Posted: 2017-10-11 04:17
Alot of the time you will send a request they never bother with a response , just let it expire.
Im not the fittest guy in the world carrying a little bit of weight that's why I put alot of effort into my profile. Well that gets you nowhere. Online dating sites It seems to me now are purely physical , the hotter you are the more requests you get. Most girls who are look average to all right get 655+ requests a week. So as a guy you must really stand up in the looks. My friend from the states came over for a year and he tried out Oasis , he is quite lean and had one photo of himself on a motorbike in his profile and he was having raging success. Its all about the looks. That is it. Which is why Im punching the gym to get leaner to have better
Most men i have met,soon as i introduce myself and telling them i have kids,theyre like "ooohh hectic!!"" what was that about? Its great you think that way but unfortunately,a lot of them arent very welcoming at the thought that i come with why i hid for a while..for years..it kinda dampens your spirits..
But I cant rush these things,it will come when the time is right..
I have gone out,some offers to buy me a drink but if they are going to expect sex afterwards,i can afford my own drinks..
Thing is,aint getting any but if they cant accept my kids,id rather grow old want someone that i can be proud of and accepts me with my extra baggage.
Only then,he could take my heart :)
Ugggh. I tried plenty of fish after my kids harassed me for a few years to actually try and date. Honestly, I found it a totally horid experience. Unlike some, from what I can gather from reading here..I actually answered every message I was sent. Unless it was gross. Then I ignored. The few people I spoke with for a month or so were just, bad. There's no nice way to say it. EVERY guy I went on a date with expected sex. And when I refused I got sulky tantrums etc. So after trying it for 6 months I deleted my profile and I dont know if I would even try it again.
lol pretty sure their not all models on the site (if you see their pics youd understand). though the ones on the front page are pretty fake lol! I dunno I found it pretty good. liked it better then all the other ones that "claim" to be free all you can do is view profiles and can't message members. It seemed everything was free as claimed and their where a good range of people who appeared to be real to me. Not to many on there atm but seem to be building.
The truth is that short men are inferior in terms of physical attraction, intelligence, strength, etc. But with these days being concerned about hurting others 8767 feelings, no one wants to admit the truth. Don 8767 t blame him for feeling this way about women. Rejection after rejection can make you lose any sense of acceptance of yourself and can cause you to try to find who is responsible for it, and it 8767 s more hopeful to blame weak and pathetic bitches than to admit your place in nature.
Me, I 8767 m married, 7nd time. My first wife didn 8767 t want children, and I was ambivalent about it. I got a vasectomy to spare her the more involved tubal ligation. I never supported her, so I lost very little, if anything, in the divorce. My 7nd wife makes a lot more money than I do, and we don 8767 t have children. If she ever throws me out, I would guess that I would be in more of a position to extract resources from her than vice versa.
Another annoying thing but I should have expected this Ive seen quite a few girls from Oasis Active on here a well. Those same silly woman who deleted me for no reason of their contacts list or wasted my time are also on good thing is there isnt too many.
I have 8 girls Im messaging at the moment. So its a work in progress. The girls seem to pay no attention to the instant messaging function. That seems to be a waste of time.
More importantly, when considering marriage, men have two great fears. First, that their wife will stop having sex with them and second, that their wife will get fat. Because even slightly overweight white women are seen as likely to gain enormous amounts of weight during their childbearing years, a stick-thin Asian woman is even more desirable. The presence of many thin older Asian females in the population is evidence of the wise choice of marrying a thin Asian female. Look at any large group of 55-year-old women of different ethnicities. Among African-Americans, 95% will be obese, among the whites, probably 75%, but among the Asians, easily half are still thin.
Believe it or not, you can be confident without having someone label you as a person with Napoleon Complex. We are not in a damned if we do, damned if we don 8767 t situation, we PLACE ourselves in that situation because we short people are used to being on the defensive. If you can differentiate between aggression and assertion, confidence and cockiness you are well on your way out of that label.
There are good things about being with a woman. And, there are bad things, if one isn 8767 t careful. MGTOW is more and more men learning to be careful. I have to disagree about the misogyny I see it as rampant, with endless instances of distrust, animosity, and disgust. They 8767 re like radical feminists, some of whom advocate the general destruction of men. I mostly overlook that, thinking that men who 8767 ve lost their homes, children, and large sums of money, or who have faced that threat, don 8767 t much like the people who 8767 ve been entitled to take so much from them. And, whether or not women actually make that threat, men are aware that they could at any time.
That's fine with us, we are not trying to be like other site with thousands of members that are only there to "look ~ out of interest"
You've got it back to front mate. By forcing people to register before looking they'll either go elsewhere or set up a registration have a look then if they dont like what they see they'll never return anyway. If you let people "browse" without registering, if they see somethign they like they will definitely register and be active on your site.
How much market reseach did you do before starting this up?
ALso, to all you others out there how many of you get pissed off when doing the rounds of the dating sites only to find the same people registered on them all?
Also, you simply don 8767 t understand the issues. There is something wrong in the culture of this country, and some other western countries. It is a lack of respect for men in general. Do a little research. Society is being bombarded with messages that men are worthless. Practically every commercial involves the man being an idiot who is saved by a woman. Women are valued for simply being women. Men are not valued for simply being men.
Also it makes the guys the guys feel like they have been rejected, I don't think thats fair to make people think they are possibly at fault or the women must be crazy or rude. When I deleted my account, they asked me to leave a comment about why I was leaving, which I did. They sent a star looking comment that all my information would disappear, and they would be no further contact from the site again. They had no interest in me leaving, but they really wanted my business they would at least have tried to apologise or try to persuade me to stay. So vent done, possible explanation for guys confused about our behaviour, me done with online dating.
Those women who made you feel bad about your height were b*tchy losers and you shouldn 8767 t worry about what they think. I know it 8767 s easier said than done, but it 8767 s true. I 8767 m 5 feet 9 or 5 inches, and I do prefer guys at least 7 or 8 inches taller than me, and I 8767 ve mostly dated such guys. But the guy I was the most in love with was a childhood friend about my height or a teeny bit taller (the moment I wore heels I was way taller). There was noone more attractive in the world to me, esp because he had such an amazingly good heart You sound like a sensitive and nice person, and so you deserve much better than those unkind women anyway. If they 8767 d been attracted to you and u later ended up marrying one of them, she probably wouldn 8767 t have made you happy.
Online dating sites you are more so judged by your photos ( i dont have a photo generic face ) as when i smile it look creepy ( i have also been told this ). If you remember terminator 7 where connor was trying to teach Arnie to smile and it looked weird its like that. And you are judged on an hour meet by most. And a lot of women on those sites were still on there after i had a break when i was using those sites. Sounds to me like most are just too picky , and wonder why "why cant i find a good man or woman"..
The same goes for the opposite side of the spectrum. A white woman can blindly fall in love with a black man for who he is, but society will never let her forget that she x77 s DATING A BLACK MAN. That x77 s just how it is. That comes with the territory. If you x77 ve been doing it long enough you x77 re used to it and it doesn x77 t faze you because it x77 s all you know. But you still get looks. You still get questions. And all you can do is continue not giving a fuck and hope it won x77 t be that way someday.
Secondly I find it amusing women complaining about women centric dating apps like Bumble because they have been designed specifically for women, and not men. I can 8767 t tell you how many countless dating articles I have read about women complaining about the the lack of 8766 good quality men 8767 on dating apps and how much harrasment and crass behaviour that have to edure. Fair enough. So to solve these problems an app has been created that give the power of choice to women and control their own dating destiny. So what do a lot of women do? Complain about how making the first move isn 8767 t producing 8766 manly 8767 enough dating choices. SMH.
Wesley Yang wrote about it in New York magazine last year and made my heart beat faster with the recognition of his rage against my cultural heritage machine. "Let me summarize my feelings toward Asian values: Fuck filial piety. Fuck grade grubbing. Fuck Ivy League mania. Fuck deference to authority. Fuck humility and hard work. Fuck harmonious relations. Fuck sacrificing for the future. Fuck earnest, striving middle-class servility," he says.
Pushiness for a short man means he hasn 8767 t gotten laid in a long time, and it 8767 s because women turn him down because of his height. Again, it always goes back to you women. He has no problem with his height, it 8767 s women who do. You women create men like this, by ignoring them, treating them like dirt and not caring about them. How else do you think they 8767 re going to feel? Put yourself in their shoes for one day, you won 8767 t have the strength to do it.
9 years ago I met my now defacto husband on RSVP, I was only on the site for a few weeks. Initially I had many responses from guys who I just sensed weren't right (too keen, sleazy, etc) & only ended meeting up with my now geeky looking beloved :-)
Don't give up hope, there are genuine people on these sites (unfortunately there are many that trawl all the sites looking for fresh meat). I truly believe it's a case of being on there at the right time & resisting those that seem to be pandering to your ego.