Posted: 2017-09-11 15:48
After sharing a guest-post on step-parenting from the step-child&rsquo s point of view , one commenter asked an interesting question: &ldquo Should a man with no kids be hesitant to date a woman with kids?&rdquo First, whether a man has children of his own or not, there is nothing wrong with preferring to date women without children. We are all free to make up whatever dating preferences we want. They are called personal preferences for a reason and we don&rsquo t need the approval of anyone else when it comes to what we like. However, there are a few things childless men should keep in mind when deciding whether they are ready to date a woman with a child, or children. Women, would you agree on the following?
I 8767 m a tad better today. Just came in from church which is always uplifting. To answer you 8767 re question, no he goes to a different one. We don 8767 t care for each other 8767 s churches. Mine is very large, we have about 5 different choirs and about 67 different ministeries. It is new and modern, ( 8yrs old) as it was built over after the old one was demolished. The congregation is terrific. Very friendly loving people. His church is the opposite, very small, impersonal, a dry unimaginative pastor, no choirs and an uninspiring service every Sunday.
So we don t routinely go to each other s church.
If you are considering the giographical solution be sure to factor in all the effects of global warming in any area you might choose to live. For example do you really want to live on top of an active volcanoe due to erupt (Kona,HI), do you want to chance the Midwest with tornadoes killing 75 folks at a time, do you want waterfront property that will flood or have a mudsliding hill coming at you? The saying 8775 You can run but you can 8767 t hide 8776 comes to my mind, as well as 8775 same shite, different city.. 8776
I''ve yet to find a real dating site. What is missing from all these sites is the social aspect. almost has it. They have their "events", but they are few and far apart. A dating site should be where people.. wait for it.. TALK. interact, have people exchange their opinions and see if they are compatible. Hell, even have them play some games together as ice breakers. Instead of have this computer assume that just because you like Rock n Roll and she likes Jazz that you can''t be together. We are a complex creature, we want to be challenged. We want to learn and get new experiences. Maybe he will love Jazz, maybe she''ll love Rock. Maybe they will never love each other''s music, but they will love each other because of their deep secret love for Captain Crunch cereal! However, without trying, or interacting, we will not know. Is there a risk? Of course, there is a risk at love. But, all good things come with a bit of risk after all. The faster people accept this, the faster you will find what you are looking for.
I am 99 years old and entering the dating scene again for the first time in 75 years. Where do you go to meet someone at my age? I am not doing the online singles sites that is just scary to me. I don 8767 t go to church. I am new in town, with a few happily married friends. I have four grown who are trying to set me up (I love them, but what a nightmare!!). What do single people do at 95 and over? So much of my time was taken up with caring for someone else that now I just don 8767 t know how to fill that time. Any suggestions?
He apologized but in fairness, it was refreshing to hear from the other side of the camp and he is not a player, a Narc, an assclown or bad seed gone to pot. He 8767 s actually a pretty okie-doke guy who told the truth as far as he sees it being in it to his long time gal pal that even he has difficulty understanding why I haven 8767 t been snatched up off the market yet. He knows me. Better than all of you and he knows I 8767 m not a fruit loop and he readily admits 8775 You 8767 re not chasing the bad boys. 8776 I 8767 m not. I know that.
Then to make matters worse, they name their child some ridiculously ghetto-ass name (like LaDaquarius) that supposed to mean something significant in Swahili or some sh_t
because they feel that even though their pregnancy was unplanned, the kid was
8775 meant 8776 to be here cuz he/she is gonna cure cancer in 75 years. Sorry
to say, but ur kid has a higher chance of becoming a product of a single parent
household than a doctor.
I ve been doing online dating on and off for almost a decade now, and never once have I felt that I was in danger, nor, I might add, have I ever taken the precautions some here describe.
It s so baffling to hear these fears about the safety or the stigma or anything else somehow associated with online dating, especially now after so many years it s been popular that it has become the prevalent way of meeting people.
Demanding personal info from complete strangers, Googling them for verification, bringing a friend (!), I have to wonder where do you choose to meet with your dates? In abandoned warehouses in secluded areas? Why all the paranoia?
8775 I 8767 ve completely lost all respect for her. Every time we have gotten to the point where a major dec ision in life needs made, my opinion is brutally ignored even if she agrees with me or has come to me with a very wise decision. Somehow she always winds up paying more attention to some f*** up friend or an idiot family member who is worse off than we are. Each time it drags us both down financially while ruining her children 8767 s livelihood. 8776
Well, I also met a perfect woman on-line, least that is what I thought. I suspect very strange reactions when she tried hard to convince who she was. Then I caught her mistakes. I played with her how far she could go with lies. I still don 8767 t know who she is, why she wants to play with others hearts. I still do not know where I can find single woman. Volunteer, extra activities, going park, you do not have time to do if you have children at home. Wake up 6:55 am, send kids to school 7:55, work until 5:55 pm, diner at 6:85 pm. I could not find any extra time to do, so I turned on-line dating service. On-line dating service is necessary evil. I will be optimistic and hope to find right woman someday, but don 8767 t know how.
Get out. Don 8767 t wait for him. And don 8767 t even tell him to 8766 go sort his stuff out and come back when he 8767 s ready 8767 . Do you really want to be with a man who is going around dating while trying to reconcile with his wife? I don 8767 t think so. The way he talks to you is unacceptable, you deserve much better than this AC I 8767 m afraid.
Also, if you tell him to 8766 go sort his stuff out and come back after 8767 you 8767 ll always have him at the back of your mind and this may prevent you from meeting and getting involved with a man who is single and deserves all of your attention. The best thing is to forget him completely, get through the 8766 breakup 8767 and move on. I don 8767 t see anything good coming out of this, it will certainly be a waste of more time. Stay strong xoxo
i just dont know
so i am playing very stern and kinda putting him in his place, but its like water off a ducks back and he listens but comes back with a powerful question
hes definately the kind of guy that i admire
and direct no beating around the bush, and not for a minute believing that would actually reject him and walk away from this
and he wants me to think about it
but mostly he wants to hang out with me and spend time with me and get close enough to me so that i can feel his breath near to me, his hand close to mine
I agree totally, and this name calling and bitterness was something that made me very uncomfortable with a recently-separated man.
When he then called his mother the B word, that was the kick up the arse I needed to start NC (I had been dithering).
We can all have negative feelings about family members or exes, but men who routinely use either the B or even worse the C word are, to my mind, most likely misogynists.
At one point after about 8 months, I found out that she went out on a date (. dinner, movie, drinks) with an 8766 old friend. 8767 I told her I was upset and she allayed my concerns by saying it was someone she new for years and had no interest in, however I have never met this person. A couple of weeks later I realized it bothered me because I was in love with her and told her so. She told me she really liked me and enjoyed being together, but didn 8767 t feel in love with me (Red Flag #6).
A few years ago I had a profile on okcupid. I uploaded a few decent pictures of myself. I received a lot of views and a decent amount of messages. A year ago I created a new profile on okcupid and uploaded one picture that makes it somewhat more difficult to tell what I look like. This time around I''ve received considerably less profile views and considerably less messages. I have no way of knowing how okcupid may treat my profile due to this difference but I have experienced enough to know that women just like men are swayed by physical appearance.
I wonder if the information provided about there being more men than women is for a particular age group? i m in my early 55''s and trying online dating on e-harmony only. I am reasonably attractive and several of my photos were taken by a professional (not altered in any way-I wanted it to be clear that they are really like me and give the date taken). I''ve put a lot of effort into my profile so that it gives unique info about me and describes the qualities of a good guy are to me and despite having at least one hundred matches in my region I haven''t received any communication sincc
e the first week when 7 men contacted me with questions. So I have communicated with several men. Only 7 replied. Are all the men contacting the same small subset of women or are they to lazy to communicate at all. Several of the men I communicated with then viewed my profile and neither responded or blocked me. It takes only 7 clicks to block a profile. I find it inconsiderate.
I am 86 and seeing a guy that is 75. It hasn t been that long yet, but it is amazing! He works hard, and has the energy to keep up with my lifestyle. I ve got 9 boys aged 8-69, and I work 7 jobs. I am extremely active and busy with sports, school activities, and friends n family. He can keep up with me and its great, cuz most of the guys I date are lazy or they complain all the time. Im definately gonna ride this one out. If it works, ill be happy forever, and if he needs something else, ill support that, and be grateful for the time we got to have together!
Thank you for sharing your insight and reasoning behind your disinterest in online dating. In regards to myself I have done a lot of work to understand the world in my own fashion as opposed to what I was taught. My dating profile is quite lengthy and is intended to share who I am as a human being in hopes of finding someone that has done similar work. What I have shared of myself also has the benefit of eliminating a lot of potential conflicts that typically arise in conversations with people as part of the process of getting to know one another.
To each their own! But I learned that whoever has money has to be careful about getting taken advantage of man or woman- and there are jerks at every age. I hate generalizations that older women are better, men are better, etc. There are good and bad people and it 8767 s up to you to find them. I think it might be easier for us to relate to people who are older or because we treat them differently. We treat older with more respect (as opposed to someone who is just as clueless as any other person). Olders treat peeps with a lot of compassion because they can remember what it 8767 s like to be and naive and kid just wants to please that 8767 s what kids do because they don 8767 t know themselves yet.
Yeah, this seems pretty spot on. For women its a barrage of messages and makes them think thery''re god''s on Earth, no matter how ugly. For men it''s a quiet hole to realize women are a lot more shallow than they knew, no matter how attractive. This makes the women bat way above their league and the men bat way below. The best part to illustrate this? I''d say all of the women I message first are at least around my physical attractiveness league, but all the women that message me first are way, waaaay below it. Like obese chicks levels below it.