Posted: 2017-09-11 18:12
Our culture is rife with this. One can see it on the street any time of day: women wearing mens clothing styles that do not accentuate the female aspects, tattoos all over about how tough they are, loud, obnoxious (although these are not 8775 male traits 8776 many women think they are), short hair styled in traditionally male styles. riding motorcycles, overly confrontational, wearing strap ons etc.
This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height. Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.
Not only is the question flawed the whole social construct that created the question is flawed. It assumes that black women should be executives in by white men when 75 percent of all women /black or white/in public employment report sexual harassment on the job. Black women, with a third of their most able bodied men (men in their twenties and thirties) in jails and prisons will most likely to be the least likely to report hence the the stereotype.
The answer is to be found in history, not in the biology of height.
Slavery was an institution that facilitated as does the hiring of domestic servants. It is understandable that a people with a history of involuntary sexual subordination would develop a greater choosiness in later generations. Asian women, more recent immigrants (beyond Hawaii and the West Coast, that is), do not always adopt the same perception of a historically transmitted burden on white men.
Asian men, however, often function in academic (feminist) literature as the epitomy of sexism. They carry a heavy burden of stereotypes when they arrive in the US, and these stereotypes are reinforced by a lack of contact (including romantic contact) between white women and white men. As our universities are really marriage markets, the key to female racial choosiness must be understood in tandem with the politics of academic scapegoating.
I 8767 m 5 8767 8798 .. I was like an average girl in the school.. no one flirted with me, but now I 8767 m of the same height and now few of my school mates like me a lot saying I 8767 m cute few guys say I 8767 m ok with my height and any boy could ever prefer, but now I love my friend a lot he love me too, he cares me such a way that i 8767 d give my life to him, but he never expressed.. but he says he likes tall girls.. he is 6 8767 8798 I feel I 8767 m a way too short for him. May be he likes me if I 8767 m chubby.
I can also say, all throughout my 75 8767 s I wanted children, but none of the women I dated did. I have several degrees, own two homes, two cars, citizen of four different countries, lived on 9 different continents, just launching my own company with approx £6million pound investment and I am only 89. Luckily I am married now, and me and my wife are desperately trying for a child. Unfortuntely, she has suffered from bad fibroids in the womb all her life.
I am a black African ( as in from South Africa) 67 year old girl. I have always been attracted to white guys from as far back as I can remember, and this was before being introduced to the strictly black and white world. Even in South Africa, a black girl isn 8767 t easily approached by white men, if at all. Its so confusing for me because already I am as insecure as it gets and when you like that guy who doesn 8767 t even give you the time of day, it hurts. When you like that white guy that doesn 8767 t give you the time of day makes me question my worth honestly. Help please
Im tall athletic handsome smart active dont smoke dont do drugs have a Masters degree..none of that matters...women (all of them) are looking for a nest egg and retirement plan regardless of what they say...they ALL want to be wined and dined and jetsetted all over the world. American women are a mans worst nitemare oh yea..ive heard and seen it all. I try to be cool and ask about hobbies and their interests they just play dumb childish games..I hate women now I loathe and despise them..what a waste of tiime and energy online dating is lmao!!!
It 8767 s unfortunate that the black women you 8767 ve been exposed to have put a bad taste in your mouth. Not all of us think that way. Sadly.. There are a few with ignorant/selfish ways of thinking. Keep yourself open. Or move to the suburbs ! Ha. I 8767 m kidding.. But like I said. There nice black women out there, that have their own and aren 8767 t looking for 8775 what you can do for them. 8776
I think that a large part of the problem with online dating is how we view ourselves and others. The vast majority of profiles I''ve seen read like job applications. It seems as if a healthy smattering of keywords is all that is required to share who we are as individuals. The majority of profiles are as similar as mainstream medias concept of beauty. In the end there isn''t much to differentiate one profile from another.
Fortunately i am content with who I am as a person and recognize that at this stage of my life I am looking for a woman to connect with intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. Certainly for myself physical attraction is important but it has moved from the top of my list to the bottom. I wish I could state that my shifting ideals have made it easier to find potential partners but in reality it is now immeasurably more difficult.
You are correct that men of action can 8775 bloom 8776 wherever they are. I find the economic system quite problematic I assume the reason you came to the US in the first place is for economic opportunities that are not possible in your home country. I am quite familiar with Eastern Europe. If you say Ukraine is a cess pool that might make you Russian because those are the only people that talk negatively about Ukrainians. Or you 8767 re a Western European who has negative views of not just Eastern Europeans, but also Africans and Arabs in countries like Germany.
I''m a writer, so my profile tends to attract men with a high intellect or a desire to find an emotional match, so they comment on something I''d written primarily. However, the ones that catch a peek at my attractiveness or curvaceousness do mention it in their first message and their ssecond message and their third message and in text messages and, sometimes, on a first date where it''s inappropriate and, for lack of a better word, "creepy."
Wayne great points all, thank you for your defense of men! I think men also get a bad rap in the media. Every time I see an ad for male 8766 grooming products 8767 I want to yell nooooo guys don 8767 t DO it! Ignore what the ad is telling you about being male, don 8767 t follow women down that rabbithole into never-ending buying of cosmetic and fashion 8766 fixes 8767 for something that was never broken in the first place!
I am a 79 and have always attracted much men. I have found the real love of my life in a 99 year old Jamaican American who determinedly pursued me and won me. He has no ulterior motives our sex life is unbelievably wonderful and he is intelligent, funny, deeply caring and my dearest friend. I am oblivious to the opinion of others..I live for my beautiful guy and we know that we have few years left but we 8767 re gonna live until I die and that, God willing, will be in his loving arms. Love doesn 8767 t recognise chronological differences or social mindsets.
So we are left with a very complicated answer to what seems like a reasonably simple question. Unfortunately we are dealing with complex systems based upon an unequal distribution of wealth, power and knowledge. My explanation is quite limited in its scope but explains the answer as I see it. Unfortunately the answer I''ve given also infers similar issues with offline dating as ultimately this has little to do with the internet and more to do with society.
Women want tall, fit, masculine, ambition, big dick, social competence. It''s not difficult to figure out. What''s difficult, is for the majority of you out there (who don''t have what women want) to accept the fact that you are all REJECTS who weren''t ever meant to breed. Cut your nuts off. Die. Make the world a better place by NOT reproducing and disgracing future generations with your defective genes. And for the love of god, quit chasing females who don''t want you, giving all men a bad name in the process.
It 8767 s sincerely strange to me how many people *only* focus on women 8767 s fertility. There is wonderful information on Webmd about male fertility. Statistically, infertility issues are caused by women 6/8 of the time. And they are also caused by men 6/8 of time. Yet we still exclusively focus on women. When the children are healthy, everyone acts like it was all because of the Dad. when the children are unhealthy everyone immediately says 8775 Well what factors did the mother contribute! 8776 Even our history in the medical field has contributed to this level of sexism when women were once largely and only blamed for birth defects back in the day. I am not sure of this blog site allows for other links to be posted. All you need to do is google male fertility statistics.
Part 5 The reason it worked for Mae and I was the 88 years between us didnt bother us and since my wife was busy with work and allowed me to be oncall for Mae it was great. Mae loved that from the first time I made love to her I would call her and thank her for a great time. I told her after the second month that I loved her and her response was I care for you very much. Finally on our 6st anniversary of our affair my wife was away on business Mae and I went out for dinner I brought her roses and back to my house. I carried her up to bed and made love to her I told her I loved her and she finally said I love you.
I had to add why I admire Kai: His warm voice that invites conversations about everything important to both of us, his love and character as a father to his son from a previous marriage, his volunteer service in his community in CA, his love of nature( we both love hiking and fishing)his kindness to all he meets, the way he sings Chinese love songs to me, encouragement when a day is rough I could go on forever about his warm eyes and all the ways he respects me and how trust worthy he is. Lol, I will spare you more mushy stuff.