Posted: 2017-11-21 05:18
We could term this "hypergamy" as some commentators do.. which makes the females sound quite like lab rats and gives the (male) commentator a horrendous, vile, disembodied ocularity, but that's not my deal at all. I know that females are smart, informed, and selective, and have strong capacity - in most places, thankfully - to exercise choice about mating habits. Females also possess very strong sex drives and know how to get what they need and want, whether it coincides with the NiceGuy/bf/hubby or - often - not.
I ve noticed that I feel a lot of this when I m going through depression. Like, even if I wanted to go put in effort to find someone to date, what would they find likeable? Or, of course X broke up with me, because I am all kinds of terrible. And when that happens, it is REALLY, REALLY HARD to not think those things all the time. And having external encouragement is often not effective when I get to this point. These are the times when I have to go to my therapist and really open these thoughts up, and think, well, hmm, is this stuff actually true? One of the things I think that keeps me from completely losing my shit, no matter how poorly I feel about my appearance, or my career failures, or my whatever, knowing that underneath that, I still want to be a good person who does good things (ideally for other people, but one step at a time), even if I am not doing a great job of it at the time.
Short men who are successful have no problem at all finding a good woman once they broaden their horizon and date women in other countries and cultures. Mostly fat women whine about their situation. Men short, tall or whatever simply adjust to the situation and deal with it.
I men who just happen to be short, to know how to deal with predjudice people like you in the work place, that is my point. You showed your ignorance again by posting some crap from a website which was just someone 8767 s predjudice opinion. What I posted has true research to back it up. Napoleon complex is a myth.
To answer the first question, a bit of both. On the odd occasion I 8767 d find a second wind (or a guess a third or fourth) and send some messages, the only ones that got replies were from people who made it a requirement that you have a photo online so it would automatically add them to the start of the message. I remember a couple that were a fairly polite 8775 I think we 8767 re looking for different things 8776 and the like but it was mostly abuse centred around my appearance in the photographs. The one that springs to mind immediately and I 8767 ll self-censor it as I 8767 m not quite sure what the language rules are on here was along the lines of:
I m not sure as a tall guy (well, just above average height really but I ll say tall as it s rare to find a woman taller than me) I could carry off the I am the beast attitude. I got bullied a lot for things other than my height and it never made me want to compensate for that by acting like I owned the universe. I ve tried pretending to be like that and it just seems false and not based on anything real. I m genuinely happy if people can pull it off in a respectful way and get somewhere with. It s just it seems a foreign concept to me. How do you get from being bullied and put down to I own the universe/I m the beast.
Setting all that aside, there s all sorts of mixers and meet-ups in the tech industry and especially in the Bay Area that even without online dating options there s so many things to do that are based around meeting people, including singles only meet-ups and singles adventure clubs based around getting single people together that I just don t buy the idea that there s just no women to be found.
The study explained this had an evolutionary advantage. Because for all the hundreds of women out of your league who say no, you might get one yes. And then you have access to really attractive genetic material. But the faulty cognition is passed down to your offspring who also keep chasing women they haven't a hope with, and getting annoyed when they receive the obvious refusal, and so the cycle continues.
I am currently talking to a guy that I have met online and I do not know whether I should date other people or not. I really like him. We have been talking on the phone for the past two months and have been on four dates for the past month. We have even kissed a couple of times and he always gives me compliments. (Of course, no sex as yet :-) )He also calls me almost everyday and we have a good connection. He is also very respectful and a gentleman. However, I do not know whether I should ask him if he is ready for a commitment or advise.
I think your way too beautiful a woman to be waiting around for a text or call from a man.
Why don 8767 t you go for some fun? Like planning a summer adventure with friends: http:///7566/56/like-a-kid-again/ I
actually really like this guy right now. I 8767 m planning lots of fun things to do. If it doesn 8767 t work out with him, I 8767 m out and about meeting new people.
If you 8767 re following the Bitch Rules, you 8767 re out there doing the stuff you want to do with the people you care about. Always, boyfriend or not. Does
that make sense?
“I learned that sometimes, telling a man what you are going to do to them turns them on a lot quicker than actually being there with them. I work in a office and what really gets men going is if I wear no knickers into work and send some up skirts shots of my pussy to them from under my work desk. I think a lot of men have fantasy about being able to crawl under a table and have a peek up womens skirts so why not let then do it through their phones.
Hello godess i meat this guy about a year ago at my cousins wedding he was so into to me then i went back home and he traveled back ( we both live in different countries) he took my number and we started texting every single day for six months then suddenly he stopped i called and i find out hes talking to his just recently we start talking again and i dont know what to do to make him care like he did at first i dont know how to treat him he sometimes start talkin. And he shows that he cares and sometimes i dont know what to do please help i really need it besides the fact that im home atudying at the moment so there is nothing to take my mind off him :(:(
It s not about coping and getting through life. You can do that in far worse situations than you are in currently (as you ve already said). It s about being able to not constantly being exhausted and doing battle with yourself. It s about a level of contentment. Now, it can also add to frustration. I m at a place with my self love where I get SO ANGRY that I am not more successful because I think I m awesome 🙂. But it s nice to just sit on a calm day and go, Yeah, I like who I am. I m a good person. It s... freeing.
Thanks for asking me your question. It doesn 8767 t sound to me like you WANT a guy who sends mixed messages. That 8767 s very smart. It also sounds like you don 8767 t want
a guy that pushes your buttons by trying to make you jealous with other women. Another smart thing about you. So maybe you write a list of things you want in a man.
You 8767 ve already got two very good things you want in a man, yes? Love, Goddess
Love, love, love this article! Every do & don t is spot on. As a veteran online dater, I ve tried I practice all of these and find that when I do, it certainly weeds out the players.
The only thing I would add is this:
If a person deletes their ad immediately after the first or second date, be very wary and proceed with caution. This could have been done to give the illusion that you re so special, they have no interest in anyone but you. One can t possibly know this after one or two dates.
The other reason the ad was deleted so fast, is they have several on a string already, and have plenty of options to keep them busy for a while. If there s one- there could be ten.
I learned this from very recent personal experience, unfortunately.
Dude you re a Silicon Valley engineer. You re like the elite of the elite. You can afford to live where you do, which presumes some degree of career stability you seem to enjoy what you do (like I said, I perused your page) and I happen to know your company is practically literally swimming in gorgeous women, in product developing & marketing and legal as well as in the more technical departments.
Before you start, let me forestall the inevitable 8775 Great, so you don 8767 t have to be hot, you just have to be powerful/rich/more talented than God 8776 . There is far more to attraction than looks though they help or being in the rarified 6% of money, talent or fame. I have friends who aren 8767 t conventionally attractive, aren 8767 t especially rich and are certainly not powerful and yet have amazing girlfriends and wives. Why? Because they have lives. They have passion in their life and know how to convey it. They have the confidence and more importantly, balls. They can make women laugh, feel special without putting them on a pedestal and yet not come across as needy. And they 8767 re not the only ones out there.
I have a friend from high school (I think I mentioned her in a post about associating with assholes) who is such a jerk to anyone but me that I refuse to go out in public with her. She is also bitter, angry, morose and resentful with cause, but she will not let it go. At this point I am her primary social contact, but I just cannot handle her for more than 7-8 hours once a month. She has positive qualities, of course, but the rest of it makes time with her enervating.
SO much of the negativity surrounding height being an issue is internal. Most of it is not coming from women, it s coming from men. It s coming from the patriarchal bullshit that says Man must be bigger/protector. Internalizing that to the point that it comes into every conversation, and that it is the only thing someone thinks about is a choice. Daniel Radcliffe is a sex symbol and he s WELL below average height at 5 5. RDJ is 5 8, Josh Hutcherson is 5 8 , Dave Franco, Jon Stewart, Seth Green, Michael J Fox, Martin Freeman, Elijah Wood, Emile Hirsch, Dominic Monaghan, Niall from 6D, Joe Dempsie from GoT, James McAvoy ALL SHORTER THAN AVERAGE.
Emotions are complex beasts, but the idea that being short is this thing that it is okay to be bitter and angry about is asinine.
I work for a large company and ended up hanging out with a coworker (in a different department) who I eventually had sex with. The kicker, though, is that I’ve never been incredibly into “dating” her. We talked about sex from the beginning and we finally crossed that line. Since then we’ve had sex maybe 65 to 65 times (all of them pretty fantastic by the way), but I can tell that she is leaning toward wanting more. She uses pet names and I don’t. We have only hung out at our apartments—we don’t hang out at work at all—and we’ve never gone on a date. I’ve brought her Starbucks twice… and that’s the extent of it.
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