Posted: 2017-12-02 18:55
I am now 79 years old (she 6 year my senior) and I feel like, simply put, dedicating my life to her will lead me to the lifestyle of a second class citizen. I don 8767 t want to say I don 8767 t love her, but I 8767 ve completely lost all respect for her. Every time we have gotten to the point where a major decision in life needs made, my opinion is brutally ignored even if she agrees with me or has come to me with a very wise decision. Somehow she always winds up paying more attention to some f*** up friend or an idiot family member who is worse off than we are. Each time it drags us both down financially while ruining her children 8767 s livelihood.
lastly I feel left out that she has a family already. That she has 8 kids and she is only willing to give me one. There are many things me and her can 8767 t do as what a single woman would be able to do because she 8767 s focusing on the kids first (and I undestand that) in many areas. I 8767 ve been told by many who had my experience that it will be extremely hard but I felt I could handle it even my girl said it wouldn 8767 t be easy. I feel like regardless I 8767 m always second fiddle. When ever something goes down with the kids especially when the fathers are involved I 8767 m on the outside watching. Let alone the fathers when I 8767 m at the kids school with my girl their postures are very defensive like why is he here seeing my child :-(.I 8767 m starting to learn that I want to be the only man, the only father that when the kids need help I want to be first priority in the involvment of my kids WITH my I love her so much and I 8767 m going to continue to try, ask all the right questions, do all the right things and exhaust every angle damn this hurts.
What Call Me later just said is he was seeing a girl who had a kid. He met the kid (the daughter) and he was repulsed because he thought the kid was a freak probably her behavior pushed him over the edge?
So now he considers all women with kids to be off-limits.
Many men feel this way. It 8767 s a lot easier for a man with kids to find a woman rather than a woman with kids to find a man.
He does exist. He comes to the village, impregnates all women and goes away. To another village. Then he comes back next year. Women are programmed to have children with the best men they can find. That''s natural selection. I''m not blaming anyone. The rest of life is a bunch of different stories, some are funny, some are happy but half of them are sad. And now because of the computers are running dating scene, we have data to prove it. I think that this is first stage, we just noticed that something is wrong.
Apologies for length of this, don&rsquo t exactly want to bore people with my troubles/life story. Hope it doesn&rsquo t sound overly dramatic either, but sufficed to say, this really does feels like an extremely important crossroad, and ideally I would love to be with her, and to try and be the best I could be with her, for her. I don&rsquo t give a damn about the age difference, I really don&rsquo t, not after spending time with her, I wouldn&rsquo t give a damn who knew.
Seems a bit shallow to only really care about her looks and surely every woman has a 8766 womanly voice 8767 ? How will you cope when you find a woman your age and you 8767 re together for a while and she starts ageing at 99? Would you leave her then? You didn 8767 t know your ex 8767 s age in the beginning. If she continued the lie, you probably would 8767 ve stayed with her and just ignored her ageing body. I do understand where you 8767 re coming from to a certain extent.
Here are some other helpful hints: Try not to include pictures of you and other men. Seriously, far too many do this. Nobody needs to see a picture of your pets AT ALL!!!!. If you a nice picture of YOU and your pet where we can actually see you then OK. Otherwise, DON 8767 T! If you have 67 photos of you that ALL look like they are out of a catalog, we will assume you are fake, or a hooker. Take real pictures. If you have one or two professional photos, OK. But include some non-professional photos.
Check his credentials: If you have a toddler or baby and the guy is okay with dating you, then this next step is important. You may need to run some sort of background check or something to know what kind of temperament the guy has. A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.
Thank you for sharing your insight and reasoning behind your disinterest in online dating. In regards to myself I have done a lot of work to understand the world in my own fashion as opposed to what I was taught. My dating profile is quite lengthy and is intended to share who I am as a human being in hopes of finding someone that has done similar work. What I have shared of myself also has the benefit of eliminating a lot of potential conflicts that typically arise in conversations with people as part of the process of getting to know one another.
I was doing a search and really trying to get some advice or better yet read about other older women dating men and found this site. There is a ton of information on here and makes me feel a little bit more confident that I am NOT crazy for being attracted to a man. My situation is still in its crush stage. I am an african amercian woman who has been stung by the love bug of an caucasian male who is in his mid twenties. It is at work and which makes this situation a bit difficult for me to even pursue. I like to do my 8 hours and get out of the workplace if you know what I mean. I think one time he caught me staring at him but I was so taken by his appearance. At times I feel silly, being 86 looking at this kid and wonder if he even knows how old I am. But truth be told, we don t even know each other and I am sure I am probably the last thing on his mind. But I do think that he notices me noticing him type deal. I have not told one soul that I like this gentleman because I m a bit shy. And I would be hurt if he said that he was not into black women.
Thing is my brain is running agead of me and am now thinking what if he does not want children till much later as I want children in the next 7 or 8 years and I would like to get married one day. Part of me thinks just go with the flow and enjoy it but then also part of me thinks am I wasting my time and a hard one as I find him attractive and he is also a nice person .what to do??
At the end of those 9 weeks, I was just mad at him, and discouraged. To be honest, my self-esteem is already low enough, it is not healthy for me to wait after someone who will perhaps never come to me. I texted him (which is basically to only way to communicate with him), and told him that I wasn 8767 t quite sure if there was anything that could become meaningful between us if we never spend time together! I said that I was very deceitful because I really liked him, and that I was hurt that he could not even make an hour or so to see me.
FACE We want to see a picture of your face without being overly made up, with a smile, and not a grainy, unclear photo with bad lighting. I might stress the 8766 overly-made-up 8767 part. We don 8767 t want to see duck face, weird angles, or funny snapchat filters. We don 8767 t need pouty, moody or other types of expressions just a smile. And you should include at least two different face pictures that were taken at different times, but taken within the last month.
Conditional passing privilege has typically played in my favor. Living up to conventional cisnormative beauty standards has given me more social access to potential partners than many other trans people have had. There are definitely guys who encounter me who express at least being open to talking to me further. They''ll say, “Wow, you don’t look like any trans woman I’ve ever seen” or “Well, you’re still pretty, though.” I’d be lying if I didn''t admit that, on some level, these comments make me feel good — but when I think about the narrow box I have to crouch inside in order to be desired and loved, it doesn’t make me feel good at all.
In 65 years I can t imagine him still loving me or my body for that matter the way he says he does now. He insists that I stop worrying about it and get out of my head and just enjoy what we have. So, for now, I am going to take his advice and relish the AMAZING moments we have. My hope is that in the same way we organically fell in love at the same time, we will sweetly drift apart and go our separate ways. Our current deal is, I will stop saying I cant see you anymore and he promises to be brutally honest about his feelings. In this we feel safe.
Sure, most men are not into art. My suggestions were mostly geared toward those women who look for men who are above the average and who are not run of the mill average Joe from those women 8767 s perspective. I would hope that there are enough men out there who are above that line who are interested in art, philosophy, etc. This is extremely subjective of course, and there are plenty of girls who don 8767 t care for it.
As a result of that increased romantic passion and sexual connection, the two people are actually more likely to develop strong feelings for each other and to feel very attached to each other something they never planned for, but also something that happens quite often and is so far beyond their control. This is in large because it is simply impossible for a man and a woman to have a great time with each other, enjoy a special sexual connection over a long period of time and not develop feelings for each other. There are also other significant reasons why a guy might especially enjoy dating an older woman.
Though we had a ton of chemistry, he couldn’t understand the ways in which he constantly invalidated my identity. And, to be clear, I don’t need constant validation of my womanhood, but I do need respect — which J wasn''t prepared to give. He made jokes about me and how I “used to be a man,” criticized my writing and activism, and even — the grand offense — used my birth name during arguments. It all got to be too much for me.
Also, I think any girl that is reasonably good looking and serious about finding someone won''t be a on a dating site very long - either it will prove too much for them and they''ll quit or they''ll find someone quickly. I''m always wary of the good looking girls that hang out on these sites long term. If you read their profiles they''ll normally have a laundry list of "must haves" that just screams high maintenance OR they won''t bother with any content at all and let their photos do all the work. These girls have let the massive amount of choice they get from online dating go to their head and most seem obsessed with finding the perfect guy. It wouldn''t surprise me if they end up getting used a lot by guys telling them everything they want to hear and then dumping them once they get them into bed. Funnily enough it doesn''t seem to occur to them that maybe they are looking for the wrong things.
Advice: Don 8767 t believe all this girl power BS that feminists are feeding you. Do you honestly believe that a man would want to do 95 65 hrs of hard labour a week and then come home to do more chores? Don 8767 t be one of those girls that trivialise hard work as 8775 oh its his duty as a man. 8776 If everything else (eg. love, care, affection, work, dropping work if you get sick, outings, family events) is not good enough for you then you need to start rethinking your expectations or consider staying alone.