Posted: 2017-11-14 14:36
I was using your wording. Anyway, I was arguing against the common claim that confidence will turn anyone into Casanova incarnate regardless of their personality and other factors. In reality grim no-nonsense Clint Eastwood is only cool in the movies, and give some annoying dorky person confidence to be more socially active and he will just annoy people twice the rate he used to. One s self-image is rather meaningless when others are going to base their judgement of him on their own standards. And you said it, they can only know what they can perceive, the way he acts, which might or, given the fluid nature of the human mind, might not represent what he really is. But the whole concept of self is a interesting problem in it s own right.
Now reverse that situation. If a woman had a bad day at home with the kids, then her husband came home yelling at her for not having dinner ready and then a few minutes later she walks in the bedroom to get something and finds him naked in bed is she going to be turned on? Is she going to just be able to switch gears and have sex? 95 out of 655 women are give that men the ugliest look in the world and walk out of the room in disgust. For a woman that does not compute.
More or less. I understand now how the ignoring responses where probably as polite as they were going to get, so I forgive them for that. It s the rest of it that makes me wonder if I want to date at all with all these terrible people out there. The internet is a great social test of a person, because you don t know someone until you see how they act online, a place with no rules and no consequences for your actions.
Ignoring isn t always about politeness, as a woman. For me, I ve found that most guys are going to wind up sending the last word regardless of what I do, and the more messages I send, the uglier the exchange will be, by the end. If I send, Thanks, but I don t think we re a good fit, I frequently hear, Why not?? and then if I don t reply to that, some kind of caustic insult about how I m too good to answer them.
I don t agree with lashing out based on moods. I don t throw my anger at people in social situations. I don t raise the topic of my barriers in social situations in real life either. Here was just about the only place I vented that stuff. But I do find myself angry and frustrated about such things from time to time. It s not as easy as just not being angry about such things.
The thing I have noticed is that there is a very common short guy attitude which is the polar opposite of the pre-rejection slump DNL describes. Of the guys I have gone a little nuts for, all of the short ones (dataset is five guys 5 7 or under) had this THING. They were all super passionate about at least one thing (guitar, architecture, travel and music, whatever), they all had very loud senses of humor and were ready to tease or bullshit anyone, and they all had a LOT of opinions they were ready to argue. In my experience it seems like a fair number of guys shorter than their peers instinctively compensate by developing super forceful, colorful personalities, and by the time they get out into the world they re like walking explosions of fascinating. It seems to me that often this flashy personality has some edges like, dudes, this guy has caught shit his whole life, he is poised to mow you down with caustic wit but that s not necessarily a bad thing. Do no harm but take no shit, etc.
8775 Women are like children and need to be LEAD. 8776
If you want to make analogy to leading children, the only type of leading that is successful is leading by example. Good luck teaching your kid not to swear if you swear around the house, or teaching him/her not to some if you use pack after pack of cigarettes.
Women have different mentality than men, but they can smell bullshit. If you tell 8775 don 8767 t do X 8776 while doing X, the only thing you 8767 re going to create is another hypocryte, like a kid that goes to church because his partents tell him to.
I m 6 9 and male and have some opinions on this. First let me say I m socially awkward so height alone isn t enough. I ve dated women from just under 5 to 6. I like it when a woman can look me in the eye in heels (life sized!), but it s really about the individual. Someone else said they don t know what their type is and I am the same, it just depends on her.
Therein lies some of the problems with short term thinking as applied to economics, which I alluded to in my comment above. The reason why it 8767 s become virtually impossible is down to economic policy that demands constant expansions of the money supply and debt, which in turn leads to constant increases in the cost of living, faster than average earners can cope with. That 8767 s about as neatly as it can be put in one sentence, but the underlying reason it is advocated is political expedience. In the face of recession, politicians and their short termism resort to the easy fix, which leaves society worse off in the long run. But given that the long run happens after the next election cycle, no fucks are given.
Women are transforming into men while men are transforming into women. Male test levels are plummetting. Look at the average male body of today: legs like twigs, horrible beard genetics, weak jaws, high-pitched voices, submissive attitudes. As to the cause, who knows? Perhaps the impact of environmental and social cues on the epigenetic regulation of the genetic code thus far has been strongly underestimated. Provide enough social incentives for a women to transfer into a man, and she will.
Another possession that God tell us not to covet in the 65th commandment is an Ox. An ox was often used for pulling carts or helping to till the fields. So I am going to equate an ox to our modern pick up truck. My neighbor might have a beautiful brand new pickup truck that he uses to pull all sorts of things. I just love it. I have an old truck but will never be able to afford a new truck based on my income. If I imagine myself driving his new truck down the road or pulling all sorts of things is that a sin? No. If I know where he hangs his keys for in his kitchen and I entertain thoughts of going over there when he is out in his other car and taking he truck for a ride is that sin? Yes. Because that is not entertaining thoughts of unlawfully possessing his truck.
For what it s worth, as a guy of average height, it never occurred to me until I started reading online personals that height was A Thing that anyone would be concerned about in relation to physical attraction. Maybe it s because I m kind of oblivious, or maybe it s because I was really skinny growing up and made my peace a long, long time ago with the idea that the women I dated were very likely to be larger than me in some respect. Anyway, I can t be the only one out there who doesn t give a crap either way!
I actually rather disagree with this. I think with a larger pool, you re just going to find more people who could give a rat s ass about height. I haven t found many men interested in me (a heavier woman) in real life or at least, not many who will approach me, which may be due to having their friends around, societal pressure, etc. But I ve been approached but many more online, because all of that stuff goes away. And while I ve gotten boring messages, overtly sexual messages, copypasta messages, and messages that make no sense, I usually don t get messages right off the bat that insult my appearance/weight maybe this is just because I portray myself as a complete goofball? (Of course, if I say thanks but no thanks , then the ur so fat n stupd n uglee comments come out)
When it comes to cross-cultural love you need to open up your mind to different values, otherwise it won 8767 t make out. Sometimes, you need to take a step backward and make concessions. There is a Chinese saying which goes 8766 Don 8767 t drill into a bull 8767 s horn 8767 (不要钻牛角尖)，so stop pestering about insignificant details and focus on what really matters: Follow your heart. A quote from Oscar Wilde sums up this dilemma perfectly: 8775 Men always want to be a woman’s first love. What women like is to be a man’s last romance. 8776 It 8767 s the selfishness and vanity of both sexes. Take a look inside yourself to make sure of what you truly want: Her first love or last romance? Then give it your best shot and fight for it. Good luck!
Yes. Yes, yes, yes. Presence is extremely important to perceived height. Assertive, forward, confident people will seem taller kind of the inverse of the height = power idea mentioned in the article. Like your lecturer there, I m a lady of not impressive height 5 9 but every friend I have, off the cuff, has at some point told me I look like I m about 5 8 or so. Men I date tend to imagine me as the same height as them. It s all about how you carry yourself, unless you re standing right up against someone s chest so they *have* to look down at you. Learn to project your voice, adopt a more powerful stance, don t shrink like a wallflower, and don t think everyone thinks you re short. Think tall. People will see you as tall. You can leverage culture to your advantage if you don t write yourself off at the start!
In conclusion, what are the lessons to be gathered from the harlot whom God used to fulfill His purpose? First of all, we are reminded by Rahab’s change of heart and life, that “His blood can make the vilest clean,” and that “His blood avails for me.” Was it not a wonderful condescension on the part of the Redeemer when He became manifest in the flesh to take hold of a root so humble in type as poor, despised Rahab to magnify His abounding grace for all sinners? Rahab was well worth saving from her evil life both for her own sake and for the place she had in God’s plan. Other women in Jericho saw no beauty in Rahab that they should desire her company, but through faith she became one of God’s heroines, and is included among the harlots entering the kingdom of God before the self-righteous. Rahab’s sins had been scarlet, but the scarlet line freeing the spies, and remaining as a token of her safety, typified the red blood of Jesus whereby the worst of sinners can be saved from sin and hell ( Matthew 76:86 , 87 ). While the door of mercy stands ajar, the vilest sinner can return and know what it is to be saved and safe.
Jericho was the worst of the cities of the Amorites, thus God commanded Joshua to destroy both the city and the inhabitants. By divine decree, it was to be given over to a perpetual desolation. When Joshua entered the city he set about the execution of the divine command, but respected the promise made to Rahab by the spies. Under the protection of the scarlet line, Rahab and all her kindred were brought out of the house. The spies came to her house, not to indulge in sin with Rahab, but to prepare the way for Joshua to take Jericho. She saved the spies not out of human pity, or because of expediency, but because she knew that they were servants of the Lord. In turn, she was saved. The spies she had hid brought her, and her father, her mother, her brothers, and all that she had out of her doomed house, and made them secure without the camp of Israel ( Joshua 6:67-75 ). Brought out of an accursed city, and from her own sins which were as scarlet, Rahab is a fitting illustration of another miracle of divine grace, namely, the calling forth of His church out of a godless, Gentile world.
If it gets people to stop, that s awesome. My experiences have just been that I m told I m a bitch or that I need a sense of humor when I ve told people that what they re saying isn t cool or I respond like you have. I still have anger sometimes about things like the girl who said I was going to die alone, but the fact that I responded as if she means nothing in my life got the point across better than if I said anything back. In fact, after 8 days of ignoring her (during which time she continued to say these things) she exploded at a mutual friend and asked what my problem is. When he said that perhaps she shouldn t keep saying I m going to die alone, she went off about how I m a stupid bitch who needs to get over myself, so even when it s not me standing up for myself, I m still assumed to be a terrible person.
Regardless of where we are in our lives, what our physical attributes are like and what our personalities are like, I could potentially benefit from advice you have to offer. Some of it most likely wouldn t be applicable. The trick is to determine on a case-by-case basis, rather than either subscribing to the whole lot or writing off the whole lot. Even if the end result of determining on a case-by-case basis is the same as the end result of subscribing to the whole lot or writing off the whole lot.
Asian America has masked a series of internal tensions. In order to produce a sense of racial solidarity, Asian American activists framed social injustices in terms of race, veiling other competing social categories such as gender, sexuality, ethnicity, and nationality. The relative absence of gender as a lens for Asian American activism and resistance throughout the 6975s until the present should therefore be read as neither an indication of the absence of gender inequality nor of the disengagement of Asian American women from issues of social justice.