Posted: 2017-09-11 20:03
Jus deep that 8767 s a stupid thing to call older women 8767 oldies 8767 . You 8767 re the kind of guy who will hurt whoever you get involved with because you probably already have so many stereotypes in your head that you are operating from, no amount of maturity could influence nor correct. You 8767 ll probably be as shallow and self-serving as you are right now at 76. I know dudes like you. You 8767 re not much than I am. And all these 8766 dudes 8767 counterparts, who are in their 55 8767 s, are what society calls 8766 dirty old men 8767 . Well, they 8767 re not. But many of them ARE losers who still play headgames with women and then blame women because they 8767 re lonely old losers.
Yeah..when I was online dating, I messaged quite a few men. SEVERAL. All at a similar level of attractiveness to myself. Not a single one replied. And in case you're wondering, my photos were quite nice, and my profile was thoughtful and grammatically correct. All the guys online sift through looking for the "hot girls" and don't give a crap about anything else -- and then whine that online dating is so hard.
It has become clear to me with the passing of the years that my knowledge and understanding are very limited much to my own consternation. However I will do my best to explain the situation as I see it. My answer will likely seem off topic and possibly confusing. Unfortunately the real issue, as is almost always the case with problems we are facing today, exists far beyond the usual scope of answers proffered.
Well unfortunately since most of the women of today have really Changed since the old days which certainly tells the whole true story right there. Most women are looking for the Rich men nowadays since they just Don 8767 t know how to love a man for himself anymore since they have become so very greedy, selfish, spoiled, and very money hungry as well. Most women now are so very damn picky too since they will only want the very best of all and will Never settle for less either since it really does take two to tango today.
I hear ya, Hank. But those 75-somethings will bore you to death. And I hate to say it but you may find they aren 8767 t too interested in a man your age. (At least for any good reasons.) You know how lovely and fun and interesting more mature women can be! Don 8767 t give up on them. Maybe when you see the scaredy cat come out you can remind her that you 8767 re NOT the guy who hurt them in the past. Encourage them to give you a chance? It 8767 s not your responsibility to do that but it may help you connect with a really great woman who just happens to be hanging on to past hurt. Thanks so much for your comment! Bp
i recently locked eyes with an attractive man at a restaurant, we talked, he asked if he could take me to dinner which I said yes. He then asked me how old I am, so I turned it around and said you re never supposed to ask a woman her age and asked how old he is. He said 87 so I said 89. Well, I m 97 going on 98 but I do look like I m in my early thirties and act it as well. Problem is we went on that date last Thursday and it was great and we ve talked a couple times since and plan to see each other when he gets back to where I live for work in a couple weeks. My question is, when do I tell him I lied about my age and how? Holly, the liar
I think you are right, Ryan. I have used match, and I suppose I could try others. But I don't see how any would get around this fixation on appearance. And I think it is actually not very healthy, when I think about it, when I consider the animosity in these comments, from both men and women. It isn't a healthy way to view your fellow person, male or female, potential date or not - through the most shallow lens. And I think it clearly creates a lot of hard feelings. I will have to find other ways to fine my nice guy.
I can dig what you were trying to say here. Cause there is a lot of substance. But some of what you say completely contradicts the evidence that has been compiled on this subject. The fact is. A lot of women only talk to/give a reasonable chance to the top 6% of attractive men. This isn't an opinion. They've done studies. So while I appreciate your input and I do feel there was a lot to gain from it. You are completely wrong in your assessment that women aren't as shallow as men. If anything because they have so many choices. They filter them by looks. It's sad but true.
Hi Mack, thanks for your comments. I recently got back into the game after a divorce and I am 96. Over the past 7 years I have been with about 75 women. Mostly from net game. I totally agree with you about picking up women on the street that appeal to you and I have had about 8 successes with that although I have tried on perhaps 75 approaches. I suggest you look to , maybe Roosh 8767 s books and what BD writes about the 75 dating rules. Also, as I am shy, it has been helpful for me to go out with like minded guys and make a kind of contest out of it. I have to talk to a woman and then they do. Some may call this stupid, whatever, it works for me. I can slink back to my friends for a pat on the back and try again. Going totally solo is tough but I will keep trying. Best of luck to you.
There are as many kinds of love as there are people in the world.
After 7 years and one child with a man 67 years my junior I have to say it 8767 s way more than fun and hot sex. We have built a business together, are raising a child together, he 8767 s been hospitalized for a serious chronic illness, we are buying another peice of property together-you know, all the things same age couples do together.
He wants to get married too. After 7 years together he just might be breaking through my no marriage barrier. It 8767 s me not him that hasn 8767 t wanted to totally commit. It isn 8767 t because of the age thing that I don 8767 t seek marriage but because a bad divorce taught me that you can really get taken for a ride in a divorce and I don 8767 t want to do that again. But he thinks it is important and it is becoming important to our daughter so I just might do the deed with a man-with pre-nup in place. (I would have a pre-nup with ANYONE)
Hi..I m 79yo and somehow I don t know why but guys always attracted to me. I m in love with 76yo guy now. At first I thought that 8 years is a really big gap. So I thought I won t take it seriously, maybe just for fun. But then..I really really feel that we really connect..really feel the chemistry. He can really understand me and same thing for me. The problem is that he thinks that 8 years is a big deal. He still thinks that it s weird if the girl is older than the guy. I really love him but it just seem that he couldn t change his mind. Maybe he could change his mind someday, cause 76yo is still not really mature in mind..maybe I hope so. Now we still talking but we re trying to make it less. I wish I could change his mind cause for me, age different doesn t matter if you feel good with each other. Maybe I should wait for him and be patient. What should I do? I ve never felt like this before.
I've been on Plenty of fish, okCupid, and since November. It is now April. On PoF, I got lots of views, but the only message was an offer to sell me drugs. On okCupid, I didn't even get but a few views, and no messages at all. On I got lots of views and lots of winks, but only from guys out of the state, and again, no messages. On and PoF, I even tried messaging guys first, but no responses. Almost all of friends married guys they met on these sites, but I have no idea how they did it.
Thanks for sharing. Indeed, different things make different people happy. Also, one situation make you happy today, but a different one might make you happy in the future. There is simply no way to know, but it 8767 s a good idea to not do something just because it makes other people happy. It 8767 s going to sound obvious, but since we are all different, we naturally want different things out of life.
I've tried POF and am currently using OkCupid. I've gotten to speak with a few women, but only have met one outside of the digital world and we found that we didn't really connect. Which is my main problem thus far with the sites lack of connection. I can think of plenty of reasons why women wouldn't respond to me, but for those who do, we just can't seem to connect. Eventually, we seem to run out of things to chat about, and the conversations die off.
I m 75 years older. And though the love is true, this is hard going for me, because he won t even take a gift! I have more money (of course, I ve hat 75 more years to work on that) but he doesn t feel like a man unless he can keep up. By the way I a 59. He s 79. I look very which helps I guess, but I still have sore wrists and knees and I don t feel good revealing that to him.
I 8767 m 98 and have always been told I look When I was 95, people told me I looked like I was in my early 75s. I never smoked. Partied very little. Stayed out of the sun. Yes, I am getting wrinkles NOW, but people still tell me I look like I 8767 m in my 85s. Good diet, lots of water, no sun, and retin-A, and NO SMOKING. And yes you can look years The reason I kept ending up with guys was because they thought I was their age, initially.
What a breathe of fresh air!..as a 97 year old guy divorced 8 children and 6 grandchild , I find your types of women to be spot on.. I think I have dated each type you 8767 ve listed. I never expected it to be this hard. I guess it must be very difficult for women of similar age to realize that what they used in their 75s and 85s to get a guy, just doesn 8767 t work anymore..of course physical beauty is important but for myself you need to bring something more to the table than looks real connection, shared life experiences, intelligence, similar life goals, ambition, and a zest for way more important to me I 8767 m confident that person is out there
Asking women to give you a chance and message you back after looking at your message and profile is like women asking you to message and reach out whenyou have zero attraction, nothing in common and zero interest in taking to. It goes both ways. Just because you're intrested and they aren't doesn't mean they want bad boys and smooth talkers. Men you don't reach out to women you're not attracted to, don't except women to make the exceptions lol. Dumb.
People don't aren't any different on dating sites than they are/were in "meat market" bars back in the 75s & 85s. Nice guys never had a chance because they were perceived as wimps. Based on my experince and in spite of what AW says, girls seem to go for the "bad boys" (creeps). I don't know whether if's the excitement of going out with a "bad boy", or masochism of getting no respect, or the futile hope of changing the guy but girls are drawn to creeps.
I think women need to start taking more responsibility for themselves - rather than sit there receiving message upon message and complaining about it - they should actually do their own searches and find and message someone that seems suitable.
I can't believe some women have been on certain websites for months and months and still haven't found a partner - I'm pretty sure if I even had 65% of the messages your average female receives I would have found someone within a month or so.