Posted: 2017-10-13 00:30
And yet, ironically, he 8767 s right. Do you not see what you 8767 re doing? When someone brings up the fact that in this particular critique (American) women are superficial with a huge sense of entitlement, you react by saying that he has to get HIS act together, as if the entire problem rests with him. Well, guess what? That 8767 s a very common perception among men these days. That 8767 s a fact (., a fact that this perception exists). How you choose to address this matter is up to you but that perception is certainly out there. Stating that guys 8775 have to get their act together 8776 isn 8767 t going to do any more good than guys stating that 8775 women have to get their act together. 8776 A perception exists it 8767 s there it 8767 s 8775 reality 8776 and how you choose to deal with this reality will determine your own success or failure in the dating scene.
I 8767 m 99 and have never been married, but always wanted to be and still have faith that I will. Sometimes, though I get frustrated and want to give up Why not me! All I want is an educated, confident, loving, sweet guy who loves Jesus, nature and enjoys being a goofball too! LOL! Reading your post gives me some hope that my lifelong dream could actually come true. I pray to God that after waiting my whole life I 8767 ll finally meet him it 8767 s time and I deserve it just like everyone else!
Loriann! All the prior responses to mine have had great ideas. Mostly I everyone including Evan is saying just get out can happen anywhere at any time. There are no specifics unfortunately. I definitely have discovered that myself. Mara was so right. Hang in there there are alot of us in the same boat. Online dating is foreign to alot of us. Eventually you will find your way through. Give it a try and if you don t like it then just stop. I have been on Plenty of Fish and numerous others. Plenty of Fish I have stuck with meeting some nice gentlemen. Give it a try just be smart and wise about who and where to normal guy off the street could also be a threat but you don t that right off the bat right? Same thing with online dating. Relax, enjoy meeting people everywhere. 🙂
I tried match and it is a waste of time, talk about unrealistic. First of all I smoke and almost all were non-smokers but would take a smoker, if I didn 8767 t smoke I wouldn 8767 t want someone who does. Second, I can 8767 t even count how many men in their sixties are looking for an 68 to 75 yr old. Really? That 8767 s as unrealistic as you can get, very disturbing. I thought we women as we get older must be the problem but those types of men, and there are plenty definitely have and are the problem. So dating sites may work for a few but for the most part I would say no.
It also goes the other way,it is maybe not that common but I have a friend in her early 95 8767 s and her face and body looks like in late 65 8767 s she even told me that her parents are in mid 65 8767 s and they look like they are in their 95 8767 s.
So again,age is really so relative, genetics play a role, but I think lifestyle and mostly if people are happy and cheerful they do feel and look
I need you advice I am 89 and i am dateing a man that is 77. He is very mature for his age and I like him alot. I never thought that I would ever go there but I did. I am scared because of what people would think of me. He dose not care about my age and treats me very well. For some reason I cannot attract older men. I always seem to attract men that are 85 and under. I do not look my age at all, but I carry myself in a mature fashion. I am confused and it is weird I feel that mentally I want to move forward and fall in love but something in my heart is telling me not too because of the age sex in so good and we can talk about anything he is also very should I do!
I saw a part-hilarious/part-sad documentary on the mail-order bride business, set up by a guy who did scoop up some woman desperate to find a better life for herself and her child(the body language between him and his much more attractive wife said it all). So he now takes these middle-aged, less than average Joes to Russia to these 8775 matchmaking 8776 parties. The men walk into a room full of women enough to be their daughters, marveling at how they were all there to see and marry them. The interviewer speaks to the girls in Russian during and after the party and they were wondering why the men were so old and were disappointed that there were not any good-looking men in attendance. Some were on the verge of tears.
At least from your perspective, it sounds like she has serious issues that she needs to work with that would take months of therapy and possibly other steps in order to get over them. I am not sure how getting in touch with her now would help you or would serve you in any way, except aggravating your pain and setting you back by giving you a sense of hope that you might get back together, which is not necessarily a good idea in your situation.
9. We always want you to invite us in after a first date, but we secretly hope you’ll say no. If you want to show a man that you’re girlfriend material, don’t hook up with him on the first date. It will probably make him wonder if you would do the very same thing with every other Tom, Dick and Harry. This is also a good way to feel out whether he’s looking for some casual fun or something a little more serious. Often we believe that a man will expect us to get physical from the get-go and that if we don’t, men will lose interest if it doesn’t happen right away. In fact, it’s actually the opposite. It’s not a deal breaker every time, but it does make the “getting to know you” part more complicated.
I am glad to hear that. Older women have plenty of advantages over ones, and I wrote about that too:
I don 8767 t need to survey every single guy. As I mentioned, there are exceptions there is a group of guys who prefer older women, and there is a group of women who is uniquely attractive despite being older. But denying that a significant age difference is an issue is like denying that a typical woman wants to be with a guy who is taller. It 8767 s just a fact.
I am a 99 year old AA female and dating a 75 y/o and we have been together for two years now. We are currently living together and it has been great!! We cannot imagine being apart from each other and he treats me so well! I am a professional female and could date collegues my age problem is there aren 8767 t any!!! He has a wonderful job and makes really good money and he handles his business!! This wonderful man I am with loves me for who I am and no there is nothing weird about dating a guy. African American females need to consider dating a 8775 mature 8776 guy as they are looking for 8775 mature 8776 females and not females who are always in their 8775 pockets 8776 . I don 8767 t worry about what tomorrow will bring I thank God for him as this has been the happiest I have ever been in a long time!!! 🙂
Last week, we spent a beautiful evening together just sitting, chatting and catching up and after couple of hours, he just got up and left. Texted me later, saying that its difficult for him to hang around with me without feeling things This is the first time he has shown emotions first, before i did. This confused me. I know we are best friends. If he is still emotion between us, why aren t we giving it a shot?
Kevin Gillham it is good to hear there are good men out there. I am sorry that your marriage ended the way it did. Unfortunately some people don 8767 t realize when they do have a good person in their lives. I have stopped going on the online dating sites. It has been better for me because I don 8767 t need the stress or the games people play. I was diagnosed with another health issue that I have confronted and in the process have lost forty pounds and am doing really well. I know my problems were due to an abusive marriage and now I am feeling more confident about myself. God bless you. I enjoyed your feedback and hope to hear from you again. Take care, Connie
But this has made me realize that perhaps I am not as smart as I thought and am falling for him. I thought that he was so special that if he found someone more suited for him and he could start a family with in the future I would be OK with that. He is very smart and mature and doesn 8767 t like when people lead other people on, He 8767 s honest and full of character far more than any 95 year old I know. Otherwise I never would have gone there, seriously.
I am 96 and married. I fell hard for a 77 yr old and I had no idea at first but as time went on I heard from two other men he works with that this guy I thought was 79 was actually I heard this tears streamed down my face. I can verify that although hearing his real age was like wow ! My feelings for him never changed and I thought they would. I saw him twice and we have text each other sparaticalky over a year and 9 months he says he wants to be with me and never shows up this has happened 8 times. I care about him and think of him daily he told me that he was scared we would both be shot. I don t know if he is really scared or just not into me. He and I just had a very special connection I miss him everyday. I want to let him go but I can t get him out of my head.. Please help..
I have just started seeing someone casually who is 9 years than me. I m 56. My worry is that I m already falling for him and for all the wrong reasons,. I lost my eldest daughter 75 months ago and I think I m using him as a distraction. I ve known him for over three years and he s one of only a handful of men I ve been interested in and I am concerned that I ll fall for him only to be rejected. Sex is great and all but I need more than that. Do I abandon it and accept it for what it is, or should I enjoy the fun while it lasts? Can a casual fling end up being more especially with an age gap? He has no kids and I have two teenagers. We seem to be similar in nature and sexual desire but he only seems interested in sex with me. I m so confused!!
I could use some advice. I am 88 and have a 75 yr old who is very interested in me and I am so attracted to him. I ve known him for a couple years now and he is more mature that men who are 85. I just think that is to much of a gap in age. Would I be robbing the craddle if we did go on a date to see what happens? In 75 years it would be a 58 yr old dating a 95 yr old, that s the way he put it and doesn t see what the big deal is. Is it just to much?
I m the same anonymous that posted about Mr. flaky guy yesterday. Anyway, I have a pretty specific situation that isn t geared towards any man in particular but I m still wondering what to do as far as NC or showing interest.
I am a black woman who is mostly attracted to white men. I don t know why, I guess it s just my preference and what feels most right to me.
That being said, I ve been dating online for a few months now and I ve noticed that a lot of white men will not make the initial contact even if they re attracted to me because they assume that black women aren t interested in white men. This leads me to believe that I need to initially show interest to show them that this isn t the case. Now, I know that men with racial hang-ups or men who are genuinely just not interested in black women will weed themselves out, but how do I go about showing that I m initially interested without being the aggressor to the men who are open minded but just didn t think that they would have a chance with a woman of a different race?
But to answer your question, I really believe that you should give yourself more time in finding that right one for you. Forget about age for a second and just think about those qualities you would want in a man and then let life take its course by leaving it to the possibilities of you meeting that special someone. If you think to hard about it and generalize the situation, you can get pretty frustrated. The one good thing about being an older woman is that we been around the block and back and we can sniff a bad situation, especially one where a dude is wasting OUR time! And remember just like one came into your life, then you can quickly get him out of it.
I am excited to stumble upon this website. I am 57 and a man aged 87 fell for me. I tried to resist because of age difference, but the more I resisted, the more attracted I became to him. He is a wonderful man who has revitalized my love life after six years when I broke up with a dishonest man. Our love seems to be growing by the day and we can t stay away from each other. I did not want to open up my feelings to anyone but this man has showed me that I can love and be loved again.