Posted: 2017-11-01 08:58
Thanks and I hope you find what you re looking for in therapy and things work out well for you. I guess I just don t understand the concept of liking myself. It s not like every time I think of myself I get this huge hate. More like that I just respond to you need to like yourself more with why? I genuinely don t see a reason to. I can understand I have certain things going for me and I m not living in hell right now. And that people have far worse things going on. I helped a friend with no money get some food last week. Believe me I know people have things worse than me.
5. While I 8767 m on the subject, I 8767 m going to add another crucial lesson learned both from real life and from the movie men want to feel that they have the pure love of a woman who wants them for who they are and not for what they have. No matter how much Rhett wanted Scarlett, he made sure he had her when she didn 8767 t need his money. Only then did he willingly shower her with a lavish lifestyle. Having money of her own, he could prove she wasn 8767 t sticking to him just because of financial need.
So met this girl online (moved to a new city, don 8767 t have people to chill with to meet girls). So we talk last week online, hit it off, exchange numbers etc..we go for dinner two days ago. It goes great (though at the end her friend finishes work, and stops for a glass of wine but leaves afterwards). End of the night I walk her to her door and she asks 8775 So are we going to do this again? 8776 and I then kiss her and say 8775 absolutely 8776 (smooth Tom, smooth). While I was driving back home, she text me saying she had a really good night and texts me a pic of the single rose by her bed that I gave her (I 8767 m not a sucker to give a bouquet and the rose was a fiery orange, not red).
I 8767 m gonna try to end this is fast as possible. So the next day (which was suppose to be the day we were suppose to go to my place) she was hungover and slept all day so it couldn 8767 t happen and ever since then I can 8767 t seem to get a conversation going with her, nothing. We texted a little bit that day but nothing major, so I sent her a text the next day, nothing, and today I sent her a text which resulted in 8 texts total. She used to text me all the time, used tones of smileys, she seemed really interested in the conversations, and now she wont even talk to me. I know she wants to be friend cause in person she acts like she really likes me. You have any idea whats going on here, because I 8767 m clueless. I really do care about this girl but I don 8767 t know how I 8767 m going to explain my feelings and be completely honest with her, without her feeling extremely awkward.
Just an observation, I think the fetishising of Swedish women or any other ethnic women is unhealthy. Too me, a preoccupation with a certain ethnicity debases the women or men from your own culture and possibly indicates an inferiority complex. There are beautiful women or handsome men to be found in every country although you might have to look a little harder in some. It seems some of the posters on here are interested in visiting Sweden not for the culture or scenery but for casual sex and hooking up
I m fine with the idea of not dating certain people because of their height, but throwing a fit about it after going out for a while is just beyond moronic. I ve dated several women taller than me, and I never had an issue with them being in heels. Granted, the height difference was never more than an inch or two, but if anything I d argue that made the extra heel height more significant.
I enjoyed your perspective on what a man needs from a woman definitely a game changer Inspiring. Thank you. I like your view on letting him know he is winning! My POV inspire him to know he is doing his best and encourage him and be that positive woman that he has put his time, effort and energy into winning. Do this because you truly want him and see that added happiness with him.
How did I do with understanding? I would like your feedback. I want to know that I am understanding where you are coming from.
Talking to a friend of mine recently who lived in Sweden. He said sex is easy to find, but love is not.
Apparently if you meet a women in a bar, if the conversation is going well after a few drinks, it 8767 s perfectly fine to say 8766 you 8767 re cute, let 8767 s go back to my place. 8767 I 8767 m told they prefer that instead of, 8775 let me get your number, or let 8767 s have dinner sometime. 8776 I wouldn 8767 t be that up front with an American women due to the inherent 8775 I 8767 m not a slut 8776 mechanism developed from our Puritan ancestors. But with a Swedish woman, should I be that forward? I 8767 m going out with a Swede tomorrow, who 8767 s visiting the states for a few months, and I 8767 m simply looking for something casual.
So what do I mean by 8775 good person? 8776 I mean a woman who is warm, loving, giving, caring, nurturing, and affectionate towards others. A woman who has empathy for everyone around her. A woman who isn 8767 t full of bitterness and negativity towards other people. Now, being nice does not necessarily mean being a doormat. Notice that I still said having boundaries was important. But sweetness and warmth are important because they are so missing from a guy 8767 s life without a woman. None of his guy friends are outwardly sweet and warm. He wants that from you.
In Sweden, which is one of the most modern, equal and secular societies in the world, it`s more socialy accepted and not frowned upon that swedish women socialize with foreign men. This is something swedish women has embraced and is also a sign of freedom from predjudice and norms. Something that you can`t say about most countries in the world. In the of A you still talk about 8775 interracial couples 8776 and 8775 racemixing 8776 , but it`s the same in the East when they talk about 8775 bloodlines 8776 .
I have a problem with my have dated for 7months and he hasn 8767 t given me one I got pregnant for him he told me he wasn 8767 t doest call me,it takes like 9days b9 he calls hasn 8767 t said the three words 8775 I love u 8776 he jus gives me excuse that he has been dumped three times and he is scared and all give him my time even wen he was sick I took care of always cook for him and take care of him but he doesn 8767 t show me quarrel most times and doesn 8767 t even travels almost every what do I do
In that case I apologise, I 8767 d forgotten I 8767 d made the comment about OLD as, for whatever reason, it isn 8767 t appearing on my screen. For what its worth I stand by that comment 655%. The sooner online dating is no longer pitched as some great alternative to meeting people the old fashioned face to face way, the better. Fake profiles, people on there simply to feed their ego by getting compliments, zombie profiles, catfish accounts they serve only as an experiment in how to create a socially accepted get rich quick scheme for their creators. At least apps like Tinder are unashamedly honest about their intentions.
Hey thanks for this! I 8767 ve been 6 8797 since I was 69. My negative name in High School was 8775 Big Foot 8776 having size 66 feet. Once I got out of High School it became Amazon. Which I don 8767 t mind. I have a thicker build as well (broad shoulders and big rib cage etc..). But I get nothing but positive comments anymore. I 8767 m asked all the time if I 8767 m a model which I take as a compliment! I do not wear heals, mostly because I have no balance whatsoever xD
The comments that do annoy me are ones about sports and such :P
It 8767 s nice not feeling quite so alone in this giant mushroom field! )
They are absolutely right. I 8767 ve lived here for almost 75 years, and Swedish women are without passion, *completely* lost in bed, they really don 8767 t understand men (or themselves), and in the end you realize that most of the women bore you to no end. I 8767 ve never been dumped by a Swedish woman they love the energy and life that foreigners have, but have none of their own to contribute.
Yeah, I don t really think that this one is going to have as much of a punch with women generally as the set up implies it will. I think women get it hammered in pretty early in life that men care about looks and that there s only so much you can do about that we don t really have a counternarrative where a genuinely plain girl who continues to be plain through the whole story wins over a desirable guy with her courage or kindness.
My experiences with the middle are fun. Part of my job involves me going door to door. The most interesting encounters are with 6 8767 s. They tend to be the most paranoid. I think they 8767 re fantasizing in a sense, if you catch my drift. Had one clutching a panic button at me, as she told me to come back when her husband was home. The 8s and up? They don 8767 t care, don 8767 t really fret about much. Had a few answer the door in clothing that leaves little to the imagination.
Now, to answer to lady IM here, I read in Man are from Mars, Women are from Venus, by John Gray, he says in one of the chapters that women do tend to make the mistake of ask a lot of questions to the guy they are on a date with waiting for him to ask her back about her in return. But that it actually does not work like that with men. They will most likely not ask you back, but instead they will just keep talking about themselves.
Honestly, I m less than convinced that attraction and charisma are the same thing or related but if you are short and you ve noticed it s a problem for you, the advice of developing presence is good. It s not magic but you may as well work on it. Drama classes might be a good idea. Regardless of what I think is and isn t a barrier for me in my own life, I know my training in amateur and professional theatre helps me in life. I am not the dancing monkey but I know how to perform. I have a good sense of humour (I ve written other people s stand up routines and a comic play) and have been described as being witty and having a quick wit. It doesn t do what I d perhaps like it to but these qualities do at least help me make friends with people and open up the social circle a bit.
It is a red herring to say that some women behave badly and don 8767 t deserve a good man. Well, duh!!! It is not reasonable to expect all women to be perfect. If someone behaves badly, then deal with it appropriately. Don 8767 t seize on it triumphantly as your big excuse. There are plenty of good women out there, of all different kinds including feminists. Women are allowed to be complicated and mysterious. Sometimes a local culture can be screwed up. If so, maybe it 8767 s time for a change of scene.
Sadly I recognise some of this in myself and also recognise it as insecure and though I appreciate it is not easy for a woman, it is not easy for me (us) either is there anything I can do to help this? To stop myself?
Often it is because of an emotionally distructive childhood . being told regularly of being stupid or rejected, being compared infavourably to others on a regular basis for example I was by my brother at 68 and he was the 8766 poor dear lad 8767 .