Posted: 2017-11-15 00:31
There is now a Russian translation of Calculation! Props to Alarinka for language skills. Notice something different about this announcement? Yeah, links not included, because (like the German translation) it's not here on FF. It's over on ficbook (also a dot net) instead. ficbook dot net slash readfic slash 9895676 is where you can find it, or you can just put readfic/9895676 into your search engine, and that will pop it up. Now, I have. no idea about Russian whatsoever, apart from that the alphabet is awesome to look at. Those of you who know/are learning Russian, go have a gander! So much easier than all the random letters and numbers that fill up the link to the German translation.
Write a letter to old girlfriend and then burn the letter. I think you need a hobby, something you love to do, like paint or do music. Pour yourself into that. I think once you are over this, you 8767 ll be glad she 8767 s gone. Maybe you could compose songs while you drive around or sing. When you feel better, try to meet a woman, without kids, and then go real slow. Like don 8767 t see her very much at first, like maybe only once a week for a long time. Don 8767 t talk to her everyday. Then you can gradually increase. Watch her, is she nice to people? If she 8767 s mean to people ditch her, because sooner or later she 8767 ll be mean to you, if she 8767 s mean to others. Love should be easy. Good people make things easy, they aren 8767 t difficult. Love should not be a drama, if love is a drama, it 8767 s just sick and get rid of it.
And as JB states, these women do not really give a damn about their kids. I strived to make the breakup as easy as possible because I was literally the only dad this kid had ever known in her life, and I was happy to continue in that role, even if we were broken up. Once she found a new guy she cut me out of that kids life and probably trash talked me to the extreme. I taught this little girl how to read, how to bank, gave her structure in her life, took her camping. There was a small box of the kids stuff left behind, private things like counselling files and some special stuffed animals. I tried contacting the woman to get the box to her, she wouldn 8767 t even answer my facebook messages.
Sometimes you have to prime the pump to get things going again. So you give him a call, send him a message, tease him a little, and make it playfully but clearly known that his company would be welcome: “So. When were you planning on taking me out again, big boy?” Then step back, and wait for him to do something. If he takes the bait, game on. If he doesn’t, give it a couple of days, then try again. If he’s tone deaf after three tries, move on.
TG99, single parents of either sex who are open to dating and especially 8775 sexual 8776 are HUGE RED FLAGS. Here 8767 s why. A person who 8767 s children are still dependent on the should be giving every moment outside of their job to their children. They should not be dividing their time, energy, focus, money and emotions amongst several people. Everything should be poured into their dependent children. It is child neglect not to do so. A single parent who openly expresses a 8775 sexual 8776 nature is shameful. Masturbation can quickly take care of those needs.
I respect waht you did. I think that single moms should not seriously date anyone new until their kids are old enough and you aren 8767 t needed like that. You could still have sex (i 8767 m sure you still do), but don 8767 t put any new guys through the bullshit of not being a priority and having to take care of someone elses kid and then making it hard for him if he wants to leave you because of the attachment to the kid. This is what happened to someone i hold close and he regrets it.
If you’re the only person that can see the clown, things are a wee bit more complicated because it means that the being you’re dealing with is supernatural. The great thing about human clowns (killer or not) is that with enough willpower and adrenaline, you can put some distance between yourself and them. Supernatural clowns are a little bit trickier because no matter how far you run from them, chances are that they’ll catch up using one of their inexplicable abilities.
It 8767 s interesting you should bring that up because your argument hinges on 7 people staying together, presumably in a marriage. Now the irony here is that the people most likely to stay in a marriage (a first marriage, never divorce) are the same people who overwhelmingly oppose abortion yes, the Christians. These are the people with children that have the best chance for success, based on the study, and are least likely to have children that have children out of wedlock I just find that aspect fascinating.
8775 Divorced moms who escaped abusive marriages with drug/sex/gambling/whatever addicts should not get a free pass from you, either. Even if it’s TRUE that the husband was a colossal fuck-up, you need to ask yourself what kind of imperceptive moron couldn’t spot that? What kind of insecurities plague a woman who thinks getting married to a drug addict is good idea? What kind of delusional self-image does a woman have, if she can fall for a con artist with a gambling habit that would shame Charlie Sheen? Be very cautious around a woman who takes none of the blame for her failed marriage. You might not be the FIRST man she blames all her problems on, but you sure as hell can be NEXT. 8776
What 8767 s this garbage you 8767 re bringing up about paganism? Not all pagans are sex maniacs, man. Where did this even come from? I bet more so-called Christians engage in shit like swinging than pagans. Otherwise, you 8767 re on the right track but it makes me mad when people misjudge the most peaceful movement in religion today. I don 8767 t see pagans blowing up abortion clinics, protesting at funerals or flying planes into buildings.
I have some sympathy for single mom 8767 s as my own mom was one. But there is a lot of truth to this post. Especially the positive aspects such as the give and take and the need for a child to have a father. It is absolutely essential. Men in this country should be willing to lose their life to recover these rights, alas they have proven to be weak. Our society needs tough love on single motherhode. In fact it is long overdue.
My grandmother was a divorced single mom that was abused by her first husband. He was a drunk and a perfectionist and used to beat her. He expected a house full of children to be spic and span. Even if it takes two to tango I can assure you there could be nothing that she did that made her deserve the years of torment (even a visit from him after she divorced him). This all happened in an age where there was not as much support as there is today for women in this kind of situation.
JJ, This is an old post so I hope you see this You, and countless other woman have learned the hard way that you can 8767 t force a man to do something he 8767 s not ready to do. He has to arrive at the decision on his own. It 8767 s all about not over-investing in a man and mirroring his actions. If he 8767 s still on the dating sites, you have the right to be dating sites also, even if you 8775 don 8767 t want to 8776 . The point is, you arrived 8775 ahead of him 8776 and should mirror his actions for your own protection. He will let you know when he 8767 s ready to take his profile down. If he hasn 8767 t, it simply means he 8767 s not 655% invested in you yet. Lean back and mirror him, observe his actions and act accordingly. Don 8767 t nag. Take care of yourself first, and when he 8767 s ready to step up all the way, he 8767 ll let you know. For more detail on this I highly recommend Katarina Phang 8767 s blog, . She shares Dr. Ali 8767 s eastern philosophy. Good luck.
Seriously, JB is being a bit strong, but to not concede to any of her points that there is a much carnage because some women make selfish choices and those have terrible consequences on the children is wrong of you. An ex of mine blatantly said, at 65 no less, she DELIBERATELY got pregnant and didn 8767 t give a whit about the father. She wanted his seed and that was all she wanted, nothing else. Now, you want to call that responsible behavior? By the way, she ended up completely losing all legal rights to that child by the time it was three.
Some of us can be picky about who we left into our livers and still have a good time. I bet the 98-year old single mom of four kids with three babydaddies at a previous job that a coworker tried to set me up with ( 8775 Oh, she 8767 s a good woman, so treat her right! 8776 ) sure has a lot of fun in her low-income housing with her $9/hour job. Father 8767 s day with four kids who don 8767 t see their dads has to be comfortable so, I 8767 ll be just fine with my higher standards, thank you very much!
I agree with you for the most part. I used to work at a grocery store, and I 8767 ve seen it countless times besides with relatives on my dad 8767 s side of the family.
However, in this particular situation, there is no indication that any of these apply to the woman who asked the question.
How do you know that there aren 8767 t any extenuating circumstances that prevent them from getting married?
You posted an attack on a person without knowing the particulars of her situation. that is what I disagreed with.
My own sister had massive psychological and emotional problems due mainly to the abusive boyfriends she had in her life who would fuck about with her in many ways. The last one, he was a paranoiac alcohol abusing monster who fucked about with her the worst that left her in a massive shit state with a kid to raise on her own with no help from him due to his complete inefficiency as a compassionate human being.
That said, there are ways to make it even more likely that your first date is your last. You can be more interested in talking to other guys, and give all of them your business card. While you’re in the car with me, you can take a phone call from a guy who is clearly setting up tonight’s booty call with you. You can have so many glasses of Chardonnay that you become incoherent before dinner’s even over.
Take a good look around you. The nuclear family is disappearing. The middle class is disappearing. What you have then are generations of children that are not only poor, but raised by single or divorced parents. Aha! Introduce the widespread availability of technology and what happens to the study then? The disproportionate share of successful children from indigent, 8775 broken 8776 families can only level out, if not turn the other way.
While the author 8767 s views on 8775 homosexual marriage 8776 and abortion are cringeworthy, it is clearly a non-Christian man 8767 s best effort to acknowledge the pitfalls of single mothers. As a mother myself, I totally endorse the author 8767 s cautions against getting involved with single moms. (By the same logic, women should steer clear of single dads.) Life happens, and we need to have grace and compassion for people who end up parenting outside the umbrella of marriage. But the author nails it about viewing single parents with a great deal of skepticism when it comes to dating them. At the very least, it takes an extraordinarily strong, forgiving, and mature soul who is willing to hitch their life to a wagon already loaded down with some very heavy baggage.