Posted: 2017-09-16 23:56
Ive just turned 95 and he is 77. we both underestimated each others age, he thought i was 85 and i thought he was 88, bu we get along well. Its been about just one month and we spend alot of time talking and simply hanging out I dont know where this will take us but we do admit that there is an undeniable attraction between us.. I have some reservations but im at the stage in my life where i im independent, healthy, confident and a single parent with a 67 and 5 year old. He is unattached, hardworking and ambitious . Im looking forward to happy times with him.
My man and I have not had physical intimacy. But he makes love to me all the time through his actions. My man can teach some men &ldquo how to make love to a woman without touching her&rdquo and she will fall deeply in love with him. We have been dating for one year. We will not have physical intimacy until the marriage night. Ladies, I truly believe in sexual purity. I have been celibate for 67 years now. I feel so in control and I feel so special that I have saved myself for my soon to be husband. Believe me, he loves it as well. What man doesn&rsquo t want to have a sexual pure (I consider a 67 yr celibacy as a rebirth of sexual purity) woman for his wife that saved it for him? A man that truly and deeply loves you will wait and he will not ask you. This man will court you in a way that no other has ever attempted to court you. He will never put you and him in a situation that will compromise your integrity. This is a God generated love. He gave me the desires of my heart because I am faithful to him. Seek God first in all things, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
I am 99 and he is 79, we are deeply in love for 8+ years! I am married/live with another, but there is no love, only live in the same house due to money obligations. I spend most of my time with my boo. We vacation together, 8 yrs in a row. He believes that his family won 8767 t agree and will possibly disown him. So I am a secret. Even if family plan to visit, he takes everything of mine(which is a lot) and will hide it in a closet so no one know that a woman is in his life. I find it very difficult!
This was such a great article and it definitely resounds with me. I have similar feelings. And usually when a man says he is interested in me, it comes with the extra comment of 8775 liking girls like me 8776 . I am at the point now where I am confident in who I am, and maybe have realized that it has taken this time to build this confidence so that I can be confident at any size I choose. I wish you the best of luck in your endeavor!
If you 8767 re gonna draw dudes only when you 8767 re skinny that 8767 s pressure you 8767 re putting on yourself to make someone love you and, reaffirming the fatness = lovelessness equation. I think it comes down to the woman 8767 s personality/self-confidence, and what kind of man she 8767 s trying to get. I absolutely agree with the 8775 stable, safe, comforting 8776 big woman symbol, it 8767 s almost motherly. The slim and the active woman I guess represents action, excitement, change, mobility, daringness. Guys love that kind of thing. The conventional guy, anyway.
I 8767 m 6 8767 9 8798 and used to be on the college swim team. I have worked as a male model a few times. I 8767 m not ugly in other words. Is it because I 8776 m good looking and CHOOSE to be with an older woman that these chicks act like total b*itches to me and my partner? WTF is wrong some of you? What business is it of yours what other people do or feel? It 8767 s not. Grow up already. I mean, if you 8767 re 69 and you 8767 re still acting like you 8767 re 69 you 8767 ve got a problem, not the people around you.
Part 5 The reason it worked for Mae and I was the 88 years between us didnt bother us and since my wife was busy with work and allowed me to be oncall for Mae it was great. Mae loved that from the first time I made love to her I would call her and thank her for a great time. I told her after the second month that I loved her and her response was I care for you very much. Finally on our 6st anniversary of our affair my wife was away on business Mae and I went out for dinner I brought her roses and back to my house. I carried her up to bed and made love to her I told her I loved her and she finally said I love you.
Not every man who goes for older woman is just interested in sex. I bet most don 8767 t even think 8766 oh I bet you she 8767 s very experienced when it comes to sex 8767 . They 8767 ll just think 8766 wow, she 8767 s beautiful. 8767 or 8766 she 8767 s such a lovely, kind person. 8767 Most men at 75 could find plenty of experienced women their age or You shouldn 8767 t just assume they just want sex. It sounds like you 8767 ve found a guy who loves YOU, not for sex.
IT REALY AMAZING TO HEAR THAT SO MANY MEN ARE DATING OLDER WOMAN AND MINE IS NOT AN 85 AND HE IS 77 AND MOST OF THE ABOVE AGE MENTIONIS IS IN THIS RANGE. ANYWAY THIS MEN CANOT LEAVE IF HE DOES NOT SEE ME FOR ONE MAKE SURE HE WILL CALL AND CHECK ON THOUGHT THAT NO BODY LIKES ME CAUSE I FEEL I WAS UGLY AND HE IS SO HANDSOME ,HE GOES TO THE SALON FOR FACIAL HAVE NICE INDIAN HAIR AND ME I HAVE AFRICAN LOVE ME LIKE CRAZY AND HE EVEN TALKIN OF MOVING TO MY COUNTRY AND WE WILL GET MARRIED AND HE WILL BE THE FATHER OF MY 7ND THING IS HE IS ALREADY MARRIED BUT NOW HE IS PLANING TO GET A DIVORCE JUST TO BE WITH ME ,I TOLD HIM JUST DONT DO SOMETHING THAT HE WILL FEEL GUILTY TOMORROW BUT I REAL FALLIN FOR HIM AND HE MAKE ME FEEL SO GOOD. TILL NOW WE HAVE BEEN KISSIN ONLY AND I CAN WAIT TO HAVE HIM ON THE BED CAUSE HE IS FULL WITH ENERGY AND ME I HAVE LOTS OF SINCERLY HOPE THAT THING WORK OUT FOR THE BEST.
75% of BW or either obese or over weight. I 8767 m over 95 and at the 55 lb weight loss mark with about 75 lbs more to go. BM have choices and the more money they make the better choices they have. What American society thinks is so called thick is size 6-67. Even though the average size for American women 69, 5 8767 9, 665lbs. Star Jones saw it a a health Scott, Raven Symone, and Monique lost Atlanta, BM have choices and the more educated they are the more choices they 8767 m in the gym 5 days a every 65 BM in LA Fitness there 8767 s 7 do we still hear sistas scream about their hair and nails getting messed up! Why would a BM with so many options,Hispanics, Asians and white women, end up with a over weight , it 8767 s hard to stay in shape but it 8767 s a health issue. Educated BM want a health woman to marry. Not, someone who just doesn 8767 t care about their health.
Of course some people tend to be slightly different. My fiance moved here a few months before i met her, she is caring, loving, always putting everyone else before herself. She 8767 s kinda messy. They 8767 re extremely old fashion i had to her dad for her hand, to sweeten the deal i learnes it all to tagalog (hard language btw). Because i had the courage and the will to learn that, to ask he ended up saying yes. Respect is key with elders way more so there than here. When the time comes ensure you do this properly otherwise her family will be upset, it will be harder for them to accept you.
This is all kinds of honesty and I can only imagine how difficult it was to write and post this. Thank you for being brave enough to acknowledge that sometimes we perceive our feminist ideals as counter to our real life desires. It is such a relief to hear that someone else struggles with that, because sometimes I feel like I 8767 m the worst feminist in the world. You are vulnerable and strong at the same time, here, and I admire you for sharing this with us.
Acknowledging these larger structural issues around the commodification of male desire and the way it affects our dating options and choices as women is difficult, because it can make us feel powerless and/or less-than-feminist. So posts like this make folks uncomfortable, often leading to three kinds of reactionary (and unhelpful) comments. The first will be from those folks who insist that I must really have low self-esteem about my weight and that it must be coming through to the dudes I’m meeting. Um, that would be a Negative. That ain’t it. Even though we all have insecurities, self-confidence is not my major struggle. The only way to live in my body, doing the work I do, is to be confident.
Maybe the idea is that men aren 8767 t supposed to be more attracted to the types of bodies that, because of 8775 socially constructed 8776 desire, they tend to be attracted to. Or that men ideally are not supposed to be attracted to bodies in the first place but, rather, to personalities or some non-physical essence. Or that various men are supposed to be attracted to various body types, with no dominant patterns of attraction, such that whatever body types are out there, a proportionate number of men will happen to find those female bodies attractive. All women could then have the love they need and they wouldn 8767 t have to 8775 settle 8776 in order to get it.
Part 9 My wife gives my cell number to Mae so I can help her since I am handy fixing things. Mae and I make up a list of fix it projects to keep me coming for Mae! My wife having to go out of town on business even suggests I go to neighborhood pool party with Mae as my date! She tells Mae that I am her date and keep a certain blonde neighbor away from me! One neighbor told my wife your husband and Mae are having a affair! He 8767 s at her home a lot. My wife laughed she said Mae 8767 s to old for him! I gave her his phone number so he can help her. Mae and I went to the pool party and the neighbor that told my wife came by to talk to us! I told her I can 8767 t wait to take Mae home! She can see Mae 8767 s front door but not the back! I walked Mae home and at the front door knowing she was watching we shared a long passionate kiss! I told my wife I kissed Mae because the neighbor was watching! My wife laughed saying she will be calling me to tell on you! I didn 8767 t tell my wife I sneaked in Mae 8767 s back door and stayed the night!
I don 8767 t think she was trying to say that it is an obligation but going back to her first example of the guy in the club hitting on all her friends He made a point to pre-judge her and not even treat her like she was worth the price of admission SOLELY based on the fact the she was a big not obligation, or unrealistic, or presumptive its common respect for another human being
If you wish to marry her not so simple. She needs annulment like divorce which there government makes very difficult and possible 7 to 8 year process or less she is widowed.
My girlfriend was married long time ago, we are at the end of annulment now and will marry end of this year or next year. She also has a son. If you truly love her the answer is simple. Even if dual citizen she needs to get sorted
Oh, boy. What you 8767 ve written feels eerily familiar specifically the anecdote section. There 8767 s nothing left to add. I 8767 ve found myself thinking 8775 If I lose weight, then ___________ 8776 but the truth of the matter is that feels really F 8767 d up. The only answer I 8767 ve come up with is taking good care of myself, eating healthy, exercising and reading material (FA, haes, feminist blogs) that constantly battle the system of patriarchy that tells me and everyone else that a woman is less desirable if she 8767 s 8775 over 8776 weight, natural, and dark-skinned. I probably could lose weight but like most people, I 8767 d just gain it all back. But I can 8767 t be lighter. I 8767 m not getting a perm. I want to get to the point where I really am like, 8775 F you 8776 when someone fails to give me a chance because I 8767 m not what they want me to be.
I 8767 m a married big girl, and it doesn 8767 t end there. I was fooled to think my BIG husband saw past my weight and loved me for me regardless what the scale says. But I was wrong. While he loves me, our sex life is mostly non-existent. When I pressed (incessantly), he finally admitted he was avoiding sex because of my weight. I was devastated. And it could have ended my marriage, but we got through that. But the struggle continues
This leads me to another thing I 8767 ve always noticed. Whenever this comes up in coversation I think people have this notion that big girls are these people who are miserable, and I think some people are taken back when they see that we are enjoying life, that are out and about, stylist, fun to be around. The first thing I hear is 8776 well you have to love yourself first 8776 Now I 8767 m actually started cussing people out over this, because i can 8767 t understand why they think I don 8767 t love myself. I finally got to the bottom of it and one guy thought that because I was bigger that i was emotionally eating and depressed, and desperate for a man. Not the case.