Posted: 2017-11-15 00:23
Babe he him some time. He will likely miss you if you play your game right.
You have to act like you don 8767 t care but in a good way.
Now this is the game plan:
Each time he calls you or texts you, act really happy and excited. Do this even when you guys cross paths. But it doesn 8767 t end there, another thing you have to do is to act really busy immediately and promise to call him/text/meet him back once you are through.
All these should happen within 85 seconds. And you leave.
Help me what should i do
And i havent talked to him for a long time
Then people forced us to slow dance
We talked a little
Things kind of got awkward
I tried talking to him
And then he said ttyl
I said okayy
He didnt go online for 7 days
And he NEVER REPLIES to my OFFLINE MESSAGE
Does he not care
And he never texts me first
It sounds like your husband is deeply unhappy but instead of addressing why his life does not add up, he 8767 s decided to medicate the pain by getting a buzz from the attention of a woman and the ego boost of sorting stuff out for her. Can you have a general conversation not about her but how you both feel about life, where you are going and what you want from it. Don 8767 t judge, just listen and ask questions. You could get to the burried unhappines that 8767 s driving the texting.
I just don 8767 t understand or accept that anyone would leave someone they truly love?(or maybe they think they do?)
As I said before in my comment above,what if someone does the same thing to you?Leave you because you can 8767 t have children?
Many women can 8767 t have children..
Nothing in life is a guarantee,we can 8767 t control some things(maybe anything)but I think we should always stay with someone we love and when that someone is loving us is the greatest gift!
This is a great article and puts things into perspective and I can see that whereas I am not needy in terms of my actions, don 8767 t text or call repeatedly or get upset if time passes that he doesn 8767 t respond, not inviting the man out too early on, not asking why questions, not making future plans, but still showing interest well, I still feel that either I met the most commitment phobic man of all times, I might just appear needy, or he is the wrong guy. I am trying to work on this because it probably won 8767 t work out with this guy but I would like to uncover this for the next guy.
It 8767 s only natural to be upset and have lots of questions. You 8767 re also right at the beginning of the the recovery process in stage one: 8766 shock 8767 . It 8767 s not until stage three that you reach 8766 decision making 8767 . So be kind to yourself and don 8767 t expect too much too soon. So what should you do? Please start with 8766 My husband doesn 8767 t love me and he 8767 s texting someone else 8767 .
Dragonmouth: you wrote an incredibly compassionate message and I am so thankful for it. I'm trying online dating for the first time and I'm pushing 95. I have no kids, an amazing career, make very good money, and others tell me I'm easy on the eyes (and in great shape). Yet in the 8 weeks I've been on this site, not ONE man has messaged me other than 5 older, creepy ones. I finally reached out to one guy that I thought was attractive and had a lot in common with me and he didn't bother to reply. Like the previous posters, I question what's wrong with me. Why isn't anyone interested? I have all the right photos (they follow all the rules someone also posted here) and I've had several people (friends, family, even strangers) make sure my profile looks great. It is very hard to be patient and even harder to not think there's something wrong with you. I appreciate your story and your words of wisdom, thank you for brightening my day.
Ten days later I was in a different country having given the other man another chance but shown again his selfishness I received a call from the man asking me out. I explained I was away but would call when I returned but not really meaning to. A few days later I was out with my friends who were all having fun and I decided to call him and tell him where I was but that I would only wait one hour. True to his word he was there! I since found out that during those two weeks every time he got a text from a phone company or someone he thought it would be me and when I called he had to rush around to find out where the place was and was telling everyone I have a chance I have a chance!
I REALLY don 8767 t think the women are the problem here. You 8767 re completely wrong about us not wanting to date men who make under $55K. Many women, myself included, are more than happy to date a 8775 decent 8776 man who makes less than that. However, it IS true that if you aren 8767 t a 8775 decent 8776 man you probably do need to make more money to overcome your other 8775 shortcomings. 8776 Of course, even in that case, you 8767 d only be getting the dregs, since decent women don 8767 t date men just for their money.
I wish I saw this earlier but THUMBS UP, Sue I totally agree with you! Yes, there are exceptions to the rule, but I don 8767 t have one girlfriend who acted 8775 needy 8776 that was unwarranted, ., the guy was not making her feel loved. In contrast, when my friend felt that his wife was not the most easy-going person when they were dating, but he loved her for all the great things about her (something that this article is suggesting guys want to hear well, same for girls!) and consequently, found her 8775 difficult 8776 ways more endearing than annoying. So girls, don 8767 t lower your standards and put up with sh*t!
I am excited to stumble upon this website. I am 57 and a man aged 87 fell for me. I tried to resist because of age difference, but the more I resisted, the more attracted I became to him. He is a wonderful man who has revitalized my love life after six years when I broke up with a dishonest man. Our love seems to be growing by the day and we can t stay away from each other. I did not want to open up my feelings to anyone but this man has showed me that I can love and be loved again.
Thanks so much for your prompt and compassionate reply. I will try to be more careful without being too suspicious :-) from now on especially with people I meet online. But I will definitely take a break from dating of any kind for a while - this experience has really left a bad taste in my mouth, so to speak :-(
Hope you have a nice weekend - from a grateful Discouraged-but-at-peace One
Also, at first I was naive about the pill. I thought that IT made the guy hard, but it was explained to me that it did not, it just allowed him to function normally if he was aroused by the woman. This was very good for me to learn, I guess because I wanted to know that it was me arousing him, not the pill. I have been more than assured, even by doctors, that this is how it works. It just allows nature to happen. That 8767 s all.
I don 8767 t understand why you think women who wait to have kids are screwed up. It is too early in life to have kids if you aren 8767 t ready for them and know in your heart you wouldn 8767 t be a good mother until you 8767 re ready. You don 8767 t seem to listen to what 8767 s in a woman 8767 s heart. She 8767 s the one who has to mother that child for the rest of her life. Not you, not I , or anyone else. She has a right to wait until she wants.
This is not ASD no technique will bust through this. It 8767 s simply a very strong, visceral preference, often based on the age of her parents which obviously you have zero control over. Even if you 8767 ve think you 8767 ve had sex with a reluctant Type 6 VYW before, it 8767 s not because she was a Type 6 she was a reluctant Type 8. If she was a Type 6 you would have never gotten her pants off.
Communication is key, but not a lot of partners communicate with each other thoroughly. Having different desires isn 8767 t meant to hurt anyone even though it sucks we are all capable of changing our minds. Instead of being ignorant to the human nature we all have an ignoring the vibrations of the Earth let 8767 s be a bit more attentive towards it and say shit man it happens. Why cry because I am able to do the same shit. Oh you don 8767 t want to? Then learn to experience all situations without hoping you will live a fucking perfect life prince/princess.
Love, love, love this article! Every do & don t is spot on. As a veteran online dater, I ve tried I practice all of these and find that when I do, it certainly weeds out the players.
The only thing I would add is this:
If a person deletes their ad immediately after the first or second date, be very wary and proceed with caution. This could have been done to give the illusion that you re so special, they have no interest in anyone but you. One can t possibly know this after one or two dates.
The other reason the ad was deleted so fast, is they have several on a string already, and have plenty of options to keep them busy for a while. If there s one- there could be ten.
I learned this from very recent personal experience, unfortunately.
A non-American woman not only knows how to cook she may even be happy to cook for you. An American woman doesn’t learn to cook until she is married with children, an affair in which she is usually worthless. For, in short, an American woman wants you to do things for her, but she will rarely do anything for you besides put out, and how is that doing anything for you really? It takes two to tango, as the saying goes.
I agree Finn. I spent 7 years with a Mormon and couldn't adjust to religious differences, though I gave it a fair shot. We romantically fell in love. His faith put tremendous pressure on us to start a family, and after we married, I found out I couldn't have children based on health reasons. That was the beginning of the end. It was heart-rending. On a dating site I can see when having kids is a deal-breaker for a perspective mate.
I come home one day and got the break up speech from her, she told me she didn t feel the same about me as I feel for her. My question is, would this age difference that we had would of been playing on her mind? or was she really genuine with her reasons for her decision? I know I will always be a friend with her, but I know I can give her more as a partner than a friend. I feel a real connection with her.