Posted: 2017-11-14 16:36
A modified model: If Person A isn t attracted to Person B at all, Person B s enthusiasm isn t going to do much either way. If Person B is only moderately attracted to Person B (which I think is a really common situation, at least for those of us who hang around the average or below-average part of the looks spectrum), Person B s enthusiasm can be attractive. Of course, it s even better if Person B has interests that Person A enjoys and can relate to, but even a different set of interests will come across better than finding out that Person B is a dull blob.
But you have to have a special monitor that works with the syncing technology and no monitor works with both the AMD and Nvidia sync tech. Radeon Chill works with any monitor. You simply tell it how many frames you actually want to see per second. Got a monitor that refreshes 65 times a second? Set the max to 65 frames per second and Radeon Chill makes magic happen. In addition, the software doesn’t try and churn out 65fps if nothing is on screen. Instead it recognizes moments with static visuals and dramatically cuts down on how much power is being used—and you can tweak the number as well. Want it to never go below 85fps? Just set the slider in the AMD software.
Their secret was very simple: they were fun to hang around with. If you talked to them, then you were going to enjoy yourself. They knew how to make people feel good. They were genuine interesting people with stories to share and a genuine interest in getting to know the people they talked to. They made friends wherever they went. The bouncers, the bartenders, the waitstaff they all loved these guys within minutes of meeting them. Everybody knew who they were. Everybody wanted to hang out with them.
The AMD Vega 69 and Vega 56 are an attempt to lure people away from the ~$655 Nvidia 6585 with cheaper options that start to approximate its performance. When the Vega microarchitecture the cards are based on was announced back at CES, people didn’t immediately leap out of their seats. AMD didn’t have a cool hook like when Nvidia announced it had spent “billions” to develop its latest card. All AMD had was a promise of speed when the cards arrived this summer.
Except the article really isn t about choosing lifestyle activities. Its about the way you socialize with other people once at those activities. The premise is that attractiveness is determined by personality, especially things like sense of humor, active listening, genuine interest in other people and the ability to make them feel good about themselves. That s just as useful for meeting people in Magic tournaments as it is in white water rafting. So...yeah, apples and oranges.
I m having a hard time finding one of the original papers I read, this was all a bit the rage concerning the emergence of less dimorphic mate selection preferences coming out of Sweden a couple of years ago. However, here is one of the more famous articles on the opposite side of the debate than Buss and the other evolutionary psychologists:
The Origins of Sex Differences in Human Behavior: Evolved Dispositions Versus Social Roles
by Alice H. Eagly and Wendy Wood
The big difference between us is, that I walk into a bar/party/social event, and I tend to be friendly with anyone who wants to be friendly with me, while she acts cold and aloof towards men she finds unattractive. She s not a bad person, and I don t think she s doing it on purpose, but she s always wondering why she is having such bad luck dating. I ve tried to explain to her, these unattractive (to her) men often have friends that she might find attractive, but nothing holds as much weight for a man as an endorsement or a detraction from his guy friends. I try to explain to her, that part of being charming is being friendly to people who you don t necessarily think have anything to offer for you
I have women as friends, mostly far away. As I ve said before, women have standards. For any given woman, there are men who that woman simply won t be interested in dating under any circumstances. For a woman to date a guy exclusively, she has to believe that she s unlikely to be able to do better. Certainly, not all women have the same tastes, but I get the impression that most women have similar enough standards that there s a proportion of men that pretty much no women are willing to date. Perhaps women believe they can do better perhaps they d simply rather be single than date such men. If those men are trying to date, then they re simply barking up the wrong tree, and that s the situation where I find myself.
This article is spot on. Fun is attractive it means someone is not self-conscious or embarrassed about being who they are. Seeing someone really enjoy something automatically makes you feel like you re enjoying it, too. If a guy is obviously having a great time talking to me, I m much more likely to be interested in him than one who s obviously just trying to figure out if I want to go do the beast with two backs.
Part of me really doubts this. Not about the money and status part but about the fun part.* I ve been told by several people in wildly different contexts that I m witty, a good conversationalist, and fun to be around. Men told me this. Women told me this. The people and contexts have been so different I have no reason to believe they are lying. Especially since some of them have said some brutal things about other aspects of me. At the same time, women do not seem to view me as romance material. I ve seen how heteorsexual women look at men they are attracted to and for the most part can t recall being looked at in that way. There is something about me, something that I m having a very difficult time placing that is really working against my romance life.
Someone who is fun tends to be more confident in themselves after all, it 8767 s hard to be fun when you 8767 re too worried about looking silly or acting childish. Fun people are also positive excessively negative people suck the energy out of the room and kill the mood while positive people help generate energy. Fun people make others feel comfortable and have a better grasp on how to read people 8767 s signs and moods and can adjust themselves as needed. This makes the difference between someone who 8767 s fun and someone who 8767 s just a clown: fun people can find the line and know when things are appropriate or not while a clown tends to blunder on regardless of mood or intent. Fun people are interesting they tend to have diverse interests that they enjoy and have stories to share.
I find it daunting that I m effectively competing with billion other guys. If I express an interest in a woman, she theoretically has billion other guys to chose from. Now, is she going to consent to spend time with me, or is she going to hold out in hopes that one of those billion other guys a) is more her type b) will ask her out soon enough to make the opportunity cost of shooting me down negligible? Right now, it feels like women, as a rule, would rather keep their dance cards open than spend any time at all with me.
This doesn t follow. If anything, it seems to me that geeky men have more to fear socially from flying their geek flag than geeky women, since geek-tolerant women are still relatively scarce, but that s never stopped geeky men. If there s a social stigma associated with something and I m going to draw an analogy to homosexuality here that doesn t lead you to question the sincerity of people who are out of the closet rather, it leads you to question whether people in the general population who aren t out are actually closeted, . whether perhaps they re fake normal people. Nobody questions that Dan Savage is gay, but people wondered whether Manti Te o was (it appears not) after he was revealed to have a girlfriend in Canada.
If what you re trying to argue is that being conventionally physically attractive means that more women are likely to be physically attracted to you, I d agree with you. Technically, that s what conventionally physically attractive *means*, so I m not sure why it even needs to be said. What I disagree with is that you seem to be making romantic desire and success all about physical attraction when it s clear there s a lot more to it.
If you need to get work done on your slow connection, you may have to prioritize tasks differently than if your internet were super fast. So, separate your tasks into bandwidth-heavy and bandwidth-light ones. Get the light ones done when you’re on your slow connection, and group all the bandwidth-heavy tasks together so you can do them if and when you get faster access (and if you can’t get it at home, see if you can borrow a neighbor or relative just for those tasks). Similarly, work outside your browser whenever possible—if you’re doing basic writing, do it in your favorite text editor instead of in your browser. If you plan your work ahead of time, you can at least make the best of a bad situation.
again the same rule applies here. if they tell you they dont mind in a way that makes you feel like they would like it, i slowly go for a kiss and see if they respond in a good way. but if they hesitate or show any sign of being confused or uninterested or not knowing what to say, i assume theyre either not interested or want to take things a bit slower. and i joke by saying that im probably too forward, and say that i hope i didnt offend them in a nice and friendly way.
One might argue that the second point might apply to me, but I haven t hit on a woman at a con in close to twenty years (I have fond memories of making out with a woman I met at a mid-nineties GenCon). I m mostly complaining about the shortage of available women on OKC who either share or are willing to tolerate my interests, plus speculating that women who rejected me without explanation (not that they owe me one) were turned off by the excessive geekiness of my profile.
It s generally the men doing the approaching. A man might pursue the most desirable woman he thinks he has a chance with, and he might hold off on pursuing other, less desirable women unless and until he s figured out whether he has a chance with her or he might date other women concurrently, holding off on exclusivity for as long as possible. There are similarities, sure, but there are some nuanced differences.
A lot of the things I m saying aren t so much ideology as anxiety, and I d love to be proven wrong. I realize that statements like all the best ones are taken are inherently insulting (though they aren t necessarily gendered if I m focusing on women, it s because they re the ones I m interested in, and I ll readily concede that I m hardly one of the best ones myself). Historically, I know that the best way for me to get out of such a rut is to convince myself that I m wrong by finding proof living, breathing proof that I m wrong, and I know I m capable of putting on a happy face for the duration of a date, even if the subsequent lack of a second date puts me back under a cloud for a while. Therapy will probably help, but so long as dating remains terra incognito, it s going to remain a big, scary thing for me, and I won t be able to change my outlook without eventually confronting my anxieties.
Most people have some superficial dealbreakers. I don t think it s very controversial to admit that. I think the error that s being addressed in the article is focusing on one or two traits that a man must absolutely have (usually ones that the guy in question doesn t possess) to have any success with women, when in reality, women do consider those one or two traits but also value a number of others. Since almost no one can find a mate who s gorgeous and wealthy and funny and passionate and fun, there are a lot of opportunities for people to compensate for weaknesses.