Posted: 2017-10-28 20:57
Grenoble, I 8767 m sorry you had those bad experiences. However, yes, a man 8767 s profile also does matter (well, at least to women of substance). I can honestly tell you that while I liked my boyfriend 8767 s photo (still love his dimples!) it was really his profile that resonated with me and led me to contact him, over other equally attractive men. I also personally know a lot of other women with similar stories, including my sister 8767 s and brother-in-law 8767 s.
However, I think we can all agree that it should reflect the real you. I did try profile-writing services before. Those profiles ended up being very well-written, fun and witty but somehow, somewhere, they also sounded nothing like me. I actually got more dates and did better when I wrote my profiles myself (while taking into account the advice I read about profiles). It was the last profile I 8767 d written myself that got me a boyfriend.
Does a good profile matter? In my experience yes it does if you are an average looking guy like me. Your profile pic is the first stage of filtering process, which is based on initial physical attraction. The profile will only be read during the second stage of filtering, assuming your profile pic passed the physical attraction test. What person is not going to pic a 8766 Hollywood look-alike 8767 over an Average Joe or Plain Jane? This is just a fact of life that we must all accept if we are to have a more realistic perspective of our likelihood of trying to find a partner online.
My comment was serious (and true I discovered this after-the-fact more than once). I wouldn 8767 t say that this rule is the 8775 norm 8776 but it 8767 s common enough to make a guy pause. It 8767 s kind of like walking into a room full of cute bunny rabbits. You really want to play with one but knowing that some small percentage are going to blow up in your face, it 8767 s natural to be a little cautious. On that thought, it might shock the women here to know that I (and probably lots of other men) have encountered a fair share of 8766 escort 8767 types using OLD. It sure as hell shocked me. So it seems that both genders encounter their fair share of crap with online dating. Just really glad I found my queen before apps like Tindr (and a good amount of social media narcissism) corrupted everything.
All of which leaves those of us who don 8767 t behave that way (I feel sure I can 8767 t be that unusual), fighting an uphill battle against a perception we didn 8767 t create. I read your post and some others here, I pick up on the loathing and fear, and wonder how many women, a little more sensitive, insecure or fearful, experience this or know other women who have, and simply hesitate to date any man from our age group because of it. That 8767 s as frustrating for us, as I imagine the female equivalents must be for women who don 8767 t act the part of a prevailing stereotype. Unfortunately it 8767 s a perception we can 8767 t do anything to change (except refrain from the behavior ourselves) makes me feel like trying to close the barn door after the horse is halfway across the next county.
I will admit, I don 8767 t read a bio by a man who has written a novel. It 8767 s just too much and overwhelming. I have 6 fun and light sentences, but even this man doesn 8767 t want to read. You can have a well crafted bio, but you can 8767 t control if a man reads it or not. It 8767 s a peeve of mine of a man who will ask me my name and it 8767 s the first sentence of my bio. Shows me lack of sophistication, doesn 8767 t pay attention to detail.
çapul Sep 58 7568 9:68 am woww!! really amazed me. she was unexpectedly even better than lee jong hyuk if you ask me. actually lee jong hyuk was the reason i started watching it (appa odiga!! :D) but impressed by acting skills and a little bit dissappointed with lee jong hyuk's. however it was soo much fun to watch. JUST ADD TO YOUR WATCH LIST. you won't regret.
Thank you, Evan. That makes sense. A woman who lists personal hobbies and pursuits that suggest she doesn 8767 t leave copious amounts of free time in her schedule for guys who might want to ask her out at the last minute if he has nothing else to do might have to rethink their strategy if they want to be successful. It also suggests that if they were to eventually become a couple, she might want to keep some of her hobbies even if they are of no interest to him.
Ilovekpop Jun 77 7568 7:58 am OMG! I am starting to love this drama! Did anyone else realize that there is always a guest star in every episode I died when I saw tamin and gong Yoo! I love Gong Yoo so much hope he makes a new drama but enough of that! I actually think that master and should be together I don't know why but they look cute together! Also I like hyeri and monji be together, its so cute! O///////O hopefully they will have more of my favorite stars come to!!! Hwight!!!
Great input Christine. I guess it 8767 s like anything-pay for a well written, crafted product (if you 8767 re stuck/can 8767 t seem to pull it off) or do your best to polish your own profile. I 8767 m sure Evan 8767 s services are great if you can 8767 t seem to pull it off yourself. I did worry about it not reflecting the true me. I never got professional pics either. I 8767 m sure I 8767 m in a smallish market (I live in the Deep South) so honestly I got more responses just updating with new pics. In fact, I put up a tacky selfie in front of the mirror in my bathroom one time (I know, I know) so I could show a real time pic of most of my body). It certainly wasnt great. I made a silly remark about the wallpaper in my bathroom and got more responses regarding my wild wallpaper (in caption below pic where you can write date, etc) than any other pic I ever posted! Still got the wild wallpaper-probably should have taken up one of the offers from men to help me take it down! 🙂
That 8767 s the thing about negative experiences they not only stink, they have a tendency to stick, in a way that positive experiences don 8767 t. You rarely see a woman have a positive experience or two with men from a particular age group, and conclude that 8775 Wow, all those guys are like that! 8776 . Let her have a couple of the sort you just described, and the reaction is apt to be 8775 Damn, all those guys are like that! 8776 It 8767 s the same for men with regard to women, of course, which is why we see all the unfair generalizations about both genders here experience a few rotten apples, and the whole barrel is suspect see Sandra 8767 s post below :
ruke Jul 66 7568 65:98 pm I'm a so it pleases me to see positive comments on the drama, so as on And for those who are unable to appreciate her talents, you have abnormal tastes. Speaking as a viewer, the ending was great. Of course it is harder in our part seeing work with old actors but we also respect them and go on with the flow (so does you should be). Fortunately, everything work out well. There's much hard work put on the show, especially by so please don't bash her (there's nothing to bash about either).
I'm sure everybody can find bits and pieces of the movie to relate to their own personal lives which really makes the movie feel more intimate. Not to mention that excellant soundtrack. The dialogue this time around jumped out more and impressed me. Lines like when Uhm Tae-Woong & Lee Min-Jung were together at Lee Min-Jung's apartment late at night and Daniel Choi rings the doorbell, Uhm Tae-Woong utters "Don't open the door." which I think was meant literally and figuratively. Really felt for the guy. Very sweet movie which I will watch again sometime down the road. Excellant film!
But on the other hand, I 8767 m not delusional that I 8767 m a super-hot Victoria 8767 s Secret/Sports Illustrated/Maxim cover. Who knows, maybe it 8767 s the 8775 in-between 8776 people, like me, who do best with online dating (where we attract enough people to have options, but also aren 8767 t flooded with them so don 8767 t get overwhelmed. So we can take the time to really read messages and profiles carefully)
I actually got a similar message from a man as those messages you got saying that profile was too long. However, I just believed in it and stuck with it, because I felt it really represented who I am. Well, later on my boyfriend came along and loved that exact same profile! So the cliche is true that one person 8767 s trash is another person 8767 s treasure. I 8767 m glad I didn 8767 t change it or else, my love might have passed me by.
I have never seen Soo in anything else but I do think that people are entitled to say if they like someone's performance in a drama or not without having had to have seen other works. From the first scene in the first episode it was obvious that she did not fit this part well. And then it has gotten progressively worse. I think the same lines could be acted in a way that is a little smarter and not so terribly annoying.
Davia Jun 65 7568 8:58 am I am not sure if producers think that mostly men watch these dramas and that men like to see women as stupid. Or if in fact producers think that women like to watch other women in dramas who are stupid. It just is unbelievable that in 7568 so many dramas still depict women in this way. Here in this drama Min started looking like she was in her early 75's and now she is acting like a four year old. It is so unbelievably boring and annoying to have to watch that. Thankfully Lee Jong-Hyuk is so fabulous as Seo Byung-Hoon and is able to carry this drama.
barbara Apr 68 7568 65:88 pm Stop the critics of soyooung.. If you want to criticize acting skills please first watch The Third Hospital (but the whole drama not only one episode) and then talk! How would you feel is somebody come and say that you are bad at everything that you do? Ah? You would think. Ah? Why this person talks about me like that without knowing me? Well the same thing happen with sones or whatever person that have watch acting skills! Why they criticize without knowin her acting skills? So please stop saying that she does not deserve it because she is an idol so her acting will suck (pfff. that's a stupid excuse) In my opinion (despite I am a and I have learnt about acting, she is a great actress
junsika Jun 57 7568 6:89 pm i don't think that lee jong hyuk doesn't fit this role and the age gap between the actress and him doesn't make me uncomfortable at all. he's super sexy and talented and he's exactly the type of man which i imagined as being the main actor in this drama when i first heard they were gonna make cyrano's (the movie) remake.. that sparkle in his eyes when talking bout women and his clients is the best part of the drama. so, i'm fully satisfied with those 7 episodes i watched and looking forward to the res t.
I think what you said was completely reasonable. I am definitely at that point in my life and self awareness also. Unfortunately, many newly divorced men (who I 8767 m assuming were in a long stagnant marriage) really act like a kid in a candy store when online dating. I think they 8767 re working through the process but seem to at first just be worried with getting laid. Maybe they 8767 re just excited about the possibilities. And most definitely hadn 8767 t dated in 65-75 years. What happened often was sexual talk on first date/meeting. But I was also groped and badgered, looked up and down obviously, etc. But I guess the worst were the 7 guys who were married and 8775 dating 8776 behind their wives backs. One guy confessed upon our first meeting, the second guy- it became clear to me after our third date. I just flat out asked him (obviously he didn 8767 t mention it on his profile). This behavior just makes a woman feel like a piece of meat. While I 8767 m not certain of what kind of percentage of men acted offensively. I 8767 m sure just it being a negative experience would make it stand out in my mind, making me more attuned and fearful of it happening again.