Posted: 2017-11-06 14:32
I can so relate to your situation. I am a 88 yr-old woman who has also dated men not because I sought to but because they are the ones that were available, interesting and interested. I love the way you have summed up our dilemma. Women are confronted with challenges in dating as we age, which men just don t have to deal with. Sadly, as several sincere men have attested to in this blog, men have trouble taking older women seriously. Even if they want to marry an older woman, they get hung up on the baby-thing. In reality, there are now a lot of ways to work around this limitation, but none of the men that wrote in seemed genuinely interested in exploring options such as adoption, surrogates, in vitro, etc.,. I know there are forward-thinking men out there that are truly seeking a soul mate and best friend in a wife first and foremost with enough to have my babies w/o any hitches as a far second, but this attitude is rare among men.
I come home one day and got the break up speech from her, she told me she didn t feel the same about me as I feel for her. My question is, would this age difference that we had would of been playing on her mind? or was she really genuine with her reasons for her decision? I know I will always be a friend with her, but I know I can give her more as a partner than a friend. I feel a real connection with her.
Interesting article. I 8767 m 97 (look like a little kid tho) and have been dating a 88-yr old for the past few months. I told him when we first met how old i was Nd that i had two older kids I actually said it abruptly because I thought it would frighten him away. It didn 8767 t at all. He 8767 s never dated anyone older before, while my ex-husband was six years than me (we started dating when I was 79 and he was 78). I guess I was a cougar before I knew what a cougar was!
I am a 78 year old blk man. Im tired the lack of options i have with women my age. Maybe its because I have an old soul and ahead of my time. Anyway I m tired of looking its getting so old. So I find myself paying extra attention to older women. It s this older woman maybe 95-95 at a local car parts store that I see. I think she is sexy..she is really kind with the sweetest voice. She always calls me babe,doll, and baby when she rings me up. Because of age difference I would like something casual. I didn t notice any rings on her fingers. I jus don t know if she is into guys at all. I know I have to ask to find out. It would be super easy to ask one on one but there s ears everywhere so it makes it difficult to run it by her. Eventually I will though.
That''s what I hope this column will be about — applying God''s Word to the topic of dating, finding a spouse, and getting married. I also hope that many of you will set the agenda. Well, except for this column. Just this once, I''m going to set out a basic framework for biblical dating so we all know what we''re talking about — or at least so you know where I''m coming from. After this column, you have my word that I''ll spend the next several months answering your questions (that is, when I have answers). So hang with me this time, then you''re on.
As an older woman that is dating a man I will tell you for me personally, if you can communicate with out the assumption that you are going get sex or be sexual with your communication eventually an older woman will warm up to a man. I am speaking from my preferences. I just started to date a man who is 65 yrs and I am 58. His approach to me was non sexual and that is what sparked my interest. It is probably different for everyone else.
Dear Crossroads: I can relate to your reply! I am 86 years old and was dating a man at the age of 78 for two years. I am also divorce and have two kids. We recently ended it due to the age difference. Or is it the age difference? I feel I needed to let him go and venture out life. The toughest part was that I miss him dearly. We did practically everything with him. I don 8767 t think I will ever find someone like him again. I am glad to hear that there are others out there that are familiar with my situation.
I am a smart girl and built a small wall and kept seeing with my brain thinking he is so lovely but this can 8767 t go much further. He felt the same at first but then he started to put holes in my wall by telling me that he couldn 8767 t stop telling everyone how amazing I was and he couldn 8767 t wait for me to meet his best friends. He has met mine and they all love him and say he 8767 s the nicest person and they are cautious but happy for us. He is always happy to see me and shows affection around our friends as well in private.
I dated a guy for 7 weeks. It was really fun. He was 65 years than me. I thought we had enough in common to keep it going for longer than 7 weeks but our methods of resolving issues was opposite of each other and we are no longer together. I was smitten with him. He and I seem to be in sync in so many ways. Yet he could not over come a tiny minor miscommunication so we parted. I honestly believe today it was his excuse to walk away. I enjoyed this article and did my research on my attraction to a man. This article put things into perspective. It help me prepare for the inevitable and accept most likely we were going to both eventually move on to others closer to our own age.
Casually grazing her hand with yours when she says something funny is intriguing, groping her like she’s your property the first night you meet is icky. Making momentary eye contact then looking quickly away is sexy, staring her down like she’s your antelope prey is just awkward. And especially for those men at the bar who are three shots in, if you’ve been drinking your perception of her sexual signals could be WAY off so try to sober up first.
I am 86 and seeing a guy that is 75. It hasn t been that long yet, but it is amazing! He works hard, and has the energy to keep up with my lifestyle. I ve got 9 boys aged 8-69, and I work 7 jobs. I am extremely active and busy with sports, school activities, and friends n family. He can keep up with me and its great, cuz most of the guys I date are lazy or they complain all the time. Im definately gonna ride this one out. If it works, ill be happy forever, and if he needs something else, ill support that, and be grateful for the time we got to have together!
I think that culture plays a role sometimes. I went out on a few dates with a man from Sudan and we took a taxi across town. As I had my purse in my hand and he was still routing around in his pockets I paid the fare. He made the driver give the money back to me and then he paid. When we got out of the car he then proceeded to shout at me for embarrassing him. He was very upset and so was I because he was drawing so much attention to us. I understood that he felt strongly about this but we were in Dubai, we were not married and I really didn x7569 t fancy ending up in jail because I had paid the equivalent of a £65 taxi fare.
Hey Nancy It 8767 s funny because while these profiles are good, they have been copied THOUSANDS of times. I single handedly made the 8775 Anchorman 8776 the most quoted movie of all time on okCupid because so many guys copied the #7 profile with the 8775 Anchorman 8776 quote in it. If you search okCupid you 8767 ll see thousands of guys that just copied these profiles word for word and they wonder why they don 8767 t work. lol
Zach, you made me cry. Thanks. So sweet. I am in love with a guy 65 years than me. We have been friends for 6 years. Recently we have been dating. He does not know (I think) how much older than i am than he is i don t want him to know because I am scared that he will reject me. But he does know that i am older but it is something that we never discuss (I don t tell anyone how old I am)-except anyonmously (I am 95 and he is 85). But it makes me insecure and my friends/ family have strict orders not to tell anyone my age (yes I have a problem with this). Any advice is welcome. He is my best friend.
Ha! The old 8775 my boyfriend 8776 line That just sorts the men from the boys! One woman I picked up, I introduced myself to her by coming up behind her on the dance floor, putting my hands on her waist, coming in nice and close, and looking at her over her shoulder and smiling at her. We were pashing within two minutes. She introduced me to her boyfriend a few minutes later, and a few minutes after that, I was driving her (and only her) to her place, where we had sex. Hmmm I think I might 8767 ve broken a few of the female dating coaches 8767 rules that time 😉
And yet another short list of things that I’m not really fond of:
Cars (can’t tell why I put this one first )
Self-centered people (but, hey Have you ever heard anybody saying “yes, yes, I am definitely self-centered.” So this one doesn’t really count!!)
TV (even if I like one or two shows and some movies)
Superficial people (but same problem as #7 )
Then the bar gets more crowded, and I lose track of said lad. Suddenly I spot him an hour later with his pants off urinating on the pool table. Or worse, he 8767 s suddenly in my face, all pretense of normal human interaction removed, licking my forehead, or slurring some pathetic, creepy proposition involving my panties and a meat grinder? Ew. F*ck off. Or get thee to an AA meeting.
Whatever way you cut it, the idea that women have become too easy is wrong-headed. If you''re looking at it from a female point of view, the question is harmful and creates a double standard that punishes women for engaging in activities men can do freely, and that sucks. Similarly, if you look at it from a male perspective, shaming women out of wanting to have casual sex with you is counter-productive and treats sex as inherently shameful and degrading, and that sucks, too!
He is a very successful financial planner and works long hours and he is having a good time moving up to be top at his firm. One of the attractions was that he works as hard as I do and we both love what we do. But he always finds time to call first thing in the morning, mid morning, late, while grocery shopping and puts me to sleep at nite when I am not with him. The last couple of days The calls have shortened and turned into text messages. Some of our mutual friends say that is what he does while in his work zone.
I 8767 ve already had a little more success. Not really any responses but much more interest. Maybe I could get some pointers and advice I 8767 d greatly appreciate it. You can use my profile as an example as long as my information isn 8767 t displayed. Again thank you for your advice. Online dating is very intimidating but a useful tool especially when someone like myself find it difficult to say these things in person but much easier and more relaxing with a little buffer. Much appreciated!! Your hard work surely has paid off.