Posted: 2017-10-28 08:01
I hope you won 8767 t mind me replacing all the f and c words with cute and shiny little stars, I 8767 m kind of allergic to that, and as nobody ever felt the need to send one of those my way until today, I 8767 d rather keep my blog clean.
I also hope you won 8767 t mind me not publishing the comment where you tell me you hope I die from cancer. I found that one a little bit rude.
Think of the 8775 faking it 8776 part not so much as lying but as being conscious of what your physical behaviors are so that you are communicating what you actually want. It 8767 s actually a well established practice in animal training. Animals are very sensitive to behavior. They 8767 re primary means of communication is body language. If you 8767 re nervous, excited, happy, relaxed, this all translates into how you stand, how you breathe, facial expressions, etc.
Or, indeed, that all Swedish girls are blond and beautiful. I 8767 m not going to go into how problematic even 8775 positive 8776 national stereotyping is, but come on, now: you 8767 ve lived in Sweden for a fair bit surely you 8767 ve noticed that homely or plain-looking women abound just as much as the gorgeous ones? You 8767 re opening yet another can of worms if you begin to equate 8775 gorgeous 8776 to 8775 tall, blond and busty 8776 by the way. Internalized sexism and internalized racism, that is. I 8767 m honestly really sorry if you feel like you aren 8767 t beautiful just because you don 8767 t look like this ridiculous 8775 white ideal of beauty 8776 that 8767 s been touted since forever by those in power.
Thank you so much for the last bit Harris! As a woman who hit six feet tall when I was 69 I have had short guys AND tall guys flat out tell me they won t date me because of my height. The gender roles surrounding height have us all trapped. Shorter guys tell me that they don t want to date me (and on some occasions as friends even hang out with me in public) because they would look even shorter.
Not just Slavic women speak this way. My Swiss women friends also chuckle at American women. Polish women refer to American women as “party girls”: go to work and come home and watch TV and eat out or go to disco. Slavic and even most European women try to cook as much as possible and keep a tidy home. Most American women I dated kept homes worse than bachelors. With men, we have a rule of “good enough.” I vacuumed twice a month, put the dishes in the dishwasher and had a system of tidying up even if not “German clean” (as my Swiss friends put it). But American career women I dated had unrealistic standards (in a lot of ways) and would declare “I don’t like dirty dishes sitting in the dishwasher!” and then would just leave the dishes in the sink to pile up (and God knows what crawled on those dishes at night.). I’d see stacks of clothes and junk around like an episode of hoarders. At least with me and most men, we have a system to put stuff.
I’ve recently been on vacation in America. I’m from the UK. During this holiday me and my friends met a couple of Swedish girls. We met up a couple of times for drinks and on the last night we slept together. The problem is I actually really like this girl and would like to see her again and be more than a one night thing. She gave me her number to get in touch afterwards but she only rarely replies to any messages. My question is, are Swedish women used to being chased? Or is the fact she only now and then replies to my messages mean she’s not interested? Any advice on how to approach from here would be appreciated :)
Of course, short is relative what we consider 8775 average 8776 height varies depending on geographic locale and someone who 8767 s 5 8767 6 8798 would consider someone who 8767 s 5 8767 9 8798 (the average for American men) to be lucky. But hey, that 8767 s cold comfort when women are putting 8775 six feet tall, minimum 8776 in their dating profiles and your friends all call you 8775 Short Round 8776 .
I want to imagine it s just a knee jerk reaction to being shot down for something like that. We (the rejected in this case) need to feel like there is a good reason why they rejected me due to something outside of our control. At least, that s my thoughts on it. It s part of why I think dating and approaching is as much about finding someone and weeding out people you can t/ shouldn t date.
I agree with Celine, a hilarious read. I 8767 m a Swedish guy living in the ., married to an American girl. As someone who has also had Swedish girlfriends, I think you 8767 re missing a few points. Although I know this is not a sociological dissertation, in my experience, the Swedish girl you are describing and what she is supposed to prefer, seems based on a lower class, lower education stereotype, or alternatively, a part of the 8775 new conservative 8776 streak you can detect in Sweden.
I m 6 9 and male and have some opinions on this. First let me say I m socially awkward so height alone isn t enough. I ve dated women from just under 5 to 6. I like it when a woman can look me in the eye in heels (life sized!), but it s really about the individual. Someone else said they don t know what their type is and I am the same, it just depends on her.
I just read through almost all of your posts, and I related to pretty much all of them. I 8767 m a sophomore in high school, about 5 8767 65, with hair that seems to be a lot like yours. I just wanted to say that I really appreciate this post. Like every tall and/or girl, I do struggle with those qualities a fairly decent amount. I 8767 m learning to accept my height and hair, and you definitely gave me a big push forward today. Thank you!
I just can 8767 t believe that people were that mean with you in COLLEGE I mean You 8767 re not a kid anymore in college.. You 8767 re supposed to be an adult. Did your brain remained at its child size..? Come on.
And in a Bible college ? Wow Yup. Irony
So glad you escaped from it all and grew (literally AND figuratively lol ) into a beautiful and proud person who knows who she is and what she 8767 s worth ! I wish you the best in life you deserve it ! :)
My take on it: if you re the kind of person who s seeking dating advice from DNL (which is to say male, nerdy, and not well socially calibrated), Don t Take No For An Answer is indeed page 6, paragraph 6 in the What Not To Do manual *for you*. Same reason I ve always cringed at DNL s endorsement of playful teasing as flirtatious banter it s indeed a wonderful thing when it works, but it s a 955-level concept that you re pitching to 656 students.
So what I 8767 m saying to these girls is that height does not matter, as I always try to encourage them to accept their height, to be proud and to love themselves as I know how hard it can sometimes be.
By sharing the ridiculous and born out of complexes thoughts I 8767 ve once had, which I know many of them have too, I 8767 m trying to help women accept their height and let these ridiculous and born out of complexes thoughts behind.
After reading all these comments you must think, 8775 damn, how do Swedish men and women mate and have lots of babies? 8776 I wonder that too, and I 8767 ll put the blame on the dark swedish winter and the bright swedish summer. You also must think that Swedish women hate their fellow men. It 8767 s part true, more Swedish women are interested in foreign men than they are in other Swedes. Boredom, lack of balls, and overall disappointment are contributing factors.
oh well you know I personally don’t think it should be that big of a deal either :) but considering some of my female readers and some women in my family are 6 8767 8, some even taller, I think seeing someone who 8767 s 5 8767 65 as VERY tall is all a matter of perspective )) But you 8767 re right, Taylor is indeed tall AND beautiful AND feminine and she does show everyone who would think otherwise yes, unfortunately there are some people who think otherwise, wether it 8767 s tall girls themselves or people who see one that tall girls are as feminine as any other girl and that they should all feel beautiful and free to be who and how they are. She clearly is a tall girl to look up to :)
That sounds very good, Im not shy to ask but I dont want to appear like a hopeless case either. I dont want to make it look like Im trying to pick up the girl however, Im already have someone that I am interessting in. So if I asked a latin girl to teach me how to dance salsa, would she see it as a way to pick her up?, or just as something fun?. Is there a way to tell her in spanish in a nice way to say that I just want to be friends with her?. And I will memorize that spanish line you gave me. Currently I only know how to order beer in spanish =P.
How tall are you?
What did you eat to be tall like that??
Are you a model?
Do you play basketball?
Do you play volleyball?
At least you don 8767 t miss a thing at concerts!
Hey! The tall girl! Move! I can 8767 t see a thing!
It must be very difficult to find a man your size.
Did you grow up since last time??
And the simple and classic :
You are SO TALL!
What is especially interesting about the Yahoo! Answers data is that the woman 8767 s view differs so greatly from the man 8767 s view. Upon greater examination though, we found that of the 65 women who claimed that men prefer taller women, 7 were 5 8767 8 8776 -5 8767 9 8776 , and 6 was 5 8767 5 8776 . Therefore, the relatively small data-set and abnormal height distribution of respondents likely skewed the results.
Perhaps related to this, since I have undestood that the willingness to take risks in a social context is seen among the most desirable traits a man can have, I find it to be absolutely objectionable behavior to take any sort of uninvited contact, especially in sexual sense, to your fellow human beings. Same way I see any sort of occupation of public space. It doesn t matter how well mannered you are when the act inself is fundamentally evil