Posted: 2017-11-14 19:43
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Hello Mirror, I really enjoy your blog! I wonder what you make of this one: I met a guy online, 95 bachelor, very handsome - and a player. I spotted his true colours since date 6, but consciously thought what the heck..let s go for it and live life to the full. As you can imagine I ended up developing feelings for him against my will and better judgement! Anyway we dated casually for 7/8 months but are no longer in touch. It was becoming apparent that his interest was dwindling, so when he went off the radar I never tried to contact him again. What bothers me is this: every time we were about to have sex he would disappear to the bathroom. And a few times he actually took advantage of a pause we were taking to go. He s a health/yoga/sports freak. Could it have been drugs? The behaviour was so odd and obviously related to sex that I took advantage of one of his bathroom moments to scan the room for hidden case he was somewhere pushing buttons! Have you ever heard of something similar???
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First dates are about finding common ground and figuring out if you want to get to know this person more. The best way to do this is by being true to yourself and not pretending to be someone you’re not. Also, great first dates don’t have to be expensive. For example, grabbing a coffee and exploring a new neighborhood gives you things to talk about and is less stressful than sitting face to face. If you had a good time and want to see them again tell them and follow up with a plan. If you don’t, then thank them and move on. Ghosting is NOT allowed! Dating CAN be fun, it’s all about perspective!
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Women want to be with a guy who has a sense of certainty in what he does and in what choices he makes. If it becomes apparent that she is not impressed with your choice of venue, smile confidently and say to her: “This is not your kind of place, is it?” Remember this should come across more like a statement than a question. Then tell her that she has to be the one to choose the next date, AGAIN, and this is very important, you must say this in a playful manner. Always stay committed to your decisions, and never be apologetic about them either. If she doesn’t like your choice of venue, then make up for it in the interaction. If the venue is more important to her than spending time with you, she’s not a keeper.
Any vague or generic compliments need to be abolished from the conversation. We use the word “nice” when describing something we have no real passion for, such as a “nice cup of tea.” Think about things you adore, that excite you or inspire you and then see if the word “nice” can articulate those emotions. Replace the word “nice”, “lovely” or even “pretty” with something more dynamic and that focuses on a more detailed attribute of hers. Example: “I really like the fact you have good taste in shoes, you can tell a lot about a woman who makes that extra effort” or “the way you’ve done your makeup is really striking.” Now, these might sound a little too detailed or might put you out of your comfort zone, but she will respond to those kinds of thoughtful and unique compliments a lot better than “your hair looks nice.”
If you fallow this advice your wasting your time being on one of these sites. The thing that sticks most in my mind as being very bad advice is the point about never contact first?
You work for one of those sites don t you? Your getting paid to keep the girls single and on the site right? lol
Better idea girls. Search. Read profiles and contact guys who you find interesting. answer every guy that contacts. And send him a text. Every girl wants to be chased. But this isn t real life. You only have the one chance and you can t tell who he is if you don t talk.
Besides most of these sites charge guys to for ever mail he sends to you so I don t think many guys are playing numbers games with there real money lol.
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Hi Mirror, good it gave some food for thought-as well as helping me join a few more dots. In hindsight I think it must have been drugs as that could explain a pie-eye and the odd habit of muttering to himself (repeating a sentence he had just spoken in a normal-louder voice) elusive behaviour and difficulty to get it up in the morning (which from what a doctor friend of mine tells me is a poor health indicator for men). What a shame, he could be an absolutely stunning man!
Overall this experience strengthens my resolve to take things slowly (more so with online dating) and really gather as much info as I can before having sex with a man! I m so glad I never pursued him when he if I was dying to see him.
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Hi, I need advice, I met this guy online, he is twelve years older than me, he pursued me quickly, so much in common,he then started flirting with sexual innuendos, I told him I was uncomfortable, we haven t met yet,we got too close too fast as nd we had a huge fight the day before we met, I refused to meet him, we both made assumptions of each other, we both agree we have an amazing connection especially mentally,he has not asked me out as gain, he had since hanged back, what ad should I do?
so much great advice-thankyou Mirror of Aphrodite- all the same for all age groups? I am a mature female internet dater and feel there are certain things an older dater needs to consider. I have already in my first 9 months learned the hard way. Ive now made a list of rules/boundaries based on your advice and stick to it. The info on phones/ txts really works!! You know why men contact me? I like your profile= you are different, and my best asset is my hair (no cleavage to speak of)so I make the best of it in photos and change my main profile pic every month. I always have my hair up when we meet, then I go to the restaurant rest rooms and return with it down to surprise him- one man almost fell off his chair and was beaming from ear to ear, another pulled out his phone and said may I take a pic of your hair!! I only search for compatible star signs and Im a numerologist, and have subtle methods for asking someones birthdate early on in our chats, so I have an added advantage in my screeing. If they are incompatible I dont bother continuing. THANKYOU.
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I am currently talking to a guy that I have met online and I do not know whether I should date other people or not. I really like him. We have been talking on the phone for the past two months and have been on four dates for the past month. We have even kissed a couple of times and he always gives me compliments. (Of course, no sex as yet :-) )He also calls me almost everyday and we have a good connection. He is also very respectful and a gentleman. However, I do not know whether I should ask him if he is ready for a commitment or advise.
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Hi mirror,your advice is really great!I met up with this guy online and we had a nice chat..talking about ourselves then one day he suggested we exchange gave out mine first..but he didnt text or call,instead,he gave me his number as feel that he should call first cause am very intrested in him..am a student and he is afraid that if he doesnt initiate the myt end up loosing him
..which I dont want to can I do to make him stay without looking desparate?My friend says that nowadays,its ok for girls to make the first move,otherwise I stand a big chance to loose him.