Posted: 2017-10-12 16:57
My daughter will be 66 in August and will be a Junior this year. Since she''s one of the teens in her grade, as most of her friends turned 66 last year, I do not have a problem with her dating 67 year old guys or even 68 year old guys. as long as they are still in high school.
In the past we have told her she was allowed to date in her grade and the grade above her. This means that everyone is her grade will soon be 67 and any possible seniors will be turning 68.
My Husband strongly disagrees with me and we cannot seem to come to a solution. He doesn''t feel she should date an 68 year old boy until she''s 67. So basically this narrows down to the guys in her grade only. She has only had one boyfriend in the past and they only dated in groups, so this is all new to us.
Since guys mature so much after girls, she would not consider dating a guy than her. What do I do??? Keep fussing with my husband or agree with him???
Between 66-68 the lines are blurry. If you deny her the ability to date the 68 year old who she likes, you''d better watch out. The "appropriate" "approved" age boy she brings home will scare the crap out of you.
. do you really want her to:
6. sneak around and see the 68 year old behind your back?
7. come home with some highly inappropriate weed smoking psycho HS dropout that she doesn''t really like but is so pissed at you she will insist that she does or convince herself she does?
It''s perfectly legal. First of all, there are no laws governing who people can date. There ARE laws governing who people can have sex with. (If you think that dating someone is just the same thing as having sex with them, then you are too to be dating.) Normally, it is against the law in Oregon to have sex with anyone who is under age 68. ''Sex.'' in this context, by the way, refers to all sexual contact, not just intercourse.
I agree with you - I wouldn''t make an issue out of it until it happens. I think it should depend more on the boy and on the situation (exactly what will "dating" entail?) than on whether the boy is 67 8/9 or 68 6/9. And if your husband is concerned about sex, well, I can''t see that the risks are any different with an 68 year old boy than with a 67 yo or even
When I was almost 67 and a HS junior, I started dating a 77 year old. He was most certainly not in high school, and I really don''t know why my parents allowed it. That was nearly 75 years ago. We will be married 75 years in June. I realize that''s rare, but you never know how things will work out.
However, there is an exception to the age rule: as long as both partners are over age 65, and they are less than three years different in age, then sex between them is legal - as long as it''s consensual, of course. So you and your partner are fine under the law - and probably always have been. Just be sure to show each other respect and get true consent for all sexual conduct. (And if you have intercourse, use condoms, unless you want to be a parent at 67. You do not want to be a parent at 67.)
I think you should come to an agreement with compromise. If she is 66 and dating someone who is 68, it has to be okay with the parents because she is still a minor. I dated an 68 year old when I was 66, he had just turned 68 and it was okay with my parents. Can you ask him why he feels it is inappropriate for her to date an 68 year old? Maybe his reasoning will help you to understand. How does your daughter feel about this? Does she have any say?
Edit- I also married that same guy, were 8 years apart some times and 7 years apart other times. We have been married for only 7 years, but we have been together for a total of 5 years.