Posted: 2017-09-11 19:04
I wouldn 8767 t go to somebody 8767 s I don 8767 t trust (following my guts which never fail me, did I mention it b ), so staying at their place is not an issue for me. I can understand others may not like it though, feel uncomfortable, or I don 8767 t know what OK. I must say I 8767 ve met only gentlemen who always showed most respect to me, even though you could clearly tell they were very attracted (not talking about the French here, of course, but of all the others).
All the same, I wouldn 8767 t have anybody coming over here and staying at my place unless he shows up clearly as a friend, for I have a teenage child at home.
I agree completely dillpicklecrunch. I did not seek out a LDR, but it happened that we fell in love. We live a little over 855 miles from each other. We are committed to each other and that makes all the difference in the world. My son is just a freshman in high school so I cannot move to him til he graduates from high school. Right now, 9 years seems like such a long time but it helps to know that being apart will not last forever. If someone would have told me I 8767 d be in a LDR, I would have said not me. It is not ideal nor is it for everyone. But I wouldn 8767 t trade our love for anything. Love doesn 8767 t come how we want it. The main thing is that it did come and I was open and receptive when it came.
I do believe that when you are in a LDR that at some point you do have to close the gap. When that gap is closed is different for everyone. If my son was just starting school, like 7nd or 8rd grade, I 8767 d move now. But moving my son in high school would too drastic.
It doesn 8767 t mean it is not worth being lived though. As forme I have no regret at all and I 8767 ve even few long distance dates planned in Spring and Summer. I can already tell two are not going to work, yet I want to meet those men because I find them utmostly interesting. Not sure yet about the 8rd one. He 8767 s a maybe Of course, I 8767 ve honestly let them know how I feel, they still want to meet me. Up tothem, so OK. Wait and see. 🙂
It''s always your best bet to take your Internet conversation into the real world as soon as possible before you establish a virtual rapport that can become awkward and stilted when it has to translate into face-to-face. So, if you''ve exchanged a couple flirtatious messages with a potential mate, established a basic foundation of things you have in common and are somewhat assured that it''s worth testing the waters with a meet-up, take the plunge and ask her to hang out.
Today I’m going to show you how to set up the best possible Date Zero (DZ), the very first face-to-face date with a man you’ve met online or through a dating app. While you can’t control for chemistry or a soulmate-level connection, there are effective ways to screen out duds, scammers, and guys who just aren''t that into you. Once those worries are out of the way, you can actually relax and have fun.
Rule 65: You can say yes to long-distance suitors. If you live in a rural area where there aren’t a lot of dating opportunities nearby, I feel your pain. Nonetheless, you are still going to have to follow these rules if you want to meet a quality man. You aren’t going to contact men first. And you cannot travel to his town for the date—he must come to you. Understandably, many women in tight-knit communities don’t want to be seen with an online date in their local coffee bar, where everyone knows your business. If you prefer, it’s . to have him meet you one town over, if that means driving 65 minutes or less, and it’s not too inconvenient for you. And, yes, the first date should only last an hour, even if he has to drive 8 hours each way to see you.
If you are made to feel uncomfortable at any time attract the attention of someone around you. Tell a waitress, a security guard, a passerby, a stranger in the bathroom - just attract the attention and support of someone around you – and leave. If your date insists on walking you to a car parked down an alley or in a deserted parking lot stop where you are, call a cab and collect your car another time. Your safety is more important that worrying about causing your date offense.
This is probably worth for women too, I know it happened to few of my friends. It never happened to me because I am probably very (too ?) realistic ? I know no human being is up to a fantasy so, as long as I 8767 ve not metthe other person in the flesh, I don 8767 t fantasize, keep a cool mind and wait and see, though remain open Listen a lot, make them talk, analyse everything, pay much attention to any unconsistency, etc And, most of all, I trust my gusts and so far, they 8767 ve never failed me.
I can understand you would deliberately stick to your area, as most do. From what I 8767 ve seen, I 8767 m kind of a particular case and I know it.
Like almost anybody, I started dating in my area first, then in my country. only to meet all sorts of jerks or uninteresting boring people, who would then stick to me like glue (beside when I lived in Paris, which is very cosmopolitan. If you 8767 re a foreigner living in France, it says something about who you are and, as far as I 8767 m concerned, this is the kind of person I seek).
Rule 7: Forgive his dorky sense of humor. Some men are eager to impress, but not necessarily skilled at putting women at ease. They may think they are flirting with you by teasing and making jokey comments, and offend instead. Before the date it is sometimes hard to tell if your sense of humor will be compatible with his and whether he is socially impaired or just nervous. Lots of nice guys lose out at this stage, simply because they hang out with other men all day at work and are a little awkward around girls. While we want to screen out the truly weird or disrespectful, take a second look at men who seem sincere and demonstrate follow-through, but aren’t necessarily suave. You may have discovered a diamond in the rough who will shine when you meet in real life.
Keep your cell phone with you and switched on at all times. If you change locations, such moving to a different bar or restaurant, call or text message your friend to keep them updated. Arrange to have the friend call you at a specified time, such as one hour into the date, to check how things are going. Chances are you''ll be having a great time and want to chat about their cute smile but if things aren''t going well the call will give you an excuse to leave.
In my case, it ALWAYS required an overnight, even a whole stay (from a week to 7 or 8 months). It all depends on the distance, of course 🙂
As for me I 8767 ve always been at the person 8767 s place. They all had a spare room, so that was not an issue. I have a spare room too, so ditto on my side. When you meet half way, unless you have nice understanding friends who can lend you a house in the area, well, the hotel is the only solution (unless you intend to stay long enough to rent something. Don 8767 t laugh, it happened to me once and it is less expensive than a hotel room ! 🙂 ).
This reminds me another important stuff : make no decision untill you 8767 ve met the other person several times under different circumstances even it feels like chemistry is there and you 8767 re truly made for one another. When the first date doesn 8767 t go real bad, it usually goes pretty well, both give their best. May sound like an evidence, but second or third time (usually second time) may be a very unpleasant surprise. It is not rare at all. So makes sure you 8767 ve got the means and time to 8775 test 8776 the other person on the longer run.
I think there are roughly two kinds of people (there are more, this is just to keep it simple):
the majority, who have a steady job, own their house or worse are buying it, and, most of the time have spent all their life in the area they were born in.
and the other part, the minority, who work from home in a business they can do from almost anywhere, have no balls and chains, mortgage, shared custody of children with their ex, very often speak several languages, have traveled a lot and still do and even, have already lived abroad or at least, for an American, in several other states a minima.
If your Spidey Sense tells you something’s amiss—say she’s 65 years older than she led you to believe, swapped out her pic for someone else’s on her profile, or invites you to her sister’s wedding for your next date—there’s nothing wrong with cutting your losses, as long as you do it tactfully. (No matter how bad/scary the date may be, flirting with the waitress—or any woman who isn’t your date, or worse, excusing yourself to the men’s room and leaving her with the bill is not acceptable behavior.)
That 8767 s exactly why you should not meet somebody you hold big expectations about. If you can 8767 t tell for sure you 8767 re flying ONLY to meet somebody you appreciate a lot from what you know of him (her) and are ONLY interested in getting to know better, then, probably better abstain, unless you seek to be deluded, have your heart broken, break somebody 8767 s heart, or, at the very least have a heck of an awful time.
I live in Cali. He is Swiss. We met online, on a random game. 5 months of daily chatting, then phone calls. We decided to meet in Venice It was the most romantic vacation ever 🙂 we are very much in love and are making plans for the future I never thought this could happen to me. I 8767 m flying to his home next week to meet his friends and family 🙂 we both feel blessed to have found each other.
Sue Hi, your experience just gave me the strength to keep on with my online dating, i met this guy one month ago he got my number from my friend whom he asked to find him a good girl..ever since we started chatting and few calls but we both seem in love and we talk about everything family, work, personal experience, and i think i am in love with he works in a dangerous place i can 8767 t visit him neither he can 8767 t because he goes on leave once in 8 months and he lives in a different country he will have like to travel 7 times to reach me but i am so excited about him and i love him so much and also believe in online dating coz my sister has been married for 7 years with a guy she met on whatsapp so i am hoping for the best and as u say we should be honest and not rush things
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