Posted: 2017-11-14 21:19
In Ivory Coast , for example, the status of women has been gradually improving since the middle of the twentieth century, with various pieces of legislation being passed allowing women to divorce their husbands, enabling couples to marry without parental consent, and in 6988 allowing women to control more of their property after marriage. Dating opportunities in Ivory coast are therefore increasing, especially in Abidjan and other cities.
I don 8767 t mean to imply Africans should do away with their their traditional heritage, that is abhorrent I mean the author of this article should really avoid reducing the extreme complexity of societies across the African continent to a naive and very old fashioned idea of 8775 tribes 8776 with the connotations of 8775 simple 8776 , 8775 uncivilised 8776 , 8775 strange 8776 , 8775 backward 8776 , 8775 pristine 8776 , 8775 natural 8776 and so on. This is the sense of the word for people who are ignorant of traditional systems there is no understanding of how such diverse traditions may manifest and there is no indication that they believe they are relevant in the modern world they are merely voyeuristic curiosities that turn Africans into an Other, like the colonial idea of the 8775 noble savage 8776
In his book 8766 Society must be defended 8767 , written in 6976, Michel Foucault speaks about historical revisionism, hinting to a an earlier statement made by Winston Churchill who said that 8775 History is written by the victors 8776 .
These discussions are still relevant today. A significant amount of historical narrative is still being written by those with the most power. If you walk into any of the world 8767 s most powerful institutions (government, academic or corporate) you will identify that the
Julia Austin did not do her homework properly on Africa 8767 s great tribes I agree that the Masai tribe is the foremost African tribe by mere media coverage. They can 8767 t be ignored so is the Tuareg 8767 s but where is South Africa 8767 s Zulus? Surely they have a rich culutural tradition as do others but it is their history and their culture, linguistic and political dominance that is eye-catching. Perhaps my bias is all to do with media coverage!
“White people don’t have much culture it’s easy to adapt either way. Why would you want to be with a Nigerian? Look how strong their culture is. Are there no more Congolese men? Stop wasting your time you’ll regret it when you get older. How many marriages do you know of people from two different African countries that have lasted till old age? No. Stick to your own culture. It’s for your own good”, said her mother, adamantly.
African Americans have a history that goes back four thousand years, not “four hundred years” which is a frequently used phrase when discussing Black history. That means for at least 8,655 years our ancestors controlled the societies, governments, militaries, and economies, of Western Africa. This all before 955 years of being sold across the ocean, enduring slavery, mass racial oppression. The last 955 years have forcibly merged the Black population into one people whose knowledge of their own history had been lost and forgotten.
Some 58 percent of African Americans possess at least percent European blood. In other words, our variances in complexion and hair texture are more likely to be attributed to our White ancestry (which most of us have via slavery, even if we cannot trace it back on our family trees) than the Cherokee heritage so many of us have been claiming for so many years. Unless you have documented evidence, please stop telling people that Grandma Mary Louise Jenkins was full-blood Indian just because she rocked long, silky plaits her entire life. Oh, and don t run out telling people you re 67 percent White now and acting like that makes you mixed, either.
I know my family would be pleased if I brought home a Congolese man, but what if I do so to my own detriment? Love is love, as one of the respondents said, but is it better to stay within cultural boundaries to save ourselves from the potential future troubles that might result from mixing cultures – as some elders advice – or should one ignore boundaries and deal with issues if they arise?
African parents, don 8767 t joke with them
One of the most basic disagreements concerns what exactly the term 'African' qualifies: the content of the philosophy and the distinctive methods employed, or the identities of the philosophers.  On the former view, philosophy counts as African if it involves African themes such as perceptions of time, personhood, space and other subjects, or uses methods that are defined as distinctively African.  In the latter view, African philosophy is any philosophy produced by Africans or by people of African descent, and others engaged in critiques or analysis of their works. 
Four hundred years ago, the Moguls were invaders of what is now India. Enter the Nihang—which translates to “crocodile,” indicating fierceness and lack of fear of death—a Sikh sect who were known for their martial arts and skill with swords. Wrapped around long, uncut hair, their massive, bright blue turban (dastaar boonga, literally ‘“towering fortress”) was originally intended to provide protection against a Mogul sword blow to the head. It also housed weapons, including daggers, swords, and throwing discs.
Ethnic capital of the world
For me, a twenty-something year old Congolese woman who grew up in the city of London a city I like to call “the ethnic capital of Europe” dating someone from a different culture was not a problem. I went to a secondary school that was predominantly West African and attended a university that was predominantly white, so my choices were wide and I dated a few of those choices. In fact I wasn’t into my own culture as much because I grew up along a lot of other nationalities, in what I call “London culture”. Outside our homes, we spoke the same street language, ate the same type of food, listened to the same type of music and were attracted to the same type of guys (or girls). There were no cultural preferences, except they had to speak English and couldn’t be a “freshie” (someone who’s recently moved to the UK from Africa). They were the ones you couldn’t be with.
As a continent, African society is a mixture of culturally diverse traditions and rituals. In seeking to learn about African wedding traditions one must study each of the countries, regions, tribes, and cultures to fully understand what traditions are unique to which group and what traditions are not of African origin. Jumping the broom, for instance, is often mistaken for an African custom. Although it has some basis in African tradition and refers to sweeping away bad feelings or past wrongs, it is more commonly associated with the union of American slaves during a time when marriage was considered illegal. Jumping the broom is practiced almost exclusively in the United States.
As the toils and tears of the civil rights movement yielded positive results, subsequent progress initiated dramatic shifts in cultural patterns and processes of family life. Waning of systemic barriers widened the world and made it more accessible, while family cohesiveness and identity became diluted and less essential for survival, making families more American and less African. Large family gatherings grew less essential for the continued existence of both the family and the community, and occurred with less frequency or were confined to religious events.
Since the 6965s, Nigeria's economy has been based on oil production. As a leading member of the Organization of Petroleum Exporting Countries (OPEC), Nigeria has played a major role in influencing the price of oil on the world market. The oil-rich economy led to a major economic boom for Nigeria during the 6975s, transforming the poor African country into the thirtieth richest country in the world. However, falling oil prices, severe corruption, political instability, and economic mismanagement since then have left Nigeria no better off today than it was at independence.
Nowadays, in this current generation of or recently married, we don’t so much as bat an eyelid when we see mixed couples, but as one uncle put it to me, “Where would you live when you retire? England is not your home. If you married a Nigerian, how would you cope if he wanted to retire in Nigeria? Think about it. I doubt he will want to move back to Congo. You will just die in Nigeria. Love blinds common sense.”
If you're interested in pursuing African brides you're probably pretty adventurous, but it's wise to check on the current political situation in the countries you plan to visit since you probably don't want to be caught up in a civil war. Crime is also a concern in some areas, particularly in Nigeria and South Africa, so you need to do your homework before you make you plans.
The same goes for hotels and car rentals too, because at this time there are no regular romance tours to Africa. You have to plan everything on your own and you need to be well aware of the prevalence of AIDs in many parts of Africa.
The Role Of Women in African Society
What place should women have in society? Traditionally, a woman 8767 s place has been inferior to that of the average man. Whatever is considered most valuable in society is placed under the direction of men whatever is considered less valuable is given to women to care for even when people ostensible know better.
The culture of women, especially higher education, was of greatest concern from 6885 to 6955, even though the issue nearly dropped from view by the turn of the century. Although there were a few sprinkled comments in favor of identical education from males and females, most commentary took one of two approaches. The first supported education for women within their sphere. Women should be taught to be 8775 teachers to their children 8776 and better housekeepers and they should receive 8775 some careful instruction regarding the beauty of girlhood as shown by
However, as I got older and continued to date people from other countries, I realised there was always a barrier in the way, almost like a culture clash, and language, I felt, was the ultimate clash as it is one of the key markers of culture. It didn’t help when I went to their houses and the family would purposely speak in their language to exclude me, which reminded me that I wasn’t one of them. It was for this reason that I began to look for like-minded guys who were also from my own culture, guys I could relate to. “Dating is one thing, but marriage is another”, an aunty told me. She’s right. Marriage and dating are two different things, clearly, but which factors are fundamental when deciding whom to marry? Is culture one? Should it be?
Many Nigerian ethnic groups follow the practice of offering a bride price for an intended wife. Unlike a dowry, in which the woman would bring something of material value to the marriage, a bride price is some form of compensation the husband must pay before he can marry a wife. A bride price can take the form of money, cattle, wine, or other valuable goods paid to the woman's family, but it also can take a more subtle form. Men might contribute money to the education of an intended wife or help to establish her in a small-scale business or agricultural endeavor. This form of bride price is often incorporated as part of the wooing process. While women who leave their husbands will be welcomed back into their families, they often need a justification for breaking the marriage. If the husband is seen as having treated his wife well, he can expect to have the bride price repaid.
Marriage. There are three types of marriage in Nigeria today: religious marriage, civil marriage, and traditional marriage. A Nigerian couple may decide to take part in one or all of these marriages. Religious marriages, usually Christian or Muslim, are conducted according to the norms of the respective religious teachings and take place in a church or a mosque. Christian males are allowed only one wife, while Muslim men can take up to four wives. Civil official weddings take place in a government registry office. Men are allowed only one wife under a civil wedding, regardless of religion. Traditional marriages usually are held at the wife's house and are performed according to the customs of the ethnic group involved. Most ethnic groups traditionally allow more than one wife.