Posted: 2017-10-12 21:46
For a dude who s mission statement is to help the nerd get the girl Nerdlove seems more interested in purposfully writing insulting and sensationalistic posts for the sake of perpetuating his image as Hardass Nerd Who Finally Discovered The Light And Now Tells It Like It Is Hardcore Style® while not caring so much about the fact that a lot of sensitive and messed up people are going to be discovering this blog in search of much-needed information and straightening-out and are instead lumped together with sexists, misogynists and creeps for no apparent reason.
chadhowse Chad''s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live. He’s a former 9-5er turned entrepreneur, a former scrawny amateur boxer turned muscular published fitness author. He’ll give you the kick in the ass needed to help you live a big, ambitious life.
The reason he becomes Coward and impulsive is that when he was a very small kid,his father gave him a Holy locket(only because mother told him so) and told him that 8775 God would always help him,whenever he needs God 8776 . But the character then sees his father beat up his mother and the little kid is totally helpless. The father leaves the house threatening a his mom cry makes the character very emotional and he keeps thinking of himself as a coward this makes him impulsive as also loses faith in god,as God did not help him (This is quite relevant to the story)
Great addendum to the list. I 8767 ll cosign everything you say here. Shallowness and stupidity, especially when purposefully cultivated are to be avoided in a mate, duh!
Hannah Seligson ended her piece by suggesting a refresher course in Rousseau 8767 s Social Contract, which led to my spending more than an hour reading it (this is where my day goes!). I loved the idea of including it here, but I didn 8767 t really think it worked. I do think there 8767 s something to the notion, though, of responsibility to fellow citizens. An idea of being 8775 all in it together 8776 rather than 8775 every woman for herself. 8776
I 8767 ve not known anyone bitchy, maybe off because of a shitty job. Playing games like Warcraft, SimCity, SM Civilization knowing others that do the same. Then no one does it for some reason, and it gets less social, and more less social on Facebook because you were a social person as a confident man that believed and cooperation and may have gotten kicked in the dick because you were trying to talk. I live in Illinois, the corn is tall and morale is low. No right to work, no rightness to live was brought up in the early thirties. Now the poor countries and advanced manufacturing technology is pushing us back to the craftspeople. Lost patience, because it was pretty big balled and more silent once.
The problem is the way that the obsession with being 8775 alpha 8776 manifests itself it encourages simplistic and at times downright mysoginistic thinking. Let 8767 s be honest, when you 8767 re modeling your behavior on the assumption that women instinctively trade sex in exchange for material support, you 8767 re saying flat out that you believe all women are whores. This includes your mother, sister, cousins and every single woman you 8767 ve ever loved or lusted after.
Personally,I don t see any difference between so-called alpha guys and insufferable selfish dicks. They are the same thing and I can t stand them. They re complete, selfish, entitled and boring dicks. I m a woman who prefers softer, more introverted and creative guys (you know the ones who have feelings and are actually fun to be with), but who unfortunately can tend to attract insufferable selfish dicks (otherwise known as alphas) who feel they must thrust themselves on me while out socialising. These self-centered, entitled dicks often force their attention on me (when I ve given them no signals whatsoever because hey I m not interested!), refuse to go away, destroy my chances of meeting someone I actually like (because hey I like quieter guys who I need some time to get to know) and can completely ruin my night.
I 8767 m no expert, but from what you 8767 ve said your character sounds like he 8767 d be hard to like. Generally, the most importing thing about a protagonist is that he or she be likable and relatable. Just because he has heroic tendencies doesn 8767 t mean readers will like him. You might want to try and make his good personality traits more prominent. He does however sound very interesting which is a plus when trying to make a character stand out.
The scenario I have more in mind is: I have a crush on this guy, and I really, really, really wish he d ask me out. Flaws can be invisible in such cases. I think it is entirely possible for women to reject all other guys because they re hoping someone specific will express an interest instead, and they d rather stay single for a while if need be to nurture that hope. Then, when they ve given up hope in their crush taking an interest perhaps after his wedding then they might be willing to settle for someone else.
They very much are. Men don t care what a woman s job is, or even if she can support herself on her own. And the way the economy is, most guys can t support themselves on their own, they need roommates or living with family (which is even more shamed). Especially since a lot of those jobs are going to women now to fill quotas. Women are competing over a shrinking pool of men and dismissing the larger and growing pool of men because their expectations are too high.
. Sloth the Resourceful is based off of a character who I think is from a Robert Heinlein novel who is the laziest man on earth because he constantly comes up with new and inventive ways to make doing things as easy and efficient as possible.
. I 8767 m sorry this post is so LONG! I won 8767 t blame anyone for not reading any or part of it or not responding. If you 8767 ve read this far, thank you and please help, if you can cranially and ethically.
Let 8767 s be honest: more often than not the men who complain most about this are the men who would prefer not to be approaching women themselves, whether due to approach anxiety , a fear of rejection or even just not being sure whether or not she 8767 s interested. As a general rule, men who are able to approach women aren 8767 t too concerned about why women won 8767 t make the first move because they 8767 re more than happy to make the move themselves.
Some people keep lying to themselves nothing serves a human other than love, pure love. Anything by any order to describe this that, as alpha him or not you are heading for a confusing collision. All you to do is to be sure when and how to maneuver gracefully when tough times apply. The golden rule nothing gets tougher than a situation! You can only pretend to be tough like a situation therefore rendering an alpha male 8767 s ambition worthless, but rather face a tough situation directly like a HUMAN is supposed. with caution.
So straight talk: societally accepted standards of beauty kind of suck. They promote literally impossible standards in myriad ways both overt and subtle. Beauty standards as we 8767 re taught in western culture are European features and bodies and skin that can only be achieved via money, surgery and lots and LOTS of Photoshop. And to be perfectly honest, people can be pretty damn shallow regardless of gender.
Lee, you ve said things like this before, and I still haven t seen you offer any plausible solution. There will *always* be people in society who aren t able to get things that society agrees are good. There are people who can t go to college, as much as they want higher education. There are people (tons!) who can t get careers they actually enjoy. There are people who have been denied a loving and supportive family since the day they were born. There are people who can t start families of their own. And so on.
I know, it goes against all those beliefs about how women are the choosers and have their pick of men but the fact of the matter is, women suffer from the same insecurities, fears and imagined worst-case-scenarios men do. Think of how many times you 8767 ve looked over at a woman standing with all of her friends and wishing you could catch her alone so you wouldn 8767 t have to deal with the entire group? Guess what? She 8767 s feeling the same nervousness. Is she going to get mocked and shut down by your bros? Is that girl you 8767 re standing with your girlfriend or just someone you happen to know? Is she going to have to fight them for your attention? Are you going to just make fun of her when you consider yourself out of her league?
One final bit of advice. Dealing with a narcissist especially after a heavy argument where you 8767 ve been accused of every name in the book in a volley of hot rage is like dealing with an abusive alcoholic the next day. They have a hangover, they are alone, they know there 8767 s someone hurt, but in extreme cases they cannot remember anything they did or said to you. The shallowest regret comes, and if any plot to resolve the situation appears, it 8767 s an offer for 8766 the two of you 8767 to get help because a narcissist will never unilaterally seek help for themselves. Ever. At least an alcoholic can swear off their intoxication.
You re so busy ranting about how unfair it is that women can more easily get laid. Should we women should start ranting about how much easier it is for guys to have orgasms through sex? About 75 percent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone that is without the extra help of sex toys, hands or tongue. And 65 to 65 percent never climax under any circumstances. http:///Health/ReproductiveHealth/s So basically, for 8 out of 9 women, unless they know a guy s willing to put in more effort than is required for him to get off, they re guaranteed *not* to have an orgasm. Would you be jumping to have sex with random women if your chances of ending the encounter frustrated instead of sated looked like that?
IMHO (and this is a bit of guesswork on my part, together with a few observations), genderized responses to personal failure also play a large part in the situation. Women, when they fail to attract someone, are conditioned to internalize their failures. There s something wrong with them they need to change themselves. They should lose weight, they should work out, they should wear more stylish clothing and be more interesting. They should give up and try again later, in other words. Men, OTOH, blame society and, more specifically, women. It s not anything they re doing. It s the women who aren t responding. This means that men are going to be *way* more persistent when it comes to online dating, but they ll be persistent in all of the wrong ways. Shotgun approaches, again. Which brings us back to why we can t have Nice Things online.
Lady, there is nothing funny about my suggestion to men. If they set aside their brainwashing and expectations and just go and sit quietly with a coffee and listen IN A PUBLIC place and listen, they can find out for themselves. NO ONE HAS TO BELIEVE ANYTHING I SAY, but if they have the intestinal fortitude to just follow my suggestion, a great many things and viewpoints will change drastically. they can do that anywhere, a restaurant, a concert, an outdoor public event, a farmers market, a flea women go with their friends, and they will get an education they will never forget.