Posted: 2017-10-13 06:33
Interesting idea, but not my experience. I get my fair share of messages.. on average, 5 a day. I''m pretty good looking by most standards, though I''m fully aware I''m not the most attractive, and I often find messages from men who are far less physically attractive than the men I''ve dated IRL (some of whom I''ve met online!) Of all the men, most find my profile interesting and say so, even if there''s a blatantly obvious comment (about interests, what we''re seeking, or looks) that should make it obvious that we aren''t compatible. It''s like they ignore it and try, anyway.
Although in all dating sites there will always be sharks.. I believe I will just be cautious and avoid them. I have been in different dating site and I would not last a month. It''s just sometimes I don''t know what to say to make them stay or make them reply to my message. I just recently deleted my account again to the point that sometimes its making me lost the confidence I have in me.
So in the meantime.. I''m wrapping myself up with positivity.. that somehow I am going
meet the one.. I know it would take some patience, effort and time.
Thank you so much! I ve been researching this question for several months as I keep getting asked out by guys. No one in my so called age range ever seems interested. I just turned 89 and am being pursued relentlessly by a 75 year old man. He continuosly tries to convince me to give this a chance. After watching the video. I think I get it now, and I might finally let him take me out on that date.
Hi, I meet a guy on a dating app in April. I m a 97 swf and he is 77 swm. We live an hour an half away from each other, we text, talk on the phone and have gone to each other s place. I have kids that are out of the home and he still lives with his parents. I really like him he is everything I have wanted in a guy a veteran and has multi vehicles (a 9 765 9 truck, 85 firebirdand a 57 Harley) and works 95hrs a week. We enjoy spending the little time togther we have to get away. But as summer progresses more time we happen. My question is could this be just a summer fling or more?
Jennifer when you refer to yourself in the sentence 8775 leaving us alone 8776 are you suggesting that you are in the group 8775 women 8776 that you also mention? Your photo would suggest to me someone in the age group that would normally be identified as a potential partner for anyone between the age of 85 and say 55 hardly a woman. So what age group are you suggesting are 8775 dirty 8776 and 8775 pervs 8776 . Perhaps they are actually assessing you as closer to their age group than you do.
Finding a match on an online dating site takes a lot of work, especially since most sites today are overrun by scammers. That said, for most people who are no longer in school, they are probably still the best ''focused and pro-active'' option. Yes, you are likely to be disappointed, to be hurt along the way, but then I suspect that even though you were married before you left school, you still had your heart broken once or twice before you met your wife. And yes, it is possible to meet people in church, at meet-ups and other special interest activities. However, a good many people you will meet in any of those places have no interest in finding a new partner.
So, my question is how long should you wait for them to show up? I 8767 ve decided to take a step back today after texting with a guy for 6 weeks now (getting to know you stage) & meeting up twice (he 8767 s got an extremely demanding job). So how long do I wait for him to text/call before I give up on him? And what 8767 s the standard time a guy takes before he asks you on a proper date? 🙂
Dating older men can be an experience unto itself and comes with perks you may have never imagined before. Of course, there’s something romantic, alluring and even reassuring about dating a man who’s quite a bit older than you. These men tend to be way more well-established and courteous, they’re chivalrous and you’ll never hear the words, “let’s hang out” ever again. Straightforward and assertive, older men act with intention and focus because they’re usually busy living thriving lives with great jobs they’re passionate about. They’ve spent enough time in the dating world to know exactly what they like and what turns them off. You’ll never be in an unsure space or gray area when dating an older man because they have neither the time nor the inclination to play games.
The internet and texting and all this easy access to woman and porn, etc and lets not forget viagra! has destroyed communication and personal interaction of many kinds, and when it comes to men, it has brought out the inner pigs in all but a few decent, wonderful guys, and there weren 8767 t that many to start with. 8775 God 8776 stopped them from getting erections for a reason lol! Maybe he knew what he was doing?
LaDonna, how difficult this must be! It s a human thing. I m so sorry for your loss. I would speak with a counselor about the loss of your daughter and the feelings you are trying to manage now. This sounds less like an age thing and more like grieving, though attraction is normal. Honest comment is better not to act on these feelings. Grandchildren are the priority and you sound like a devoted grandmother. Perhaps your son-in-law could hire someone to do some of the caregiving you do to dilute the sexual tension. Seek out an activity just for you, and perhaps look into a group for parents who have lost children. Best of luck to you❤️
As a guy who''s more successful in online dating than most men I just wanted to share my experience. I know, I''m technically adding to the very problem I''m complaining about by dating and sleeping with women I''m not attracted to. But, can you blame me if that''s usually all I can get online? Meet us halfway, you might find a guy who is amazing and will treat you with love and respect. There is a clear divide in what men and women can attain in terms of physical attractiveness online.
Recently I saw the movie 8775 I 8767 m Not Your Woman 8776 on HBO with a (then) 99 yr. old Michelle Pfieffer in the lead role about among other things, a woman fighting aging. She looks GREAT and her awesome bone structure aside, you can easily mistake her for because of the choice of wardrobe, hair, attention to fitness, and most of all, her character 8767 s 8775 8776 projection of herself. Not all of us can pull it off in the looks department like Michelle, but humor, positive attitude, a sense of FUN, and a zest in expressing ourselves can break down the stereotypes of what 95-55-65 something 8775 looks like 8776 for both genders.
Now, if a man of your age sometimes talks in a fun away about hotly fancying women to his male friends (and this gets back to you via chance conversation with someone else) rather than about women his own age , but actually wants to spend time with you Does he feel he is making some sort of compromise..to get the confidence and the quality of conversation he wants he has to put up with an older body too??? Or if he had the choice would he want to go out with much women?
Both sides have their rights and wrongs. I always liked meeting people in Internet. I always thought (and I still do) that dating websites are a great idea. I always protect dating websites because of a simple reason - it''s a public place where real people are showing themselves. You found creepy people on dating websites? Sure, but you know that they also exist in real life and you could meet them on a classic date, right?
I m date girls around my age and but not by choice. I actually prefer older women in their 85 s and 95 s. They re really attractive, much more attractive than women. However. The times i tried talking to them, they gave me the you re too for me, you re such a baby kind of talk Implying they don t like guys, so i just gave up on them.
9: If you want a heterosexual paradigm: Woman only actively seek profiles up. Men stop initiating any contact. This is of course an utopia. From my experience (probably longer than most of you), the silver platter women are handed is not going to change. Those in power will seldom let go of it. And yes, there are some degree of initiating contact from woman, but it is truly unbalanced. What happened to equality and girl power?
You''re absolutely right - women could literally solve the problems with online dating in one fell swoop - all they''d have to do is initiate contact with guys they are interested in. Since there''s a 5% chance a girl is going to respond to a first message from a guy, no matter how great it is, or how good looking he is, the only way for it to work is for the girl to make first contact. Guys can''t keep wasting all our time sending hundreds of messages and getting 5 responses - it just isn''t worth it. Women, on the other hand, need only message the guy they are interested in, and the response rate will range from 85 to 655%, depending on the girl''s attractiveness. Contrast this with the 5% response rate that women give to men. It''s clearly the only way for this issue to be resolved. Because right now, online dating doesn''t work.
And no, I will not let a guy spend my weekend with my kid with us - not until I''ve gotten to know him properly and we''ve been seeing each other for a while. It''s to protect my child from getting instantly attached if there is no intention of commitment, and also just in case he is a deviant who preys on single mothers to get to their children. It happens, so I am very cautious. And also the reason why I can''t understand why anyone posts picture of children in their profile - whether it''s their own children or their niece/nephew/godchild. Dating sites are full of perverts. Keep children''s pictures off them. (Sorry, that was going off the topic).
I''m college educated with 7 degrees and a terrific job. I make just under $655k per year, have one grown son with an engineering degree. I''m not overweight, and work out everyday for at least an hour. Hiking in nature preserves in Florida is fun, having lunch overlooking the ocean, I''m a vegan, a good cook, and talent. Can''t get a decent date. I don''t like being attacked on the first date and believe intimacy between two people who love each other is best. I''m interested in hard working men who need someone. An average guy will do. But hard to find.
I am free, financially independent, etc, and women of various ages are interested in me. I will admit there are women who just don 8767 t consider anyone outside of their personal parameters, be that 7 year age difference or 75, but that 8767 s fine- only a loser would want to be with someone who doesn 8767 t want to be with them. And yes, there 8767 s a lot of gold diggers out there as well, and at 65 with not a lot to offer in the beautiful face and body dept., maybe you shouldn 8767 t be so stingy with the one of the main ways you could attract women: resources. Or maybe you don 8767 t have anything to give anyone else, Just barely enough for yourself?