Posted: 2017-10-13 11:06
The one caveat I d make to the Take a Stand bit there are circumstances when this can be dangerous. If you think there s any chance of the other person (romantic partner, friend, or family member) getting physically violent if you stand up to them in person, it s better not to take that risk. Definitely work out a way that you can get away from them ASAP, but playing along until you can safely do that isn t weak, it s just smart.
Hi, I 8767 ve been messaging this guy I met online for 8 weeks now. He seems like a really cool person and we have a lot in common. We have talked about meeting each other in person and have set up a date but he had to cancel because of work ( it wasn 8767 t a last minute cancel). He asked me when would be another time to meet and I told him my availability. A few days later there is no mention of meeting up even though i 8767 ve hinted at it. I 8767 m I wasting my time, should I stop talking to him and move on?
Thanks snowboard. It has to be related to her she is seeking something from him and he is prob going to go back and think she will not abuse him this time. I know, he has to accept she hasn 8767 t changed when he is ready to. What gets me is I asked him straight up for the truth, just tell me!! (because truthfully it 8767 d be (a bit) easier to move on if he told me he was choosing to go back to that nightmare even after all he 8767 s read and learned about narcissism). I don 8767 t wish anyone that pain and yet part of me hopes she shows her true colors quickly (which will hurt him) and I do pray that his new knowledge of narcissism pushes him to get out once and for all. It 8767 s so hard to have him always say how wonderful and sweet and kind I was to him and have him prefer this shrew who verbally, emotionally abused him. Just really hard to feel good about myself if being a good person doesnt matter.
So encouraged to hear your feelings. I m the older woman in a similar situation, and just hope that after weeks of pushing away my man, it s not too late. Incouldn t believe age couldn t be an issue. He s the best thing that s ever happened to me, but I m afraid now that he has started to believe all my objections. Just when I m letting my guard down.
School Days is a popular erotic "visual novel" that inspired various spin-offs across different media -- including Cross Days , the game you can play with a literal cock control and which outs you as a pervert if you try to pirate it. In School Days , your character is a kid named Makoto who gets involved in a romantic triangle with two classmates that you have to get him out of without breaking the hearts of either of the girls. because if you do, then shit gets real.
(cont.) I finally woke up and realized she was pushing my boundaries two months ago. I had told her my best friend was having a birthday party and I wanted her to come for a whole week. On the day of the party, I had texted and called four times to let her know when to arrive at my house so we could travel together. At 6 PM, when I was already an hour late to the party waiting for her, she calls me to let me know she s sick (even though she could have called anytime during the day) and that she felt I was being distant because I didn t call her the day before. I told her I had to go to my friend s party, but she insisted that I come and visit her nonetheless (bear in my mind, she lives in a different city and it would take me an hour to get to her place). I replied that we would hang out another day since she it was too late for her to come over and I would not be up for traveling an hour around midnight, only to hang out with her for an hour because her mother would not let me stay over.
What if the situation were completely reversed? What if a guy posted a story about how a girl became obsessed with him but he didn t like her back so for years she would tells lies about him to other people when he wasn t around. Would you feel like someone, a couple comments down, saying that that does happen, but they feel like it s not the typical situation without ever claiming what the guy said was untrue was being offensive and insinuating that his story didn t happen?
I would agree with the others that there are lots of different ways that you can talk about yourself and what you re doing. That one in particular might make the wrong impression. I think it s something about getting too much into the nuts and bolts of the job, without mentioning where it fits in the bigger picture of your life. Talking about expediting food from the kitchen may leave the impression that that s all you re looking to do, or that your primary goal is to move one rung up the ladder at the restaurant. I suspect employed, professional women (and creative sorts, and students, and many other types) would respond better if you d mentioned the past job in advertising.
I dated a Liberal woman and no conflicts arose from our political differences. I find it troubling you wouldn''t even want to be friends with someone who would vote for Trump, or even someone who wouldn''t be friends with another who voted for Hillary. You sound grossly intolerant of other people''s views. You should be open to people with differing views than your own, otherwise you will fall into engaging in groupthink and confirmation bias. In other words, you will not learn much in this world seeking out people who will just agree and affirm your opinions on life. You grow by seeking those out who can show you a different perspective. In my experience, I''ve found people like you frustrating to say the least.
Now if I can see all these wonderful attributes and feel sick to my core about the age gulf, don 8767 t sell me a bill of goods about how I am EUM. Bullshit! I know good from bad. What has happened to my judgment over the past few years is that bad becomes relative. I might have suffered learned helplessness along the way. But I am not seeking it out. It is unfortunately, how men are and those who are not either belong to my father 8767 s generation (and he cannot wrap his head around the dating mores of today anymore than I can) or they are so few and far between, sadly, most of us will not meet them and isn 8767 t because we are toxic little cesspools walking about attracting bad energy. It 8767 s what 8767 s out there in large supply.
You 8767 re so sweet to be concerned. I 8767 m again wishing he were an AC so I could easily tell him to take a flying leap. But that is not the case. I still care and want to know how he is, just like he very much wants the same. Wish it were easier. I 8767 m beginning to feel less involved
and 8775 wrapped up 8776 in him, but that doesn 8767 t make me happy either. I pray for strength to get through this.
Women (statistically speaking -- not meaning to generalize too much here), are very emotional and social. By emotional, I don''t mean crying all the time, I mean they read very much into every little statement and facial movement you make in order to draw as much meaning as possible out of what you''re expressing. There are two disadvantages guys have in the scenario where you''re only offered writing as a vehicle to impress a woman.
The technology is not the problem. The same thing exists whether online or off. For example, Eric''s major problem is attempting to present himself as a "nice guy" even it happens that he is one. Single females are not looking for him. They want the guy who will treat them poorly, beat them physically or emotionally, imprison them without bars, enslave them without chains, etc. The only ones looking for the nice guy are already married to the bad boy who have done the above and only now realize that isn''t what they should have been looking for. I have watched the same thing over and over again for decades. That aspect of the game has never changed, only the venue from face-to-face meetings in bars, clubs, schools and other physical locations and events to Match and eHarmony.
Hannah is the girl-perspective on game. From what I read (and for Girls I m reading mostly female-written blogs), Adam her on-again-off-again boyfriend doesn t return texts calls etc, but she keeps going back to him again and again. He doesn t even put on a try at being charming or having deeper feelings most of the time, but this just causes her to complain about it but keep going back to him again and again. He acts aloof and better than her and she keeps coming back whether or not he s a decent human being is beside the point. When with another girl Adam dates for a while inspires online comments about how he s you notice the character is back getting together with him again in the next episode. What he did doesn t even cause her (a non-Hannah character) to dislike him enough to stop seeing him and sleeping with him. Adam himself is practically the definition of the aloof asshole and she keeps going back to him again and again.
Another thing is that there is a limit to what I can do vibe wise. If I need to put on a vibe of somebody with at least an average in romance and sex than I can t do it because the stakes aren t that low for me. There will always be at least a part of me wondering whether I d get a second date or something more and this will probably show up at least somewhat. I can repress it as much as possible but I m not going to come off as Casanova by a long shot.
Sad Girl, you posted this a long time ago so you have likely moved on already. Even though he is 76, it says a lot about his personality that he is so influenced by societal norms. It is a red flag and I would spare yourself the heartache and move on. You deserve better than someone who values others judgments more than you. For goodness sakes, you are so and 8 yrs. isn t much. Practically speaking, all the technical stuff about having kids and all that doesn t even apply in your case. you have like a decade or more to have kids.
SWG i think you give him more then what he deserve you dont have to feel bad or sad in anyway he just not the right guy for you and you wil get someone that will treat you the way you want to be treated with respect and love before me and my gf started dating she told that if i want kids that i must move on and not keep her for fun and i told her that am ok with it and that i won 8767 t use her and here we stil are loving each other even more so dont let that guy make you feel like you wrong or dirty because you not
Wow..thank you to all the ladies (and gents) who are going through what I am! Its my 88rd birthday on Saturday, and my guy is 75!! Am I crazy? No!!! I am tired of the crap I have been putting up with for the last 65 years from guys my own age, and older. My guy is sensitive, caring, handsome, loving..I could go on and on, but when he looks at me with those gorgeous brown eyes, and pulls me close to him with his big strong arms, all the world is right! Age is nothing but a number honey!!! All ladies need to keep on keeping on and enjoy your guys! There s no one better for us! I m loving every minute!
Totally agree. I have never met a woman who didn t look her age. Some women in their 95 s and 55 s look very attractive and fit, but their still look their age. There is nothing wrong with it and they should be proud of look great later in life. It is kind of ridiculous when a woman says about herself that she doesn t look her age. Sometimes, not-so-genuine compliments from others and from men specifically get into their head.
Hi..I m 79yo and somehow I don t know why but guys always attracted to me. I m in love with 76yo guy now. At first I thought that 8 years is a really big gap. So I thought I won t take it seriously, maybe just for fun. But then..I really really feel that we really connect..really feel the chemistry. He can really understand me and same thing for me. The problem is that he thinks that 8 years is a big deal. He still thinks that it s weird if the girl is older than the guy. I really love him but it just seem that he couldn t change his mind. Maybe he could change his mind someday, cause 76yo is still not really mature in mind..maybe I hope so. Now we still talking but we re trying to make it less. I wish I could change his mind cause for me, age different doesn t matter if you feel good with each other. Maybe I should wait for him and be patient. What should I do? I ve never felt like this before.