Posted: 2017-09-11 18:38
Part of it is just a difference in conventions — the professional conventions for hiring are different than the conventions for online dating. Employers are expected to close the loop when someone sends them business correspondence, which is what a job application is. With online dating, there’s more of a cultural norm (among most people, at least) that if you’re not interested, there’s no need to respond to say that it’s okay to just delete the message.
That 8767 s honestly the way I think about it. I don 8767 t really expect to hear from employers if all I 8767 ve done is submit an application the job market is still packed and I know responding to each and every applicant can be prohibitive when you 8767 re getting hundreds of applications. But if I 8767 ve taken the time to get dressed up and give you an hour of my time, I 8767 d like at least a perfunctory 8775 thanks but no thanks. 8776
FetLife is actually trying to move away from being a 8775 meat market 8776 (that 8767 s the term I 8767 ve heard used hah) and is more like a regular social network than a straight up dating site. So I think the clear communication about what you 8767 re looking for is even more important. But overall, I don 8767 t think the dynamics of people on either site are more or less different, same amount of aggression and hostility amongst both kinky and vanilla populations. Oh and obviously the sexual talk will probably come up sooner rather than later, but I don 8767 t think it 8767 s outrageous to expect it to be kept out of the beginning exchanges, or at least the first message.
I think it is stupid to expect so much from girls. I do wonder what the standards of korean girls are though.
I think koreans are a bit too keen on dating westerners these days, just my opinion. In any case as a Dutch-Korean (born in Seoul, live in Amsterdam) Would you not just box me into the same group as all korean guys since i look the part?
Just wondering though, i don 8767 t acuse you for doing so.
I only want to point out that nothing is really black on white, it differs per person.
b) Koreans are excellent at English, they have that over Japan. So there 8767 d likely be less in the way of communication issues, though possibly less chance for a Western man wanting to become part of the local culture, as I 8767 ve done in Japan. I 8767 m not sure if Korea would welcome foreigners into their culture as Japan does. (This is for people in Korea or in heavily Korean areas like .)
It 8767 s not just that the police will be more useful in a really unstable work situation than an unstable online dating one. I once saw a candidate go nuts after rejection (as in nailing dead wildlife to my then employer 8767 s door, placing long screeds on dashboards of cars in the parking lot next to our building, and ranting in the boulevard across the road). The police were helpful and proactive in protecting us and ensuring the candidate got the help he needed.
When I first started online dating, I 8767 d genuinely try to reply to everything. One guy did not take the rejection so well. He got openly, and aggressively, hostile. I stopped replying and reported him (I 8767 m sure I was not the only one). His profile got shut down. Then for a long time after he would create a new profile, message me either 8775 I wanna meet you 8776 or 8775 I 8767 m gonna meet you 8776 and each time they would subsequently shut down.
Koreans typically have awesome personalities which will make you want to keep them around for a long, long time. I almost never find Japanese girls when I travel but there are always crowds of busy Koreans exploring the world in any country I 8767 ve been to. I haven 8767 t seen women from any other Asian country as adventurous and confident as Korean women are. While Japanese women are cute and bubbly, many of them just haven 8767 t left their country which is kind of sad. The Korean women I 8767 ve dated have also had a fantastic sense of humour, and have always been keen to try new experiences.
I think the comparison is more parallel the further along you are re: dating I think if you 8767 ve been out with someone a few times and it becomes clear it won 8767 t work, you at least owe them some communication around why you don 8767 t think it should continue. Just as if you had two finalists after a couple of in-person interviews, you should definitely let the losing candidate know they didn 8767 t get the job.
As someone who has worked all over Asia for several years, the statement that Korean women have the best bodies in all of Asia is complete horse sh!+!!. The hot ones u see in gangnam are completely fake (plastic) and 99% are what we call 8775 fat-skinny. 8776 They are naturally thin, but have no fitness definition because they are relatively lazy. They wear tight pants with fake butt pads and stuffed bras to give the illusion of being fit, but very few will take off their clothes without all the lights off because their fraudulent bodies will completely disappoint you. Japanese girls, on average, have far better naturally fit bodies and much better personalities. Some of the other listed attributes are somewhat accurate, but 8775 best bodies in Asia? 8776 Not even close. They are also notorious for not grooming their covered areas~ only the fake visible areas.
If you are interested in exploring this connection between dating and searching for work, please read Andrew Kay 8767 s essay in the philosophy magazine, The Point, called 8775 Pilgrim at Tinder Creek. 8776 He delves deep into this topic within the particularly fraught realm of the academic job search. I highly recommend reading it! You can find it on magazine 8767 s website, .
Met my fiance on Tinder. Made the whole process so much easier since I could choose who I wanted to talk to (sounds superficial, but you can tell quite a lot by the photos people choose to post of themselves (guys who only post mirror selfies while looking intense just aren 8767 t my type). You can 8767 t win in the debate over whether to respond when you are not interested. I got hostile responses no matter what I did (. for ignoring messages and for saying thanks but no thanks).
Here in Thai we get a Korean TV channel. I often watch it many hours a day. It seems beautiful. From the culture, to the dress and fashion, to the women.
I am seriously thinking to move there, but I do not want to be a back packer arriving at the airport not knowing what the hell to do in a strange land.
Do you know anyone who would want to have a guest? Take care of me, show me around. I would gladly pay more than necessary.
I got married as a result of online dating and what you said is accurate from my experience. Sure there were some guys that I rejected based on attraction, but there were many more that I thought were attractive and I rejected them because they didn 8767 t know the difference between there/their/they 8767 re, or made it clear they were just looking for a hook up, or had some very different religious convictions, or whatever.
Now that 8767 s fine and dandy if that 8767 s what you 8767 re looking for (and I wondered why he wasn 8767 t on Christian Mingle instead of OK Cupid). I sent him a very polite rejection something like 8775 Hey, thanks for messaging you seem really nice but I don 8767 t think we 8767 d click I hope you find somebody wonderful. 8776 I did not get any bullshit back and I really do hope he did find somebody wonderful. :)
True story, I had 8775 must love cats 8776 in my profile because I have two, and they are my life (as most pet owners will say). The amount of guys that messaged me saying 8775 I hate cats, but 8776 or 8775 I 8767 m deathly allergic, but 8776 Like, do you think I 8767 m going to give up my two companions that I 8767 ve had for 65 years for a guy that randomly messages me? No thx.
Start with your gender, birthday, location, and marital status, and go on to fill in your basic information and choose a password and username. Finish by selecting three labels to describe yourself (. workaholic, introverted, or the hilariously translated &ldquo fatty&rdquo ) and writing a few words about yourself and your ideal match. Later, you can further specify your interests, ideal match requirements, lifestyle choices, and values.
The truth is that Korean men are too demanding(we have to look perfect and gotta have a degree from best schools, make good money from nice jobs like teacher or doctor or have rich parents, take care of the husband 8767 s parent, siblings and relatives, like call them everyday, give money or gift them often, nurse them when they 8767 re sick and they can visit your home without any notice and complain about how we treat their son).
This is the best information out there. Nice job ! I am going to Phuket for 8 weeks in Nov. I have been married 8 times. I lived in Honduras. Beautiful girls, but after living and dating there for 5 years I got married and came back to the everything changed. The 6stone was great, perfect wife but her kids became a problem and we broke up. Sucked. then the 7nd one wanted to work and when she got here that was all she wanted to do and not help out or travel with me, All about sending money home then the 8rd one, we went out for 5 years she came to the states and it lasted 5 of it is my fault. I went out with them for 68 to 78 or so got married and as they matured they wanted different things. Can 8767 t blame them. But the last one when I told her I was taking her home waited until the date before she was to go home called the police, said I had held her hostage for 5 months beat here daily that I was an assassin for Pablo Escobar and on and on. I was arrested, charge were of course dropped. But now that is on my record for domestic violence.
When sweet, reasonable looking guys can 8767 t seem to find someone no matter how hard they try, my theory is:
One of two things is 8775 off 8776 .
The 8775 picker 8776 (meaning they are selecting the wrong women from the jump, mostly based on strong immediate physical attraction or some intangible quality 8775 she seems so fun! 8776 )
The approach (meaning they are coming off odd, desperate, needy, weird whatever.)