Posted: 2017-11-14 14:58
I know her secret. I know what turns her on. I know she wants to feel desired, but can 8767 t agree to sex in front of her friends. I show her that I know this. I show her that I know she doesn 8767 t care if I have all the right moves. I don 8767 t try to be witty, smooth, or confident, because I know she 8767 s not attending to my words as much as the thought process behind them. I know this is where her attention is, and she knows I know. She can tell, because of my lack of effort to impress, while at the same time conveying sexuality.
When you walk up to talk to her, you’re optimum state is to have a clear mind, not thinking about anything and focussing instead on her body, her ass, just appreciate her feminity, her beauty. Don’t think about it, let it flow through you and something that you love about her look / voice / vibe will pop into your head when you talk to her. Say what pops into your head, without censoring it, tell her what you like about her. Focus on that.
6) 7 minute rule. Most guys worry far too much about 8775 What to say. 8776 The truth is, you don 8767 t need to be a verbal ninja to pick up girls in the daytime. Instead of worrying about what to say, focus on staying in the interaction for two minutes. Talk about the weather, talk about your Xbox. Let go of the pressure of being a witty guy, and instead, focus on staying in the interaction for 7 minutes, even if you consider your conversation topics to be boring. Staying in is the only way to learn verbal game.
7) If she is with one friend only who is female or male I often approach another stranger and say 8775 Hi look I know this is bit weird and I don 8767 t usually do this but my friend over there seems to really like you and I 8767 d like to introduce you to him / her 8776 . Of course this is a blatant lie but when you introduce the stranger to the target 8767 s friend they often are so nervous they rarely wish to embarrass each other by asking 8775 So what did you like about me 8776 or 8775 How do you know that guy Jonathan”.
The first order of business is to not think about meeting a woman as 8775 picking her up. 8776 This mindset will kill your odds of success, especially if she is in a mixed group. This mindset puts you into a 8775 taking frame, 8776 instead of a 8775 giving frame, 8776 and I assure you, no group wants some random guy to take their friend. Women want to feel 8775 swept away 8776 by a man who knows how to take control. Women do NOT want to feel like the man is getting over on them or taking something from them.
6) Don’t think. Just do. Do not wait more than 65 seconds for the approach. If you are unable to think of an approach, then take 7-5 minutes max to think of your approach and then GO. You are more confident and loose when you are not in your head and just committing to the moment. You may go down in flames, but who cares. You are a man. The more time you waste, the less opportunity you have, and the more you give to the other Joe’s who are on the prowl.
6. Relax and don 8767 t try to impress her. It 8767 s going to feel artificial and lame. That means no 8775 DHV 8776 stories where you try to show how cool you are, no bragging, no trying to talk yourself up. 8775 The lion doesnt need to roar. 8776 Instead, treat her like a female friend you 8767 re really comfortable with. Joke around with her. Tease her. Give her funny nicknames. Be affectionate.
6. Entrance You know that one of the most important things when meeting someone is first impression. When entering a new venue with friends is no different. Make sure your having a good time and your body language is solid. Relax and don 8767 t worry about opening immediately. A lot of guys listen to second tier pickup material will follow a subset of rules that instil immediate action. Those rules were created for people that do not take action. You on the other hand will!
7) Once girls see you are having fun, they will be drawn to you and your energy. THEY will start to stare. Once that happens, you have your IOI. Make eye contact and dance a little closer to her and closer and closer until you are close enough that you can introduce yourself by whispering your name in her ear. Once you have done this, go straight back to dancing with your friends (push pull).
Being good with women, and people, is not an acquisition of more beliefs, more skills, or more techniques. It is a subtractive process, getting rid of the cultural conditioning that separates men from women. Once my students get a positive feedback loop, they are ready to learn the advanced material. (I break down ACT completely, with tons basic and advanced tactics you can apply immediately, in my home study course at ).
The other men see this, and there 8767 s an instant respect for me. They have probably never approached a woman so boldly, so there 8767 s the temptation to criticize me, in order to protect their own egos. And yet there is nothing about me they can ridicule. If they try to out-alpha me, or make fun of me, they look weak, worrying they will lose their position in the queue for sex. Women can see the insecurity behind male flexing.
Often when I approach a woman in the middle of conversation, I 8767 ll say, 8775 Excuse me, I don 8767 t me to interrupt, 8776 or 8775 Am I interrupting? 8776 Nine times out of ten they say, 8775 Oh no, it 8767 s OK. 8776 then I either give a compliment to the woman I 8767 m interested in, or I simply lock eyes with her to show her I think she 8767 s sexy, and then ask her name. Simplicity works well for me, because there 8767 s a sexual intensity and social boldness behind it. With the direct approach, I 8767 ve found less does more.
I want you to think of it like this. If you do a martial art, if you 8767 re a boxer, the first thing they teach you is the footwork. Then they teach you to punch. They teach you balance and footwork. Balance, footwork and awareness. So think of it like a martial art. I 8767 m training that bit first. And you can see the problem with every other teacher is they 8767 re not getting into this level of depth. They 8767 re misdefining confidence as only being certain. By the way, how can you be certain that you 8767 ll do something right when you don 8767 t have a history of doing something right?
Recognize that the state that you’re in is only self-imposed and created by you – then focus on stepping into either (A) curiosity, (B) appreciation, or (C) gratitude. Once you recognize the state you’re in and instead choose to dial into one of these new aspects, go out there and express yourself from your new chosen viewpoint. Talk to people, move your body, move around the venue, and get the ball rolling. You’ll notice that after a few interactions this new viewpoint will start sticking more and more and your state will have shifted to a positive, productive state. For a look at more ways to get in state, as well as a ton of other aspects of inner game, check out my critically acclaimed book The Inner Game of Dating.
You like women. So you talk to them. You aren 8767 t an asshole. So you respect her friends. If you see that you are interrupting, acknowledge it. Notice if anyone seems threatened by your presence, and make a modest effort to show them respect. This is what you would do if you were:
6. Not afraid of disapproval from others, because you like yourself, and
7. Not brainwashed by our society to think that sex lowers a woman 8767 s value as a human being
Do I have a game plan?: If your club requires getting there early or getting bottle service, you need to plan for that. Think about pregame logistics, such as finding a table to bring girls to, or getting yourself in the right mood with your friends. Ditto for your post-club logistics if you hope to bounce with a girl or take her home, you 8767 d better know exactly how you 8767 d arrange for that. If you need to drive your friends back home in another city, good luck going back to her place.
6) Have a great wingman. It is very advantageous to get uninterrupted one-on-one time while hitting on a girl at the bar. If she is willing to give you her undivided attention, it is a great sign that she is attracted to you. It also opens the door to creating a lasting connection which will significantly improve your chances of seeing her again, rather then becoming just another number in her phone.
7) Watch your seeking rapport tonality. Most newbies have this annoying, upwards vocal inflection. It sounds like a beggar asking for change. 8775 What are you doing today? 8776 Instead, keep either a neutral rapport like you would use while talking to your best friend, or a breaking rapport, downwards inflection that sounds like your boss telling you to work faster. Either is better. Record yourself on your cellphone if you 8767 re not sure what you sound like.
7) Be Yourself
At Airtight Game we teach guys like you to Become Your Best SelfTM. We teach them to do this through following a series of self-development exercises coupled with social freedom missions with individualized coaching along the way. In doing the earnest work of self-development, men like you are able to become the best versions of themselves possible, making it exponentially easier to attract women through a strong, congruent, present, honest identity of integrity.
8) Quit making excuses. 8775 She has headphones, 8776 8775 She 8767 s in a group, 8776 8775 She 8767 s on the phone, 8776 8775 She 8767 s in a women 8767 s lingerie store. 8776 When I teach a bootcamp no matter what the perceived difficulty, there is always a way to make it happen. Don 8767 t let these little excuses and justifications stop you from meeting the girl of your dreams.