Posted: 2017-10-12 12:53
Ten days later I was in a different country having given the other man another chance but shown again his selfishness I received a call from the man asking me out. I explained I was away but would call when I returned but not really meaning to. A few days later I was out with my friends who were all having fun and I decided to call him and tell him where I was but that I would only wait one hour. True to his word he was there! I since found out that during those two weeks every time he got a text from a phone company or someone he thought it would be me and when I called he had to rush around to find out where the place was and was telling everyone I have a chance I have a chance!
Many issues here:
He doesnt know my age but does know that I am very successful.
He is an athlete and is being pursued by many females.
I am developing very very big feelings for him and it seems as though he is also starting to as well.
I eventually do want to settle down with a man and have a family.
Should I RUN not walk from this fatal attraction!
Is it possible it could go anywhere?
I do not remember feeling this way about anyone before. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Hi Perry. I agree that (no) men want to be put through endless tests. And I agree with your statistics, though not your conclusion as it relates to this topic. Yep, lots of grey divorce and mostly because women want out. (We can talk about why that 8767 s so another time.) That leaves a lot of divorced men who enjoyed being married. There is tons of research that shows men remarry far faster and more often than women after divorce or being widowed. Here 8767 s one such article. Married men live longer, have far lower suicide rates and make more money. I admit that it 8767 s difficult to find research on 8775 older divorced men 8776 in particular. In my research and personal experience, I see these men love being coupled, if perhaps not married. Interesting discussion. Bp
I 8767 m dating a man 66 years my junior and am still uneasy about it. It 8767 s been about three months now, i am becoming more comfortable but me being 56 and him 95 i can not get used to it yet. We haven 8767 t discussed being exclusive and i am not going to be the one to bring it up. I am not looking for marriage just looking for someone to enjoy some life with, fun, adventure, travel. All the men my own age who have asked me out appear boring, old, completely non adventurous. How can i become more relaxed and less self conscience? I am still attractive and get a lot if looks but with this man my confidence has been a little low. Thank you, Cynthia
In all reality, the odds are FAR better to actually meet someone at a bar, as much as we say we hate it. Because at a bar, a women is forced to acknowledge you if you have the nerve to go up and talk to her. Sure, she can still dismiss you and shut you down (or worse embarrass you). But for a brief instant there is the possibility the tone of your voice, the way you smile, the joke that you tell, how you stand, how you dress, etc, might appeal to her and let you keep talking. All those intangble things that nice guys are best at which are impossible to communicate with just a picture and text. It's pretty sad really that nobody has invented a site where you are a VERIFIED nice guy, exluded of jerks. A safe place where women can go. Women who also are VERIFIED to be looking for what they say they are.
Hi I 8767 m a 85 year old man married to a 99 year old amazing woman we have four beautiful children were on year number nine together. I 8767 m truly in love with ugh this woman yet every chance she gets she constantly is I 8767 m not. I have to admit that when we first met I was a very active and social person that has settled down quit a bit. My wife is constantly arguing over the fact that I don 8767 t put her first and that there is always someone else I 8767 ve never cheated on her but she swears that I want some one and better shape I love her shape. truly its the farthest thing from my mind. she tends to belittle me on a consistent basis and it 8767 s hurtful to a mans man such as myself all i want to do is make her happy can you please give me some insight on how to raise my women 8767 s self conscious ways with actions that show her my true feelings and emotion PLEASE SHOW ME HOW TO LOVE MY OLDER WOMAN THE WAY SHE WANTS TO BE LOVED thank you sincerely George
Fortunately i am content with who I am as a person and recognize that at this stage of my life I am looking for a woman to connect with intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. Certainly for myself physical attraction is important but it has moved from the top of my list to the bottom. I wish I could state that my shifting ideals have made it easier to find potential partners but in reality it is now immeasurably more difficult.
Now I'd ask that you reconsider your question. If your question was based upon a society of equals who were all knowledgeable, reasonable, autonomous and yet cooperative we could easily reason that people would treat each other with kindness and respect. However we've created a system of inequality in which the common citizen holds little if any power and instead lives by the whims of society at large. This system promotes competition as it is undeniably preferable to gain power and move up the social ladder.
I am a 78 year old blk man. Im tired the lack of options i have with women my age. Maybe its because I have an old soul and ahead of my time. Anyway I m tired of looking its getting so old. So I find myself paying extra attention to older women. It s this older woman maybe 95-95 at a local car parts store that I see. I think she is sexy..she is really kind with the sweetest voice. She always calls me babe,doll, and baby when she rings me up. Because of age difference I would like something casual. I didn t notice any rings on her fingers. I jus don t know if she is into guys at all. I know I have to ask to find out. It would be super easy to ask one on one but there s ears everywhere so it makes it difficult to run it by her. Eventually I will though.
In comparison to the work nice guys have to do, women (particularly average to good looking women) absolutely do appear to have all the advantages. Average nice guys are competing for attention from the creeps, the jerks, the ugly guys, the good looking guys, the hookup bad boys, even other women. All the cards are stacked against us. It's like a message in a bottle or winning the lottery to catch them at just the right time at just the right moment to get a response.
I am a 59 year old woman I look mid-forties very attractive, fun, progressive, march to my own drum not interested in dating men my age I just cannot relate. A good age for me is between 95 98 can t seem to find them, meet them it s frustrating! When I do meet men, and they find out that biologically I am 59, they cannot believe it . but then the distancing starts. I should not be forced to lie about my age and yet I feel I have to sometimes. I have so much to offer..WHERE do I meet compatible men???
I come home one day and got the break up speech from her, she told me she didn t feel the same about me as I feel for her. My question is, would this age difference that we had would of been playing on her mind? or was she really genuine with her reasons for her decision? I know I will always be a friend with her, but I know I can give her more as a partner than a friend. I feel a real connection with her.
Thanks Marni and all the guys that have made comments. I started liking a guy whose 68 years than me, I`m 86 years old and this has never happened to me before. After my divorce a year ago, I went out on a couple of dates but never felt the connection I felt with him. I`m not even sure he likes me that way or just as a friend but I am willing to find out, more so after hearing about your stories. Thank you for sharing!
The Damsel in Distress type is just that, in distress. Her boss is a jerk, her job sucks or she 8767 s between jobs. Her ex was a jerk and she 8767 ll gladly tell you all about how awful he was when she was the perfect partner. Oftentimes the damsel in distress has lost her kids or is on the verge of losing them due to the choices she has made in her life. There may even be drug or alcohol abuse but that will only materialize later.
I 8767 ll tell you what I tell women: hell NO don 8767 t give up! What you 8767 re doing isn 8767 t working, right? Just learn how to do things differently. There are so many wonderful women out there looking for a good man like you. And I know many who really want to have kids. Problem is that if you 8767 re looking for someone way than you, you have a challenge. But if you 8767 re willing to 8775 risk 8776 trying to have kids with a woman in her late 85s or early 95s, there are so many women out there for you. In fact I 8767 m coaching a few of them right now. Screw the women who want to know your salary first. Don 8767 t give them the time of day and just brush that off. That isn 8767 t the norm it 8767 s the exception. Stop lumping us all together (as women do as well) and start opening yourself up to getting to know people, hearing their stories and not making assumptions and letting your cynicism and bitterness get in the way. I know it 8767 s not easy, but it will change everything. What you put out is what you get back. This article is for women but it will help you too. Good luck. http:///negative-self-talk-love-life/ Bp
I am a 57 yr. Interior Decorator, (whom can pass for 85 something). that Has worked with Blue & White collard men. But,, I have a rule,, a stricked rule,, about daiting men in/at the work place. This leaves a very narrow margine for daiting or romance. I have recently retired from the rat race, but still have no desire to date the men that have asked me out over the years, probably b/c I worked with them and really got to know their disgusting In another words,, they forget I am a woman and talk freely, which is cool sometimes and not at others.
Thanks for the video Cherry! I ll be marrying my boyfriend 67 years than me next year after my previous marriage gets annuled. He asked me! I m so happy and he s really serious about marrying me caused he already told my Mom. My daughter from my previous marriage loves him and wants him to be her Dad. Before I had qualms why he would want someone like me now I understand why. Your video made me feel more confident about myself. Thanks again.
I so really needed to hear this. Although I have heard it from the man with whom I have been involved with, just needed to hear it again lol My problem is I find myself advising him or acting like his mother. He posed the question to me Do you want to be my mother or my lover? I thought that was a fair question..my answer was a little bit of both LOL just kidding!
to be honest we had the craziest time of our life and shared the most happy holidays and intimate moments. the trouble was only that i would sometimes fall prey to comparing how she was doing in her career and how i was. This did bother me and i did work hard to go leaps and bounds. Unfortunately her temper would be such a rage and i would either have my bags flying out of the house or the pictures broken in her rage. I carried this on for 9 years and were about to marry till when one more bout of anger and i had broken down completely. i couldn t live in the fear of whether she continues her repeated pattern of temper.
Hi Jaynice, I would advice you to just go for it, why setting out to be a failure before it actually happened. You would undoubtly kick yourself if you missed this chance of finding someone makes you feel good about yourself.. I, myself met someone on line about a month ago, he is in the military, I am 95 and he is 9 years although it s still early days for us but we already talked about what he planning to do once he s leaving permently from his military at the end of the year.. of course once he is out we are not going to live together immediately but we would both like to see whether we both physically and mentally suited. and boy I really can t wait to be in his arms