Posted: 2017-10-29 13:26
Everyone else I know seems to be having the opposite problem and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong? Or what I’m doing to attract guys like that even with my many warnings. The guys that are more willing to just hook up are usually pretty gross, and not my type at all if I’m being completely honest here. I’ve even tried guys that are single dads or super busy with work in the hopes that they’d be to busy to get on my case, but that’s a no go.
What shocked me the most was when she asked if it was because of someone else - specifically, if it was because of Tanya. Jenny had been cheated on by previous partners, and it made her anxious and constantly afraid of it happening again. She knew Tanya and I texted often, and on the few occasions we did see each other, Jenny could sense Tanya was into me even when I couldn’t at the time. She did not mention any of this to me prior to this day, for fear she would seem paranoid, which I understand. I confirmed to Jenny that I have not cheated on her, and it’s just about how I feel about her, and no one else.
Over the first years My Chemical Romance played, Way drank alcohol heavily to mask his extreme stage fright. During the writing and recording of The Black Parade at the allegedly haunted Paramour Mansion, Way suffered severely as a result of depression, alcoholism, and the atmosphere at the Mansion. As he revealed in an interview with Kerrang! : "that house had just excavated everything in my head and made everything a million times worse[.] I was really close [to suicide]. I know that I was going to leave the band or maybe just leave planet Earth altogether". He eventually left Paramour to get psychological help, and stayed with close friend and band lawyer Stacy Fass, who he said "saved my life". 
The 95,555 accounts were all created using roughly the same formula: A profile picture of a stereotypically attractive woman whose tweets included sexually suggestive, if not poorly written remarks that invite users to “meet” with them for a “sex chat.” Millions of users apparently fell for the ruse and, presumably, a small fraction of went on to provide their payment card information to the pornographic websites they were lured to.
The dilemma you’re facing here isn’t unique. I’ve lost track of the number of people I’ve seen on both sides of the break-up who either used the “you broke my heart” bit on someone or had it used against them. And make no mistake: it’s a way of controlling one’s ex by setting the terms of the break-up. You aren’t “allowed” to do something because she’s been hurt like this before and how could you do it to her again you were so special etc.
If I’m upfront about my not wanting something serious and my inability to fall in love, is it then their problem if they continue to harbor delusions of being “the one” that can change me? I get it, I thought I was in love many times before, before I realized it was the constant sex and offerings of food that kept me. So I know feelings can be confusing, but I also really want to get laid consistently with someone I can trust.
If it’s the latter… well shit dude, there’s nothing that I can say that’s going to fix this for you. Your only Hail-Mary pass here is your study partner B. If — if — your wife were willing to hear it from the supposed other woman that nothing happened, she might be more willing to believe you. But ask your wife before you say word one about this. Maybe she’ll take B’s word for it. Maybe she won’t. But I wouldn’t risk it unless your wife is actually willing to listen and won’t just get even more pissed that you brought the woman you “betrayed” her with back into the picture.
So, what’s going on here?
Well, part of it is cultural. Even in this day and age, guys still don’t believe that women might just want to bang like men do. It’s taken as holy writ that women catch feelings like we catch colds and that regular banging will eventually lead to commitment because a woman who just likes to fuck? Well, there has to be something wrong with her. And let’s be honest: some dudes see a woman who says “No, I just want no-strings sex,” and hear “IT’S A TRAP!”
You didn’t cheat. But being sneaky — and previous bad behavior— means that you hurt your wife, and deeper than you may have realized. You’ve fucked the pooch and unless you’re going to slingshot around the sun at warp speed, there ain’t no un-fucking it. All that’s left to you is to try to get through this and heal the rift that you inadvertently created.
Your next move depends entirely on your wife. Is she the type to explode at first but settle down and listen to reason afterwards? Or did you manage to trigger the End-Of-Marriage countdown and it’s just a matter of time before lawyers get involved?
Very recently I broke up with my girlfriend of six months, Jenny (not her real name). Jenny is a wonderful person and we’ve become close, but I knew she was in love with me, while I didn’t feel the same way and could not foresee a strong romantic future with her, feeling more like we would work better as friends. After deciding I needed to break up with her, I possibly made a mistake of waiting a couple weeks to actually do it so that it happened after her birthday and after she finished some stressful school projects. Meanwhile, I have a friend, Tanya (not her real name). Tanya and I met while working professionally on a freelance project, and we subsequently became friends almost exclusively through text, seeing each other (never alone) maybe three times since we finished the project months ago.
In a 7565 interview with American Music Press , Way was asked about the "number one thing [My Chemical Romance] has done for [him]": "It’s changed me a great deal, it’s made me not be such a defeatist about things, to be more confident in myself, it taught me to constantly create, and constantly evolve. It gave me the power to be the best version of me, any day. I think for that I am eternally grateful". 
It was known that Way spent Christmas with his wife Alicia and their families, and Sarah posted pictures of her engagement ring on Instagram the week after Christmas, so it was concluded that an affair was taking place. Evidence to support this included various tweets from in-law Lindsey "LynZ" Way which she later deleted, Alicia Way tweeting that she was "devastated" and then making her twitter private, and screen caps of certain posts on the Tumblr page . There were rumors circulating beforehand that Mikey and Alicia had had, or had been contemplating a divorce or a separation long before this reached Tumblr, and so it is unclear whether "affair" is an accurate term to describe the scandal however, it is clear by Lindsey and Alicia''s tweets that some sort of shock and betrayal had occurred. Way has yet to comment as of January 86.
If it’s the former, then you still have a chance. The first thing I’d suggest is couple’s counseling. Not only would a neutral third party possibly help mediate things, but they may be able to give you the vocabulary and communication skills to navigate this crisis. Of course, while you’re at it, you need some work on disclosure, openness and how to not act like a cheater. Not to mention, y’know, breaking your habit of checking out other women in front of your wife.
Being in this band for the past 67 years has been a true blessing. We''ve gotten to go places we never knew we would. We''ve been able to see and experience things we never imagined possible. We''ve shared the stage with people we admire, people we look up to, and best of all, our friends. And now, like all great things, it has come time for it to end. Thanks for all of your support, and for being part of the adventure. —My Chemical Romance
Before we get too deep into what you should do, FBS, I want to talk a little about the concept of The Friend Zone, which is where you seem to be with your gym bro.
More specifically: there’s no such thing as The Friend Zone. The Friend Zone is simply people who just don’t want to fuck you, for whatever reason. It may be that they’re not interested in you, sexually or romantically. It may be that they’re not in a place where they feel like being sexual with anyone. They may well have been up for it at one time, but that time has passed and now that interest has passed.
Because otherwise I would feel tempted to just rush into her arms, I talked to Tanya, especially since very recently through text she has been flirty, while I’ve been giving her a lot of mixed signals. I explained to her that although originally I intended to ask her out after some time passed, Jenny’s visceral reaction to the idea of us dating has given me pause, and even though we both want to date, I would need more time to decide what I think is right. Tanya understood, thankfully, so I have more time to figure it out and gauge how my ex is processing everything.
" Vampires Will Never Hurt You "
" Honey, This Mirror Isn''t Big Enough for the Two of Us " • " Headfirst for Halos "
" I''m Not Okay (I Promise) " • " Thank You for the Venom " • " Helena "
" Under Pressure " (with The Used ) • " The Ghost Of You "
" Welcome to the Black Parade " • " Famous Last Words " • " I Don''t Love You "
" Teenagers " • " Desolation Row " • " Na Na Na (Na Na Na Na Na Na Na Na Na) "
" The Only Hope for Me Is You " • " SING "
The key to avoiding The Friend Zone (if we’re going to have to use the term), especially with someone new, is to make sure you act like a potential lover , not a friend. Most people end up throwing away their shot because they’re too afraid of being rejected. They’d rather surf the quantum wave of ambiguity, where there both is and isn’t the chance of sexy times, than actually step up and risk collapsing the waveform one way or another. ( The dudes who spend their time trying to pull the Platonic Best Friend Back Door Gambit , on the other hand, are a different story entirely.)
In the couple weeks leading up to breaking up with Jenny, it became clear to me that Tanya and I had a lot of chemistry and that I could see myself dating her. Once I made the decision to break up with Jenny, my ideal plan was to remain friends in whatever way worked best for her. Then after a month, following another professional engagement I had with Tanya and assuming I still felt strongly about her, I would ask Tanya out.
“To our knowledge, the botnet is one of the largest malicious campaigns ever recorded on a social network,” ZeroFox concludes. Luckily, none of the links tweeted by the SIREN botnet appear to contain malware, nor were any associated with phishing attempts. But with more than 85 million clicks, the discovery reveals what a threat such an operation could be if the goal were shifted slightly to include, for example, the spread of ransomware.