Posted: 2017-10-12 21:22
Many flaky chicks have been featured in TV and films. The self-obsessed, narcissistic TV character, Ally Mcbeal, was a classic example of the characteristics of the less venomous type of flaky chick. It’s interesting that many women at the time were up in arms about the fact that the series “let women down” by presenting a non-positive image of womanhood because the main character was so flaky. The fact is that all the social engineering in the world — . no matter how many “positive” images one conspires to put on the silver screen — will not alter the massively growing reality of the flaky chick in this world. Art reflects life, not the other way round.
When I was online dating, I was usually the one to send the first message. There are going to be flakes, but I d recommend setting up a date if the first few messages go well. Suggest the activity and if they say they d be interested, reply with concrete details--if they d like to get coffee sometime, give a place and a time (within the next week). Interest tends to fizzle out quickly, so you want to move from online to a safe, public meeting fairly soon. First dates from online dating are more like a screening anyway you re really just seeing if you have chemistry together and are interested (sometimes what looks like a good match online just doesn t click IRL).
The flaky chick is the most effortless compulsive liar. Often, she will lie just for the hell of it, even though she doesn’t need to. It is as if untruth for her is more real than truth itself. But if you let her know that you’ve seen through her lies, brace yourself for the onslaught as she will be transformed into a monster before your eyes. You have never seen anything until you’ve seen a flaky chick explode. She will twist it all back onto you and make out as if it is you who is the liar and cruel and inconsiderate and… well… it’s you who is really the flake!
SHE: Thanks for the lunch. I must say that I was impressed with the brief kiss on the cheek when we parted.
HE: Oh, really? Why?
SHE: Most guys try and jump on me!
HE: Well you won 8767 t get that kind of behaviour from me. I 8767 m a gentleman.
SHE: Don 8767 t you find it hot in here?
HE: Not sure what you mean by that. If you mean am I sexually attracted to you, then, to be honest, no. I’m happy to be in the friend zone with you, though.
SHE: WELL F~~~ YOU THEN!!!!
It has almost become the norm for a girl to be flaky in some circles — something to be cultivated, as a sign of some sort of zany “Girl Power” and a way of “resisting the patriarchy” in a social setting. The female must always be seen to have the upper hand in order to right the balance which has allegedly gone all the way of men for thousands of years, etc. This kind of skewed thinking has made a contribution to the flaky chick phenomenon.
Partly because of this poor parenting, most women no longer know how to be real women. When you couple together the fact that they’ve had no decent female role model in childhood with the teaching about womanhood which a woman receives through school, the media and propaganda, many women are little more than an empty shell in terms of understanding and living an abundant, truly feminine life. The consequences this has had for male-female relations has been disastrous.
However, if a man cuts off a woman’s breast and throws it on the fire, there would be international outrage. A day of mourning would be declared. Minutes of silence would be held everywhere. Special ribbons in honour of the mutilated victim would be designed and worn across the world. Newscasters would feel obliged to wear one onscreen. Using a specially-supplied educational kit containing a picture of the amputee, schoolteachers would hold sessions for their classes on women as the victims of “male violence in a culture”. Imagine if the above YouTube video, instead of being a group of cackling women, was actually a bunch of guys laughing about a man who had cut off a woman’s breast. How long would it be before they were arrested and crucified in the international media as sociopathic misogynist haters who should be locked away forever!
Ways to avoid: Look out for too-much focus on “online” if they keep harping on it, then it’s likely they have some self-security issues. The irony of this type of flake is that they often claim that online dating is only for losers/weirdos but then what does that make them who claim to not be looking for something, but instead troll online dating sites for someone to talk to.
“An unreliable person. A procrastinator. A careless or lazy person. Dishonest and doesn’t keep to their word. They’ll tell you they 8767 re going to do one thing, and never do it. They’ll tell you that they 8767 ll meet you somewhere, and show up an hour late or don’t show up at all. Example: ‘She told me she would send me her pictures, but it’s been 8 months and she hasn’t sent me s~~~. She’s flaky as hell’.”
I wrote about a guy I d gone out with once who canceled actual plans but tried to make up for it with crazy last-minute ones that never panned out. He was a day-of texter , a what-are-you-doing-right-now-er. When I declined a few offers for day-of drinks, because I legitimately had other plans, he canceled the one set of plans we did have to meet for dinner because he thought maybe he was too out of the box for us to have anything meaningful. In other words, because I couldn t just fly by the seat of my pants any time he felt like reaching out, we could never work.
Flaky chicks are always ready to take offense or feel slighted by even the most casual remark which they perceive as being hostile to them. They commonly misinterpret what others say or write, as if it was meant badly towards them, even when it 8767 s not about them. They can feel insulted by what seems to others to be an innocuous remark and cannot take even the least kind of criticism. In fact, to criticise a flaky chick even in the simplest, caring manner will result not only in a series of lengthy and often incoherent diatribes but will also result in her making a campaign out of the destruction of the critic. Nothing will be spared in that quest. They will spread rumours about you to others. They will ruin your reputation. They will claim you’re an asshole. They will queer your pitch in every possible way. To criticise a flaky chick — no matter how benign or justified it is — will spark an endless war. So be prepared!
Everything about this situation sucks. It sucks to put yourself out there with your picture and come up with a few cute sentences about your interests. It sucks to put energy into getting to know someone. And it sucks to be blown off. I’m shaking my fist at the sky for you! I’d be mad as hell too. Not “scream into a pillow mad” but definitely “finish a pint of ice cream with a pissed off look on my face” mad.
Good luck! Download my “85/75 Dating Guide” Learn How to Get 85% of the Results with Women & Dating in 75% of the Time
The advice that I would give any man is that if you find yourself with a woman showing all the signs of true flakiness, ignore the fact that you seem to be relating to an attractive and engaging character, then politely but quickly take your leave of the individual concerned and do not ever look back. I am not speaking here about genuine errors or absentmindedness or temporary difficulties, which can affect us all. I am speaking about an obvious pattern — especially if it is corroborated by others. Even on the classic website for the daughters of mothers who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (), the clear advice given is:
Help me! I’m feeling like a ding dong about this. I met 8775 Eric 8776 online two weeks ago and he seemed interested in me. He messaged me first and suggested we talk on the phone, which we’ve done twice in the past week. The conversations were great. He told me how attractive he thought I was in my pictures and asked me to meet for dinner at a cool place downtown. Sounds good so far, right? Well, we agreed to meet tonight at 8 . I just texted him asking if our date was still happening and he replied, 8775 Sorry, I gotta cancel. 8776 He didn’t suggest an alternate time to meet up—which is annoying in it’s own right—but I’m more annoyed that I had to text him to find out he was going to flake. This has happened to me THREE times in the past month. What am I doing wrong here? How do I make this flaky bullshit stop ?
Part of your suspicions might be your own fears (that have nothing to do with him) those are your responsibility. On the other hand, if you feel you really do have concrete reasons to suspect he is lying to you, it is important to get an idea of who he really is in his life by talking with him and learning about him. It is a waste of time and emotion to assume and fear things about a person who you don 8767 t know deeply. It 8767 s much better to use that time being curious about him and being interested in learning about who he really is as a person.
Coupled with that, there has been a general downgrading in politesse during the last few decades. People in general just do not feel the same desire to be courteous and respectful to others, or to have a sense of duty and honour (remember duty and honour?). This has had fallout in the sphere of man-woman relations, as gallantry or courtliness are frowned upon as prehistoric sexism, while showing favour or courtesy to a woman are often perceived as being the signs of a philanderer, or “grooming”, or even as a case for a sexual harassment lawsuit!
From my and many other people’s observations of the world today, it would seem that the flaky chick has become widespread in the female population — an accepted way of being, on an ever-increasing basis over the past couple of decades. You can now even download an ‘app’ questionnaire from iTunes called “Is she a Flake?” as a litmus test to apply when you meet a girl! So why the huge rise in the Flaky Chick Phenomenon? There are many reasons for this — social, psychological and historical. But before going into that, let’s first define and demonstrate what we mean by a “flaky chick”.
You will also notice that in any group situation, when someone stands out of the crowd or holds the audience, the flaky chick will find a way of undermining the one having the attention, for they must have that all for themselves. As an example of this, I was once part of a case conference in a social work department. A junior but very competent member of the team was sharing her thoughts. Everyone was mesmerised with her wisdom. Suddenly, while the woman was in full flow, a senior member of the team (aged 85) held up a piece of cutlery which was in a saucer on the table and exclaimed in a very loud voice “Aren´t these teaspoons remarkable! I’ve been studying them”. Everyone turned to look at her with amazement. She wasn’t concerned how ridiculous her intervention was. She had everyone’s attention and that’s what counts. The Narcissist was holding court. The meeting was all about her. Because she was a senior, no one questioned it (though I and another team member pointedly turned to the original speaker and said “Please continue!”).
First, get yourself in order. I realize that you really like this guy that 8767 s a good thing. However, you need to make sure that you don 8767 t let your emotions carry you to a bad place. Try to step back and look at the situation rationally: He hasn 8767 t made any promises to you and just because you like him there is no rule that says he has to act how you want him to. Keep things in perspective.