Posted: 2017-10-12 11:58
I have a few concerns and i need to know if my gut instinct is telling me the right thing, before someone i care for ends up seerioulsy hurt or scammed for money she doesn’t have. My sister has been speaking with a guy who is in the army and is apparently a sargent. He has been telling her that he will be coming to see her when he can get a leave. Also, she should be getting a verification number shortly from the base , and then she will be gettting his leave money as he has put her down as his next of kin. this money will not be in a cheque form as the army has to be careful of fraud. therefore they will be using western union for the transaction. I have tried to tell my sister this all sounds like a hoax, but she is falling for this MIKE guy fast. He apparently has 7 children who attend a boarding school. I can not for the life of me , see how this so called sargent would want to give up his life long ambition in the army to be the boyfriend of a woman who he has never personally met. Do you have any insight to this concern. if my thoughts are true, how do i break this news to her.
Look forward to hearing from you SOON.
Well Bobbie, what can I say, I am an intelligent, humorous, reasonably attractive and apparently very sexy British woman of 59. I was single (that means no dates, hugs or kisses let alone sex) for about 75yrs, the longer I went without the less I seemed to want any, then finally I realised I didn 8767 t have 8766 plenty of time 8767 and now I 8767 m panicking trying to find 8766 love 8767 . I 8767 ve searched for 5yrs now, and just had 8766 fun 8767 not 8766 happiness 8767 . Reading your article has made so much sense, I suspected I had got stuck as an 68yr old dating wise, but to see I am also ALL of the above was quite a shock, just having these types confirmed is an eye opener. I look forward to reading more on your site, and hopefully being helped too. I have a date tomorrow so thank you, I already know more today than I did yesterday : )
Impostor scams can flourish wherever the Internet exists (Eastern Europe and Russia are also hot spots), but most dating fraud originates in Nigeria and Ghana, or in countries such as Malaysia and the ., which have large communities of West African expatriates. In fast-developing parts of the world with high unemployment, a large percentage of English-speaking men, and a postcolonial legacy of political instability and corruption, playing the 969 game can be a tempting way out.
I 8767 m 6 8767 9 8798 and used to be on the college swim team. I have worked as a male model a few times. I 8767 m not ugly in other words. Is it because I 8776 m good looking and CHOOSE to be with an older woman that these chicks act like total b*itches to me and my partner? WTF is wrong some of you? What business is it of yours what other people do or feel? It 8767 s not. Grow up already. I mean, if you 8767 re 69 and you 8767 re still acting like you 8767 re 69 you 8767 ve got a problem, not the people around you.
So my “advice” back to me, if I may, is to please STOP with the dismissive, totally inaccurate and insulting myth that women only going after “bad guys” or assholes. I’m so done with this diatribe of excuses, denial and lack of accountability from men. And, for the love of God, please STOP saying “nice guys finish last.” This infuriates and frustrates me the most. I cannot speak for all women nor would I claim to,, but I know enough of us sufficient to go out on a limb here and say the following with measured confidence: if you asked ANY WOMAN whether they would prefer to date an a**hole or “bad boy” who treats them like crap (and/or has money, drives a nice car, whatever it is you guys are always saying) - over a “nice guy” who they click with, have a lot in common with and treats them with respect, I would wager my life savings that less than 6% would honestly say they prefer the former to the latter. And they would not be lying about that, either.
IT REALY AMAZING TO HEAR THAT SO MANY MEN ARE DATING OLDER WOMAN AND MINE IS NOT AN 85 AND HE IS 77 AND MOST OF THE ABOVE AGE MENTIONIS IS IN THIS RANGE. ANYWAY THIS MEN CANOT LEAVE IF HE DOES NOT SEE ME FOR ONE MAKE SURE HE WILL CALL AND CHECK ON THOUGHT THAT NO BODY LIKES ME CAUSE I FEEL I WAS UGLY AND HE IS SO HANDSOME ,HE GOES TO THE SALON FOR FACIAL HAVE NICE INDIAN HAIR AND ME I HAVE AFRICAN LOVE ME LIKE CRAZY AND HE EVEN TALKIN OF MOVING TO MY COUNTRY AND WE WILL GET MARRIED AND HE WILL BE THE FATHER OF MY 7ND THING IS HE IS ALREADY MARRIED BUT NOW HE IS PLANING TO GET A DIVORCE JUST TO BE WITH ME ,I TOLD HIM JUST DONT DO SOMETHING THAT HE WILL FEEL GUILTY TOMORROW BUT I REAL FALLIN FOR HIM AND HE MAKE ME FEEL SO GOOD. TILL NOW WE HAVE BEEN KISSIN ONLY AND I CAN WAIT TO HAVE HIM ON THE BED CAUSE HE IS FULL WITH ENERGY AND ME I HAVE LOTS OF SINCERLY HOPE THAT THING WORK OUT FOR THE BEST.
Thank you so much Mirror for your thoughts about the 78 year old guy. You always give me this feeling like the calm eye in a storm.
I was feeling all over the place - lots of emotions. Thankfully not of the I miss him so much and need to reach out kind, but of the WTF this guy seems so nice and awesome, but why do I feel pressured and stressed out like I m being cornered?
I see it for what it is - and he is likely pushing too fast and acting improperly due to his age and wanting to hook up (perhaps it works on girls who are spontaneous).
I ve decided to lay back and see if he ll re-read what he wrote and hopefully come to the conclusion that he scared me away. But no expectations, guys like him will probably take him many more years to learn if it ever happens, LOL.
(As a quick aside ot all men on this point- STOP STOP STOP saying we only care about what you “do for a living” or “how much money you make”, car you drive, etc. Just STOP. 9 times out of 65 it is men who tell me within 85 minutes of meeting me that they drive a Mercedes or go on and on bragging about their big shot career without ever asking me a anything about me. Also, “nice guys” (whatever you mean by that) do not always finish last. What you are referring to as a “nice guy” is not the same thing, I think. If a woman says a guy was “too nice” – she means he was a pushover or did not have any opinions of his own or motivation or aspirations, etc. There’s a difference. A true nice guy, in our minds is a man who treats us with mutual respect, And those guys are cherished and sought after, not overlooked. Perhapps there is a reason to ask if those self-proclaimed “nice guys” out there are not as “nice” as you think you are? Or, if you are, maybe you are not allowing that to shine through in your profile somehow? Just a thought. Please get it straight, please).
Nature didn''t takes it''s course as it did over years for us to connect over a wire. That just doesn''t work, period. She can be however interested if you got a smooth talk and decent pictures. Most of the time a woman is not self aware of what she wants and gets bored with the chat because they thrive on emotion, unlike us men. But in the end you need to be your own man in the real world and become the best version of yourself. Attraction is not a conscious choice, meaning a women can''t control to who she is attracted to. Just take care of yourself, read self improvement books. Go buy "Mind lines" from Michael Hall and educate yourself to create a healthy view of the world and stay away from negative news and media.
For me the challenges I face are wanting children of my own and finding where I fit with hers the age old debate of blended families. She has two children. One 68 and the other 69. She had a tubal ligation performed after her last child [which she regrets as she was only 77]. I have no children, but it 8767 s something I strongly desire. I want a family, but most importantly, I want it with her. She feels much the same way.
If you 8767 re here because I sent you a message then..Congratulations! You 8767 ve been selected! Now continue reading since I know I only have another 5 seconds to hold your attention. I 8767 m extremely wealthy, I own a mansion up on a cliff that over looks the Pacific Ocean on the West Coast of California that has the most incredible sunset you 8767 d ever lay eyes !! Come on now,You don 8767 t wanna hear what I have or don 8767 t have!
I want to approach women in the real world, but I get in my own way as a shy nerdy introvert who has a roommate (read, doesn''t have a private place to take a girl back to, if they were so inclined). It''s a lie that there''s someone out there for everyone. After all, if that were true, there wouldn''t be so many lonely people out there. Guess I need to just drop the sites and focus on trying to make myself happy in life without romance.
I honestly think a lot of the problem has to do the massive amount of attention the women receive. They might claim everyone on there is "creepy," but I think the problem lies more with the fact that they receive so much constant attention, that those of us who are decent just simply get lost in the shuffle. The girls I work with use online dating basically describe it like looking through a catalog. They constantly get bombarded with messages, they quickly glance at the profile, make a quick (often shallow) judgment, and then move on to the next one. Some have been on the site for several years now and I feel that the more attention they receive, the more unrealistic their standards become. It reaches a point where I''m not sure that ANY guy is good enough for what these women are looking for.
Until the term catfishing crept into the vernacular, love affairs with digital impostors were little-known phenomena. The term comes from the 7565 documentary film Catfish , about a man with a girlfriend who, we learn, does not exist it later inspired an MTV series. Pretending to be someone else online is a social media parlor game among some people. But Amy had never seen the show or heard the term she had no idea the practice was so common.
Now, we ve been living our own little flat (rented!). With each day, I love and respect him more and as I ve gradually got to know the different aspects of his personality, I ve found that he is far more balanced and mature than any man I ve ever been with! We do look like an odd couple though, as I m now nearly 86 yrs and 5 6 tall, he s nearly 78 yrs and 6 6 tall! His friends and family are all amazing too, and really go out of their way to make me feel comfortable and welcome.
Dear Crossroads: I can relate to your reply! I am 86 years old and was dating a man at the age of 78 for two years. I am also divorce and have two kids. We recently ended it due to the age difference. Or is it the age difference? I feel I needed to let him go and venture out life. The toughest part was that I miss him dearly. We did practically everything with him. I don 8767 t think I will ever find someone like him again. I am glad to hear that there are others out there that are familiar with my situation.
Wonderful website!!! I absolutely never would have tought that so many guys would date older women. I was divorced several years ago and for 8 years never dated at all but many times guys much would want dates which I laughed off. After rethinking about dating the men, I acceped and have been dating these guys for about 6 years. I am 56 but everyone says I dont look past 95. I will never remarry but I am having such a fun time dating! I never knew that sex could be so amazing,my last guy (age 79) picked me completely up and carried me to the bed. My heart was beating so fast I thought I would explode! I fully agree with another post on here, if an older woman is asked by a much guy, then BY ALL MEANS, be with him! One man that I dated was 79 years old when I was 59 and his mother and I became very close. She urged us to marry but it was just not in the have no intention of giving up dating the men, I love pleasing them!!
I am currently on Tinder, and have been for about a month. All of the messages I have received from men have been respectful so far. I''m not sure why, but I''m guessing it has something to do with how I wrote my profile, as well as the pictures I chose to show. My profile is pretty straight forward, without being bitchy. My pictures are tasteful, and there are also some that show I am pretty jacked. I swear that after I have become more buff, men have gotten a ton more respectful. Ridiculous, but true. And no, I don''t think I''m special because I''m fit, it is just a physicality.
I think be reading the comments here on what women want, one can easily tell why men aren''t getting what THEY want. It''s always funny to see men saying what women really want and what we really think, and with such confidence! Oh, the laughs. Men, you can thank your fellow dudes here for spending too much time in pick-up artist forums, and tainting the dating pool so heavily with these wildly inaccurate childish perspectives they learn from other creepy men. Please do not blame women, for if you had to read dozens of messages from guys in the Red Pill community, who sound more and more like Elliot Rodgers the longer they remain single, you''d probably bow out of dealing with it after too long as well.
The underlying issue here is that it’s way easier to maintain a façade online versus in real life, so you can easily be led to believe that the person you’re messaging is the One (or at least, the One-for-the-Week). And if they turn out to be a huge letdown when you finally meet, you’ve built them up so much in your own mind that you have no problem lying to yourself and justifying how amazing they apparently are. And so, you hook up with someone your rational mind would’ve scoffed at if the rest of your brain hadn’t dumped it by the wayside 75 messages ago.