Posted: 2017-11-10 08:24
When you 8767 re short and ugly and have that incredible pubescent urge to lay with women, you might work on your personality a little bit. You might work on your personality like you 8767 re Stephen fucking Hawking. This is good. Because even if you never get handsome or tall, you 8767 ll always have a distinguished personality. Looks fade, people even get shorter if they live long enough, but a personality isn 8767 t bound in the same way by nature to decay over time.
Sounds like you are ready for a new level of embodiment—and it seems to me you won 8767 t let this process interfere with your core ideals, either. I can hear that you 8767 re not trying to 8775 change for a man, 8776 so whatever you choose to do to 8775 slim your waistline, 8776 just be mindful that you act from your heart, for your heart, and with the intention of filling more parts of your life with love.
Just an observation, I think the fetishising of Swedish women or any other ethnic women is unhealthy. Too me, a preoccupation with a certain ethnicity debases the women or men from your own culture and possibly indicates an inferiority complex. There are beautiful women or handsome men to be found in every country although you might have to look a little harder in some. It seems some of the posters on here are interested in visiting Sweden not for the culture or scenery but for casual sex and hooking up
What are you doing?
Eating cheese and bacon to gain weight. I ve lost two kilos due to stress and feel really crap.
OMG ARE YOU INSANE!!?!? YOU LOOK AMAZING!!!
But I feel so weak and horrible! Also, how the f*ck can you see a two-kilo difference?
ALL WEIGHT LOSS IS GOOD! MUST NOT GAIN WEIGHT! EVER! OR THINK! THINKING MAKES YOU FAT!
And once again you don 8767 t seem to be getting it. You said, 8775 I simply said you probably pissed them off because there is a shortage of tall men 8776 You seem to be stuck on this idea that women are rejecting me. No, just the opposite. You don 8767 t seem to pay attention to what is written. I am not lacking for female attention. I am the one that is not happy with what I am finding in American women.
The other is these men are actors and/or gregarious. That usually means the life of the party so to speak. Which would give credence to the status part of my original post. Regardless, these player men are confident in picking up women, due to prior success. I highly doubt they would be as confident in picking up women if they have suffered nuclear rejections, like the men I referenced have. The reason they were rejected so harshly, as stated by the women rejecting, was their looks. But that 8767 s what they have told me, they could very well be lying for all I know.
And women are chided for rejecting men with physical attributes they CAN control. I have caught flak on this board because I am turned off by men with Duck Dynasty style gray beards. (not turned off by all facial hair, my fiance has a neatly trimmed moustache and goatee). It is certainly within a man 8767 s ability shave off his his down to his knees, all over his face gray beard, yet when I express that physical preference I 8767 ve caught flak for it. I also caught flak for rejecting men who smoke, something that while difficult habit to quit, is not impossible either.
That is really difficult (I imagine) for a man to write a body positive article specifically for women, because a man really has not been conditioned to think of his body in the same way that a woman has been conditioned to think about hers (and also to accept it). There are probably other sites and forums where that is discussed in a way that is more productive for a female audience, although honestly, most people aren t going to give a shit that your body isn t perfect or even that it doesn t fit into their perfect ideals.
On the idea of wearing clothes that fit, I used to always wear an oversized tee with an even larger button up shirt over it, unbuttoned in high school. I gradually moved away from the button up on top and just tees while in college. Recently, however, I have sort of fallen in love with polos. I do find I have an even higher level of confidence. I still wear relaxed fit jeans, but that is mainly because I have large thighs and anything else can be rather restricting while sitting for extended periods of time.
Also, I 8767 m going to be honest here: the stereotype of a fat man is someone who gets sweaty just looking at stairs and can barely walk five feet without gasping for breath and needing a break. This is unattractive under the best of circumstances, but doubly so if you 8767 re already large. If this is you, then you definitely need to hit the gym. Being active and exercising will build up your endurance and cut down on jokes about having a heart attack from the strain of picking up your mail. Making the transition between 8775 fat 8776 and 8775 Large and strong 8776 can make all the difference in the way you see yourself.
To that end: it 8767 s important that you maintain proper body language. Big guys will tend to try to minimize themselves and hide their stomachs by slouching or curling in to not take up as much space. Standing up straight with your shoulders back will speak more to your confidence a far more attractive trait than constantly seeming as though you 8767 re apologizing for existing.
I talked about over compensating purely because of the guy having that look at me! I am the beast attitude/personality not simply because the guy had overcome challenges or adversity. To me, that look at me! attitude didn t sound like it came from a strong sense of self. Just a personal observation and not a comment on people in general who have overcome adversity and challenges.
That being said, we can complain all day, but eventually we have to seek solutions. I think what is necessary is a re-education towards empathy not in the sentimental sense, but in that endeavor to see people as people first, and not what society tells us we should think of them. Also can we please abandon the notion that we need to find somebody to punish for what society tell us is wrong with us. One of the biggest problems I 8767 ve had being a big dude is the penchant it seemed people had for reducing me to a requisite amount of misery based solely on my size. It was like I was committing a crime just having the audacity to be fat and happy with myself. I think resolution may be an arduous task. We 8767 re gonna have to deal with some deep-rooted issues in the process, but I think it 8767 s a task worth undertaking.
Girls have a different body structure usually than adult women.. so I can certainly see where the problem comes in. boys and thin/slight men don t have nearly as big of a difference in body structure usually.. So forgive me if i was not clear, but I was only trying to speak to the idea of Skinny dudes.. but I ve just found the dress shirts especially tend to fit the same as Small Slim for me at least..
I have some male relatives that are kind of assholes this way and mock others for dating not conventionally attractive women, skinny women, fat women, white/black/Asian/Every tribe that isn t Apache (and even some Apache) etc. Most of the time the people being busted on can handle it, but lots of times they can t. Now my family might be the outlier, but I sort of doubt it. I think it is hard for men to step out proud with a woman who is of a type he thinks people will judge him for due to age, education, ethnicity, class, etc., which has to be a self-limiting belief. It might even lead to guys dating women they see not attracted to, but meet social expectations, which can t be good in the long run.
To answer the first question, a bit of both. On the odd occasion I 8767 d find a second wind (or a guess a third or fourth) and send some messages, the only ones that got replies were from people who made it a requirement that you have a photo online so it would automatically add them to the start of the message. I remember a couple that were a fairly polite 8775 I think we 8767 re looking for different things 8776 and the like but it was mostly abuse centred around my appearance in the photographs. The one that springs to mind immediately and I 8767 ll self-censor it as I 8767 m not quite sure what the language rules are on here was along the lines of:
That sounds very good, Im not shy to ask but I dont want to appear like a hopeless case either. I dont want to make it look like Im trying to pick up the girl however, Im already have someone that I am interessting in. So if I asked a latin girl to teach me how to dance salsa, would she see it as a way to pick her up?, or just as something fun?. Is there a way to tell her in spanish in a nice way to say that I just want to be friends with her?. And I will memorize that spanish line you gave me. Currently I only know how to order beer in spanish =P.
After reading all these comments you must think, 8775 damn, how do Swedish men and women mate and have lots of babies? 8776 I wonder that too, and I 8767 ll put the blame on the dark swedish winter and the bright swedish summer. You also must think that Swedish women hate their fellow men. It 8767 s part true, more Swedish women are interested in foreign men than they are in other Swedes. Boredom, lack of balls, and overall disappointment are contributing factors.
Totally agree with you.
I have lived for almost one year, here in Sundsvall I see many African men and Swedish girls couples. Languages should not be the problem of dating Swedish girls, since most of the African guy 8767 s Swedish I know are not that good, but your balls count. Most African guys dating Swedish girls, are somewhat confident and feeling good about themselves.
Thats my two points.
But I see plenty of women out there that have women who are taller than he is. What are they doing that you aren 8767 t? Also, are you insisting on the whole package? Well, I have news for you, if you are shorter, you aren 8767 t the whole package if a woman is going to be with you, shorter probably wasn 8767 t her preference, so she is settling for something less than the whole package. She is focusing instead on education, personality, etc Maybe you have to settle for a woman who is overweight, or some other issue that isn 8767 t your preference.