Posted: 2017-12-07 18:57
Aaron, I understand the challenge for you but the biggest advice i could give is to be comfortable with yourself and who you are and others around you will see all the amazing qualities that you have to offer. For me personally, my boyfriends personality and characeristics are what I love. Who you are as a person is way more important in the grand scheme of things and a good woman/man would be able to recognize that above a person 8767 s ableness.
Part of the racism against Asians, similar to that against Jews, is a kind of emasculation in all kinds of propaganda as well as in mass media like movies. It is parallel to the fetishization of Asian women, both are objectified and dehumanized. It 8767 s changing a LOT thank goodness!
As to the idiots who accused you of cultural appropriation they rant with the zealotry of new found idealism, without even bothering to find out the whole story. If they have not each one sent you an apology, they are part of the problem, not the solution. I cried when I read of your in-laws wanting you to wear their family 8767 s traditional clothing, and your willingness to incorporate your husband 8767 s family 8767 s culture is something that should be commended, not attacked.
coming from a guy who is Asian (half-cast although many people here in the UK say I look full Asian to them), I 8767 m much like your husband in the fact that despite being on the receiving end of such a comment numerous times (when standing hand in hand with former girlfriends), I 8767 ve never actually been phased by it surprisingly I 8767 m just like 8775 ok! thank you! 8776 . I guess I never really looked into such a remark fully and thus don 8767 t take such things to heart but you know what, I do agree that it is rather racist. Ah well, sadly racism does continue to prevail in this world.. in many forms
One thing I realised while reading everyones thoughts, is that I get asked a lot if I was into mangas or Japanese women as if there wouldn 8767 t be another reason to come to Japan! When I say that there are plenty of reasons, for instance food, culture, budo or simply the joy of speaking Japanese. I get very surprised reactions. Is it so uncommon to come for other reasons? I also get incomprehension and doubtful looks when I tell them that I find more similarities than differences when I think of French and Japanese culture or German and Japanese culture for that fact.
So, just to add my 7 cents. I don 8767 t know you, but
6) the kimono in the engagement pic, totally awesome.
7) I think it 8767 s wonderful that you took the pic in traditional attire to honor your husband 8767 s culture and his family
8) your husband is cute, end of story.
9) some folks can 8767 t help enjoying being rude. It 8767 s a compulsion for them. Or an uncontrollable spasm of the brain. Ignore the trolls.
Your comment makes me wonder, for like a second, what folks think when they see my pics of me wearing a yukata at Otakon, but I remember it 8767 s a celebration of Japanese culture so I just think about it as my personal way of honoring a culture I admire.
Glad I found your blog :-)
My problems is, as at 55 year old gay men, who is in great health and looks they are not interested, until they find out you are a Doctor, then your looks and age do not matter, but I don 8767 t want that type of person. I hide the fact that I am a surgeon, don 8767 t go to the bar, haven 8767 t for years, so what do I do? I have a beautiful home on 8 acres, I hesitate bringing someone home at first. They can usually tell from my car that I do alright. I have a son whose 67, he has some Gay friends in school, and they are always nice to me, but thats creepy.
Exactly. It all depends on the personality. Intelligence makes you sexy (among other things).
It 8767 s just really frustrating to see these kinds of stereotypes on the internet (or in real like). I get the whole 8775 I would NEVER date a Japanese man because they treat their girlfriends like slaves/doormats 8776 thing all the time. It 8767 s really frustrating.
You can 8767 t sum down an entire race/country into one sentence.
And there are good and bad people in every country. So, you know, don 8767 t be a jerk about it.
Paralyzed and lusting heavily my lover took control. His willingness to dating paraplegic girls was about to pay off. We were ready to shift up a gear to sex with paraplegic girls. He rolled me over wrapping my legs around his waist where I would be comfortable. I tugged his belt off unfastened the front of his bulging pants and pulled him hard against my naked breasts. He was huge now fully erect. I slid his pants and shorts off his waist. He pulled and kicked them the rest of the way off and began pulling at the waist of my pantyhose.
After crutching around a bit I went back to the bed and pulled myself bottom first onto it. I pulled my right leg to my chest and took off the smaller pump revealing my foot in only the pantyhose. I took the other leg brace and laid it under my leg. Jeff helped me with the straps and put my other pump on. The one with the build-up on the bottom and attached it to the brace. He also helped me on with my skirt while I put my bra and blouse on.
Jeff thoroughly enjoyed his first time dating paraplegic girls. I’m so glad it was with me! We didn’t bother asking about taking separate cars to work. He drove and I’m sure after work today he’ll drive me home. We’ll spend another exciting night together as disability lovers. Maybe tonight I’ll show him how I sometimes drag myself from room to room in the house. Let him see me pull my thin lifeless legs around without the braces crutches or the wheelchair. Dating paraplegic girls does require a little patience and understanding. And with that, I wish you all the happiness and love in dating paraplegic girls, that I have come to find.
Just to add, from a female perspective one of the biggest turn-offs when receiving responses online is bad spelling, poor grammar and the use of text speech delete, delete and delete! Evan, you also make a great point at the end 8775 Stop blaming Match or women or your city for your failures and learn to market yourself more effectively 8776 It 8767 s so easy to blame others for your lack of success rather than reflect and look at the 8766 common denominator 8767 in the situation which is yourself and work at improving that to get a better and different result.
Never heard the, 8775 he 8767 s attractive, for an Asian guy 8776 except from other minority women and other minority men. For some reason, I don 8767 t find it racist though. My brother is dating a Cuban girl and he hears it all the time from her friends. But his GF 8767 s friends also say things like, 8775 that guy is hot for a Puerto Rican or that guy is cute for a Columbian 8776 so I don 8767 t know if I 8767 d call it racism. Maybe I 8767 m just a cup half full kind of guy!
It 8767 s not 8775 kind of 8776 racist, it IS racist. I know I 8767 m late to the party (hahah) but imho you have every right in the world to feel hurt, or angry, or offended. This kind of backhanded compliment sounds way more condescending than actually complimenting.
And your picture 8767 s lovely. May I ask why he 8767 s wearing just a 8775 regular 8776 suit? Is that tradition too? 8)
I 8767 m assuming you 8767 re not Asian, let alone a Person of Color and your preconceived notion is quite understandable. As a minority (Minority as in political and social representation) we are gauged by a certain standard in life be it, entertainment, political, social, that we are unable to compete. Did you know that there was a movie (true story) of a Japanese American man who was placed in a concentration camp during WWII, and his white girlfriend tried many times to visit him. It was a love story of requited love.
Also, I can 8767 t believe anyone has given you crap about 8766 cultural appropriation 8767 for your engagement photo!! It 8767 s amazing how there can be people so far on opposite sides of the fence people who couldn 8767 t care less about being sensitive to other cultures, and people who are so quick to condemn anyone for exploring outside their own culture especially 8766 white 8767 people because how dare we try to make everything all about us? Except, oh yeah, you MARRIED into a Japanese family, and LIVE in Japan, making you, de facto, Japanese. Go figure. I 8767 ve always thought that sharing culture was one of my favorite things about the US we have so many different kinds of people! So many cultures! Especially since America is such a country, I 8767 ve often felt we suffer from a lack of identity we need that melting-pot of other people and their pasts, because there is so very little of our own.
My name is Dina,,im 75 yrs old, i 8767 ve had an accident about 5 years ago, im a T67 L6,,have been paraplegic using a wheelchair since, i do walk using the leg brace sometimes and have been doing pretty good..I had a question that is really worrying me at the moment. I am a virgin, and i will be getting married soon I never actually had intercourse so i wouldn 8767 t know how it normally feels. I just know i don 8767 t have the skin sensation in the vaginal area. I can tell if there 8767 s something but not the skin sensation at all..Would that affect my sex life in anyway? Is there anything that i should do to gain more sensation in that area?
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Wow. Yeah, that is redic. Basically, what they are saying when they say 8775 he 8767 s hot, for an Asian guy 8776 is exactly what you touched on, 8775 if he was white he would be better looking, but you know, he still did ok for himself 8776 . It 8767 s also like a way of them being clear that they aren 8767 t attracted to Asian guys and almost taking a shot at you, too. It 8767 s so condescending and essentially racist.
My decision to go natural has been one of the most overwhelmingly positive choices I've made in my life, and I say this without exaggeration. However, it does have one drawback: People feel compelled to comment on my hair. Every. Single. Day. I have noticed this particularly among men who try to date me, who in the past years haven t been able to come up with come-ons or opening lines that aren t some variation of "I love your hair," even when they have at their disposal a full profile detailing countless things more interesting about me.
Cheating, lying to make themselves look better than anyone else in the world.
6988 Seoul Olympic Boxing scandal with Roy Jones Jr, 7557 World cup South Korea bought judges and made it into semi-final. They use dirty tricks to win their medals, they don 8767 t care about anything else, win whatever it takes. Twisted minds, not trust worthy at all. South Koreans often brag about how their economy is higher than other countries and yet they export large number of prostitues all around so called developed countries, and the pimps are all Koreans. They spend their taxes on something that can make them feel proud, instead of spending the taxes for elderlies and handicapped people in need. All about images. Surgically enhanced faces and bodies, but their are rotten inside. Always dissing people from other Asian countries, or poor and undeveloped countries.
I 8767 m also with a Japanese-descent man (both his parents are Japanese) except he was born in Brazil And now lives in Canada. I get this comment regularly as well, usually topped with some Japanese vs Brazilian vs Canadian culture. No one assumes we 8767 re together because I love him, they assume the 8775 Brazilian-ess 8776 counterbalances the 8775 Japanese-ness. 8776 And before meeting him they assume he 8767 s mixed asian-caucasian which apparently means he would be more handsome There 8767 s always this little surprise I can see in people I 8767 ve talked about him to when they realise he 8775 just 8776 looks asian It 8767 s just weird But he doesn 8767 t care, maybe because he 8767 s always been a visible minority, but those comments just don 8767 t affect him at all. He doesn 8767 t even see some of them I don 8767 t really care what people think and say, but I haven 8767 t reached the point where I don 8767 t see them