Posted: 2017-10-12 19:23
It 8767 s not literally me but there 8767 s a bit of a story behind why I chose it. I go to several post-apocalyptic events per year, running my show as The Ringmaster. This has been going on for years and years now. I was watching Blood Drive (where the photo is from) thinking that it looked like their prop guys had borrowed a lot of ideas from one of the bigger events. Then this guy gets on stage and my reaction was roughly 8775 those MOTHER FUCKERS stole my schtick! Also, I want those feathers for my outfit. 8776
Personally, I still think I do it better but I 8767 m biased. https:///images/
Real men don 8767 t lie. I agree. They are like 5 year old children. Real women don 8767 t always cultivate the circumstances and if a man lies and cheats it is not something they caused. That is the old justification for men to continue the bad behavior and was probably cultivated in childhood. Women often try to save the marriage because they have made a commitment to the other person. Of course, it does no good if only one continues to act like a child and lie. I do know women who are aware that their men have lied and cheated and they try to go to counseling to fix the situation. I wouldn 8767 t say they are responsible for the lying and cheating. I also know women (not well, by choice) who give these same men sanctuary when they know they have abused other women because they are reaping the benefits, at least for a little while, financially and emotionally. These women are the ones that tick me off because they are lying to themselves and in turn adding to another women 8767 s pain. They DO make it much easier for a man to continue to lie.
Yeah, one incident was around 7:85 AM. I was wearing sweat pants and an oversized t-shirt with an unshaven duck carrying a frowny-faced coffee mug. I looked even scruffier and less sexy! Bedhead, no makeup, no shower, and half asleep. He drove around the block when he saw me, and his van had the logo and stuff for a locksmith. I thought at first that AAA had sent him instead of a tow truck. When I cracked the window, he asked if I was ok, and I told him, 8775 AAA will be here any minute. 8776 His response was to ask me to kiss him!?! The other was fairly similar, but I was in the middle of putting a can of gas in my car when he pulled up.
Online dating is ridiculous for men. My day starts with rejection and ends with rejection. Women are too worried about a mans exterior appearance that it blinds them to everything else. I've been doing online dating for a few years now and have met some women, but most of the messages I receive are from women I'm not physically attracted to. After talking with buddies women seem to ignore every man, so who are they talking to? Online dating isn't just harder for men, it's much harder. It's men doing the vast majority of work and women sitting there filtering thru and rejecting all the nice guys that she complains about not existing.
Dump him! But the final decision is yours. When you are so inlove, you don 8767 t know what is the right thing to do. You know when a guy doesnt care about you in even the simplest ways (texting where you are, or did you get enough rest or what are your plans for the day) means he doesnt care! Texting or giving your special someone a call should be as easy as BREATHING! but if you really do not care or have less affection for the person (different than what he claims) fact is, he wouldnt bother care! You deserve better. Move on, he is not worth a single love 🙂 Will be difficult, but you will be surprised as to how strong you are when you finally moved on, and most importantly, you will have a high respect yourself.
heres what you don't understand. you and other women have the luxury to sit there and say "EVERY person who wrote to me" men are putting in ALL the same effort and then the added effort of being the one who has to scroll through profiles for hours and send the messages. worry if they are saying the right or wrong thing. meanwhile you can sit there and judge all the men and all the messages you are receiving. the hostility comes from the blissful ignorance that women have about this. it comes off as something like going to the sudan and telling the starving people living there why you don't like tacos or that if a waiter brings you a steak medium rare you send it back. try to wrap your head around that.
Very well said, Nicole! My husband and I are about to start our little family, neither of us has any kids yet. Our marriage will always come first. :) I 8767 ve also noticed that in all the happy, strong, and balanced marriages spouses always put each other first. I feel like a lot of people think that not putting your kids first means not taking care of them. This couldn 8767 t be further from the truth.
All who 8775 catch 8776 their husband are tormented by the reality of their marriage being on the brink. Some do not forgive, but callously end their marriage out of anger and frustration. Others go for counseling in order to understand what happened, and get a feel about what they can now do, but marriage counseling almost never works.
You said you worked on your marriage but how?
If you want to work on being an artist or an accountant or anything else you would take steps to learn about whatever subject was necessary to achieve success. But we seem to ignore the reality that marriage, too, has requisite subjects to learn for success.
Advice is this
6) Do not give up your previous efforts to work on your marriage were incorrect (or you would not be here)
7) Understand your husband 8767 s weakness without expectations he is who he is
8) Understand that you will have to pull the weight of your marriage in order to heal it..it will heal if you know how
9) Begin your efforts to learn about marriage so you can apply and succeed you will succeed if you put it all together
They blame everything and everyone, except for themselves. They don 8767 t want to hear that they screwed up their marriage, and would rather go looking for another woman and make her life as miserable as he made the last one 8767 s life. If you think it 8767 s all her, or mostly her, and just need a way to convey what she needs to do make everything better, then you are done. I cannot help you.
Usually when I experience something where distinctly creepy behavior is evident, I just suffer sympathetic cringe that translates into an exclamation of 8775 Oh, you ignorant idiot 8776 with these two examples, I was positively horrified. I am not convinced either of these two twatwaffles didn 8767 t know what they were doing was inherently wrong (I mean, this shit wasn 8767 t just subjectively creepy, both examples were positively morally reprehensible) I think they just didn 8767 t care what that they were doing wrong until somebody blew the whistle on their shit.
I like Alison 8767 s use of 8775 polite fiction 8776 to describe these scenarios. Yes, it 8767 s helpful to know these things about people going in, but just because the site has given us a way to share the information doesn 8767 t mean it 8767 s not still rude to begin a conversation with a perfect stranger by asking them about their sex life. Oh, internet. The many varied and new social problems you create.
Not by our own choice are we absentee fathers!!
I call absentee fathering , every other weekend and 8 hrs on Wednesday. Oh, throw in a few ball games where you sit in the stands and 8775 watch 8776 your kids but have no contact with them after. The court system seems to think this is just sufficient time to be a good father, couple that with an ex wife who just wants you to disappear and it 8767 s a disaster , and I 8767 ll catch hell for this , but I 8767 m going to say 95% of 8775 parental alienators 8776 are woman. I 8767 m just tired of divorced Dads being demonized.
Rose, I hate to tell you but he won 8767 t change. If he does let these two ladies go, it will be someone else. I know 7 years is a time to be married, but I was married 87 years and called it quits. You deserve to be happy. I am not going to tell you it will be easy, I went to a counselor and also attended a Divorce Care class which really helped a lot. But it has been worth it. Don 8767 t sell yourself short, be true to yourself.
It is quite possible you chose poorly, and if there are no children in the home (who he is taking care of) your moving on may be a reasonable thing to do.
But your 8775 care 8776 for his 8775 needs 8776 are all focused on superficial and psychological needs, and prove unworkable, even though you are doing your best. There is a cardinal rule, that we cannot change another. So although you are doing your best in these areas there are some missing the very least I suggest you read Breaking The Cycle, so you can decide for yourself what is your best move. But the children aspect is very important to consider.
Beach here 8767 s the thing, even if it 8767 s 655% true, the fact that he doesn 8767 t have a single person in the entire universe to go support him at the hospital (parents and sister = still alive) says something about a person 8767 s character. Even if the 8775 accident 8776 is true, having his 8775 nurse 8776 text me, using his phone, that he really needs someone to come to the hospital, that he has nobody in the world not even his assistant of 75 years who 8767 ll come visit him, then won 8767 t tell me what hospital he 8767 s at just too bizarre and unbelievable, even for sugar.
I get turned off by guys base jumping, skiing in the Swiss Alps and all that jazz, even running, because that's just not me. None of that stuff would interest me. If you play a sport like soccer, baseball, then perhaps. I am sure though there a lot of women into that sort of stuff. It's just about odds really. I guess a lot of women just don't care that men run around the block and jump out planes! But then again I'm sure there would be many women into that.
8775 once a liar, always a liar 8776 . You can date a liar, or you can date a person who doesn 8767 t lie. End of story. You can play all these games, write paragraph after paragraph about the liar you married, dating, or your best friend the liar that you know. All the heartache above. Go write about the amazing person you met, that tells the truth out of respect for all involved. And NO, things will not get better.
Lastly, I leave you with something my dad told me after I tearfully had to break with the love-of-my-life, divorced dad of two kids, because I was emotionally wrecked after endless fights involving his inability to schedule his time. I consider my dad the voice of wisdom because he weathered it all. He told me that the worst mistake a divorced parent can make is to dedicate all their decision-making to their children first. 8775 Children, 8776 he said, 8775 grow up and leave. The one who sticks by you in your adult years, day after day, taking care of you, putting up with you, is your spouse. They 8767 re the ones who really matter, in the end. Think about it. 8776
I am at the end of my rope, my husband likes to lie and hide stuff. I got married with him at the age of 67 after coming out pregnant by my first kid, which is now 66. We have 8 kids the baby is turning 6 and the middle one has a chronic illness. I feel so hopeless because this is not the first time he does this. Before I got married to him he brought girls over the house and well who knows what happened. After being married for about 6 years he travel to his country and meets up with his ex girlfriend (he was in contact with her through fb) Years later I have chosen to forgive and move on and I feel like I find him either trying to smoke weed behind my back or searing in craigslist in the personal section. 66 years later I find him on xdating website trying to hook up with girls. He says he didn’t do anything and that it wasn’t him. He says he doesn’t want me to leave him but I am so done, I want and need security and peace of mind.
I have had a few situations where my potential sb wants to meet for dinner. No sex. Which is fine bc it is good to see if we click/have chemistry. Thing is, they sometimes expect a financial gift. I have a problem buying dinner and giving a substantial gift as well. Dropping 6k to watch someone eat? lol. Besides, they can always take the money and run coming up with any reason to say it won 8767 t work and goodbye the next day. Leaving me looking and feeling like a serious fool. And if feels like a scam. A girl could do this a few times a week and clean up??