy. Then she will know you are serious.
Hi..I m 79yo and somehow I don t know why but guys always attracted to me. I m in love with 76yo guy now. At first I thought that 8 years is a really big gap. So I thought I won t take it seriously, maybe just for fun. But then..I really really feel that we really connect..really feel the chemistry. He can really understand me and same thing for me. The problem is that he thinks that 8 years is a big deal. He still thinks that it s weird if the girl is older than the guy. I really love him but it just seem that he couldn t change his mind. Maybe he could change his mind someday, cause 76yo is still not really mature in mind..maybe I hope so. Now we still talking but we re trying to make it less. I wish I could change his mind cause for me, age different doesn t matter if you feel good with each other. Maybe I should wait for him and be patient. What should I do? I ve never felt like this before.
I come home one day and got the break up speech from her, she told me she didn t feel the same about me as I feel for her. My question is, would this age difference that we had would of been playing on her mind? or was she really genuine with her reasons for her decision? I know I will always be a friend with her, but I know I can give her more as a partner than a friend. I feel a real connection with her.
Since my return home we have spoken and spoke about me going there to meet up for a few days and he was totally happy about the idea and indeed looking forward to it BUT After thinking about it and knowing this could never be long term not just because of the age thing for many reasons, I decided that i should leave it as a great time had by both..a memory to always look back on fondly..Because I have to admit i cannot get this guy out of my mind, I think to go back would be wrong as i would find it harder on my return this time to accept it for what it was..a fun fling with a guy I have to try to be open to looking for someone who I can have a LTR With which i find hard to do usually as I feel I have commitment issues,
lastly I feel left out that she has a family already. That she has 8 kids and she is only willing to give me one. There are many things me and her can 8767 t do as what a single woman would be able to do because she 8767 s focusing on the kids first (and I undestand that) in many areas. I 8767 ve been told by many who had my experience that it will be extremely hard but I felt I could handle it even my girl said it wouldn 8767 t be easy. I feel like regardless I 8767 m always second fiddle. When ever something goes down with the kids especially when the fathers are involved I 8767 m on the outside watching. Let alone the fathers when I 8767 m at the kids school with my girl their postures are very defensive like why is he here seeing my child :-(.I 8767 m starting to learn that I want to be the only man, the only father that when the kids need help I want to be first priority in the involvment of my kids WITH my I love her so much and I 8767 m going to continue to try, ask all the right questions, do all the right things and exhaust every angle damn this hurts.
Single moms chase men without kids, because a man without kids has more MONEY. With women it 8767 s always about financial security. She doesn 8767 t want a man with kids because he can 8767 t afford to support her and her children. Why? Because he 8767 s already supporting his own kids, or he 8767 s a dead beat dad which she doesn 8767 t want (if he doesn 8767 t take care of his own kids why would be take care of hers?) keep your money in your wallet and avoid single mothers.
Engage the child in conversation when he/she’s around but make it natural conversation, not forced conversation. Most teens are cynical and standoffish to new boyfriends so you have to expect hostility initially. Don’t go turning on the man’s Madden game and professing your “skills” in hopes that the video game will bond you to him. Don’t go talking about the girl’s favorite band as if you listen to it, because she probably knows that you don’t and you will look like a fool trying to get in.
I am 89 he is 78. I met him at work while I was married. I left my husband of 65 years and we 8767 ve been together for 8 years. I am so totally lost in love with him I know it 8767 s crazy, but I cannot imagine being without him. Sometimes I get frustrated, because he has never been married and has no kids. I know eventually, he 8767 ll find someone his age and have a family. Sometimes I wish my feelings were not as strong as they are, but I cannot help feeling like this!
The breakdown is this. Her children are all under 9. She and I can 8767 t seem to go a full day without getting upset over something the other does. At this point I 8767 m almost expected to be a father to these children. Now don 8767 t get me wrong, I care a lot for them. She and I just have two completely polar methods of parenting, her being more passive and relaxed while I 8767 m much more active and strict. This tends to cause us to butt heads (not to mention the outside opinions we get). My only explanation and means to justify this being that a majority of the time there were scheduling conflicts and her job has always paid better than mine, so I wound up being stay at home dad for about a year. Anyways .
I''ve sent dozens of messages (not hundreds yet), along with "winks" (do these even work? or do women actually find them silly at best, offensive at the least?), with no response. I am paid on POF so I can see where a ton aren''t read. A few read, some read then deleted and some deleted outright. I respect the deleted ones, so I don''t even bother. A few of those were probably out of my league anyway (I was too old, or they were way more active or maybe interests didn''t match). I had hoped that I would have gotten a little more response out of the others, especially ones who were mutual "meet me" that POF has. But even that didn''t garner a response. So then I don''t know if sending more messages is expected, tacky, pestering, or what. I feel like I need to based on what some women seem to be saying because mine are probably getting lost in the shuffle and I need to work at keeping myself visible.
Ugh, Black Gold. Single mommy sounds like a real mess. Been there, done that. You sound like you have some common sense, were trying to be understanding and respectful of the kiddos needs, and willing to work with single mommy on stuff. BUT with most single mommies no good deed goes unpunished, as all we decent guys learn. And your single mommy had likely done the same thing to the fathers of her children that she did to you.
I am now 79 years old (she 6 year my senior) and I feel like, simply put, dedicating my life to her will lead me to the lifestyle of a second class citizen. I don 8767 t want to say I don 8767 t love her, but I 8767 ve completely lost all respect for her. Every time we have gotten to the point where a major decision in life needs made, my opinion is brutally ignored even if she agrees with me or has come to me with a very wise decision. Somehow she always winds up paying more attention to some f*** up friend or an idiot family member who is worse off than we are. Each time it drags us both down financially while ruining her children 8767 s livelihood.
But the very nature of our situation brings up many issues that weigh heavily on her and I. Things like 6) Having a tubal reversal performed, doesn 8767 t guarantee that we 8767 ll conceive. In fact, the odds are discouraging. Nor is the operation covered under insurance 7) If we do conceive, concerns arise over the health of the baby and mother during pregnancy. 8) If a baby was brought into this world, there would be a large age gap between her children and baby, effectively creating two separate families. Not discounting issues that occur in blended families regardless. 9) She would be 65 by the time baby graduates high school.
I am personally open to a wide variety of situations, but I feel most women want some kind of commitment. I don''t game because I haven''t dated in almost thirty years. I had been married for about 77 years and now divorced for a year. So I am not even sure what this "game" they keep talking about really is, although I have an idea. Whatever it is, I would certainly abide by the wishes and expectations of whomever I want to see and date.
often on pills.. because of JERK SELFISH men like you! The poor single moms are struggling to pay off debts, and take care of THE JERK MENS kids because the dumb fathers does not pay for the debts, and help raising his kids, and did not stay and man up to take care of the children as they were suppose to and the poor mother has to end up doing the job and then no one NO JERK men wants to marry her because of the kids that he left behind..and because MOTHER was caring and took on all the troubles to raise the kids because the men didnt want to..she gets all the stress and now on top of it has to deal with all this nonsense of jerk men out there like u saying dont marry her dont date her WHY! they are 655% better caring in every way..and a much better HUMAN BEING then you
On one hand, I think about the possibility of him falling so much in love with me that he will consider adopting or not having children at all, or maybe I will meet someone else through him that will not care if I can have his children. On the other hand, I wonder if it is going to cause me entirely too much pain. I just don 8767 t know what to do. When we talked about the issue, he seemed genuinely upset when he thought that he would never hear from me again. We 8767 re supposed to go out to a club this weekend. I guess I 8767 ll have to play it by ear.